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Exclusive deals so to speak. Mainly thru the app. I also get 10% off all my express deals. Anytime I book thru PL, I tend to go for something nice... Because it's a big deal considering I don't always have those funds available on a card. And lot of places won't accept cash. And in certain cities, going to a bank for a deposit may not be an option if the bank I use isn't in town. Or I may not even have the extra available at all. Let's not pretend like nobody in our profession ever goes a week where they may only have less than $100-$200 in between lulls in business, especially when multiple bills are due in 1 week. I say discrimination because, on several instances they've admitted to doing so. Discrimination Mainly towards the priceline guest, but also I've even booked directly thru a hotel: one such place I've stayed 2 other times. Neither time was I asked for a deposit. One night, I checked in with a guy to have some fun time, and suddenly it's $100 deposit. Fortunately, he didn't mind putting it down. But then the next day, some other bitch going to say to us as we're checking out, "i didn't know there was 2 people in that room, it would have been extra". I said, "the person last night seen 2 were checking in" (and staying in 1 bed). Why the bitch had a need to have a problem, idk. But she almost got cursed out if it weren't for me trying to keep a cool head around my JFF contestant lol. I later did file a discrimination complaint, but I definitely won't be staying with them again. Fucking Homophobic bastards. And that's the stuff I refer to. The other thing is, the chain of hotels that I book thru, will list on their notes how much they will charge for incidentals. Most will only say for pets and smoking. But now, those same ones will charge incidentals anyway, even if it doesn't say anything about it. Only ones I've found that consistently don't are red roof inn and extended stay. Motel 6 doesn't either, but I hardly ever use those due to the flimsy beds and bare bones amenities. Though some in smaller towns tend to be doable

If I was staying on the Las Vegas strip, in a world class resort, I could understand. But I’ve had places like Super 8, Sleep Inn and even Marriott Springhill...request $100 deposits. Those same hotels would ordinarily take $0 or maybe $25 for incidentals. And like you said, there’s nothing to charge to the room anyway since food and beverage at many are either non existent or very limited. I’ve actually fared better staying at the upper level hotels than some of the smaller budget hotels. A Sheraton I stayed in one city, only held $1. And an Embassy suites in another town only held $20. Perhaps the pandemic has brought in a lot of trashy guests to the budget conscious establishments. Guess I’ll have to reconfigure where I stay. I am currently a diamond member with 2 hotel brands, but due to their iffy hotels that occasionally charge exorbitant deposits, I’ve been using my Priceline VIP status much more often. At the same time, the drawback with 3rd parties is, smaller hotels will demand a deposit, whereas booking thru the hotel directly may not.

Has anyone traveling been discovering this? I’m finding even budget hotels with no amenities are requiring it, especially when booking thru Priceline, but often times even when doing directly thru the hotel. It’s been 4 times this year that I’ve had to leave $100 for a deposit, and each time I’m waiting days. This week I checked into a hotel on Sunday, and just received the deposit back Wednesday morning. It’s really become a nuisance considering sometimes I may stay in more than 1 hotel in the course of a week. Or I may have a client in city who wants to meet, and I have to quickly pick a hotel nearby to where I am. It seems to have started back in the early stages of the pandemic. There’s been several hotels I’ve stayed at that didn’t charge deposits at all or only held like $20, now suddenly wanting $100. I’ve even been considering getting in touch with some legal aid seeing if anyone else may have been considering, because I feel it’s discrimination. At the same time, hotel laws could be all over the place. To me it really fucking defeats the purpose of getting a “budget” hotel, if you still have to cough up an additional amount that’s even higher than room rate. They always try to say because of previous guests did this, or did that... but I’m not previous guests. Charge them, not me. It’s also why I have to ask for deposit from clients to host. Because if I’m getting a room, and person does or doesn’t show up, I could easily be out $150 minimum, just from booking a hotel to host. Exactly why I’m ready to get into my incall spot and fuck hotels.

Some days I feel like things are busier, at other times I feel like I just want to quit and leave the biz. Everytime I look around there's something else going on, and I'm really not making that much money anyway. Trying to get into a new incall spot and seeing most of the places I want are $800+ a month, and then everytime cases go up or protests break out, it's another quiet few days or week. I'm just getting fucking fed up with this shit.

There actually was a ton of clients in Denver, and probably still is lol. It's just too many guys trying to compete for those tons. Not to mention the wealthier mountainous resort areas are brimming with money, albeit not a whole lot of "gay" money...but the bi and curious crowd in Denver and Colorado in general was really what kept me afloat when I was there. The main issue is when too many (especially questionable) "providers" come into a market that's not fit to handle it. I was fortunate to be able to hit Denver during it's heydays of backpage and men4rent/RB, but too many escorts there trying to make it...and Denver was really just a conservative best kept secret. Perhaps with more legalized marijuana, things could even out. Not to mention, there's many other mountain Western towns in the region that need a further gay revival: Cheyenne, Billings, Albuquerque. Unfortunately gay male escorting is almost unheard of to the first 2, whereas ABQ can only support so much as well. Some trips there it seems great, I can go back a month later and it could be completely dead. It'd be nice if similar to places like Arizona and Florida, Fort Collins and Co Springs could be get away towns with a decent population of clients. But sadly that's just not the case. I probably have come across no more than 10 clients in all the 10 years I've been in and out of Colorado, in both towns. Add that up lol.

@Rudynate On another note note, there's another local client who would regularly text me after a session, and go on and on about how he felt about something. It was like a therapy session. I'd explain, make him feel better...he'd hire me again, then swear he'd never see me again after, then hire me again...then be okay for a couple times, and then find something else to be offended about lol. Once he even accused me of elderly abuse because I asked him for a little extra funds because we went 2 hours overtime (generally in the form of varied conversation, not sex..which I didn't mind and actually liked to hear him talk about interesting things, except each time I visit him its an hour drive...that's 5 hours for a 1 hour session) I had to explain to him, $250 does not cover 3 hours of time together lol. Then he added something along the lines of hearing me counting cash in the other room. I'm like dude...yes, I counted your money in the other room along with my money just to verify what I had all together. Last time, I think he got offended about something again because he seems to have gone into "blow me off" mode. But now he's probably afraid to tell me because at one point I suggested he speak to a sex therapist instead of a sex worker, about discovering what he wants. So, I'm fine with first time and newbie client's. But I'm just not mentally equipped to handle that kind of baggage.

These weren't first timers though. They're guys who I've met several times. But, as a whole yeah....they like are new to how the whole escort dynamic works. And that I was glad to explain. As an update: I been able to sit both guys down (figuritively) in question. I just had to let them know to #1, not be so quick to take things to offense and #2, understand where I'm coming from when I say things. The Texas guy, we were able to get on good terms again, and he admitted he thought one thing while I was thinking another. I told him it's no guarantee that I'm even going to have enough to pay for my daily expenses and there and back. So he can't just hypothetically expect that I could just come way down and there and be okay on my own dime. I told him, he's the one who decided to take the job out there for 3 months, I shouldn't have to extend my finances to go see him...on my dime. We talked it out, but we seemed to agree to "take a break" for the time being. Which I think is best because, I'm starting to learn any kind of long distance relationship or friendship is best left to where you wait til you meet again. Because when communications get misunderstood and arguments arise, it always messes with the dynamic. So basically, we just not going to talk anymore until it's time for him to either come back, or be in position to have a week or few days off and at-least take care of the transportation part. But we're friends on Facebook so he gets to see me throughout the week anyway. But there's just not going to be any conversations 1 on 1 about what I'm doing and what he's doing.

I hope not. I think they'll be open to lend an ear and give in provided they don't get sidetracked by corona and police reform. Which all needs addressing, BUT. That's why (off topic and not trying to get too political, but I guess it would matter in pertaining to slow down in bookings) I've not been particularly enthusiastic about the BLM ✋? movement, even though I am a BLM. Only because I don't want to be watered down to a 3 letter acronym or 3 word sentence. I want something more specific: BGEMALM: Because gay escorts making a living, matters. It's convenient and easy to acknowledge the B, but then forget about the g and the e. There's plenty of people who agree BLM, but yet have an issue with the gay and escort part. Add in Black, suddenly it becomes an issue of least concern. "Wake up, and suddenly...you're least concerned" (that better not be Kamala Harris)

Don’t get me started on Denver. Or guys who say they, “did really well” someplace lol. It becomes a case of: someone online said another person he hired said... But otherwise, you’re right. Denver has been a tricky market for awhile. My next run will be bringing me back out there, but I’m advertising well in advance... and making sure I come with enough for a hotel or air bnb for at least 3 days. Denver long ago out saturated their market. I moved there back in 2010/2011, it was a feeding frenzy. Men4Rent, Craig’s and backpage. Guys have tried to turn it into some kinda partying sex workers paradise, and it couldn’t support the influx.

clarify that last sentence: so joe and Kamala aren’t going to do anything pro sex workers, is that what you’re insinuating? (Not agreeing or disagreeing, just making sure I’m not the only one skeptical lol) that said, re: traveling providers. Let’s not make assumptions. You say escorts who can “afford” to travel. Versus locals who charge less. But sometimes it’s not about an escort who can afford to travel, it may be their current market is so depressed and dead, they are forced to travel to make ends. Or on a lesser extent, make up for lost time.

Well “count it all joy“. Like I mentioned, not all markets are faring the same. May I ask, what’s your prices? I still say a whole: many cities are not experiencing the same uptick. I know in Kansas City, it’s been dead all week long. Only 1 client all week. Had a few “inquiries” and fake bookings who never confirmed. Always throws salt on the circumstance. I’m not too pressed considering I been living part time in another area where it’s a bit more busy. However, many of the small towns right now are brutal and likely being hit the most. It seems the only way to make any money in the biz right now is to be situated in a city. And I’m not talking about the surrounding suburbs of a city. I’m talking within 5 miles of an airport, business district or downtown. It has been hell and high water trying to make it in a town much further than that. Nobody is hiring gay male escorts in these small towns. Nothing but cheap ass gay men once you start getting into the suburbs and outer metros. They don’t be wanting to pay for diddly. They see you selling massage, they say they don’t pay for sex (adam4adam guys mainly). And rentmen and rentmass is practically non existent outside the gay metros. I think even if they have the money, they’re hesitant to spend it. Which also would apply to the older crowd and reasons behind its decline. that’s why I said on Twitter, first thing Kamala needs to do if and when she gets in the office, is help reverse fosta/sesta. Because that killed off a lot of money making potential in small towns and cities with Craigslist and backpage. The gay escort and massage sites are mainly only going to be found by the Gay/bi men who are seeking that service. Craigslist and the like helped bridge the gap to bring in guys who wouldn’t of considered it otherwise until they seen the ad. And now all of our public “classified” ads have been taken off the shelf.

That sounds good. In a perfect World. But only problem with that (and why I changed my like to a meh lol), it puts the cart before the horse. I don’t like when clients come with a list of things to change before even meeting me. Those same clients could also be the ones saying, sorry I have to cancel, and “we didn’t make an appointment” when asked for a cancellation fee. Well, you just criticized my looks AND demanded I make special concessions for you... to hell you didn’t make an appointment lol. It’s similar to when clients have asked me to shave my chest, or beard, or or don’t shave my chest or beard... before even meeting me. If polished nails are that much a bother, carry a bottle of nail polish remover (not poppers, the regular stuff lol) and pay an extra $100 in case the guy paid for a manicure already. That said, in defense of non polished nails, I recently tossed out 2 bottles of clear nail polish that I’d been carrying around for YEARS lol. I used to really like those in the corporate world, but now I find I end up peeling them off, scuffing them. I also didn’t find it made my nails any more or less healthier. Most of my nail issues are with my cuticles, as I’m often digging into luggage and such. What he said lol

can you run this by me again: you saying you only paid $250 to move in, and got first two months free? This almost sounds too good to be true. I always ask people: if you going to tell me something that sounds too good to be true, be sure to include all the caveats lol. Like some people, “I just got a new car with no money down! Okay, but what’s your monthly payments and insurance like? Lol.

Thanks. But it wouldn’t of mattered how I said it. His whole thing, based on what he mentioned...was that I would simply travel along the way and work, and then come see him for that day. It sounds good on paper IF I was already headed that direction, but like I said...I don’t tour Texas like that anymore (even though I did hit Dallas last month, on a spur of moment). That’s pretty much how I said it. He was offended that I said anything about him paying for it (and I even told him an amount) I explained to him: Any money I make along the way would be for my daily expenses and towards my income for the week. Hotels, food, money set aside for unexpected emergencies is factored into that. He even had the nerve to say, “so stop asking me.” I said, “I’m not asking I’m TELLING YOU, I’m not revolving a tour around seeing you for 1 day”. And he even said, “if you needed gas money, you could have just said that”. And I’m like no, no, no lol. I wasn’t trying to say that. I said exactly what I wanted to say: if I go down to see him, I need a whole week hotel paid for (his company doesn’t allow him to have guests over) and/or cushion money for the effort and expense coming down. I been filling my tank up twice a week these past few weeks, traveling. I can afford gas lol I learned that lesson the hard way earlier this year: Went to visit a client for our bi-annual Florida Keys trip. He paid me 1/4 in advance and the rest when I got down there. Even though it was well worth my while, and I took a few clients along the way (and of course, that has to be done carefully as to not tire oneself out)...a week after our session, I was already depleted of the funds I earned due to unexpected emergencies. Add the fact it was high season in Florida and hotels weren’t cheap, and business was garbage the whole week. That just created a ripple effect, to where a weekend trip, ended up with me being “stuck” there for over a month...then coronavirus hit. I told my client, I won’t be making anymore trips to Florida EVER unless I fly in directly and have a rental car. And go during off season where I can rent a car, because I was there and every place was sold out. Thank God for COVID-19, because the last week I was there in mid-March, I was finally able to get a break. I’m getting to a point, I feel the need to start demanding more from guys. When I hear guys are getting paid $2,000 a week, AND having all their hotels and expenses paid for, how much fucking more do I deserve? I don’t want gas money lol. Pay for me a room someplace for a week, and pay me gas money for coming, AND pay me $500 for the effort and wear and tear of coming lol. Sometimes you have to just teach them, how you want to be treated. But some gay guys have a problem with having their fellow gay guy, being even remotely more comfortable than they are. They think anytime they give something, they are being a sugar daddy. No. Understand what the I been thru 1st, and see it’s nothing about trying to get off on someone. It’s just not fair for someone who’s making more money with less expenses coming out of it, to make a person with less money and more expenses coming out of it, use it towards expenses needed to get 2 people together.

I was being facetious, it was more of a metaphor. As to some businesses being in high demand during a particular period. I'm pretty sure there's gonna be so much surplus sanitizer, the oceans and lakes will turn into the stuff...in 20 years ?

lol, I’ve actually been able to get him to cool it a bit...and the tone wasn’t as “dramatic” as previously. Idk what the fuck was going thru his head. but we’ve not had the in person chat yet. Will be doing so this week though. And I get it 100%. I know how it is to be offended about criticism. And as long as somebody isn’t doing it in front of others or doing so in an aggressive way (like people have done to me, and came off as proper assholes lol), I think it can only help in the long run. Next time we speak, I’m going to ask him: would you rather have someone who can be authentic and real around, or would you rather have someone who’s going to be artificial and fake, and then talk shit behind your back later? I would hate that. But as @Monarchy79 said in another thread of mine, some people don’t want that reality. They reach a point where they don’t realize or don’t care. And that’s not picking on or making fun of clients who aren’t beauty queens per say. But if they are atleast aware and in tune to their overall self image, that can create a better escort/client dynamic. Like I said, the misconception that we're being paid to deal with poor hygiene, or clients extreme health neglects...needs to be crushed. I don't care if a guy is not attractive, but if he at-least takes care of himself, that's all that is important. I've met non-beauty queen clients who were still fun to play with, because they didn't neglect self awareness. But I had a client few months ago who had an extreme case of butt warts....and wanted to get fucked before his surgery. I was fine until it seen his ass. And it wasn't clean. I lost my hard on completely. Fortunately I had a "helper" in my bag, and some condoms. And bleach. And boiling water. I was absolutely not fucking him, even despite the fact HPV is common in most everyone sexually active.

Wow that’s a steal. Haven’t had that luck in my area. They want rent+deposit equal to rent due before move in. That’s been the issue to, finding places with decent move in specials in the Midwest.

I’ve actually noticed bookings have gone up. In fact, every since the pandemic started, the number of completely “dead” weeks (that is, weeks where I have 0 bookings or inquiries) have actually been less. Like I said earlier on, when people were bashing me for still clients despite the stay at home restrictions: not every business is being affected the same. If someone works for or owns a hand sanitizer company, they’re probably a billionaire lol. Don’t get me wrong: it’s certainly not the roaring 20s. It’s still kinda slow as a whole, but it’s been that way for awhile. And some markets could be dead, others okay, and yet others booming. I still say: what pandemic? Yes...it’s a medical mystery and global health crisis right now, but it’s still not enough to stop gay men from having sex like Syphilis and HIV were. And it’s not directly sexually transmitted either. That’s not to water down the situation, but it is what it is. I talk with clients about it from time to time. One of my clients who is HIV positive and chats with his doctor a lot, seems to point to signs that perhaps the virus was around a lot longer, but he also mentioned something about HIV positive guys on ARVs haven’t been affected as severely. But I’m not stating facts, just industry insight. Everyone has to choose what they want to receive and believe.

And I’ll add different topic than above: the reason why I say it about men being sensitive and easily offended: it’s not been the first time it’s happened. Different guy, same attitude. I’ve had a few situations where the slightest disagreement or differing opinions about something will send guys in a rage. Even if it’s a super passive aggressive rage. One guy last year, got pissed and ended our “stay here in between clients while you’re visiting town...” roommate situation, simply because I asked to invite over a guy who I happened to met before, who was another masseur...despite the fact I wasn’t even using the spot for incalls. Me and the roommate weren’t even fucking or dating or in any paid dynamic (he did hire me when we first met couple years prior). He just got up the next morning and told me to leave because I simply asked, which apparently I shouldn’t have. No notice or chat or anything. We had chatted on and off for over a year while he moved to Atlanta from Denver, and back. Never heard from him again. It was just an example of how it seems you have to use extra extra caution not to offend a gay guy in any way. And that’s almost impossible to do. Because it’s like no matter how hard you try to not offend, they will FIND a way to be offended by something, that didn’t even require being offended to begin with. Just merely asking a question or stating an opinion, has ended whole friendships. I’ve even had to check myself on it. Like, was it even worth being offended over ? But in many cases it was...if what they were saying was condescending or judgmental.

Thanks everyone for the detailed answers. And excuse me if I seemed to be generalizing or airing dirty ? ? laundry lol. @Monarchy79 and @jeezifonly, that Definitely addresses dynamics that even after 11 years in the hobby, I still haven’t subconsciously been able to articulate lol. After so long, everything feels “real” to me, and fantasy and reality just become 1 in the same. But I’m realizing I may need to check myself and make sure I’m not giving too much fantasy, to where they forget reality lol. That said: I did explain further to the guy as I did in this post, about how my tours and finances work. And that I’m already at reduced capacity, due to COVID, and being in a sucky market already, and trying to save for an incall spot. And @orville you’re spot on deciphering what he likely was thinking. But I had to break it DOWN to him in like 5 text paragraphs lol. He was like, “well if you wanted gas money, you shoulda just said you wanted gas money” (btw I don’t really do the flying me in stuff, so even though it sounds bat-shit crazy to drive all that way, technically that’s what I would “prefer” to do when I travel). It also opens the opportunity to stop in cities along the way, which can work provided there’s clients in each location. However, I had to explain to him: I wasn’t asking for gas money lol. I’m not a 20 year old. I just turned 33 last week. Gas is the cheapest it’s been in years, I can afford gas lol. It’s everything else. I told him even if I do go down there, I have to factor in the WHOLE thing, even though I wouldn’t be asking to be paid for the whole trip. Me taking clients on a tour, would merely be for my daily expenses and regular bills. Not for the overall trip to see him. Not to mention, I told him there’s no guarantee that I would get the number of clients I need to even make a profit. I’ve made many trips to Texas, only to either be expecting more or breaking even. So to hell would I want to come down there, see him, stretch my finances out of my own pocket...while he’s getting daily food allowances and hotels paid for, plus a big check? I asked him this morning, help me fucking understand how in the WORLD are you insulted, based on the facts? He got the picture then, and changed his tune. Sometimes I don’t know what people think we as escorts are. Do they really think we’re wiping our cum with $100 bills? I have to remind these guys: RentMen alone isn’t paying our daily expenses or transportation costs. It’s not an agency. We pay them. Clients pay us. And that pay is not in addition to a “allowance” or “stipend”.

This is almost an addition to another thread about a client’s looks. But this is more of a general thing. I don’t know if it’s just the type of men I come across, or if it’s something more to it. Maybe a fact of dynamics between escort/client/former client/escort etc. Specifically referring: there’s a guy who hired me (and I say it in past tense) once, but there was an attraction on both ends. We started seeing (aka fucking) each other regularly after that, but there was like a 2 week break in between time we met. However we also do things outside of sex as well, which has almost turned it into dating if sorts. All is well except, he decided to take on a job in Texas for 6-8 weeks. Since then, we’ve discussed linking up down there. Tonight we texted in depth about it, and we seemed to have gotten into a conflict about me coming down. He seems to think he doesn’t need to provide any money to me for coming down (neither before or after), despite the fact it’s a 900 mile trip, and he would only be able to spend 1 day with me. I told him I could turn it into a “tour” and take clients before and after, and reserve a day for him. But that would mean I would have to preserve and manage my stamina and resources for clients, not our time. And even if I did come tour, where he is “stationed” is 4 hours from San Antonio and 6 hours from Houston: the 2 nearest major escort-populated cities. So that would mean me taking off not just a day, but possibly 2 days from taking clients, and likely being maxed out sexually after our time....considering he likes to go at it 2 or 3 times a day. He tells me he don’t think he needs to give me any money, because it would be leisure travel. I said no the heck it won’t. I don’t travel for leisure. Anytime I travel, is a mix of work and pleasure. And I certainly wouldn’t be traveling for leisure to only see him for 1 day. If I’m going 4 to 6 hours drive outside the nearest major city where I can earn money, I need to be reimbursed because I’d technically be paying for all my expenses out of pocket, while he’s getting all expenses paid by his company and making 80 hours a week. Then he has the nerve to say I’m insulting him and seeing him as a sugar daddy. I almost said fuck you, mother fucker. But instead I said fair enuf...but I’m just about to cut ties. I just don’t get why gay men like to keep up drama 24/7 and complicate situations. If someone is planning on going out of their way and visiting someone for the purpose of sex or romantic interest, that person being visited should have the decency to pay for something for that person spending their money. Unless it just absolutely is a client visiting an escort type of deal, because obviously the escort is trying to earn regardless. So idk, this just got me pent up. 2 arguments with 2 different men this week. It’s really draining me. Men can be so fucking unreasonable when it comes down to things. And lot of gay men wonder why they are single. They don’t know how to treat a partner. Everytime the partner asks for something, they think they’re being used or taken advantage of. Gay men never want to help just to help. They only help when they can get something out of it. Then once they get what they want, they don’t feel it’s worth going out of their comfort zone bubble anymore.

Good God. Time for fictitious super heroes to start saving Manhattan again..

The city probably pays for it. In other news, Manhattan apparently has 13,000 empty apartments now, as the mass exodus from NYC seems to be the case. Sure someone can Google it. But to answer my own question: one thing i did find is air bnb apartments going for monthly, and furnished of course. So that could be something I could explore. But it doesn't quite suit my quest to actually get into something semi-permanent...and air bnb rentals are a bit of gamble and hustle because all that money is due upfront.

That may be true, but here's the thing: when I told him about how it has affected my ability to be intimate with him, he gave the bombshell reply of: "well it doesn't bother me". I had nearly fell out of my chair. So it's like he may know the condition, but choose not to fix it, because as long as it doesn't bother him...too bad if his sex partners don't like it, just be into me regardless. It's almost sadly arrogant. I think on the contrary, he didn't know...but might have imagined otherwise. Like I said, I know how it is to be criticized. And especially unsolicited criticism. But there's a difference between flagrant "opinions" spewing out of someone's ass (which most gay guys are perfect at doing, before they even know the situation), versus a heart to heart suggestion as a friend, saying: "hey, we need to have a discussion about this, because it's making it hard to be around you. Is it something we can work on?" And I told him, I struggled with that myself. Criticism from people, sometimes harsh and unnecessary (which isn't what I wanted to do), but some helpful critiques and having someone make suggestions, ultimately helped me get better. So true. When someone is ready to receive it of course. And many people rather ghost in silence, than to be an adult and face rubbing someone wrong and ultimately, being rejected themselves. I just wanted some insight into what's holding him back from being proactive about his looks.

And I would not have regretted it 1 ☝? bit. So Stop. Drop. And roll back. First of all: the person, ArmyHands, was the person who I quoted, who mentioned someone calling him mere “names”. And N word in person, is certainly not just a name. Look at how many people have lost whole contracts because of that. But I’m not going to go into that further, as this is not solely about name calling. I followed up with an example I made, HOPING that people could see the actual intent, for the fact that I wasn’t so much “going to”, but more like, “why is a guy who’s partnered to another gay man, and is a doctor at a University medical center, sending me this vile offensive message? I wonder if his partner and fellow doctors would approve of this type of behavior.” And for what, because I told him I needed 2 hours notice before booking a session? I can’t find the message or pull it up exactly, but it wasn’t just “names” he called me. It was something like accusing me of being an STD infested druggie, and may have ended with something like “go kill myself”. It was a whole paragraph. And from his profile on RentMasseur of all places. I never even met him. What was a ? red flag, was for a “client” who I’ve never even met, to send me some completely out of character message thru RM messaging system, and expecting to get away with it. That’s real crazy and uncalled for. Like I said, he later apologized to me...but if he ever wishes to schedule me again, I’m asking for $1,000 for the inconvenience of reading that message. Since he’s a doctor with I’m sure...deep pockets. Jerk. Our ads aren’t designed to be punching bags. But If I was TRULY a red flag, I woulda took it even further. Look what happened to George Floyd and Derek Chauvin. The responsible authorities failed to char him early in. And look what happened, the whole country ended up charred ? instead. Maybe if someone said, he’s a bad “client”...we need to get him straight, we wouldn’t be in the position we’re in. But contrary to unpopular opinion here, I’m really not out to charbroil clients. I prefer my clients well, with a little pink in the center ?