Jamie21

I didn’t think of that but as prostitution is legal here in UK I’m not accustomed to being discreet about it in exchanges with clients.

Hey just to add…I wouldn’t worry about it. I get all sorts of enquiries, some short and abrupt, some long and detailed. I think clients are all different and part of my role is to understand and accommodate those differences (within reason) and make them feel welcome and comfortable. I think people get anxious approaching a sex worker (after all, it’s not something most people do very often is it?) so I understand if they might come across a bit awkward sometimes. It’s no big deal. Once the initial awkwardness or anxiety is overcome I usually find the person to be polite and respectful. If on a rare occasion they’re not then the meeting doesn’t happen. That’s rare, most clients are delightful. Good luck with your hiring.

By unpredictable I mean that I can’t be sure that I’d have enough business in any month to commit to being full time. Some months I have enough work to amount to almost full time hours (when you include the time I spend marketing, working out in gym - which I’d count as work because it’s effectively working on the ‘product’, replying to enquiries, planning filming sessions, arranging locations etc). It could also add up to a full time job in terms of hours. But the income could vary considerably if clients don’t book or subscribers to my movies don’t subscribe. Ok so I can be sure of at least x amount of interest because from experience I know that that is my base line revenue but it can vary between that base line and a top line month on month. The factors can be seasonal, economic, pandemic, I may be unwell etc so all these things can influence my revenue. So I have other work that I can do which is flexible to work around the sex work which can provide me with more stable income and a separate revenue source. And as @Shawn Monroesaid I don’t like having all my eggs in the sex work basket. I like the variety. I think it helps me keep fresh and engaged in the sex work. In the morning I could be working on a presentation or something on my laptop and in the afternoon having sex with a client at his hotel, in the evening meeting a potential filming partner. Variety is the spice of life.

Yes, things like ‘availability’ is a bit abrupt maybe, but not enough to warrant his response. Your questions etc are all reasonable. It looks like you had a lucky escape from hiring an arsehole.

Could be. I’d live the high life if I made enough from sex work but I don’t make enough money from it to bathe in champagne while naked nymphs drop peeled grapes into my mouth. To make this vision a reality for me would my clients please book more sessions and pay larger tips. Thanks.

I do the sex work / massage part time. It’s too unpredictable to do it full time. I guess it’s 2 or 3 days a week.

I travel with my table, it’s a much better massage on the table than on a bed. The advantage of having the table is my client can get a great massage and then we move to the bed. Best of both worlds, proper massage and then sex on the bed. Occasionally the hotel room is too small to fit the table (I’m talking central London hotels here….some even top end rooms are small or full of furniture..). If that’s the case then the bed is the only choice. It’s a different type of massage but still can be decent.

Yes I’m still posting new movies. Here’s the link again: https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim and the Twitter is @massageforhim Jamie x

😂😂. There is a lot of time wasters who talk about booking but never do. Extremely annoying and disrespectful. I think it’s an anxiety thing with a lot of them. They get horny, contact me to book but ask lots of questions like “will you wear a jock?” and “how big is your cock” etc. I can tell where the conversation is going….”then they say they want to get fucked raw in 25 different positions etc”. Ugh. As soon as the conversation moves from the logistics of booking to the minutiae of the angle at which my cock will go in them then I’m bailing out of that conversation. I suspect it’s a guy who’s probably never had sex with another guy and he’s too anxious or inhibited to actually go through with it but he gets off on thinking and talking about it. Hey, if I was any good at sex chat I’d run a sex chat line but I’m not so I don’t. I’m good at in person sex so you’ll have to book it…not talk about it.

I’m 75% sex work, 25% conventional work (whatever that is!). Fully self employed though. The sex work is sensual massage, escorting and porn on fans site. I like the variety but sometimes do feel pulled in different directions. That said, the sex work is fantastic training for learning how to run a business. People outside of sex work don’t realise how much work goes into marketing, pricing, finance, finding locations and models for filming, editing, getting the branding right. 90% of the time is preparation work, then 10% of the time is having sex. People assume it’s the other way around.

Speaking in general, based on my experience. Everyone finds their own way through a mix of following advice, trial and error and breaking new ground. Mixing sex work with other work (including things like having a fans site) works for me. My only advice to anyone doing this work is to do it from a position where you have agency. That’s all.

Reasons for doing sex work are as varied as reasons for doing any other kind of work. Sometimes it’s a necessity for money sometimes it’s a calling. It will impact how dedicated and committed someone is to it. It’s a lazy assumption to make that people only do sex work out of desperation. The other sex workers I know do it out of choice. So do I. I enjoy it. I like the flexibility, the variety, the excitement, meeting people, helping them to explore their sexual selves and other aspects of their personality that come out in a truly intimate situation. I think though that because the work is precarious, and unpredictable (sometimes busy, sometimes not) then it’s important to have a secure source of alternative income from a part time job or other work that fits around the sex work. Flexibility is key here. That gives you the security to build the sex work client base and keeps things in perspective I think.

It wouldn’t bother me either. One of my clients replied, when I asked him how he’d like to pay “oh, cash…it’s always cash only for my dealer, my cleaner and my hooker!”. I was glad to be in such exalted company. I did remind him however that I take credit cards (in fact you just slide the card between the cheeks of my bum…no…I do have a proper card reader but I think a bum card reader would be a wonderful thing wouldn’t it?). He’s a regular client so I guess he feels comfortable to joke like that, I’m glad. Although I prefer the term sex worker because that’s how I describe the job.

Agree, as long as there’s space in the bed.

Well I agree about asking but that’s about all. Because the sensual/erotic style of massage isn’t regulated the content isn’t defined by any body or authority, so ask what it includes if it’s described as sensual or erotic. @OneTimeOnlyseems to be considering things from a US perspective. Describing yourself as a sensual masseur, offering sexual services and escorting will not get you busted here in the UK and in most of Europe. It’s legal (depending on how it’s sold). So sensual CAN mean a naked masseur, and a happy ending and more. Just ask the question if in doubt.

All these replies and I can’t believe no one has yet made an innuendo about “eating out”. Maybe it’s just me that has an immature mind 🙂

It’s impossible to offend me. To be offended you have to take offence and I choose not to accept the offence. It’s their problem not mine. Occasionally clients are impolite (things like avoiding eye contact) but that’s probably anxiety or feeling bad about themselves. It doesn’t bother me, in fact it’s a fun challenge to then help them be less anxious and inhibited.

You get some hot guys at the Vatican….just saying 😉

That sounds like a great trip…love to hear all about it when you visit @Vegas_nw1982. See you in 2023!

Ask him. It should be a great massage (proper attention paid, on a massage table, using good oil, with discussion about health conditions that may impact massage etc) and done on whole body (no avoiding bum, cock etc), usually with the masseur naked. He will explain limits in terms of mutual touch, and it should include at least a happy ending (described as release or some other euphemism). Sometimes the masseur can’t be explicit in his ad for legal reasons, so read between the lines and ask. I describe my massage as sensual and it can include everything, depending on what my client wants. But it definitely includes a proper thorough massage. If my client wants sex with no massage that’s a different service and only done on out call.

Not atall. Although if you’re sitting on my face please make sure I’m still breathing every few minutes…

It’s all part of the service 🙂. Good luck

I did an overnight one time with a client that involved me going to his work Christmas party. He didn’t want to go alone, the party was at a smart hotel and most of the guests had rooms for the night. So he booked me to accompany him. I had met him for regular sessions (short 90mins) previously so it wasn’t like we’d just met. I turned up late afternoon, we played a bit, showered etc then went downstairs for the works meal and party. The organisers had decided (I hate this) to mix up the couples so I was sat between some bore who seemed to run the place and a quiet woman partner of another employee who I chatted to mostly about her love of Greek islands. My client was on a different table…to his annoyance. He hadn’t anticipated the seating plan nor had we worked out a story about who I was (do I say to his boss “yeah I’m an escort he’s put on expenses for the evening”?) so I just said I was a friend. Turns out he told people I was a relative. I’m sure no one believed him. Then after the meal there was dancing and karaoke (it’s all the worst elements of a work Christmas party). My client didn’t want to dance (slow dance? Kissing?) so we sat and chatted about work with a couple who both seemed to work at my clients firm. I can be surprisingly informed about UK GAAP 🙂 and managed to avoid them asking what I did for work. Eventually we sneaked off back to the bedroom and I did more of what I normally do for work shall we say. However the funniest part of the overnight was coming down for breakfast in the morning having just had morning sex (which is absolutely the best time for it in my opinion) and having to field leading questions about whether we had a good sleep. I’m unembarrassable (is that a word?) so I didn’t care but my client felt awkward which was a pity. When we went back to the room after breakfast to check out he apologised for combining the booking with his Christmas party but I told him not to worry…it was a blast and we should definitely have sung “I am what I am” at the karaoke…

Don’t be embarrassed, just ask! “Hi I see your massage style is described as sensual, does that include any element of genital touch or release because in my experience some masseurs use that term loosely?” If he says “noooo! I’m a therapist how could you expect such a thing from me!!!” you reply “oh good thanks for clarifying, I wasn’t sure but now I’m glad you’ve confirmed, I’m not looking for anything as sordid as that from my masseur, please let me know your availability” (and then you find a proper sensual masseur…) And if he grins and says “of course it includes a happy ending, I’m a sensual masseur…it’s my raison d’etre. No massage ends without cum flying” you reply “oh good that’s exactly what I want, I’ve a 4 day load waiting to be released by your expertise, are you available on etc…”. No one should be embarrassed when it comes to asking about sex. Treat it like ordering a meal in a restaurant. If you want your steak well done then order it well done.

In my experience the company is really the reason for an overnight, not 12 or so hours of action. It’s about being with someone you feel comfortable with to chat, eat, relax, bathe, walk, and of course get intimate with each other over the course of the session. Clients book it as an escape from normal life.