JB_Studio38

Main factors in travelling.  The price of gas these days for one, and another the cost of the hotel.   When we travel, we aim for profit, not to break even.  I would hope clients would understand that.    The Fall is best, hotels are not as high in price, as in the Summer.  

@JB_Studio38, thank you for your perspective. Very interesting to read the other side of the debate. 

Comparing an escort rate over $300 to the cost of marriage and divorce?? Even $1,000 an hour wouldn’t put a dent in the actual costs that would involved 🤣 
 

 
It is true. I seen a client the other day who had an amount I won’t even mention in his account, that he was paying me from. Not that it’s my business or comparing to anyone else: But the thing some people don’t understand is: we’re advertising to MANY income brackets. Why make $300 a universal price, when some people may have $100,000 or MORE, at their disposal?
I had one guy pay me $800 to reimburse for him having to cancel a session. People here would drag a person to hell over how that’s totally unjustified. However when you say “better educated” it seems like you’re insinuating (maybe not intentionally) that education comes in the form of “getting a better priced provider”. I’ll comment on that in a sec:
Exactly. Some clients seem to not understand how hotels work. Idk why some don’t, but for anyone who doesn’t: We don’t get 24 hours of usage. Early check in/late check out has been cut back a lot at many hotels unless you’re a top tier member. 
 
So one can pay X amount for a room, and still not even be able to have enough time to book enough clients unless they are willing to shell out additional funds the next morning. So many times for me, I’m only booking 1 to 2 clients per hotel “night” of payment
 
How much is an uber? I don’t use uber but: recently I did a trip the other month and I had $850 car repair bill during the visit. Fortunately one of my good “sponsors” was able to make a deal: but still, a few bucks Uber is small in comparison. 
 
Same for when some don’t understand why I have a $400 minimum when I travel to cities. All that wear and tear may not show up until down the line, and guess who has to pay for it when it comes up? 
 
This is also why I have mostly retired big city traveling. I will advertise remotely or visit them when I have other plans, but I’m just no longer taking the risks to travel to big cities for now. I have a trip to Los Angeles coming up but I’m ensuring weeks of advertising and definitive bunking plans. And with any other city: I’m hosting by appointment only.
Too many clients see Ads and think we’re just hosting by default. Where is that money supposed to magically come from, other clients? Then some don’t want to pay deposits either so: I’m expected to take money I made from another client, to fund a time slot for the next client? That USED to work back when there were a few sites like CL/Men4rent/Rentboy/Backpage:  But now there’s only a couple main sites, and the hookup apps are so hit or miss or the clients looking don’t want to pay enough to begin with.
I believe some of the guys who are doing big cities, might have corporate or other functions to make that happen: but straight freelancing, it’s too many other providers and the costs associated to visit them is too much. 
 
Exactly! Don’t forget to add: home/car repairs (because we’re often expected to magically be able to host or travel on a moments notice), sick days, hotel in-calls etc etc.
And let’s not talk about how some clients get so freaked out over an escort staying at a sketchy incall or hotel lol. But you wanted to only pay $$$ max right? So I need to budget accordingly. I’m not about to fuck solely to cover the cost of lodging 🤣 
 

Not just in NYC exclusively, even the “up and coming/trying to revive” metropolitan areas.
I reside in Missouri and both Kansas City and St. Louis: typically referred to as “cheaper” cities have become high priced and…there’s hardly any business anymore especially on RentMen. Nobody is booking unless you have $150 or $200 as a price: which people don’t understand means seeing a lot of other men to add up to a reasonable profit. So don’t complain about soft dick or not able to cum, if looking in that range. You don’t get, what you don’t pay for 🤷🏾‍♂️ 
 
But all these other dudes are either flakes or have a problem with paying to begin with. So it’s actually created a situation where I do have to charge more, just to get enough from the advertising. People expect me to charge $200 or LESS: something that I would have maybe 10 years ago, and somehow still be able to maintain: 
All in all:

 

 
 

I’m laughing at this comparison (although I get how you mean). Having been to both Vegas and Omaha multiple times: they are nothing alike lol.
For one, Vegas Ads are consistently thick with dozens of providers year around. Omaha, does not. Vegas also attracts tourists from all around, whereas Omaha is more like the regional tourists from Iowa/the Dakotas, etc. 
Believe it or not, I think Omaha is a better example of a city than Vegas lol. However the weather in Omaha gets so crazy, between giant hail storms and blizzards: Not enough gays with money find it an attractive resort location. However Omaha isn’t the wasteland you’d think it is. It just seems that way in comparison to the more crowded markets.
The reality is, a lot of those “in demand/buyer’s market” gay cities like Miami, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville, Dallas, Chicago, Las Vegas, California (although Cali is technically a country of its own): all those cities are so ran thru, it’s hard to make any fast money in those places unless you lucky to be able to stay there long enough to build regulars or a specific “sugar” guy. 
I’ve gone to so many of those cities and waited for days on end for a booking, whereas I can go to somewhere like Omaha and have my time accounted for a couple days. At not nearly the cost of some of the other cities
 

I can’t speak for Vegas specifically or anyone else who tours there: but for me I do the same, advertising in multiple cities. RentMen does allow up to 12 travel locations on the new platform version. 6 cities “nearby” (a 200-300 mile range) and 6 that one can put travel dates for. Equals 13 if include the current location. I definitely take full advantage of that.
The issue I see is, too many clients see the ads and assume it means instant availability. Or people expect us to have travel plans before we’ve even been able to finance it. 
 
I actually do try to 99% of time visit all the cities I advertise in. But in some cases, the commute to get there is too far and not as many want to book in advance like it used to be. Even if I get 5 clients hitting me up asking if I’m available “today”, that doesn’t help if I’m trying to plan the city 2-3 weeks from now and it’s 1,000 miles away. I tried that with Buffalo, and not enough were willing to schedule ahead, so I had to bin the trip a couple times. Maybe this year I’ll make it work finally.
 
Something with the escort travel system needs to change. I’ve had to say everything from “dates in my ad are openings/flexible” to “all travel cities require confirmed clients”, but few really seem to notice or understand it. 
 
I was just talking to a client today who: I been suggesting he book me a day in advance. However he was only able to do same day appointments a few hours in advance. We finally got to meet but, I was running like an hour behind the time I was aiming for. 
Getting ready can suck up so much time. Some will reach out less than 24 hours notice in some cities, and expect on time with a limited window. It’s not always possible. I tried to reschedule one guy who wanted to meet basically “before 3 p.m. the next day” in a city that was 5.5 hours away from me. 
Although I was planning the city anyway for other requests, hotels may or may not allow check in before 3 p.m. Many are also charging $25-$50 early check in fees. I also didn’t want to have to leave at night to get there early, because I’m hating driving more than a couple hours in the dark anymore. Dude gets pissed off at me, and I’m like dude: my ad states what my in-call hours are. Sometimes I can flex it, other times it’s too much trouble to make happen if they can’t be flexible.
It just makes the whole touring/travel thing a headache sometimes. That’s why nowadays I mainly only go to cities where I know I have friends, crushes, or specific clients as main purpose. Then I can incorporate other bookings once I’m there. I don’t like playing the gamble game and thinking if I spend $XXX amount on hotels for 2-3 days, I can recoup that money back AND make a profit. Because it doesn’t always happen, and it may require staying longer than 2-3 days to do it. 
 
I did a trip to San Diego couple years back, I had to stay for a week before I even booked my first two clients. I only managed to stay because I had friend’s place to stay: but in the past I’ve gone to cities and left within a day or 2 if there’s nothing but flakes and no money coming in.

I’m laughing at this comparison (although I get how you mean). Having been to both Vegas and Omaha multiple times: they are nothing alike lol.
For one, Vegas Ads are consistently thick with dozens of providers year around. Omaha, does not. Vegas also attracts tourists from all around, whereas Omaha is more like the regional tourists from Iowa/the Dakotas, etc. 
Believe it or not, I think Omaha is a better example of a city than Vegas lol. However the weather in Omaha gets so crazy, between giant hail storms and blizzards: Not enough gays with money find it an attractive resort location. However Omaha isn’t the wasteland you’d think it is. It just seems that way in comparison to the more crowded markets.
The reality is, a lot of those “in demand/buyer’s market” gay cities like Miami, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville, Dallas, Chicago, Las Vegas, California (although Cali is technically a country of its own): all those cities are so ran thru, it’s hard to make any fast money in those places unless you lucky to be able to stay there long enough to build regulars or a specific “sugar” guy. 
I’ve gone to so many of those cities and waited for days on end for a booking, whereas I can go to somewhere like Omaha and have my time accounted for a couple days. At not nearly the cost of some of the other cities
 

I can’t speak for Vegas specifically or anyone else who tours there: but for me I do the same, advertising in multiple cities. RentMen does allow up to 12 travel locations on the new platform version. 6 cities “nearby” (a 200-300 mile range) and 6 that one can put travel dates for. Equals 13 if include the current location. I definitely take full advantage of that.
The issue I see is, too many clients see the ads and assume it means instant availability. Or people expect us to have travel plans before we’ve even been able to finance it. 
 
I actually do try to 99% of time visit all the cities I advertise in. But in some cases, the commute to get there is too far and not as many want to book in advance like it used to be. Even if I get 5 clients hitting me up asking if I’m available “today”, that doesn’t help if I’m trying to plan the city 2-3 weeks from now and it’s 1,000 miles away. I tried that with Buffalo, and not enough were willing to schedule ahead, so I had to bin the trip a couple times. Maybe this year I’ll make it work finally.
 
Something with the escort travel system needs to change. I’ve had to say everything from “dates in my ad are openings/flexible” to “all travel cities require confirmed clients”, but few really seem to notice or understand it. 
 
I was just talking to a client today who: I been suggesting he book me a day in advance. However he was only able to do same day appointments a few hours in advance. We finally got to meet but, I was running like an hour behind the time I was aiming for. 
Getting ready can suck up so much time. Some will reach out less than 24 hours notice in some cities, and expect on time with a limited window. It’s not always possible. I tried to reschedule one guy who wanted to meet basically “before 3 p.m. the next day” in a city that was 5.5 hours away from me. 
Although I was planning the city anyway for other requests, hotels may or may not allow check in before 3 p.m. Many are also charging $25-$50 early check in fees. I also didn’t want to have to leave at night to get there early, because I’m hating driving more than a couple hours in the dark anymore. Dude gets pissed off at me, and I’m like dude: my ad states what my in-call hours are. Sometimes I can flex it, other times it’s too much trouble to make happen if they can’t be flexible.
It just makes the whole touring/travel thing a headache sometimes. That’s why nowadays I mainly only go to cities where I know I have friends, crushes, or specific clients as main purpose. Then I can incorporate other bookings once I’m there. I don’t like playing the gamble game and thinking if I spend $XXX amount on hotels for 2-3 days, I can recoup that money back AND make a profit. Because it doesn’t always happen, and it may require staying longer than 2-3 days to do it. 
 
I did a trip to San Diego couple years back, I had to stay for a week before I even booked my first two clients. I only managed to stay because I had friend’s place to stay: but in the past I’ve gone to cities and left within a day or 2 if there’s nothing but flakes and no money coming in.

I’m laughing at this comparison (although I get how you mean). Having been to both Vegas and Omaha multiple times: they are nothing alike lol.
For one, Vegas Ads are consistently thick with dozens of providers year around. Omaha, does not. Vegas also attracts tourists from all around, whereas Omaha is more like the regional tourists from Iowa/the Dakotas, etc. 
Believe it or not, I think Omaha is a better example of a city than Vegas lol. However the weather in Omaha gets so crazy, between giant hail storms and blizzards: Not enough gays with money find it an attractive resort location. However Omaha isn’t the wasteland you’d think it is. It just seems that way in comparison to the more crowded markets.
The reality is, a lot of those “in demand/buyer’s market” gay cities like Miami, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville, Dallas, Chicago, Las Vegas, California (although Cali is technically a country of its own): all those cities are so ran thru, it’s hard to make any fast money in those places unless you lucky to be able to stay there long enough to build regulars or a specific “sugar” guy. 
I’ve gone to so many of those cities and waited for days on end for a booking, whereas I can go to somewhere like Omaha and have my time accounted for a couple days. At not nearly the cost of some of the other cities
 

I can’t speak for Vegas specifically or anyone else who tours there: but for me I do the same, advertising in multiple cities. RentMen does allow up to 12 travel locations on the new platform version. 6 cities “nearby” (a 200-300 mile range) and 6 that one can put travel dates for. Equals 13 if include the current location. I definitely take full advantage of that.
The issue I see is, too many clients see the ads and assume it means instant availability. Or people expect us to have travel plans before we’ve even been able to finance it. 
 
I actually do try to 99% of time visit all the cities I advertise in. But in some cases, the commute to get there is too far and not as many want to book in advance like it used to be. Even if I get 5 clients hitting me up asking if I’m available “today”, that doesn’t help if I’m trying to plan the city 2-3 weeks from now and it’s 1,000 miles away. I tried that with Buffalo, and not enough were willing to schedule ahead, so I had to bin the trip a couple times. Maybe this year I’ll make it work finally.
 
Something with the escort travel system needs to change. I’ve had to say everything from “dates in my ad are openings/flexible” to “all travel cities require confirmed clients”, but few really seem to notice or understand it. 
 
I was just talking to a client today who: I been suggesting he book me a day in advance. However he was only able to do same day appointments a few hours in advance. We finally got to meet but, I was running like an hour behind the time I was aiming for. 
Getting ready can suck up so much time. Some will reach out less than 24 hours notice in some cities, and expect on time with a limited window. It’s not always possible. I tried to reschedule one guy who wanted to meet basically “before 3 p.m. the next day” in a city that was 5.5 hours away from me. 
Although I was planning the city anyway for other requests, hotels may or may not allow check in before 3 p.m. Many are also charging $25-$50 early check in fees. I also didn’t want to have to leave at night to get there early, because I’m hating driving more than a couple hours in the dark anymore. Dude gets pissed off at me, and I’m like dude: my ad states what my in-call hours are. Sometimes I can flex it, other times it’s too much trouble to make happen if they can’t be flexible.
It just makes the whole touring/travel thing a headache sometimes. That’s why nowadays I mainly only go to cities where I know I have friends, crushes, or specific clients as main purpose. Then I can incorporate other bookings once I’m there. I don’t like playing the gamble game and thinking if I spend $XXX amount on hotels for 2-3 days, I can recoup that money back AND make a profit. Because it doesn’t always happen, and it may require staying longer than 2-3 days to do it. 
 
I did a trip to San Diego couple years back, I had to stay for a week before I even booked my first two clients. I only managed to stay because I had friend’s place to stay: but in the past I’ve gone to cities and left within a day or 2 if there’s nothing but flakes and no money coming in.

I’m laughing at this comparison (although I get how you mean). Having been to both Vegas and Omaha multiple times: they are nothing alike lol.
For one, Vegas Ads are consistently thick with dozens of providers year around. Omaha, does not. Vegas also attracts tourists from all around, whereas Omaha is more like the regional tourists from Iowa/the Dakotas, etc. 
Believe it or not, I think Omaha is a better example of a city than Vegas lol. However the weather in Omaha gets so crazy, between giant hail storms and blizzards: Not enough gays with money find it an attractive resort location. However Omaha isn’t the wasteland you’d think it is. It just seems that way in comparison to the more crowded markets.
The reality is, a lot of those “in demand/buyer’s market” gay cities like Miami, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville, Dallas, Chicago, Las Vegas, California (although Cali is technically a country of its own): all those cities are so ran thru, it’s hard to make any fast money in those places unless you lucky to be able to stay there long enough to build regulars or a specific “sugar” guy. 
I’ve gone to so many of those cities and waited for days on end for a booking, whereas I can go to somewhere like Omaha and have my time accounted for a couple days. At not nearly the cost of some of the other cities
 

I can’t speak for Vegas specifically or anyone else who tours there: but for me I do the same, advertising in multiple cities. RentMen does allow up to 12 travel locations on the new platform version. 6 cities “nearby” (a 200-300 mile range) and 6 that one can put travel dates for. Equals 13 if include the current location. I definitely take full advantage of that.
The issue I see is, too many clients see the ads and assume it means instant availability. Or people expect us to have travel plans before we’ve even been able to finance it. 
 
I actually do try to 99% of time visit all the cities I advertise in. But in some cases, the commute to get there is too far and not as many want to book in advance like it used to be. Even if I get 5 clients hitting me up asking if I’m available “today”, that doesn’t help if I’m trying to plan the city 2-3 weeks from now and it’s 1,000 miles away. I tried that with Buffalo, and not enough were willing to schedule ahead, so I had to bin the trip a couple times. Maybe this year I’ll make it work finally.
 
Something with the escort travel system needs to change. I’ve had to say everything from “dates in my ad are openings/flexible” to “all travel cities require confirmed clients”, but few really seem to notice or understand it. 
 
I was just talking to a client today who: I been suggesting he book me a day in advance. However he was only able to do same day appointments a few hours in advance. We finally got to meet but, I was running like an hour behind the time I was aiming for. 
Getting ready can suck up so much time. Some will reach out less than 24 hours notice in some cities, and expect on time with a limited window. It’s not always possible. I tried to reschedule one guy who wanted to meet basically “before 3 p.m. the next day” in a city that was 5.5 hours away from me. 
Although I was planning the city anyway for other requests, hotels may or may not allow check in before 3 p.m. Many are also charging $25-$50 early check in fees. I also didn’t want to have to leave at night to get there early, because I’m hating driving more than a couple hours in the dark anymore. Dude gets pissed off at me, and I’m like dude: my ad states what my in-call hours are. Sometimes I can flex it, other times it’s too much trouble to make happen if they can’t be flexible.
It just makes the whole touring/travel thing a headache sometimes. That’s why nowadays I mainly only go to cities where I know I have friends, crushes, or specific clients as main purpose. Then I can incorporate other bookings once I’m there. I don’t like playing the gamble game and thinking if I spend $XXX amount on hotels for 2-3 days, I can recoup that money back AND make a profit. Because it doesn’t always happen, and it may require staying longer than 2-3 days to do it. 
 
I did a trip to San Diego couple years back, I had to stay for a week before I even booked my first two clients. I only managed to stay because I had friend’s place to stay: but in the past I’ve gone to cities and left within a day or 2 if there’s nothing but flakes and no money coming in.

I’m laughing at this comparison (although I get how you mean). Having been to both Vegas and Omaha multiple times: they are nothing alike lol.
For one, Vegas Ads are consistently thick with dozens of providers year around. Omaha, does not. Vegas also attracts tourists from all around, whereas Omaha is more like the regional tourists from Iowa/the Dakotas, etc. 
Believe it or not, I think Omaha is a better example of a city than Vegas lol. However the weather in Omaha gets so crazy, between giant hail storms and blizzards: Not enough gays with money find it an attractive resort location. However Omaha isn’t the wasteland you’d think it is. It just seems that way in comparison to the more crowded markets.
The reality is, a lot of those “in demand/buyer’s market” gay cities like Miami, Orlando, Atlanta, Nashville, Dallas, Chicago, Las Vegas, California (although Cali is technically a country of its own): all those cities are so ran thru, it’s hard to make any fast money in those places unless you lucky to be able to stay there long enough to build regulars or a specific “sugar” guy. 
I’ve gone to so many of those cities and waited for days on end for a booking, whereas I can go to somewhere like Omaha and have my time accounted for a couple days. At not nearly the cost of some of the other cities
 

I can’t speak for Vegas specifically or anyone else who tours there: but for me I do the same, advertising in multiple cities. RentMen does allow up to 12 travel locations on the new platform version. 6 cities “nearby” (a 200-300 mile range) and 6 that one can put travel dates for. Equals 13 if include the current location. I definitely take full advantage of that.
The issue I see is, too many clients see the ads and assume it means instant availability. Or people expect us to have travel plans before we’ve even been able to finance it. 
 
I actually do try to 99% of time visit all the cities I advertise in. But in some cases, the commute to get there is too far and not as many want to book in advance like it used to be. Even if I get 5 clients hitting me up asking if I’m available “today”, that doesn’t help if I’m trying to plan the city 2-3 weeks from now and it’s 1,000 miles away. I tried that with Buffalo, and not enough were willing to schedule ahead, so I had to bin the trip a couple times. Maybe this year I’ll make it work finally.
 
Something with the escort travel system needs to change. I’ve had to say everything from “dates in my ad are openings/flexible” to “all travel cities require confirmed clients”, but few really seem to notice or understand it. 
 
I was just talking to a client today who: I been suggesting he book me a day in advance. However he was only able to do same day appointments a few hours in advance. We finally got to meet but, I was running like an hour behind the time I was aiming for. 
Getting ready can suck up so much time. Some will reach out less than 24 hours notice in some cities, and expect on time with a limited window. It’s not always possible. I tried to reschedule one guy who wanted to meet basically “before 3 p.m. the next day” in a city that was 5.5 hours away from me. 
Although I was planning the city anyway for other requests, hotels may or may not allow check in before 3 p.m. Many are also charging $25-$50 early check in fees. I also didn’t want to have to leave at night to get there early, because I’m hating driving more than a couple hours in the dark anymore. Dude gets pissed off at me, and I’m like dude: my ad states what my in-call hours are. Sometimes I can flex it, other times it’s too much trouble to make happen if they can’t be flexible.
It just makes the whole touring/travel thing a headache sometimes. That’s why nowadays I mainly only go to cities where I know I have friends, crushes, or specific clients as main purpose. Then I can incorporate other bookings once I’m there. I don’t like playing the gamble game and thinking if I spend $XXX amount on hotels for 2-3 days, I can recoup that money back AND make a profit. Because it doesn’t always happen, and it may require staying longer than 2-3 days to do it. 
 
I did a trip to San Diego couple years back, I had to stay for a week before I even booked my first two clients. I only managed to stay because I had friend’s place to stay: but in the past I’ve gone to cities and left within a day or 2 if there’s nothing but flakes and no money coming in.

Vegas is a mirage.  With the millions and millions of visitors it should be a gold mine.  Most say its a complete waste of their time.  Tons of time wasters who never end up meeting.  Everyone asking for discounts and being hustled.  The days when Vegas was a cheap trip are long gone.  Prices on the strip can be steep.  No shortage of bad food/service for a pretty penny.  Not that surprising guys don't return after their first visit for work.

Many of us have our favorites with guys who come to our region on an annual basis or sometimes more frequently, and we eagerly anticipate those times. 
I've been noticing lately with guys that used to come to Las Vegas are now intentionally skipping it with their travel plans. I shouldn't be surprised, as they'll mention how disappointing their trip ends up being a financial waste, with too many no-shows and cheapskates. 
Recent case in point is a guy I just love who comes from Boston. He'd split time between Vegas and Phoenix, but this year is just staying in Phoenix double the time and avoiding Vegas altogether, mentioning to me he gets consistent great clientele in Arizona. 
Men who do this for many years are well aware of cities that are wastelands (Omaha), and cities that may surprise where they do really well (Albuquerque). It sucks for me that Vegas has turned into another Omaha.

The griping on this forum over basic supply and demand economics never ceases to amaze me. No one owes you sex for a price only you think is fair. That's up to the person selling their body to decide. Take it or leave it and move on. It's not greed to set a price one can command on the market. Anything less is charity, which is one thing this business isn't.

Oh no! This topic again. He can charge whatever he thinks he’s worth. It’s entirely up to him and his definition of his value. You don’t have to pay it. You might want to hire him but if you don’t want to pay his rate too bad! You can’t afford him. Buy a cheaper guy and see how good he is. 
If you think it’s an easy overpaid job why not set up yourself? See how easy it is. What price would you put on yourself for an hour of doing escort work (don’t forget to add in all the hidden costs - time spent trying to look good, being available 24/7, handling time wasters, advertising, paying for the benefits that employees get as part of their job, taking risks with your sexual health….). Now his rate doesn’t seem so unreasonable does it…

The problem underlying all of this is inflation, which has increased 25 percent since 2021. So, guys who raised their rates from $300 to $350-$400 over the past couple of years are adjusting for inflation. And the inflation we've had has impacted housing and food the most. And inflation is hitting big cities, making them more expensive to live in and visit. And since inflation is affecting all of us, our purchasing power is lessened. So the guys raising their rates in response to inflation are dealing with clients who feel like our money isn't going as far as it used to. It's a regrettable situation but it's not necessarily greed. 

You say this as if you're paying for an essential service and not a luxury. Escorting is hard work and escorts put a lot of effort into their jobs even when they're off the clock. I'm not familiar with San Francisco, but many popular cities for escorts have high lodging costs. A one hour session for $300 isn't enough to break even for the day in these cities.

$300 is more than enough.  It's just sex, not a marriage contract.  Anything more is just greed.

It is a shame that this stigma exists. I frequently interact with Black tops who have really nice asses, and for some, whenever I ask about them bottoming, they reply that they can, but it’s stigmatized.
I wish people didn’t have such a restricted conception of Black male sexuality.

I can see how one could read the original post that way.  The original post used color as a descriptor, but one could also focus the question on primarily being turned on by men who perform only the traditionally masculine role in sex, but losing interest if one learns the masculine persona hides a man who has performed the traditionally feminine role.  Whether the race assigned at birth or the race one identifies as (if different than the race assigned at birth) compliments the traditionally masculine or feminine sexual role all plays a part.  Just look at all the posts in the Deli or Spa sking for recommendations specifically for asian feminine twinks or latin day-laborer-type masculine hunks.
In my experience, I find that a cis man who has previously taken a dick up the ass makes a better top than one who hasn't.

This is pretty fairly said. I can’t count how many “same day” appointments I get or even the day prior but still not 24 hours notice. Not to mention, so many clients see our ads travel cities and assume we are there and available that day. Even if my ad is up in an area, it’s usually in advance.
I’ve encountered such things before but I think often the #1 problem that even clients need to start realizing: a lot of clients just aren’t very available. And it’s not always fair to expect the escort to “be there and be square” with 15 minutes grace period. Yes…a stellar planning escort can make each appointment on time, but it’s all often last minute and not “routine” commutes.
 
I allow myself both client sex and regular sex. Most “successful regular sex” with non-client men tends to happen in the evening or late night: it’s often the times that single, professional, 20s-40s aged men are out meeting guys on apps or a bar.
 
In contrast: many clients often have “off” hours they want to meet. Some want to meet in the middle of the “work day”. Or mid-morning. Squeezing in time here and there so to speak.
I’ve decided I need to start sticking to set booking hours: which for me means incalls with me hosting needs to be after 3, and hosting after noon. It all ties into the check in/check out times of hotels as well. I don’t have the luxury to host from home as much anymore for the time being. So I have to operate on a schedule that doesn’t conflict with my mornings or travel time to the next destination. 
In my opinion: I believe the hookup app culture and not so distance social media culture, is to blame. It seems like every man out here has multiple options. Clients, fuck buds, hookup app possibilities: all in the same night. I see my friends, I even see clients: just constantly on a mission to cruise on these apps. I’ve been with clients and hear some dreaded super Mario brother’s type of sound coming from their phone…which likely sounds like another message 🤣 
People think having endless options is a good thing. But in the Hookup lifestyle, it just leads to a whole lot of unreliability and people playing games. I had to deal with it last night from someone (non client) I thought was going to come over to my hotel: which I was hoping to make use for considering I only booked it for 1 nigh
 

Last year, I greatly enjoyed this hobby. I had very little drama and spent a decent amount. This year has been the complete opposite. I've been inundated with last-minute cancellations, no-shows/ghosting, lateness, poor communication, and general flakiness. It's extremely perplexing.

Cut the cord. To be fair, say if they don't arrive by X o'clock, the session is cancelled. Don't give them more than 15 more minutes.
For regulars you can be more open, but if they flake and ghost, drop them.
Last time that happened to me, the guy claimed his phone ran out of power. I informed him his replacement was already on the way. It's a buyer's market, and escorts need to understand they're competing with a loooot of other providers.

Over the past year, I’ve noticed a significant increase in last-minute postponements and cancellations from escorts  - (and I am guessing that providers might report the same thing about some clients as well). It has become especially frustrating when I’ve already invested time and money into the arrangement: booking hotels, traveling to another city, and mentally gearing up for what was supposed to be an enjoyable experience.
What disappoints me most is not only the inconvenience, but also the financial cost and repeated sense of letdown. More troubling is that this pattern is now occurring even with some of my semi-regular hires, whom I previously considered dependable.
At this point, I’m conflicted. Part of me feels that continued unreliability should simply be a dealbreaker -  after all, most people would stop seeing a doctor who was repeatedly unavailable with little notice. On the other hand, I wonder whether this is simply part of the business and something I should accept with patience.
It’s difficult to decide where to draw the line, particularly when the chemistry and attraction are otherwise excellent. But reliability and respect for someone’s time do matter, and repeated cancellations inevitably erode my interest in this already expensive "hobby." 

Work time is extremely random because you never know when you’ll get clients and they tend to book with short notice (a few days in advance at most, often on the day). So you end up having wide working time availability to maximise bookings. That still leaves you kicking your heels sometimes so you have lots of ‘plan B’ activities ready in case no one books. It does mean lots of juggling and last minute changes of plan. 
I’m mainly available 10am to 10pm weekdays (that’s the window not the shift!!!) and weekends it’s daytime. The pattern I see is that most guys want to schedule within those broad times and Saturday or Sunday evening is quite unusual. I try to keep those times clear to do other pre planned things. That’s probably why you find guys more flaky those times. He probably was doing something else and took your booking in the expectation/hope he’d be free but it didn’t work out. He probably shouldn’t have taken it or he should have warmed you he might have to postpone when you booked. I decline the booking if there’s a good chance I’ll be delayed because it’s just too stressful trying to make the time and then giving a good service. 

Escorting is an on-and-off job for many guys on Rent Men. They leave their expired ads up when they're not escorting, and reactivate them on return.
If a profile's been inactive for years, he abandoned Rent Men or escorting entirely. They're not diligent and don't take down their ads.

Believe it or not, there are guys who never have/had sex with a man, who really love seeing their own parts listed as merchandise. And for as long as the site allows it to remain visible in spite of pausing, they can continue to get their giggles  knowing someone's looked - all without ever looking a dick in the eye.  
Others run out of money living in the city, and have just had to go back to living Mom's basement 400mi east. 

At the end of the day, I try to encourage gays to explore other cities beyond just the LA, Houston, Miami, New York, Chicago, etc. places. Many of the big cities are just so ran thru. There’s 50 states, 48 contiguous. Although it’s not always the best nightlife/party options: some areas can still offer access to fun and everything else the bigger markets offer, but with less cost and competition. 
Montana and North/South Dakota maybe someday be the next Texas. They’ve got the size, but they don’t attract much in the way of gay or tourism. The weather obviously is a factor though. 
That said, I just recently met someone from Austin in a different state, and he was cool. I might have to visit again sometime.