KensingtonHomo

Ya got me gal!

Once when I was like 19 or 20 and was with someone who was VERY hung. But I'm also very "in touch" with my GI system and what it feels like when I'm ready to go. I douche as a precaution or because I want to play on a different schedule than when my rectum will be clear. I should also be clear that I'm not getting fisted or using toys that larger than a decently hung penis.

I've been bottoming for three decades and douching a lot of that time and that's never happened to me. But I imagine it's possible if you douche too high (above the rectum) or too soon to the act.

There are no "individual" responses to a communicable pandemic. That's the kind of thinking that prevents society-wide response. And YOU are contributing to 300+ deaths per day because you're happy to accept it.

My mother died from a different infectious disease, and lots more can be done to mitigate COVID and other infections. We simply do a terrible job of infection prevention, control and public health because we don't spend any money on it. You can choose to accept it, but I do not.

You can be glib about COVID-19 as much as you want. 350 Americans are still dying every day from it. It's disrupting supply chains, air travel, schools, etc. And the vaccines minimize but do not prevent transmission. So enjoy a country that never recovers from a pandemic that could have been prevented or eliminated with different leaders and choices.

That's simply not true.

Nick Halden gives a nice massage and is an absolute delight sexually

This is just another example of masculine fragility. You can't handle someone pointing out that your "preferences" are socially constructed and feed into larger cultural prohibitions against femininity in men. So you've spent this thread lashing out of me for pointing out the facts. The reality is that the OP could have left that provider alone, or failing that, not posted about it here in a desire to have his shitty, anti-femme, heterosexist behavior propped up other cis men. All along providers and femmes have been dehumanized and treated like chattel because some people believe they have a right to demand physical changes because their sexual palate is in inch wide.

I have to disagree that it's "just intellectual nonsense." I never claimed everyone should be attracted to everyone else. I take exception when a gay man (or men) shame or belittle each other based on gender presentation. If the OP isn't interested in men with nail polish he can just move on from a provider he sees wearing it. Making a post about it, saying he'd send someone away without compensation, all based on a perceived gender transgression is shitty to the provider and it also reinforces heteronormative binary gender in a way that harms other queer people.

I’m not “trying to put people down.” I’m pointing out that some of you feel entitled in ways that are inappropriate and dehumanizing to providers.

We've all grown up in a patriarchal, heterosexist society. There are no matriarchal society outside of a few hunter gatherer societies. It's not a "personal preference" then, it's something you've been propagandized to believe.

The OP started off by saying if he set a date and the provider shows up with nail polish he's sending the guy on his way without a cent. The fragility is that if Chris Evans (or the hot guy of your choice) shows up looking every bit as sexy and hot as you'd imagined. Then you notice he has on nail polish, and that's the deal breaker? Why? Considering you're going to be horizontal shortly, kissing, blowing, fucking, whatever, how much would you even notice the nail polish? I hooked up with a guy in P Town last summer and it was only after the deed was done, and we were dressing that he noticed my fingers and toes were painted with bright red polish. Which he complimented me on. So the only reason to be SO opposed to nail polish is due to a rigid understanding of gender. @pubic_assistance equates a guy wearing nail polish with being gender queer or non-binary. For some that may be true, but for others it's just something they enjoy. But what most of those opposed seem to be reacting to is that nail polish = femininity. And rejecting feminine guys is just reactionary misogynistic bullshit. No, it's not your "personal preference", it's a bias you've been socialized to have because of patriarchy and heterosexism.

You know, I'm not that young. I'm a Gen Xer and parts of this conversation feel like they're taking place in the 1980s.

The fragile masculinity on display in this thread is too much. If the provider isn’t to your taste, hire someone else. Why are you asking people to change themselves? Getting a manicure and pedicure costs about $100 at a decent, not high-end, salon. Are you going to give him the extra money to have it redone?

This guy’s not my type so I wouldn’t give him $1, but we recently had a similar situation where an escort changed the time and was still 15 minutes late, couldn’t stay hard, and as we continued chatting for a while after, said we owed 2 hour’s worth. He was very nice but he cost more than my therapist! Lesson leaned for me, as I will set a timer with any new guy.

They were not complaining about him, but the idea of a $50/hour hotel room in NYC.

No one is policing your attraction. Fuck who you want, but you don't need to misgender people to do so. And considering that I saw this escort you're all going about eating a pussy on his Twitter, he apparently does fuck cis women.

No, you chose to differentiate in order to suggest trans women are actually men, which is a) not true and b) really awful coming from what I assume is a queer person.

Good looking is subjective. I have friends falling over for 23 year old twunks and I'm over here like "What's Christopher Meloni in these days?"

Oh really? I guess some people do. For us, it's really more about convenience. We can meet guys on Grindr or Scruff, but it's a bit more difficult for a couple. Some guys aren't into it. Some guys are only into one of us. And some guys are offended by the idea of a couple of who plays together. Hiring eliminates all of those issues and probably saves hours of scrolling and "sup?" conversations. And as a couple in our 40s, we get approached a LOT by much younger men (18-25) who have a daddy fantasy, which really isn't our thing. We prefer 35 and up, as well as guys who can carry on a conversation. So there are a couple in NYC who are younger but they're like "old souls" or something.

Trans women are women. No need to differentiate.

Some people like a thick guy. I prefer a little thickness over 2% body fat.

I didn't claim 40% of people who get COVID are dying. I was responding to the claim it was the same as the common cold.

I have some guys who PM me about SS. I don't mind responding if they seem serious. But I always try to search the forum before I reach out.