KensingtonHomo

There's a lot of projection in posts like these. Speaking for myself, I am conventionally attractive, look ten years younger than my (middle) age, and am a lot of fun in and out of bed. But you - and a few others on here - seem to think most of us are hideous and obese. A significant number of us hire, not because we can't find sex but because it's much more convenient. We're paying, so we don't have to spend hours on apps to schedule a hook-up. And "good looking" is incredibly subjective. I'd say 80 percent of the providers who get posted here by members looking for information, hold zero appeal for me. But most guys are salivating over them. Lastly, the "slavery" comment is just horrible. Not only do we have a history of chattel slavery in this country, but there are people all over the world, including the US, who are being trafficked to have sex against their will. And, they do not get paid. In fact, by definition slaves don't get paid. And that rimming is what set you off, feels very personal. It's a practice you find distasteful or abhorrent, so you cannot imagine someone enjoying it. So it's worse to you then "fuck me or I won't hire you", "let me fuck you or I won't hire you", "blow me or I won't hire you." Really, they're all the same. Lastly, no one should ever coerce a provider into doing something they are uncomfortable with. But if I hire someone who says they provide a particular service - and let's stipulate that everyone involved is pristinely hygienic - and they will not perform, I would let it go. But I also would not hire them again.

You're welcome to your opinion but if you're having sex with someone, how is any part of that "too personal?"

I use a Burner app that is not in my name, and I can delete it from my phone. I recently spoke to a provider who travels internationally. He backs his "work" phone up to the cloud and then hard resets it before customs. I don't know your demography but it is extremely unlikely that you would even be of interest to law enforcement. The reality is that the police target poor Johns and massage parlors and other places where it's easy to do mass arrests. They also target sex workers who are poor and marginalized. Given the breadth of this group, if people were running into issues, I suspect we'd all know.

I'm willing to be the test subject. 🍑

I'm mostly a bottom so I do expect to be rimmed as warming up to fucking. I haven't had too many guys turn me down. I also think if you approach a provider with the info that you are a bottom and you're into it, most would think rimming is on the table. And, yes, bidets are nice but I am completely prepped (douched, freshly showered) before I meet up.

The chance of legal issues is vanishingly small. There is no law prohibiting you from accessing the website, and there is nothing illegal about compensating an adult for their time. It would be very hard for someone to prove anything else happened.

Off the top of my head, I can think of four providers with no tattoos who are young, and in shape. Two of them also do porn. I can understand not being into someone heavily tattooed. But if a guy has one or even a few discrete tattoos but is otherwise your type, I cannot fathom caring about it. But we're also due for the quarterly hysteria over guys wearing nail polish, so what do I know?

I agree that unless one is into using drugs with a provider, it's unlikely this would be an issue. However, in the vanishingly small chance that it would happen, I would approach it as humanely as possible. If necessary, call for an ambulance. Wait until they arrive. If the provider is conscious, see if there's someone they want you to call. If you are concerned about how this person got into your room or home, say they're a friend. If it's a hotel, say you met them at the bar or pool. I imagine guys who are closeted or cheating may be worried about being exposed but there's little chance of anyone finding out. If it's a medical emergency, the person who is ill has a right to privacy.

I find it so funny that some people here are obsessed with tattoos. Only a little over a quarter of men have even one tattoo. Most of the guys in porn don't have any. Most of the providers don't have any. So I don't know why you and others are obsessed with the maybe half - if we adjust for generations where younger people might have more - of providers and porn stars have them. 32% of Americans have a tattoo, including 22% who have more than one WWW.PEWRESEARCH.ORG 69% of adults say they got any of their tattoos to honor or remember someone or something. 47% say they...

No, because unless the penis can make a sharp turn into the sigmoid colon, it doesn't go beyond the rectum. If you're douching goes beyond the rectum, you are then cleaning out your colon which is unnecessary unless you're into fisting, and makes it a multi-hour process.

If you go passed cleaning out the rectum, you're asking for trouble. Too many guys are over-douching and leaving water in their colons.

I don’t have an issue getting responses. I’d say 80 percent respond. i think your issue is you’re not asking a question or giving a time frame. Maybe you if you give a time “are you available next Monday or Tuesday? If so, can you tell me what your rates are?” I also sometimes give a vague description like “I’m a married professional guy who enjoys erotic massage.”

I didn’t say the massage was medicore. It was actually pretty good.

I saw Dniel today. He's very nice and looks great. I had explicitly asked for an erotic massage in our texts, but it didn't even go into sensual. The massage was very good. On my way out, I asked if he ever does a more erotic massage. He said he has done it in the past, but he's seeing someone and doesn't feel comfortable. It was a good massage, but as it was purely therapeutic, I wouldn't pay his rate again.

I reached out to him once but he never responded.

I haven't had this come up too much, but I think if you're seeing someone weekly or monthly, it's on them to disclose a rate increase. However, if it's been months or a year, I would confirm. We had a regular who has since exploded in porn, and I've been thinking of seeing him again, and I will definitely confirm the rate.

Interesting. I've never really noticed a difference.

Insane behavior because as a bottom, I generally can't feel the difference.

His profile suggests English isn’t his first language and just shows his feet (🤮) and a crotch pic. Edit: I wasn’t logged in. He looks hot but not enough information for me to hire.

Yes. I have a good friend who is a film editor and the contraction of film and TV production due to the strikes and Marvel bubble are definitely impacting the entertainment industry. And then inflation is hitting us all, which means less disposable income. ☹️

I’m a client but being asked for information that is clearly available on my business’ website or another document is incredibly annoying. Before I reach out to a provider, I’ve read their profile, reviews and searched here. It’s also why I hate “Ask Me” as a price, because it forces me to ask. One thing I will generally ask is the rate for erotic massage in case it’s more than what is listed as the base.

Same. I also find 99% of men’s feet gross. So ads that have guys feet or that pose where they’re smelling their own pits are an automatic “no.” But I have a general aversion to strong scents of any kind. I don’t mind the slight scent most people have when recently showered but without deodorant. That’s usually how I prepare. But if I was going to be out and then meeting someone later I would put on deodorant.

That's insane. So weird, I was checking out his profile because we're supposed to be in DC at the same time this weekend. I ultimately ruled him out because he's a "total top" and identifies as "straight." No judgement but that's not for me.

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Oof, those are all too much for me. 🤣