Jamie21

I do out calls but they’re mostly within London area. The reason I don’t travel much is because most clients book for an in call. Also, I’m based in the middle of a city of 10m people which has 30m visitors a year. There’s no need to travel, the world comes to London 🙂. I think also the signals you get from what’s said in a text exchange are reliable indicators of whether someone is serious or just a time waster: ’Hi I’d like to book a session on x day at x time please’ or ‘I’m interested to book, do you do x’ or ‘I’m x years old and interested in booking is this ok?’ are all unlikely to be time wasters. ’Hey’ (and nothing else), or ‘massage?’ Or a picture of his cock or ass is 99% going to be a waste of time. I’ve been working this for over 5 years. I know the busy months, weeks and days. It’s fairly predictable. A lot of clients are regular so there’s a pattern there.

Learn by trial and error, over time you get to know what works and what doesn’t do you start to stack the odds in your favour. I used to accept or engage with clients who’d turn out to be time waters. Over time I recognised the signs so that now I can tell a time waster at 1000 yards! I know where to advertise, I know the patterns: when it’s busy, when it isn’t. It’s much less of a gamble. You find a modus operandi that works, then keep tweaking.

I’ve had a few clients ask if I do PNP or if it’s ok if they take something during the session…I say ‘no, and that I’d rather they didn’t take anything stronger than use poppers’. It’s up to them what they do but I’m not having it in my session. A friend who also works in the business got into using crystal meth. I first met him when he was newly into making porn and escorting. We connected and I made a few films with him and saw a few clients with him. We had a lot of fun both working and socially. Then he got into drugs and I saw his decline from someone beautiful with a sweet heart to someone who aged 10 years in a single year, looking awful and behaving strangely. Fortunately he’s escaped the trap now, and is getting back to his real self but he stopped escorting because he said it brought him into contact with drugs. I’m surprised by that because it’s not my experience but I think the whole scene he was involved in (parties etc) was the problem.

Yes, most likely explanation is they got off on the chat. Once they short their load they weren’t interested any more. Lots of guys have some kind of internalised shame about their sexual urges. Once they’ve cum the shame resurfaces resulting in this change of behaviour. Best avoid those types if possible.

That’s so bad. I mean just sooooo shit of them. I’m sorry for you. That kind of behaviour isn’t a peeve it’s a big flapping red flag with flashing warning lights. Stuff can happen that prevents one from fulfilling a commitment but to just be silent and then come up with some lame excuse last minute is unprofessional in the extreme. It strikes me that these guys who you scheduled with view their clients as suckers who they can mess around with impunity. There’s an arrogance and dismissive attitude in their behaviour which probably is evident if you did actually get to meet them. In that respect you might consider it a lucky escape.

Oh yes I understand there’s big hopes for Ange at Spurs this season. God help him.

Oh wow @mike carey so it is! That’s only about 10,500 miles to my studio. If my client inadvertently goes there I can only imagine the conversation… Me ‘hi, are you close?’ Client ‘I can’t find your place…you said 5 minutes walk from Tottenham?’ Me ‘what can you see near you?’ Client ‘um….desert.’ Me ‘dessert? Are you in a restaurant?’ Client ‘no, I’m Tottenham, NSW’ Me ‘oh…turn around and head to Sydney, take the flight to Singapore, then to LHR, then hop on the Elizabeth line to Tottenham Court Road…I’ll see you tomorrow…’

I have a tried and tested (iteratively) address message that I give to clients. Most find me. A few get lost and then it’s a case of messaging on WhatsApp…”where are you?, what can you see?” as I try to understand where they have got themselves to. I think people unfamiliar with London get confused easily. I describe my place as being close to Tottenham Court Road station, which is very central in London but I had one client see the word Tottenham and assume that I was in that part of town (if you know London you’ll know it’s a totally different area and much less central). He said ‘North London?’. I said ‘no, it’s central’ but he didn’t respond after that. I guess he put Tottenham into Google maps and decided ‘no thanks!’. These days with smartphones and online maps it’s much more difficult to get lost than it used to be. It’s usually the last 50 metres that’s the difficult bit.

I’m not sure it’s an addiction, but I think there is a risk of becoming reliant on it. Either because the monetary rewards can be good (although unreliable), or because one becomes accustomed to having clients validate you. It’s like being an actor who craves the audience applause. Having clients leave happy and come back regularly for me is a great boost to the self esteem!

I think you probably are. You won’t get him to respond to questions like that. He’s focused on your pleasure. Anyone doing this work with any degree of success will be able to give you the impression he’s also enjoying it, to the extent that you wouldn’t be able to tell whether that’s genuine or not. Also, one of the main reasons guys do this work is because being hired is a turn on in itself. Simply by you hiring him, and enjoying what he does for you is what gets him going. I know that’s the case for me, if a client is having a great time then that is exciting for me. The more my client is enjoying himself then the more I enjoy it. Clients ask ‘do you like x or y or whatever’ and the answer is ‘if it turns you on to do it then yes I like it’ (within reason of course!). So I think you’ll find it futile to ask what he likes, because you won’t get an answer. The best way to feel that he’s enjoying it is to relax and enjoy yourself. You’re the client after all.

Definitely. They’re very strict about anything sexual. My ad got refused. I’m thinking in this context ‘intuitive’ means ‘I’ll intuitively get you hard and I’ll intuitively deal with it’…

If you’re only monetising your sex life it probably won’t work. Clients will see through that. You’ll need to offer more than “I’m available to get fucked”. Clients want to feel that you’re interested in their pleasure just as much as it’s fun for you. So I’d suggest if you can get that mindset and approach it will work sustainably.

Yes massage can vary a lot. Some of my clients like the massage to include bdsm elements like smacking, use of a paddle on their ass, cock and ball slapping and torture, mixing in light touch with feathers and brushes etc. But I think the key is variety and surprise. Will the next touch be sensual or dominant? Where will it be? Having your balls randomly tickled, licked or slapped is extremely erotic to many.

If I’m doing an out call to a client’s hotel, and it’s a good hotel then I dress, and walk in, as if I own the place. Especially if I happen to be carrying my massage table. If it’s an out call to a cheap hotel…well that doesn’t happen…so it’s moot 🙂. If they’re coming to me then I dress provocatively, or as requested. This strategy seems to work.

I think it’s that with massage I use my body weight to generate pressure, and whilst I use fingers some of the time I also mix in use of heel of hand, forearms, elbows etc so it’s not all hand work whereas with tickling it’s just all hand work, or it felt that way. My hands got tired. Also I think it was mentally tiring because it’s not something I normally do so I was thinking a lot. When I do sensual massage I do it ‘in the zone’; I’m hardly thinking…just feeling and sensing if that makes sense. I get into a flow. So for me giving massage is relaxing I find it meditative whereas doing the tickle massage was hard work both physically and mentally. I think other masseurs would say similar, hence they’d charge more.

I did a tickling session for a client one time. He wanted a tickle massage. Tickle massage isn’t in my repertoire although I offer tailored massages to suit clients requirements (if it’s something I’m reasonably comfortable to include in a massage setting….think undressing rituals, restraints, toys, wrestling kit / clothing etc). So this client asked if I could tickle him during the massage. He didn’t want to tickle back, which I was grateful for. I like interaction but am not keen on being tickled. It all sounded quite interesting and so I agreed. The client booked an hour and everything was set up. On the day he turns up and is charming, sexy and excited. He strips, I’m in my shorts, and I start in by doing some breathing and head massage to relax him. After about a minute of head massage he asks me to start the tickling. This is kind of a little sooner than I had anticipated but fine, it’s his massage so I tickle his neck. He loves it. I apply oil and do some massage strokes but he wants more tickling. So I tickle him some more, in the usual tickle places. He responds enthusiastically. After some time ticking because my hands are beginning to tire I revert to normal massage but once I’d done a few long massage strokes he asks for more tickling. Now I’m running out of tickle moves. I’ve tickled all the normal tickle parts and I’m not sure if body parts like calves or biceps are ticklish so I just start to go off piste and tickle anything. I discovered that on this client everything was ticklish except for one part….his cock, which didn’t respond at all. Expecting he’d want to get off I started to work on his cock in the more ‘traditional’ way but he just asked me to go back to the ticklish bits. Honestly I’ve never worked so hard…. Tickling someone for an hour is exhausting, and without even the prize of a load at the end (he didn’t want a release). He told me he loved the session but I must admit I found it challenging. If asked again for a tickle massage I’d have to say I can do it for about 10 minutes and mix it in to a sensual massage but I’d not do tickle only. I salute anyone who could deliver that! I think you might find a guy willing to do it but they’d probably charge more than their normal rate.

I once met a client at the Park Plaza Westminster Bridge. I turned up nice and early and texted him to say I was in the lobby (necessary because the lifts required the room key). He texted to say that he too was waiting in the lobby….where was I? I gave a detailed description. He then messaged to say he definitely couldn’t see me. Was I in the correct hotel because there’s a Park Plaza over the road….called Park Plaza County Hall and he that’s where I should be. Turned out that I was indeed in the Park Plaza Westminster Bridge…which is a different hotel. So I had to go to the other hotel. Pity because the first hotel looked nice.

Or visit London 🤪 Masseurfinder isn’t good in my opinion but that might be because they refused my profile. They seem to be quite difficult about anything remotely sexual in the advertising.

I’m on Jock2go but I don’t get much business from it. Stick to the Rent… sites. Those seem to get most traffic. You’ll need to ask for rates. I’m surprised you’re coming up empty on Rentmen. Maybe it’s the location you’re in? Or are you looking for niche requirements?

Still works for me. One of my massage videos on there is still available to view 😉 https://xhamster.com/videos/another-four-handed-massage-session-xhil4oR

I don’t think anyone would mind. As a masseur I don’t care if I’m hired because someone let you down last minute. If I’m available (and that’s the challenge…last minute bookings can rarely be accommodated because I’m usually busy) then I’m happy to accept.

Yes it’s regulated by the Porn Executive, Network Indexation Standards committee. All performers have to register their member to be measured annually. They give you a Designated Index Classification Key which is the official description of size that can be used in a porn film or when advertising your services: 7 inches is officially designated as ‘hung’, 8 is “massive” and 9 is “ass destroyer”. 10 or over is “take it out it hurts…oh no wait …ooohh yes, ram it in …fuck me senseless…..”. If you see a porn film or escort / masseur where the description is anything other than the above then you know his dick hasn’t been officially classified and it could be a 6 incher pretending to be bigger.

Whereas ExBFE is disastrous company and amazing sex.

I’ve been in the middle of a massage with a client at a hotel when the fire alarm went off. We ignored it at first because we thought it was a false alarm or a test and because it was at a critical point in the massage if that makes sense! However the alarm continued so I stopped and went to check what was happening. I opened the room door slightly (couldn’t open it fully because I was naked) and saw people leaving. Then a member of staff passed by and said to evacuate immediately because it wasn’t a drill. We had to get dressed quickly, and leave for the muster point. I couldn’t find my underwear so I just put my shorts on and a T shirt. Client wore the fluffy towel robe that was to hand in the room, with nothing underneath. We waited outside for about 5 minutes before they decided it was a false alarm and we could go back in. Quite annoying because had the alarm gone off 5 minutes later I’m sure I’d have finished the client off, as it was the interruption killed the vibe so I had to virtually start again with him.

Was thinking more Achilles and Patroclus tbh…