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Suddenly, I want to take a trip to Oklahoma City! He's cute!
Anyway, yes, I agree with the happy beginning crowd, or at least happy middle. lol The build up is fun, but I like to get massaged after. So much more relaxing.

I agree. I shouldn't have continued the session. I was relatively new to hiring at that point and I was hosting in my apartment. I wanted to avoid any possible scene and as I said, it was my first time dealing with this issue. I hadn't even thought about it being an option. I have learned how to deal with it since then.

Not if you are in his neighborhood with your bf and you don't want the two to meet! lol
I hire because usually it means less complications than hook ups. I tried Craigslist/Grindr hook ups but more often than not the other guys wanted more than just a FWB situation.

Well, a deal breaker is a deal breaker. If an escort drastically changes their look without updating their pics, that's on them. Whether it's facial hair, a huge tattoo, an extra 50lbs or dropping down from muscles to a twink, if the change is drastic enough and the client is no longer attracted/into them, just excuse yourself from the situation (if possible); advise them that they look drastically different and you are no longer interested. A simple "you don't look anything like your pics in your ad" should be clear. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to continue and potentially be disappointed or bothered by it during your session or if it makes sense to cut your losses and leave. I'm lucky that I'm in a city with plenty of options. If I have an extra hour, I can find someone, maybe a "tried and true" previous escort, who is available to take their place on short notice. If you are in a city with less options, it probably means a wasted opportunity but sometimes it's better than wasting money on a disappointing experience.

Well, a deal breaker is a deal breaker. If an escort drastically changes their look without updating their pics, that's on them. Whether it's facial hair, a huge tattoo, an extra 50lbs or dropping down from muscles to a twink, if the change is drastic enough and the client is no longer attracted/into them, just excuse yourself from the situation (if possible); advise them that they look drastically different and you are no longer interested. A simple "you don't look anything like your pics in your ad" should be clear. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to continue and potentially be disappointed or bothered by it during your session or if it makes sense to cut your losses and leave. I'm lucky that I'm in a city with plenty of options. If I have an extra hour, I can find someone, maybe a "tried and true" previous escort, who is available to take their place on short notice. If you are in a city with less options, it probably means a wasted opportunity but sometimes it's better than wasting money on a disappointing experience.

I like August. I do not recommend Yura.

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Excellent points. Which is why several times I’ve planned a meet and greet just to be sure. And so far, it’s worked out fine. But, ya’ never know.

Urgh... one of my first hires... Got this guy off of craigslist of all places, when I first got into this little hobby and was a younger dumber more naive version of myself today. The guy arrived at the hotel and I usually like to start off with a massage. So I requested that and he asked for the money first. I don't mind it since I tend to get that out of the way so I can just focus on relaxing and enjoying myself. Guy claimed to have forgotten his massage oil and asked if he could go to his car to retrieve it. Me being stupid said ok and let him go get the oil only for the guy to disappear on me.
 
There are other times as well... but there are instances I feel so dumb for being tricked that it still makes me cringe thinking of it.
 
Thankfully I have not encountered any unpleasant events other than the first few times when I just started. I like to think I am more wiser in the way of life now.

I've had several guys, previous hires, contact me asking for money for various reasons/excuses (rent money, medical bills for mother, etc.), all with promises of a fun time next time we meet. I've never fallen for it. Most of the time, it means an automatic block from my side.
 
The closest I've ever come to this was a session where the escort was not able to perform as promised, but he said he'd give me a freebie "next time we met." We still fooled around a little, but it was a disappointing session overall and he knew it. So, we met up again not long after (within a month?). I should have reminded him when I set of the appointment but I didn't. I arrived, we chatted and I reminded him while we were getting undressed. He said something about how he could give the freebie only mid-week, not on a weekend. I said I wish I had known there were restrictions and mid-week usually isn't convenient for me. He still said I'd have to pay for that day and schedule the freebie for another day. I said no, got dressed and left. I wasn't out of money, per se, but he definitely wasted my time.

I don't like facial hair either. I would also suggest, at minimum, hinting that the non-bearded pics are hot or be direct and ask their current "facial hair situation." If it's a deal breaker for you, you should definitely ask.

In a spa, I tip about $40 for an hour, $60 for 90 minutes when there are extras. And the more extras, the higher the tip.
For private masseurs at their place, I tip less because they keep all of the money, but I still tip roughly 20%, especially with extras. I like to let them know I appreciate the extras. For example, I like for them to be nude during the whole massage. If the massage isn't very good or they don't offer any extras, then basically I don't tip and I won't see them again.

I don't like facial hair either. I would also suggest, at minimum, hinting that the non-bearded pics are hot or be direct and ask their current "facial hair situation." If it's a deal breaker for you, you should definitely ask.

One of my rules: Never hire a guy who thinks of himself as a model. Especially when his rate is insane. It is likely a signal of narcissism instead of high quality experience.

He's got 16 5-star reviews, all of which agree he matches his pics.
 
By email says:
 
"Base Massage
1hr $200▫️1.5hr $325
There is no body to body contact, besides my hands used to massage your body deeply. I will be dressed in a towel and you will be nude.
 
Erotic Massage Plus
1hr $300▫️1.5hr $425▫️2hr $550
There is body to body contact and more of my body being used to massage your body. We are both nude and the massage is deeply erotic with elements of a Tantric massage. "
 
$200 for a one hour therapeutic massage just so you get so see him in a towel? Wow, more power to him if he can get it!

The very few times I’ve tried to use it, the providers says “I don’t like this RM chat, let’s text”. But starting a chat does give RM admins evidence you contacted a provider via RM, you sometimes need that when posting a review.

Am I the only one that HATES the pop up “Chat with...” in the lower corner when you pull up a RM model? It infuriates me. Half the time I hit the “X” to close the window, it loads the chat window as if I want to chat. I hate it. Anyone else?

Not at all - be respectful but direct: I enjoyed your pics - are you currently clean shaven?

Well yes, and you may like body odor and tatoos and long hair. All a matter of taste, and the person initiating the discussion doesn’t like beards.

I would never send my pic to an escort in advance of meeting. First of all, what if THEY are the ones who are law enforcement? Second, I'm hiring so it shouldn't matter what I look like exactly. I don't mind sending my stats/general description but no, they are not getting my pic.
As mentioned above, I did send my pic to an escort I had met a year or so prior. I said we had met before but he wanted me to jog his memory. No problem.

I would never send my pic to an escort in advance of meeting. First of all, what if THEY are the ones who are law enforcement? Second, I'm hiring so it shouldn't matter what I look like exactly. I don't mind sending my stats/general description but no, they are not getting my pic.
As mentioned above, I did send my pic to an escort I had met a year or so prior. I said we had met before but he wanted me to jog his memory. No problem.

Like clockwork, this is discussed here about every two weeks.
 
Same discussion, back and forth. Nothing new revealed about the inner-psyche of the tattooed.
 
People get ink because they choose to: It's just that simple.
 
You might not understand it, accept it or approve, but that's not really the point. I personally don't have or want ink on my body, but I'd never judge those who do.

I would suggest that if they are putting too much pressure, let them know right away instead of bearing the pain hoping it would get better

To me, it depends on whether you can safely pay less for not receiving the services promised. I've had this happen to me several times, although it was the bottom who couldn't perform for me, the top. The first time took me by surprise and I had hired this guy for 3 hours. I had planned to have a relaxing encounter but things turned quickly as he said he "didn't feel up to bottoming". I was disappointed, of course. We spent the 3 hours (maybe just the last 2 hours) trying other things but the mood was spoiled. Since it was the first time for that to happen with me, I paid in full, albeit reluctantly.
Had another guy let me start fucking him but he wasn't properly cleaned out, so we stopped. He disappeared to the bathroom, then came back and said he didn't feel up to bottoming anymore. I got dressed, paid him about $50 (I think he was charging about $200?) and left with him screaming at me. But I was at his place and didn't feel threatened.
Another guy started saying he wanted me to cum about 5 seconds after I started fucking him. I barely got it in and he was like "oh baby, are you going to cum soon? Cum now! Cum!" He was serious and he wasn't complaining about being in pain or anything. He just wanted me to hurry. So, I did - out the door. This was in Berlin, I think? Somewhere in Europe because I remember that I only gave him 50 Euros. I wasn't even there 15 minutes.
Of course, it does help if this happened outside your home/hotel. It's easier to leave than to try to force someone to leave your place. If they are at my place or my hotel when traveling, I probably would just pay the agreed upon rate to get them to leave.

I hired two guys from a go-go bar in Bangkok once. It was one of the best experiences ever. I would love to repeat it (at home or traveling) but I feel like it would be difficult to capture that magic again. I feel like I hit the right mix between the three of us. But I still might try! ? I picked one guy and together we picked a 2nd. Since he worked there, I wanted someone he got along with. One was a bottom and one was vers. so it was a good combo, with me being a top. The three of us kissed at the same time and managed to fool around in all kinds of positions. I was in heaven! haha