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Well I was going to mention the western droughts and intense heat, may be a caveat to moving out west. Also, some of those places I mentioned aren’t places I would necessarily move to lol. Notice I mentioned “retire”. For example Branson Missouri area. Don’t get me wrong, it is nice and almost has a key west vibe to it. Lots of boating/fishing, daytime attractions and entertainment similar to Orlando/Las Vegas has, but without the hurricanes or drought. However it’s not particularly gay populated, and it’s in the epitome of the Bible Belt. However, the issue with Florida is: it’s become a target, and there’s not enough being done to cover everybody. And insurance companies don’t play fair: Someone may just be in suburban Miami or Tampa, 20 miles from the beach: and still get a rate increase just because: there was 2 hurricanes IN THE AREA this year. I remember my first car insurance bill in Miami was like $350 down, for basic liability. In Texas, it was less than $100 down to start. So it’s not just the storms, it’s the politics around it. Houston and New Orleans are also places that are vulnerable. But they aren’t peninsulas and hurricanes don’t generally cross the state, so insurance companies there seem to be more forgiving.

$11,000 a month for insurance? Or is that his mortgage and taxes included. Might need to fact check that lol. Thing is: even if the hurricane doesn’t make a direct hit, the insurance companies view it the same. Florida address? Hurricane rates by default. And of course, areas around the storm can still cause damage. All it takes is one old oak tree, or a palm tree (usually Queen Palm, which aren’t hurricane hardy but native Florida/carribean palms are) to fall on a house. Or a road to puddle too deep and hydrolock an engine. Even when there isn’t a hurricane: Tampa and Miami can get so much rain from a regular storm in a short amount of time. Seeing Tropicana stadium ripped off is definitely a sign of a strong wave. But I agree, up north winters are no joke either. But that’s why I suggested some of those other areas as Florida alternatives. They still get winters, but are relatively mild in comparison to Chicago, Detroit and New York: where many transients in Florida come from.

Native Floridian here (who left in 2018/2019 and haven’t been back since except during November 2021 for a nude calendar event)… Here’s the thing: hurricanes have been a thing of Florida since who knows how long. It’s a college football team (Miami hurricanes), a delicious alcohol beverage (Hurricane), and just part of life in Florida. However, the big problem is the population and insurance rates, as has been mentioned. Not just home but vehicle also. Florida has long been a place for the rich and famous to party, but in reality: Florida is shaped like a dead fish 🐟 because it’s a weather prone place ecologically lol. Hurricanes have carved out the shape of the state. Why do people want to populate a place that is surrounded by deep ocean on both sides, and is a known hurricane commute zone? I was in high school in 2004 when there was 4 hurricanes that hit at once. That was when the insurance companies started pulling out: 4 hurricanes in 6 weeks? It happened to one state in 2004. WWW.NOAA.GOV Lessons learned then are valuable reminders today That said: sometimes it’s not always as bad as the media describes. THE NEWS DOES OVERHYPE THESE THINGS. If you live away from the coast, and don’t have big trees covering your yard: a hurricane is very survivable. My grandmother and relatives lived in Miami since the 1950s. Went thru Andrew, and a dozen other storms over the decades. Even when a whole hurricane crosses a state, most of the damage is within the few miles of the eye wall. Most homes can stand up to 100 mph winds: these come in 20-30 minute bands throughout the time the storm is passing. But wind whipping 100 mph is enough to cause damage in a few minutes. It’s just a come and go event. I also grew up in Tampa: every hurricane season a storm would threaten, the church pastors would pray them away 😆, and they always just skirted the area: but it was fun getting 3 days off school and seeing the force of the winds. Hurricanes can actually be fun to experience: but the ones that have been happening are WAY bigger than what it used to be. They used to be little things with 80 mph winds that breezed thru quickly and weakened before even hitting land. Now they’re huge and landing inland as cat 3 hurricanes. MY ADVICE: do not move to Florida unless you have a solid concrete home inland. I wouldn’t advise anyone to move there until they figure out how to fix their insurance problem. Every hurricane that hits, becomes a reason for insurance companies to leave or hike rates…my home state has become a place of no return. It’s too expensive to live, and it’s going to happen every year. Only the rich and famous can afford to comfortably live there. I’m currently in Arizona, yesterday was 107 degrees, and even though no area of the country is immune to natures wrath lately (heat, hail and snow storms have been crazy as well): I would suggest someone seeking a green or warm climate to retire, to consider places like Missouri/Branson, New Mexico, Arizona, Las Vegas, San Diego/Oceanside (though more expensive than Florida), Northwest Arkansas (headquarters of Walmart lol), and even the northern Texas area. And the good thing is: those areas also sell palm trees, Home Depot and Lowe’s. I buy some every year and they do great outside in the summer, just have to bring them in for the winter.

Funnily enough, I've actually re-considered DFW area as a potential relocation, and have put out some feelers in the meantime. I wasn't a huge fan of Texas when I lived there (I had just moved from Florida, and hadn't really been to as many places then as I have now). I like that DFW has an extended warm season, but I just wasn't a fan of the winters. However, I realize winter is the same in pretty much every state except Florida, New Mex, Arizona, and California/Vegas. But beyond the weather, living in Missouri versus living in Texas: I definitely see the difference in how living in a "smaller" market can be. Patrick Mahomes has gotten Whataburger to make its way to the Kansas City and even surrounding burbs. Saltgrass has a location. But that's the thing: It's a great town for foodie/restaurants. But when it comes to high end fashion and freelance: there just isn't the market like some of the bigger cities have. I know that sounds cliche. But think about the most recent "natural" disaster. Miss "TS" Helene. Lots of people are displaced thru no fault of their own. Some don't even have flood insurance. Do you think those people can rely on some gay guy off Grindr or RentMen for a place to stay for 6-12 months while they get their lives together? No: because that gay guy on Grindr either has 2-3 roommates or lives alone and doesn't want to share any of his space for longer than a few days. If at all. And I've at times, been where things were going great renting somewhere: But then a website goes out of business, or some temporary economic change slows business down: and the greedy landlord/property management owners doesn't want to wait more than a couple weeks for rent. So rather than go thru the proper court proceedings, or be patient and wait: they resort to daily harassment until they get their rent. And not to call bluff but, people booking don’t always do us justice either. I've had situations where clients have bailed just days before rent is due. Earlier this week, a client cancelled (albeit with a deposit and a day in advance notice so...it didn't mess me up necessarily) an overnight session we planned. I had anticipated to combine that towards a place I hoped I was going to get. He had to postpone understandably due to illness, and the place fell thru too so: didn't matter either way. But if it did: I may have been short of what I was going to use towards getting the place. At the same time: I been out of town now for 2 weeks: I been doing better financially than I would be if I was at home, even with hotel overheads that I been able to keep low thru being resourceful. But I can only do it when I'm getting booked throughout the week. I don't even need to see multiple clients a day, just a steady stream (no pun intended) throughout the week. But when I'm home, I'm going 1-2 weeks without bookings. And it makes it hard to get ahead.

Just because it “comes with the territory” doesn’t mean I can’t bring it up. It’s not incessant ranting, it’s having a discussion about something. If that’s problematic for you, then I’m sorry YOU allowed yourself to feel that way. You’re welcome to excuse yourself. I do feel the $100/$200 expectation is a widely held “belief” out there. However, I’ve seen the biz over the years, and I’ve seen how things have changed. $200 was okay when there were several platforms to advertise on, and getting 4-5 clients a week in THE SAME CITY was attainable. However, with everything that’s happened with inflation and website restrictions, along with hookup apps being a primary go to: things aren’t as busy for everybody. That said, the particular situation I was referring to: the guy was a flake anyway. I recently met a client who happily paid our agreement and all was well. That’s close to what I’m asking. However it is interesting that a $100 difference on a $500 session would persuade you. Not saying you’re in the wrong, but I have seen situations where I may have needed to ask for an extra $100: whether that be longer travel or booking a room for a particular session. Many have been okay to cover it. I try to be reasonable rate wise, because I don’t like to have to double back on prices. But I’ve also structured by sessions to give people options. That’s why anytime someone asks, “what’s your rate?” I’m never going to give them 1 price ever. At least not anymore. 1 price for everything makes no sense to me, no matter how easy it SEEMS. Sure I could just say $250. Or $300. But for what? How am I supposed to name a price when I don’t even know what I’m getting into? That’s why I like to offer options. I also will ask for minimums for certain sessions. Like if I have to travel an hour to a particular area near where I’m staying: it’s a 90 minute or 2 hour minimum. Because I’m already spending two hours to get there and back. If I have to get a hotel to host, it may be an extra $100 to offset that.

I’m just asking myself this question, after spending the past 5 months searching for a place: only to end up empty handed. My criteria wasn’t super strict, but I was working with a budget in a few particular area. Either they had strict income criteria or have dozens of applicants all trying to get the same place. Whoever has the best criteria, and the money upfront; gets it. I’m just like, fuck this shit. This is fucking bullshit. It’s been a waste of my money and time searching for places, not realizing that there’s little chance of actually getting it unless you have pay stubs and hundreds/thousands upfront to pay for deposits. Not to mention the application fees/background/credit checks. I’ve come to realize the housing/rental industry is set up for failure. The biggest thing as it relates to this industry; many cities seem to slow down or change from being profitable. Especially lately with rise in COL and more guys advertising on the sites. These property management companies want prospects to come up with a slew of things to get in the door, which I’ve done before: only to then be there a year or 2 and business slows down. Then I’m forced to struggle to pay the rent or move. And many local clients don’t become regulars often enough. The particular city I been looking in is Kansas City area, but I feel stupid fighting to reside in a STATE that I really don’t care to be in because, business has been terrible for a couple years, it’s oversaturated with foreign traveling guys, and the clients are overall unreliable. I’m from Florida originally: there, it wasn’t just Miami and Orlando to meet clients. There were SEVERAL cities on both coasts to connect with clients. In Missouri: the only towns to get clients are Kansas City and St. Louis: both of which have become over saturated with providers, so there’s hardly any business in either one. All the other towns are racist/homophobic and have nothing to offer. I’m now thinking to just start doing something like, live in a city for a week or a month, and then move on to the next. Or just go home after that time. Which I been doing for the most part, but it’s just been mostly couple/few days in hotels. However it’s hard to not have a “home” base at all because: living on the go and/or with family is hard. I have to keep medical appointments, maintenance, sometimes I come down with seasonal illness and have to take a few days off. And I find traveling especially prone to getting sick because of staying between hotels and eating differently than usual sometimes. Regardless, I’m just thinking it’s not worth renting anymore. I just am not really thrilled with hotel/air bnb living either. However, it’s easier to just throw down a credit card for incidentals/deposit: than to search and wait months for a place, only to end up not liking the city after all. I wish I had enough to just buy a house outright. But that is another issue in itself. I find many gay guys are so uptight and selfish about their personal space. Everybody wants to live alone, or they already have 2-3 roommates. If they live alone, it’s because they WANT to live alone. Or they’re so jaded by past experiences and can’t trust anybody else. I’m just over it. I can say, there are some select clients who have offered staying arrangements: and those are the type of people I prefer to deal with. However, it’s not my “goal” to live with a client. I just want to have a regular place to host, that’s not going to be a money pit every month. And that’s what I feel most apartments have become: money pits. They want us to pay more, despite business being less than it was 10 years ago 🤷🏾‍♂️

Well, I picked one up and it worked. You might have used Mastercard gift card. But I mean the ones where you just get it at like Walmart/Dollar Tree, sign up and then they send you a permanent one in the mail. That said, Rent-Masseur has been down all day for me. This sucks considering I’m out of town visiting somewhere and my ad isn’t even getting shown.

The Mastercard thing is due to some regulations that Visa put in place surrounding adult based websites. It could be due to something else like fees. I know that one of my credit cards switched from Visa to Mastercard. Also, it’s relatively easy to get a prepaid Mastercard at retailers. Capital one is also Mastercard based as well. That part isn’t too big of a hurdle to work around.

I emailed them, and they are saying the new version is the permanent version now. I hope this doesn’t affect business from the platform, but I’ve already been seeing it’s been getting me a little bit less lately than usual. I just feel both RM sites could have kept the original version. However, I do find the new RentMen a bit more fun to use. It also eliminates the search function where only half of someone’s head would show in the results. The map features are more direct (where you can see hotels…and I don’t put the exact hotel I’m mapped up, but a nearby one). I think overtime hopefully, we get used to the new design and see its perks. But idk if it’ll help or hurt schedule.

I think people say no drama in their profile because, a lot of potential clients do be kinda dramatic in their approach. I actually ran this ad in my ad for a few days, ZERO TOLERANCE FOR DRAMA OR FLAKES. But then I felt it might be too much. So I try to ease up a bit. The drama I refer to, are the high maintenance or wishy washy clients. Texting incessantly demanding instant attention, then going back and forth between cancelling and not. I even had a client text me something deep, when all I wanted was to figure out what day and time we’re meeting. I’m only showing it because he cancelled the day of the session. And then people wonder why I don’t want to work with anybody without a deposit or consultation fee upfront There’s more messages after that but, I haven’t even met this person and I’m getting a whole life story. Which, I can appreciate someone opening up and being transparent, but then adding 3rd parties, and being uncertain: it’s too much when we haven’t even met.

Okay, thanks? I guess… I wasn’t complaining or saying I perfectly willingly took the Usher looking guy. In fact, I wasn’t going to see him at all for $100. In that particular case, it was a very quiet Saturday, I was out of town and it was getting later in the day and I had already checked out of my hotel earlier that day. But I didn’t feel like commuting to the next city: so the donation was enough to cover the cost of my expenses. However, it wasn’t necessarily something I “profited” on. I also made sure the funds were settled upfront, before the session even stared. If and when I agree to a discount, I make sure to do so. As far as the guy who charged $110 for years; good for him. But there’s no guarantee a rate that amount will get the number of bookings needed. Also at the price, a person will have to be seeing a lot of clients in order to get to $500. Lots of clients doesn’t always equate to win: that’s more bodies, more exposure, more traffic to our home or hotel and/or more running around for outcalls. I know getting a lot of clients sounds like a reasonable goal, but for some: it’s having fewer clients for a higher rate. That may be the preferred model for a provider who can’t always be available last minute, or take multiple clients round the clock

That was a driving factor from the start I’ll also add: this isn’t just coming from RentMen but especially RentMasseur. I understand that technically people may be going to RentMasseur expecting “just a massage”. But I also wonder if it’s more to do with the venue. It seems the “general” (not all) RentMasseur clients expect a certain price point of the $150/$200 range or less. However, RentMasseur does not make any claims to be ONLY massages. Thats why there’s erotic, therapeutic and sensual options. Thats why there are private nude galleries. The lines are very blurred, and I wonder if that contributes to the misunderstandings of some. I was moreso using an exaggeration. When I said that, I meant: “I don’t want to spend my money eating out, everyday”. But I actually do eat out a fair amount, and if you see my body: I’m definitely not starving by any means 💪🏾 But I don’t always have the funds to allocate towards a sit down restaurant meal, especially since I’m trying to relocate, and a $75 meal: I rather spend $90 on a couple shirts: which I did couple weeks ago when I was in Minneapolis of America. Besides, where do you come off talking about needing a different career path? I didn’t say: “I don’t have any money to go out to eat”. I said afford, but I have known people who make 3x what I make, driving BMWs and living in luxury apartments who go to Taco Bell and barely have anything in the fridge. I’ve known people in the military: who do meal prep because they can’t afford to eat out but once a week. Does that warrant a career change? Sometimes it takes a bit of cognitive thinking to understand what someone is saying, versus just blurting out whatever you think is the reason for the statement made. And don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying there’s anything WRONG with $150/$200. I actually took a $100 booking earlier this month: the dude looked like Usher. He was sexy AF, but he was just an easy going client and only wanted a massage. I wasn’t mad at him for it. My thing is moreso on a general big scale. I rather someone say they have $100 and just need a massage, versus someone asking for my rates and then saying it’s too much. Well, you asked? If a client is willing to contact a provider to ask what a rate is: they should be willing to compromise and give. To shoot them down and say otherwise: ESPECIALLY when I have my own website that lists my rates, is where the annoyance comes in. And the other thing: if a client is going to say a rate is too much or they can’t afford: I feel if they really wanted to make it happen they can counteroffer. That way I can say yes or no or give a reason why I can’t do that price point: but can be willing to do a different price point similar. I know you got a lot of “reactions” to that, but I’ll explain to you and anyone else who cheered you on, why. Read very carefully: #1: I’m not unhappy with the Business. I’m unhappy if I’m NOT getting the business, in cases where I should or have before. #2: It’s nothing to do with being unhappy. It’s simply discussing a common scenario and asking how it could be changed #3: I’m happier dealing with SERIOUS clients who are willing to compromise, versus using hookup apps and being caught up in an endless string of meaningless hookups with guys who don’t care to contribute anything going on in my life. #4: Guys I’ve met through advertising on RM: are a different breed than many of the gay dudes I come across in bars, apps, or via friends. Like “someone” said during a press interview earlier this month: I love my clients and they love me 🤣 #5: I don’t always have to haggle on my rates because most of my bookings are $250+ anyway, however: again, just talking in general.

I ask because, there seems to be this unspoken dynamic out there that $150/$200 or even the dreaded: $100, is supposed to be “a good price” to pay and do whatever. Like, the client wins because that’s all he says he can afford, but the escort might not have enough to cover their expenses in the process. I’m just getting tired and fatigued of feeling like guys are calling a collections agency. “I can only afford $100/$200”. I am not a past due bill, for fucks sake. I’m a single man devoting my livelihood to giving people relaxation and companionship. It’s amusing, that a guy will take his dog to the vet, spend $700, $800, $1,000 and not think twice. Yet tell them its $400 for an hour of everything under the sun: suddenly I’m “too expensive or they can’t afford it”. The more I hear guys saying something is out of their budget, or they can’t afford it, blah blah etc etc: it just makes me wonder if I should put my rates up even higher: $500 minimum. Not out of greed, but because #1: there are guys out there who are willing to pay it, and #2: I don’t want to get into petty quarrels over $50 and $100. Or have to compromise between $300 and $200. Either way, $200 or $300 is still NOT ENOUGH for all I need to do. So why argue over it in the first place. I feel: if $300 is too much, let’s just do $500…that way if other clients feel the same and only 1 person shows up for the day, I’ll still be okay. But why take $200 and still only one person shows up? It just has to stop. I’ve even gotten to where, I decided I no longer want to do hookup apps at this time nor do freebie meets. I’ve been “burned” time and again, essentially giving “free services” to people who don’t appreciate my time or effort. Hooking up for free has made me miss clients, spend more money than I planned, or end up costing me more money indirectly: unnecessarily. So right now I’m breaking on that unless it’s just someone I meet in person or thru friends. But no more app stuff. My hookups and “boyfriends” are going to be clients, because more and more I’m seeing it’s clients who really seem to care about helping me achieve goals, whether that be monetary or something that requires monetary to get (for example, last year I wanted to go to a private event in Washington DC to see my favorite r@b singer.) Guys on apps would NEVER make that happen. Instead it took only 2 clients, to make it happen. So, when someone comes along and says a particular price is too high: I want to ask them, high for whom? Is it too high because you don’t think you have to or should, or is the price the escort is setting because he has hotels, fuel, beauty/gym, attire, hygiene, bills, car maintenance: all the things to pay that ensure being able to see clients can happen. So why, would someone even try to insinuate that someone is too expensive? It’s not a jar of spaghetti. This is a whole person, that you’re getting intimate with, and that person is either inviting you to their space, or they’re taking time out of their schedule going to your space: There should be 0 question or doubt about the price a reputable escort asks. I remember there was a thing going on called “tip the bill”, where people were tipping the waitress whatever the cost of the bill was, versus the standard percentage. Now me personally: I can’t keep up with that because I already deal with my income being compromised every single week by no shows, flakes, and ghosts and of course spam and scams. I can barely afford a sit down meal much at all lately, let alone tip a bill. But if people can raise that awareness, when do we ever get “tipped our rate?”

Wanted to check in to see if anyone has had any new experiences with tryst? I went thru the process to fill out an ad and sent my ID verification and it was rejected I noticed last month. And it took awhile already to get approved. Idk if I really vibe with their model. If someone is looking to sign up to a site and meet clients, they’re not trying to wait two weeks or months to get approved. The ad itself was also lengthy to set up. I did all that effort and the ad still isn’t up. I think mega personals fairs a bit easier. I think tryst may appeal more to the high end lady base. The rates I’ve seen on there certainly coincide. Even the male escort rates I’ve seen tended to be higher than what I already know most clients are willing to pay.

In the past 3 months I’ve been shopping around for a place to relocate to. And by shopping, I mean hardcore scouring Zillow, Trulia, apartments.com, Facebook market. I’m not necessarily looking for apartment complexes with a leasing office and agent on site, but something more private and stand alone. Which most are run by realtors and property management. Its showed me a lot that: many places are getting contacted by multiple “clients” looking for a place, and I’m finding more often that a lot of “showings” are automated from start to finish without even talking to anyone. When I have tried to contact and reach people directly, I don’t hear nothing back or it takes DAYS to get a response, only to get an automated message that the place is off the market. And there’s also a similarity in realty and escorting…as far as working leads and having to weed thru a lot of riff. However, it is annoying not being able to reach anyone when it’s about finding a residence within a short period of time: versus just a passing sex desire. It’s almost like many real estate companies don’t take anyone serious until they pass background, show income proof, and actually do all the hoops that: many of OUR clients can’t dream of doing. I think I had someone cancel on me yesterday over a $50 deposit. But we had been in contact all weekend and even on a prior visit. Yet where he lives is 45 miles outside of the city, in a rural suburban town. If someone can’t do a simple request, they’re probably going to piece of work to work with. My solution for escorts and clients: Limit the access. I’m no longer posting my phone number for “non logged” clients because it’s too much spam and too much guys expecting a meet right away. I had someone call me today from a hotel, no idea my rates, didn’t read my website, no clue on anything. Add another reason why I don’t normal answer phone calls…those are THE WORST. I used to only want phone calls, now I never want phone calls.

Not in this line, but among acquaintances. A guy and his partner were hitting me up separately but they didn’t really play together. Never met the partner, but considering how open they were: they probably fucked everybody in their circle at some point.

that is horrible. I just had a bad experience myself; however he had no reviews on Mr. Number but my assistant did find (after he already stood me up) where back in 2019, he flaked on me and showed me aggressive behavior. This time I put him on Mr. Number and reported him to both RM sites. ⚠️ ANYONE IN NEW YORK OR SAINT LOUIS BEWARE OF THIS GUY. 🚨 Drug user, probably has STDs and might give it to you #1: he tells me the day before that another escort “filled him with a load twice, even sending me his profile name THE DAY BEFORE WE WERE SCHEDULED. #2: I’m in touch with him the next day, and he goes and cancels moments prior to me heading to his hotel. #3: Refuses to pay the rest he owes for session and then gets belligerent. So I put out a fraud alert: I told RM: this is why we need a private portal for us providers. And I give a shit if clients know about it or not. Ever heard of a credit report? Credit karma? We need a credit karma for clients. Let them know, that we can find out about their dirt. This is why I prefer dealing with select clients only. Some of these other guys I feel like I’m dealing with middle and high school kids, not 50 year old men 🤦🏾‍♂️ Clients are lucky if all they get is a Mr. Number review. People try to rip off a drug dealer, they’re coming for their life. They usually have to move cities.

Fortunately this guy is now blocked and out of my life for showing me what an asshole he really is: But he scheduled me one time the right away, but then became a timewaster twice in a row. And why he wants to only offer me $200, knowing that I ask more in the 350/400 range for travel arrangement bookings. It is never a guarantee, that I’ll have multiple clients per day of hotel stay. Even when multiple clients do contact me on the same day: it’s not always I’m able to meet them because often times they want the same block of time, and at short notice. I had this last Saturday: 3 clients tried to book something in the afternoon. 1 planned in advance the day before, the other 2 were stragglers trying to squeeze in last minute visits, and only offering $100. The guy who booked in advance was the only person I seen, during my 12-5 p.m. dayuse hotel booking. The rest were fucked out of luck. I schedule most of my out of town bookings in advance. So any last minute guys usually don’t get a chance. Therefore, the notion that I’ll be able to profit off an expensive hotel room is nothing short of speculation, and I always make sure I charge accordingly, based on what I have to pay for 1 day.

I think it all makes sense. So many in the “community” or “culture” worship those types, and turn a blind eye to the dirt they may be doing behind the scenes. Worshipping the White alpha, yet marginalizing minorities by Dick size and skin tone. I had a friend who was infatuated by the White alpha daddy, and just recently learned he had AIDS. Not HIV, but the real AIDS. As in: yeah it’s still around. That said, like someone else said: I don’t think ripped, roided daddy should equate to “Pedo” by default. I think it’s moreso the glamorizing of extreme porn and wanting more and more. Yeah…not cool. Was that guy also a RentMen member? I hope they don’t start shit with them over this 😐

Craigslist was big in San Antonio, Denver, and a lot of “upcoming” cities for “massages” back when the erotic services ran. It was nothing risky about it, it was okay for what it was at the time. However, things have changed. Like someone mentioned, what you would have found on Craigslist, has now likely turned to content creating. Seems fewer people are becoming escorts, everyone just assumes onlyfans when they hear “sex worker”. There’s currently a site out there called Megapersonals which is somewhat similar to Backpage. However, I’ve been on it a little while and yet to meet 1 serious client. So many flakes, and the girls have said it’s dropped off due to scams…However they recently cleaner it up quite a bit and started requiring more verification. It might work in a bigger city, but in my region it sucks all throughout. I occasionally use a separate number on it, and refer people to my website with my real number. But majority don’t read the ad and follow the directions.

I have a friend of a friend who is traveling to Cameroon on the west of Africa, and his family is from there originally. Now, I don’t know all the details as I’ve not been there before and not sure if they’re going to the city or country. He lives in Iowa (you’d be surprised, there’s a bit of African transplants out there) but he’s been having conversations with us and saying he’s had to remove all hair dye before going, as the chance of getting arrested (not for being an escort, but gay) is too big of a chance to take being a visitor. He did tell me there’s either a club scene or network for it, where gays can meet up. But, I couldn’t tell you. Here’s an article you might find handy. Being a LGBTI person in African countries EPTHINKTANK.EU More than 4 African countries out of 5 of have laws criminalizing homosexuality, or even punishing... And 6 Countries in Africa That Have Legalized Same-Sex Relationships in the Past 10 Years WWW.GLOBALCITIZEN.ORG Nearly half of countries worldwide where homosexuality is outlawed are in Africa. Here are some that have...

Now that just gave me a good giggle 🙊 😹 I wonder how biz in Atlanta turned out in the area this week. I’d imagine the locals fleeing for obvious reasons. But if it’s anything like D.C., political stuff can make or break a venture.

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Sounds like you did everything right so far. I will say: I don’t think there’s any set “rules” or signs to go by. Sometimes I can reply to clients right away or within the hour, other times a whole day or 2 may go by. Sometimes, I just don’t notice a message at all, and will go back later and realize it. I also have 2 separate numbers. Others may do the same, so often times it’s not always a case of someone being ignored, they may just not be active on that particular line. 24 hours being long is only relative, though it may seem. I have clients not get back to me for days, weeks, even YEARS for some to get back to me. I think you should go about it as normal, state your timing preference. If person doesn’t get back right away: don’t assume anything more than what it might be. Like @keroscenefire said, just be ready to respond appropriately when they do reply but: also be open to plan B if you need to. However, and not saying this is you: don’t be the bossy, impatient client who gets an attitude and starts immediately making other plans when an escort doesn’t reply back within 20 minutes. Clients like that, tend to be high maintenance and can’t be relied on. But like I said, so far you’re on the right track. Booked in advance, sent a couple messages. I think after 24 hours after the 2nd message, you’re safe to Plan B it to someone else.

You’re comparing apples to oranges. It’s funny how people love to compare us to other businesses when it’s convenient. But when it comes down to comparing things like allowing the provider (escort) to schedule a time, not taking same day appointments, and doing stuff like requiring a credit card and ID to reserve a booking, suddenly it’s: “omg can’t believe you want all that information, etc etc”. I’m not really concerned what this section is called. But I won’t tolerate disparaging remarks or disrespect from anybody. Agree/Disagree: just don’t paint me out to be someone who doesn’t accurately portray me. Especially when people try to inaccurately figure me out, like yourself who had the audacity to say, “I should have educated myself on how to change a tire, and I wouldn’t have missed my appointment that night”. Which is the most ridiculous bullshit I’ve ever heard IN MY LIFE. Anybody who knows me enough knows, there is hardly a part on a car that I can’t name or change myself. But escorting and car hobbies don’t go hand in hand. Can’t be changing spark plugs, and then get a client wanting to meet in 30 minutes. All those porn movies at mechanic shops, are pure fantasy at best: People have to let go the idea of the perfect escort. Who never has anything come up, who should always be able to be there waiting hand and foot for the next client. Fuck my life, the client is all that matters. If you can’t be there, you’re a loser and failure who isn’t cut out for the business. Since when 🤔 Maybe things have operated that way at times, but: things are different now. It’s already a fact that many “sex workers” out there don’t even do client interactions. A lot of stuff out there, is pay per view only. I think guys who are doing in person sex work, aren’t getting the full credit we deserve. It’s a lot about how many fans and subscribers, but what about how many clients you can comfortably see in a day, in a week: and still be able to perform AND finish for them all? Without anybody getting short changed. That’s why I do, what I have to do.