KensingtonHomo

Maybe it's being a Gen Xer but I've never found OF to be interesting or engaging. I subscribed a couple of times to guys I've hired and every time I was disappointed. The production is often low quality. I have no desire to watch someone jerk off. I'd rather subscribe to an actual porn channel.

I have several NYC recommendations if you need.

This can also be a reward for being a client. We've met guys from Australia (which we'd like to visit) and many other countries. We've also enjoyed meeting local men while traveling. We don't hang out in clubs and bars very much, so if we have a chance to chat with a local provider, it's great.

Where are you seeing this? I've had one or two people providers spring an additional charge or oral but a handy during sensual seems pretty standard.

If there's chemistry or a connection or common interests, I love to chat a bit with a provider. But it has to be a conversation. I don't want to be talked at. I saw ChrisManWest earlier this week and since he's from Barcelona and I love Spain. So the conversation was very natural and I enjoyed hearing more about his life and vice versa.

I had a great experience with Chris. His massage skills are excellent. Chris has strong hands that complement his tall, muscular body. He is kind and very focused on providing a great experience. The sensual aspects were also wonderful. Chris is also an intelligent and engaging man to speak with. I enjoyed our conversation.

This is funny because I'm 5'11" and generally wouldn't date men under 6". My husband is 6'1" but if asked will say he's "6 feet tall." I care less about height when it comes to providers because I'm interested in diversity but as @BenjaminNicholas being the height I am, I can tell immediately if someone is 6" tall or less.

I'm not sure if it's "jumping ship." If you want an environment where dating is easier as a gay man, moving to a city where the culture is less toxic and superficial makes sense. I met my husband before apps and I feel for anyone trying to date now. The culture looks pretty hostile. My single friends of a similar age have similar complaints.

I went to check and realized that, probably because I'm a paid member of Rentmassuer, they do have my phone number. I'm not that worried about it. It's actually an old number that I no longer use.

This is such a manosphere "bro" take, it's hard to respond. Anyway, Evans had several multi-year relationships with women like Jenny Slate. In his case, I suspect that his career prevented him from settling down. I don't think it's a coincidence that it happened once he was done with Marvel.

Only a heterosexual man could believe that a complete lack of a long-term relationship entitles him to a better one. I can guarantee that every straight woman I know would see his history as a HUGE red flag.

I've been with my husband for over 23 years; married for over 10. We met in person; in a bar shortly after 9/11. He was in the towers on 9/11 and narrowly escaped. I lost a cousin who was a firefighter. As this was November 2001, his experience quickly came to the surface. How have we lasted for 23 years and going strong? Mostly, we accept each other - foibles and all. And we have been through a lot together (lost both of our mothers, I had a lot of losses in my family). We've gained and lost friends. Changed jobs. I'll be real with you and say that he is much easier to live with and more easygoing than I am. (I sometimes refer to him as my "long-suffering husband.) The most important thing I can tell you is that chemistry is vitally important. You will either have it with someone or you won't. We have great chemistry. We are yin and yang. He's the quiet to my loud; the soft to my hard; etc. While he's quieter and introverted, he's also very funny in one-on-one conversations. Our chemistry was obvious very early on. And chemistry isn't just sexual. You see friends with great chemistry. Michelle Visage has a career because of her chemistry with Rupaul. We were also monogamous for the first 17 years of our relationship. We ended up figuring out we loved "playing together" by accident on vacation in Spain. We hire primarily for convenience. We're busy. We have specific times in the week when having a lengthy session works well, especially now that we're middle-aged. I have a friend who is 32. He's good-looking, smart, well-read, has great hobbies, and is very active and outgoing. And he's in the same boat as you. My take is that you are not alone. Dating in NYC as a gay man in your 30s who wants an intimate romantic relationship is very hard now. The apps dehumanize people. I find millennials to be far less capable of vulnerability than Gen Xers. Back to chemistry. In a culture obsessed with appearance, it's hard to find chemistry. Chemistry is not based on looks; neither sexual chemistry nor friendship chemistry nor romantic chemistry. If you're screening out people who do not fit your desired physical appearance, you may be screening out many of the people you could have chemistry with. I would encourage you to accept dates or pursue them with guys who are not tall, handsome with huge dicks. Look for similar interests, look at guys who you think look like fun even if they're a 6. I'm nice looking but my husband - a former muscal theater actor - looks like a Disney prince. He's an 8.5-9. I'm probably a 6.5, but I'm funny, passionate, a friend told me I love people in a way that is almost violent. So give some 6s a try! That's my two cents.

I feel you @Wildwood. I'm grossed out by feet, so I ignore them in a profile. But as others have said a foot fetish is common, so providers show them.

I've hired and spoken with guys who are bi or pan, and I'm a chronic overthinker. Ultimately, this is about your experience—that's why you're hiring. So, I want you to focus on what makes you feel sexy. Over the years, I've noticed that good providers match the client's energy. If you're going out, you may want to ask the provider to match what you want to wear. You don't want to be in a cocktail dress and the provider is in sweatpants. However, if you're staying in, you may want to wear lingerie. If makeup, heels and a little perfume make you feel sexy, put them on. I have an ass that most providers love. It's big, round, and has some jiggle over the muscle. So even if we're staying in, my underclothes will be a jock, or lace or something that makes me feel sexy. I might have sweatpants on over it.

Agreed. One of my concerns with those kind of spas is that the guys might be trafficked.

I haven't actually experienced this. I've had regulars who have had an off day, but usually they have a reason.

As a NYer, this happens from time to time. They need to give "vice" a reason to exist. Obviously, everyone should be careful but I don't think this is heralding the end of such spas.

Overall, I haven't noticed a huge difference but it's only been a few guys. A couple never responded, but the ones who did moved us to text within a few messages.

I think he saved you a bad meeting. When traveling, I always clarify which currency we're discussing. Often, the provider will quote us in US dollars, but it's always good to clarify.

I'm not sure why you quoted this. I freely admitted they were making a premium. I'm fortunate that I don't find most of those guys attractive. I used to find Cade Maddox attractive, but not for $1,000 an hour. His facial fillers and Botox are very obvious in his recent videos. I'm not opposed to anyone doing what (I'm debating some filler myself), but I would probably find him more attractive if he let himself look 37.

Dear god. Can we drop this subject? Let escorts ask for what they want. Some guys will shell it out; others won't. Based on my hiring in NYC, $1,000 is not the new rate. Most guys who are attractive, 25-35, fit but who don't have a porn past or big OF presence are in the $350-$500/hour range. I also hooked up with one of my favorite porn stars in LA last fall for $350. My sense is that he mostly films but likes to connect with the occasional fan. I would have paid more (in fact, I did tip him well).

Interesting. My initial experience with tattoos was people in or retired from the military.

People get tattoos for lots of reasons. I have four. One I got in my 20s and it's stupid. The other three all mark something very important to me: the loss of a loved one, my heritage, etc. I have one more I'd like to get that's in that vein. Other people see their body as a canvas; others do it to be cool or trendy.

OMG, there's a couple of guys on here who look at every "411" post and say they won't hire the guy because he has tattoos. It's like, "Girl, we get it." I don't care what other people think about a provider I find attractive, unless it's about their behavior and actions.

Yes, I don't understand this either. I may not be willing to pay the price some guys want but I don't begrudge them or doubt they can get it. For me, it's the same as commenting on the appearance of a provider I wouldn't hire. I'd rather spend my time on other things.