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Ain’t it a surprise when that happens? I can’t say I’ve had “months” that is has been better, but certainly “cities” where that’s been the case. I think A4A slightly changing its interface (which initially resulted in a slow down couple years ago) did benefit the site. They were smart to “update” without doing a complete facelift, and losing customers in the process like manhunt and gay.com did. I did write to them though that I didn’t like how they dropped having individual neighborhoods, and suddenly had “county” for every city. Which may be easy to place yourself in, but hard for users to find. Like I don’t know what county every town I’m in, is in. I think they did it to include more people in searches (places like LA and DC would have dozens of neighborhoods, all within a 20 mile radius, and sometimes I’d change my neighborhood round the clock to try and catch more visibility). I’m also convinced more people are using the app and location feature. I can barely get any hits when I’m far from the city, but once I’m in town, my inbox starts blowing up from people nearby. Which is great, but bad for when trying to pre-advertise.

I get that too, but it’s relatively easy to avoid. Try to keep your location on, and only respond to those within atleast 1,000 miles (I say because oftentimes I’m posting in cities ahead of time and may be 950 miles away). also don’t entertain profiles that only have an age and a picture with nothing else filled out. I had a “client” with a profile like that...everything seemed real including his number matched his stats, or so it seemed. But he ended up being a flake. now I make sure to mention that I won’t reply to blank profiles, and all clients on A4A have to confirm their appointment.

Well congrats. I can attest to also having some hot encounters from the site, which keeps me coming back. I’m also grateful that due to Grindr and company (the beneficial parasites of gay hookup sites lol) I’ve noticed the level of harassment, weirdos, and rude messages on Adam have gone down drastically over the years. Most of the weirdos have moved onto the hookup apps, which is why I’ve stopped being too concerned about Grindr allowing escort ads someday. People used to hit me up to say nasty things, nowadays I only get it once in awhile. Most recently: a guy in DFW Texas area I believe I met 12-13 years ago hit me up. He had to have been late 30s/40 when I met him. He was hot and we had fun, but it was a 1 time thing. He had the same picture, and the same age: 30 years old. When I made a joke about it, he said he doesn’t take the site seriously, and “at-least he’s not a prostitute” and then blocked me. wow...I’m so offended. I had no idea But that’s also one of the reasons I don’t like using it, many people on the site like to play games or be rude and dismissive. It can easily tank my mood ya times. But there’s been times I’ve successfully trained guys how to communicate when looking for sex. Being snappy and combative isn’t going to work with me ☝?

Just seeing where the consensus is regarding this site. I still advertise on there every month, but I have periods where it doesn’t oft payoff. The only reason I keep it up is because it’s inexpensive ($30) and it’s not too much of a hassle since I just put my phone number up and leave it. Occasionally I’ll go thru and respond to messages with an auto template, but 99% of the time...it winds up as no response or no meet from it. The rate of clients from the site is about 1 or 2 every 2 weeks. And considering it’s priced per month, it’s still a win...but discouraging to say the least. I’m also aware I don’t charge the rates they seem to expect to pay: usually $50-$100. So getting a client to meet for $200-$300 isn’t common on the site, but certainly not impossible. I know many providers don’t bother with it, but just curious to see if more or less people are using it anymore.

Do you refer to find providers, or just general day to day stuff? I use the main ones you’ve mentioned, although I feel A4A seems to be somewhat falling off year after year. Or it can just be very hit or miss

You didn't quote anyone so not sure who it was referenced to. I had just quoted what another client had said to me. Regardless I do still have my doubts. Like I said, there often seems to be a "pattern" of news events. Some years mass shootings were the headlines, now it's the virus, before that was 9/11, and the war in Iraq, the BP Gulf explosion aka deep water horizon and how we'd all die from eating tainted Gulf seafood etc. Sprinkle in police brutality and racial tensions...and I'm supposed to be concerned about a pandemic? Point I'm making is: when is anything ever going to go away anytime soon? It's a matter of addressing which disaster is going to affect who the most, and rolling with the punches. In the meantime, there's resources to be made and cities to be traveled. Can't keep being held back everytime some shit “goes down” on the headlines. Things have been going down way before now:

ugh, tell me about it. In my case it’s often time something car trouble...it was that way memorial weekend and last year 4th of July weekend. And of course Labor Day, all the repair shops are jammed. I been trying to do rental cars for my tour trips, but lately every since the lockdowns have been lifted, companies have been trying to get double to make up for the loss. I used to be able to rent full sized cars/suvs for 2 weeks for less than $300. Hard to find lately. Especially on a holiday. This weekend’s search turned vehicles going for $60-$90 a day. Yeah, and it is hard to tell in some ways. On the one hand, people are out and about and on the other, just don’t know. They say we’re in the middle of a pandemic, but I just don’t know of anyone personally who’s actually getting seriously ill. Not to downplay it, but basically just observing people still being out and about. There is a provider who came to Kansas City from Saint Louis this weekend. Not sure why he bothered because it’s dead here, one will be lucky to get any clients this weekend. I woulda opted to stay in Saint Louis, but even the pace of biz over there has been kinda mellow. I just need a good 1 month tour hitting new cities every 2 to 4 days. I haven’t seen any commas in my bank account since the stimulus check. This is depressing ? But I have also been purposely low volume as I am not just letting anyone fake appointments and waste my time lately. Majority of clients over the past couple months have been by deposit and appointment only, so I’m less stressed with no shows and cancels. Only had 1 cancel over the past few weeks.

Well see this is where you're getting it mixed up. Who said we're giving it up for free, and to whom? And just because they're giving it up for free, hypothetically speaking....what license does that give someone to think they should also have free access to said provider's sexual aura? At the end of the day let's just be realistic: Not all clients are going to be an escort's preferred type. Let's not fake or pretend or imagine anything different. Many clients have image and/or weight issues, and are fully aware of it. Which is good. But, And I've said before: there are clients out there who are willfully unconcerned with their appearance, so to hell if an escort chooses to actually have sex with someone who's just their type once in awhile, for free. The fuck I would let someone tell me I can't hookup and have sex with some 20s something hot guy on an app who wants to let me fuck him raw. Is he paying me? No. But he's down to do a video and that in itself can help me make some coin in the long run...

Mainly referencing guys who aren’t in the 9 to 5 world. I just find these holiday weekends don’t really make big earnings, despite the idea that many clients probably have time off. That’s for 1. And then it seems trying to get anything done ends up being a crapshoot. From real life appointments to client appointments, it’s always like everyone is crammed and pressed for time. I’ve just about all but given up on the weekend, even though it’s only Saturday. Couldn’t get my tour off the ground this weekend, and most times it seems anytime I want to do anything group social, I have to go out of town because most of my long time friends live out of the area. And I don’t even bother to go on the hookup apps. All I get is guys who seem like they’re available to meet and then be like: oh I’m at a BBQ/pool/Lake/family/etc... and then flake or don’t even bother to invite. Or try to meet “afterwards”. Miss me with that. I’m not anyone’s virtual booty call. So yeah, holiday weekends...idk. It can be fun if you have an established circle or reliable people to make plans with, but since lately I’ve been moving cities every 2-3 years, it’s impossible to make plans with “people I went to high school/college with”. And prospective clients can be equally unreliable around now. Hitting me up at odd hours or wanting shit last minute with 45 minutes from time of call to time they “have stuff to do” ??‍♂️

Ah, ya. As they have been for the past 2,000,000,000 years. (it is the oldest profession, right? ?). That said, it’s hard to tell. Again, I won’t “mask” the fact that on an overall level, biz is still down. But I don’t feel Corona is “our” biggest nemesis right now. We’ve still got hookup apps, and lack of decriminalization. The other day, someone didn’t ask if I was tested for Corona, they asked if I was affiliated with any LE. He was new, and it was a sleepy midwestern church town, but still...it goes to show. Corona can come and go, and we’ve still got bigger fish ? to fry ? You’re definitely onto something. And I agree 100%. However I caution those going mask-less out of reason that it is something “simply to hurt Trump”. At the same time, a client of mine said something similar the other day...saying after Elections are done, the virus will no longer be headlines. So, it likely does have a political backing to it. Before Trump came along, I (and many other young Americans) used to be a person who simply wasn’t into “politics“. They say Corona isn’t political, it’s a virus. But I’ve been getting Corona-like symptoms most of my adult life. Having asthma too. I cringe when usually once or twice a year, I come down with something that takes a good 2 weeks to fully clear out of my system. I’m actually appreciative of the mask mandates simply because I’ve found myself not getting colds and sore throats as often lately. But at the end of the day, it’s still “news”, and news is clinically proven to cause stress and depression. And everything from the protests to the virus to the strange public executions carried out by law enforcement for seemingly innocuous reasons, has me scratching my head. Do we really know what’s going on? And of course, 1 story gets drowned out by another.

That’s true. But it’s also a stark reminder as to why it’s important to take care early on. In this guy’s case, I think he might have took on an approach of avoiding any major cosmetic work because it (in his words) doesn’t bother him. So it wasn’t just a money issue, it was a “this is how I am” issue. Which I get it 100%. Accept people for who they are. BUT... some people could benefit from having an honest person in their circle. Then again, some people just don’t give a fuck and there’s nothing much that can be done. You either want to make yourself look better, or you don’t. He can’t tell me he looks in the mirror everyday and thinks: “I’m doing my best to be attractive to my sexual partners“. So then, what can one expect? If he not trying to keep up on his appearance, or wants to know what can be done to make himself more appealing, then I’m not obligated to look past things that are just plain unhygienic. And it’s not an age thing. There’s guys in their 60s and 70s who may not be beauty pageant models, but you can tell they are in tune to their looks. Think Joe Biden versus Donald Trump. You can tell Biden tries to make sure he’s looking silver daddy status daily ?

I actually forgot about this thread, pardon if it seemed I was not vested in the replies. Well, here goes: Well, I’ll say $200-$300 for an hour every once in awhile isn’t quite in the same boat as $30,000 for implants and/or whatever dental plan is lol. Well, I agree but likewise beg to differ. Just because I can “look past” something doesn’t mean “I should think it, but shouldn’t say anything”. Again, what kind of person would I be to notice something about someone which could be detrimental to their health and presentation, and not atleast ask if the person has considered it or even aware of it? But since you asked: ever since this topic, he confided in me that he has made some recent dental visits. One was such that involved getting some simple but relatively major procedure done. However it was more routine than cosmetic. So it doesn’t address the image part at all. I also want to clear you up: we are NOT boyfriends. Let’s just get that straight. I’m not playing boyfriend. If anything we are 2 men who happen to know each other, who have an occasional sexual encounter, and he gives me hand financially at times, BUT he is also not my sugar daddy because I make my own money and pay my own bills. Not fuck buddies, not boyfriend. Only defined as stated previously. Some interactions just don’t always have a label attached. And this is something we’ve discussed in person as well. I understand some like the type company regardless. I do however know of a former/once in a blue moon client I meet who has regular sessions with an escort to a point that they’ve become “boyfriends” in some ways, taking care of each other’s cats and gardens. The escort is mid 40s but fairly hot, and mixed race. My client friend is in 60s and isn’t “ugly”, but isn’t a beauty queen either by any stretch. Hate to sound gossipy by bringing that up, but it’s just an example. There are guys out there who have clients as unofficial “boyfriends” and it just works. In my case, I like to keep my options open to guys my age and younger simply because, I spent a lot of my 20s dating older men...and taking it too seriously only to realize they were just enjoying feeling like they had their “groove” back.

Everyone works differently I suppose. I know personally I wouldn’t be able to handle that much volume without skipping meals or being glued to the hotel or home. But I think it may come down to rates and how someone wants to manage their time. I just know I realistically have never taken more than 3 clients in a day...but if someone can, kudos to them! the hardest part I find about even taking more than 1 or 2 clients a day, is oftentimes guys will want to schedule the same time within a day. The other day I had 2 guys offering me 300, but I could only take one. I took the one who was hosting because he was a previous client, and I didn’t have an incall location set up that day. But I scheduled the other client for next day and he confirmed with deposit, but he had to cancel. I’ve also had people book close to where there was only 30 min in between clients. Which I really try not to do because it’s either don’t cum, or plan to cum twice within a 2 hour period...which is doable, especially since the 2nd load tends to be the one that goes clear over their head ?

true, and at the end of the day it would probably matter “what” is being gossiped or discussed about. I often read reviews where customers almost annihilate a business. And then someone representing the company will come along and Try and make sense of it. Which I think is professional, sensible thing to do However I know this thread seems to refer more to average gossip, but I can’t tell what context the OP is referring to. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being in the know about something that may be embarrassing or untrue about someone, and atleast give the opportunity to address it. In a former life, I would occasionally type in search my name on here just to make sure rumors weren’t going around. Most of it was same stuff that I readily shared myself anyway lol. Some people assume just because a member is “not active”, means that they can’t read.

You're right and I agree 100%. Which is what I've done today. Seen a hotel in my portfolio of choices that noted charging a $150 incidental. Ended getting one that didn't at all. I really wasn't trying to make this into an argument. I thought it would just be informative for anyone traveling and needing to factor in this is their budget. I know for me going forward, I'm just going to use my credit card that I don't use very often, and just reserve it only for hotel hold...since the credit card I had doesn't really offer tons of perks to make it for everyday use. Problem resolved. Thanks everyone for the input though

Not sure where that assumption comes from. It's nothing to do with platinum treatment or wanting every accommodation My point of this thread is that hotels have actually been REFUSING TO HONOR RESERVATIONS TO people who don't have the deposit to cover their room stay. Even if it's been prepaid. That could be an issue for an escort who may be low on funds, and has a CLIENT who is arriving in short order. A traveling provider can actually end up missing an appointment, because of such a situation. Obviously, it’s not recommended to travel without enough cushion, but you’d be surprised how many may need to once in awhile. How you think it's asking for platinum treatment when someone just wants to check into the room they paid for, is gobsmacking ? to me. It's nothing necessarily brand new, but more hotels that you wouldn't expect, are doing it. If I check into a Super 8 (Which is rare but sometimes you don't want full service hotel...and some super 8 are actually quite nice), I'm not trying to pay $150 for a night. They say it comes right back, it doesn't. I'm still parting with $150, $100 that I may need to wait a few days to access. All for sleeping on a bed for not even 24 hours because they push to get everyone out by 11 am. Actually I was thinking about your posts that are always up my ass instead of your own. How ironic ?

The rule for Las Vegas and Orlando: any hotel that says "Las Vegas Strip", buffet, or Disney world is bound to have a resort fee. Most of those $30/night hotels are really resorts and cost double the amount. Which is still a good deal for the views in some of those places, but it's not $30.

I’m getting ready to start traveling full force this month. Hopefully no more police killings/“riots” cancel or interrupt my trip. Trying to do as much as possible before summer ends, and the first frost begins. All road trips.

I actually do have a card that I did plan to use for rental cars and hotel deposits, but the first hotel I tried using it...happened to be a Springhill Marriott that held $100. I had literally stayed there a month prior, and it was only $25. Clearly they needed to jump the gun, deeper into the pandemic. After I checked out, they took forever to refund the amount...even taking it out again 2 weeks later, which interfered with one of my rental car reservations. They claim they didn’t take it out, but I know some credit cards will wait forever for the “merchant“ to send the authorization. Sometimes the better option is to call each hotel individually before booking and asking about the incidental hold. I’ve saved face that way a few times.

blah, blah, blah...I’m not reading all that. You spent a lot of time justifying that, but the point I’m saying is: if they didn’t do it before, why do it now? Yes they have rules and regulations, so on and so on. That’s what they’re supposed to have. I’ve been hurt by hotels more than enough times, to understand that (bedbugs, car broken into, rude guests I’ve almost had to fight b/c staff incompetent, food and respiratory illnesses that I’m POSITIVE was incurred from a hotel...list goes on) I’m not going to sit here and “be understanding” of what hotels have to go thru. The only reason I made the example I did, was to make the connection of how there’s risks on both ends. I take deposits because, if and when someone cancels, I don’t get paid shit. Not a goddamn thing. Whereas if someone messes up a room, well hell, atleast they got paid for the room. I’m not underestimating the responsibility hotels have and why deposits are likely to their advantage, but $100? To stay at a fucking Super 8? And one place in Dallas last year, the Hawthorne suites in north Dallas tried to tell me I needed to pay a $300 deposit for 1 night. Who the F they think I’m doing, moving in? So no, I’m not going to kiss up to hotels. Sorry. If I pay a hotel in advance, no reason for an extra $100 to be held on my account. It’s simply corporate riff raff that is intended to keep people who aren’t staying on a corporate account, out. When I stayed in Palm Springs gay resort last year, I paid the hotel $230 for 2 nights, and didn’t have to pay anything extra to “hold” for damages. Again, if a hotel actually had room service and spa and a selection of refrigerator items, I can understand. But not some fucking basic hotel that serves Grab n go breakfasts in the morning. And then tell me, “because people smoke and damage the room”. Bitch, what the F that has to do with me? I don’t smoke and I’m 1 person by myself, no kids ??‍♂️ I also don’t buy “karma” by tipping maids. Sometimes I do, other times I don’t. If it’s a big nice room in a big city and I made some decent money, I might. But I don’t trash rooms. I throw all my shit in the trash, flush the toilet, and leave it clean. I also bring my own top sheet to play on. One maid quoted, “your room was the cleanest and easiest I’ve had”. I’m not going to make their job hard, but I also have spent upwards of 90% of my earnings on hotels some days...I really don’t feel the need to always tip, especially if I’m “on tour” and staying in hotels for 20 or 30 days at a time.

Count your blessings. I had 2 clients my age and younger clients earlier this week, and 1 mid week. But it’s still overall feel of dead. Nothing planned in advance, no hotel Outcalls, nothing really making me feel inspired that I can make the move into my own incall place just yet. The leasing lady called me today asking if I’m ready to sign, I said...I wanted to say; I need pray ?? on it. Client today canceled, but I figured he was full of anyway, trying to get around my deposit policy. And it reminds me again why I don’t let them slide because the convenient, “I woke up with a sore throat and need to cancel” jive. That said, yes this is a blip... but it’s a recurring blip. And it’s costing us dearly. Every time this happens, it takes 2 weeks minimum to return to normalcy. Travels and escort tours are going to be not at full potential. That’s 2 weeks of canceled, almost, and speculative bookings down the drain. And let’s not even think about how some Black escorts may be adversely affected. Even the occasional text, “black cocks ? matter to me”, doesn’t help the cause lol. As much as I don’t condone injustice of any kind, and I even had to correct a client the other day: Stop ? ✋?. don’t try to justify the shooting, because at the end of the day, we’ve already seen things being escalated far beyond what was necessary on more than 1 occasion, and little to nothing being done. So... if the government is going to be okay bailing out insurance companies for riot damage they may no longer be able to afford, or providing more stimulus checks for those who have their business’s destroyed, then goddamit, fucking do something to better it. However; I think we also need to pause a bit and ask ourselves is it really worth reacting to every event. I’m not talking about fake news. Like an old photographer once told me, “I stopped watching news because it’s become nothing more than a police blog”. And that’s the thing, media is always going to push the most sensational stories, because it gains attention. And it’s always going to be about who shot who, who was murdered where, what fatal accident happened there... it’s all police business that the average American brain, doesn’t need to digest. It’s just negativity and noise. But that negativity and noise is affecting our business, even as sex workers. Minor incidents or even everyday friendly encounters aren’t going to make it to headlines.

Exactly, that’s why I say let’s not assume like everything is just fine. Even though I said things were actually a little better, it still gets setback when once again, there’s World War 3 going on in cities across the country. And that’s not taking away or minimizing from the issues at hand, it’s just nothing happening at the moment that has been conducive to sex work. But perhaps maybe it IS being conducive indirectly, by sending the message that policing is outdated and perhaps that could open the doors to decriminalizing sex work in some ways. I did. But I also know the current fuck bastards aren’t doing a goddamn, mother f-? ing thing either to be on sex worker sides. But I also seen this which could give some hope:

Thanks. I'm trying to. But it's hard not to. For example, I was planning to go to both Minneapolis and Wisconsin this and next month, but both trips were put on hold for obvious reasons. So there goes my tour potential for most of the month. I know clients be wanting to get that escape, so sometimes us working in the thick of things can be a good thing. But I also know lots of people will only use us for an escape, and not actually meet. And this week I've been dealing with more of the same. Part of me just wants to quit until next year. This year, everytime I start to build momentum, some new bullshit comes around that sets me right back.

Sounds good, but I'm not understanding this: If I'm paying for a hotel in advance (thru a 3rd party or when they swipe my card), as in already paid... the refundable deposit for incidentals isn't really going to make or break the housekeeper. It's kind of like if a client paid my fee in advance. And then I asked, "now I just need to see your credit card and authorize an extra $100 incidentals for STDs. If I don't have any symptoms after 7 days, I'll refund the money back to you." They'd be looking at me like an alien. Obviously that's a facetious and extreme example, but it's the same concept. The housekeeping money is included in the money I pay for the room. It's almost at a point where I have to just keep $100 set aside on an untouchable card just for hotel incidentals.