KensingtonHomo

Fair enough.

LOL, do you assume everyone who hires has an "old dried up cock?" Mine is very youthful and moist. I mean, it's pretty great. It's so weird to me when clients assume that other clients are all old dried-up geezers, who can't score sex. I hire primarily for convenience. I'm too busy to spend hours on apps looking for a hook-up. Then you get flakey guys. So hiring - whether its for an erotic massage or escort session - just simplifies my life, and I'm willing to pay for the convenience. On the initial topic, I do not care for upsells. I find it manipulative. I'd rather everything be stated clearly in advance. If I'm offered an upsell, I tend to turn it down. And if the provider goes beyond on HE, I may stop them to clarify.

What's interesting to me is most of these pairings continue to play on the young (twink or twunk) as a smooth, lanky, or skinny buy, primarily clean-shaven, and the bottom is older, hairy, and bearded. Where are the hairy tops with the 40+ femme bottoms? Like women, we're being erased after a certain age. Yet, we're out here having lots of sex.

Yeah... I just don't hire guys with no reviews either on RM or on here.

Why would he want a deposit if he's already there???

This. In my experience, the $400/hour crew tends to be younger, ripped OF types who are generally not worth the money. Older (30s), more experienced, and generally more skilled providers tend to charge in the $250-$300 range. It seems to me that a lot of clients prize youth, beauty and abs over actually skilled providers, so that drives up the price of the younger guys.

In keeping with @maninsoma I think the best way to approach this is to be direct. You can ask "what does your erotic massage include?" Or if they offer both "would you tell me the difference between your sensual and erotic massage?" When I am with a new provider, I will ask "what are your boundaries?" And then describe mine.

I'm older than Kai and I've never grown a beard, stopped shaving my chest, though I have changed haircuts. What I mean is that his new look is more of a marketing move than some essential personal change.

Not really. There isn't yet evidence that vaping is harmful, aside from people buying crazy shit on the Internet. I'm not saying it's 100% but a) humans have been using mind and body-altering substances since before agriculture and b) unless someone's substance use interferes with their ability to function, I don't see it as harmful. The most recent research on addiction suggests is largely due to stress and trauma, not physical addiction as previously thought.

We saw him once. The experience was kind of mechanical. His new look is an interesting switch from the all-American jock thing he had going on. It's probably because I've been with him but the new look reads as very phony to me.

So, I like various types of body hair on men from naturally smooth to moderately hairy to super-hairy. I like manscaped or at least trimmed pubes. However, I really dislike shaved bodies (because the stubble irritates my skin) and I'm turned off by men with no pubic hair. Some providers kind of put this information out there but some have pics with a lot of variation. I'm curious if there is a good way to broach this topic and ask about the status of the provider's body hair. 😛

I am incredibly pro-sex worker, but you do not understand antibiotic resistance. We have a massive overuse of antibiotics in this country (and globally), 20-60 percent of which are not medically necessary. Resistance does not happen in our bodies. It happens to the bacteria as they are exposed to drugs and evolve to survive them. All antibiotic use contributes to resistance. I generally support sex workers using them, but all sexually active gay men going on DoxyPrep is a terrible idea for public health. As people who have lived through three plagues in our lifetimes - two of which disproportionately impacted us - we need to be community-minded in approaching our individual and collective health. "On an individual and population level, drug resistance will likely occur with the increased use of Doxy PEP, especially with the amount of doxycycline that will be indicated for many users. The extent to which this happens, and the impact, are still open questions, and must be carefully monitored." Drug resistance and Doxy PEP: Should we worry? - San Francisco AIDS Foundation WWW.SFAF.ORG In late 2022, the San Francisco Department of Public Health and San Francisco AIDS Foundation began...

It will contribute to antibiotic resistance. PreP for HIV makes sense to me, and I use it. But this is dangerous and, frankly, unnecessary. All the STIs are treatable, and if you're on Doxyprep, you're 99% likely to be on PreP. So why contribute to antibiotic resistance? We're not making new antibiotics and treatment-resistant gonorrhea is on the rise.

I'm a former smoker who vapes now. From what we know, vaping is far safer than smoking. For myself, when I quit smoking I had a permanent wheeze and struggled with my cardio. Since switching, I have no wheezing, have started running and vaping doesn't stink or risk passing on second hand smoke to people. Overall, I'm for harm reduction. If people can get their nicotine from vaping, we should encourage that over smoking. The hard press against vaping (which is funded by cigarette manufacturers) is counter-productive.

He's great. Seen him many times and his technique is excellent. He's a really nice guy, and the sensual elements are great.

I wouldn't say nuts. But I had a massage in Orlando this weekend and the guy was weird. First, I specified an erotic massage. At the beginning, I asked what his boundaries were and he said, "no sucking, I'm not one of those escorts who pretend to be giving a massage." Clearly, not a sex-positive guy. That's a bummer for me because I like blowing a guy when I cum. But, I respect people's boundaries so no problem. But there was nothing remotely erotic about the. Nothing even sensual. He never took his boxers off. Second, when I said I was from NYC, he went on for 10 minutes about how he could never live in NYC again (he was from Staten Island). How the city was disgusting and too crowded and expensive and he needs his space. And it was said in an aggressive tone. He was pretty chatty throughout and also went on about grad school being a ripoff. Now, I don't mind some conversation Then, as we came to the conclusion he said "do you want me to help you release?" I declined. Lastly, he seemed to have no idea how he came off during the message. He gave me a hug and said he hoped to see me next time I was in Orlando.

Compared to darker-complected people, blonds and redheads (like me) don't age well. I've been moisturizing since I'm 12. That's probably shaved 10-15 years off my face compared to everyone else in my family. I also never go in the sun without sunblock, even in the winter. But all things being equal: sun exposure, lifestyle, diet, hydration, fairer skinned people will wrinkle sooner.

While I agree with and defer to the providers on here that asking for a photo is bad form, I do tend to be similar to @NYXboy in my approach as a client. I don't send a photo until we've more or less agreed to the deal but I do think I prefer they know what I look like before we meet. I describe myself in my initial text (Irish-American, 40s, white collar professional, 5'11", chubby but fit - yes, you can be both - with a great ass). And then once we've agreed to meet, I'll send them G-rated pic. I've never had someone cancel on me after I've sent the pic. I also think there's a wide variety of providers - some who do it FOR the money, some who absolutely love sex in all of its forms with a broad palette (my personal favorite kind), some who do it as an extension of their sex life (I avoid at all costs). Two of my favorite providers are in their late 20s, they're both lean and fit but not hugely muscular, and, being the "broad palette, love sex" types, always seem genuinely to be having fun. Ideally, a provider enjoys their time with me, as I would want for any fellow human performing a service. And because I get off on being desired (or fooled into believing I am despite the bullshit detector of a native NYer), if at any point a provider signals that being with me is a chore, I'm turned off and won't see them again. Thankfully, there are enough of the "love sex/broad palette" guys out there, that I mostly enjoy those I meet. I think it also helps that I'm not really into ripped, model types.

No, that's a bit much for me. Where did you see that rate? Because many other porn stars who are much more famous charge less.

Ugh, if he came to NYC, I'd love to hire him.

I'm curious how the Palm Springs weekend works. Would you mind DMing me?

I used to go see him. My first few appointments were excellent but then he seemed to grow more distant over time. Admittedly, I am hard to get off so maybe I was a chore. 🤣

In my experience most do. Men are simple creatures.

I'm curious what you mean by this.

Do you play like other kinds of butt play? Getting rimmed? Toys?