Jamie21

Something similar happened to me one time too. Worse thing was that it was a duo so I’d arranged for another escort for the client. We both turned up at the address (both after travelling an hour each) and suddenly the client goes quiet on text. I called him: no answer. So we hung around for a few minutes just in case and then left and had lunch together (the other guy was a good friend, and understanding fortunately!). That’s the thing. I had a gut feeling about the ‘client’ I mentioned above. The more experienced you are doing this work the better your gut instincts are. I was swayed by the money and the prospect of working with my friend (the client wanted to watch us for part of the session) but my instincts told me he’d likely be a flake.

I only take bookings by letter. Handwritten letter (in black ink). I dictate my reply to my secretary whilst I bathe, and my butler arranges for it to be delivered to prospective clients. I can’t be doing with these telephone calls, emails and texts.

I had 2 clients on Valentine’s Day. Neither of them wanted flowers or a card…

No, I don’t engage in it. Just keep it to responding to clients requests. I never initiate the conversation, and I don’t respond (except to just politely acknowledge it) to chat because it starts to blur the line. Sometimes clients try to start sex chat, or send pics etc. I never respond to that. Only one client has become a friend who I do socialise with but I guess I first met him in a social setting (actually a sex party 😂) so it’s kind of different. He’s no longer a client, now a friend. But otherwise I definitely avoid interactions that are outside of the professional relationship.

I prefer a text or WhatsApp. I’m often busy, or in public/with others so it’s not convenient or appropriate to be discussing booking details with clients on the phone. I have one regular client who always calls to book, and his name comes up so I know it’s him and I answer. That’s fine, because all we discuss is availability and booking. He’s an older guy (I’m guessing 70’s) so I understand why he wouldn’t text. All my other clients book by text or email. If there’s complicated questions then I sometimes offer a phone call. With people’s busy schedules it’s so much more efficient to engage via text.

Doesn’t make any difference to me. I have a few clients who wear them, I assume for aesthetic reasons or medical reasons. Either way it’s fine by me. If you’re using the cock ring as a signal to your masseur then I suggest you just need to be less subtle about it. If you want a happy ending style massage then book a masseur who clearly does that kind of massage and tell him what you want (if it’s possible to be explicit).

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It’s just simpler to top. I’m vers (and mainly do massage rather than escort sessions …but of course sex does happen sometimes in massage). It’s simpler to top: if clients want me to bottom then I need to know beforehand. It’s more preparation needed. I think this is one reason why guys say ‘mainly top’. It’s just so much simpler.

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Reality check: you hired a guy you really like for an overnight. 12 hours. The evening started well, a drink in the bar, some flirting, getting to know each other. He’s engaging, intriguing, sexy. He looks only at you as you talk, he touches your hand as it rests on your thigh, he squeezes it while he casually orders you another drink. Over dinner he listens to your stories, smiling, nodding, asking questions. All the while dropping you teasers about what will happen later, in the bedroom both on and off the bed…especially off the bed. You’re hard under the table, driven there by the anticipation he’s built up. As you eat dessert your excitement causes you to get some ice cream on your fingers. He reaches over, takes your creamy hand slowly lifts it to his face, and licks your fingers clean… all the while maintaining eye contact with you. The lift takes for ever to reach your floor, stopping at every floor to let people out. He’s holding your hand, standing so close to you that you’re sure he can feel your heart beating. Now there’s just the two of you plus a hotel employee, who must be going to your floor, because the only remaining floor button lit up is yours. The lift ascends and as it does he leans in and kisses you, cradling your head with his hand, his body pressing you against the lift wall. The hotel employee turns to face the doors, and she exits quickly as they open on your floor. You try to move towards the door but he’s pinned you to the wall, kissing you passionately, his hard cock pressed against yours. Finally he steps back and taking your hand he leads you out of the lift and then he pauses, realising he doesn’t know your room number. You look at each other and grin, but before you can do anything he pulls you in for another kiss, and as he does so he reaches around to your back pocket and pulls out your room card, reads the number and silently leads you to the room. It’s early hours of the morning. You awake at the glint of light peeking through the gap in the curtains. He’s asleep next to you, facing away from you. Your arm is around his body, your chest against his back, you feel his warmth and slow deep breathing. You recall the two, three, was it four rounds of passionate sex. The shower session, the bedroom floor, the chair. Now he sleeps. A thought pops into your head: I paid $2400 for this, that’s $200 an hour…am I being ripped off for the hours he’s asleep?

I do. ‘We shall go on and fight it out, here or elsewhere, and if this long island story of ours is to end at last, let it end when each of us lies choking in his own blood upon the ground’.

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That’s it 🎯Get two ‘it’s all about me’ guys together and I’d say it’s going to be a frustrating experience. Most providers are focused on the client, which is helpful because that’s generally why clients hire.

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Their focus is on you. I’m quite happy not to cum (tbh it’s much easier if the client isn’t bothered about me cuming). If it’s clear to me that he really wants me to cum then I will (or I’ll try) but if it’s up to me, then I won’t cum. The other guys I know who do this job have the same approach. I think you’re right to assume they won’t cum unless asked.

Only if you swallow it.

I get massage clients asking me to cum. It’s not unusual. Some want it on specific body parts or in their mouth. Always happy to oblige. If you want it, ask them.

😳😳😳😳 That’s extremely niche, verging on S&M scenes. I’m not sure how I feel about a nazi uniform, makes me very uncomfortable. I know this is role play but that’s something I’d decline. Similarly I’ve declined to wear stockings/suspenders because it really isn’t me! Clients tend to ask me to wear a jock, shorts, wrestling singlet (with open back 😉), and of course socks. Sometimes it’s also special underwear that the client has bought me.

Your kind nature is evident by you actually considering the request and asking here whether the request is reasonable. I totally agree with everyone who said ‘block him!’. Lucky you didn’t go through with meeting him.

Tell them when you first message. Say you’re totally inexperienced and about what you’d like and why. Not a long message but just the headlines. You’ll get a few declines and guys who ignore you: that’s fine because they’d have been unsuitable anyway and that’s how you find out. I’d suggest to book an hour with a sensual / erotic masseur rather than an escort but the label matters less than finding the right person. Just aim for intimacy, not full sex or anything. Experience touch and being close to someone. Just be present with him and have no targets or anything other than to touch and cuddle. If you feel comfortable with him (does he make you feel approved of? - that’s the test) then book another session perhaps longer and explore further. After two or three sessions of this, without losing your virginity to him, try meeting people and socialising. I think it would be preferable for you to find a partner to progress further rather than with a provider, if it’s to be your first time having sex. The provider can get you over the initial difficult hurdle but you can do the rest. Good luck X

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My regular clients mostly don’t tip. I don’t consider it bad form. This is the UK, where tipping is not such a cultural phenomenon. I have regular US clients though (regular visitors to London) and mostly they don’t tip. It doesn’t matter to me. I’m grateful for tips but it doesn’t make any difference to my approach. Maybe I’ll be a little more flexible in trying to make myself available for a high tip clients preferred booking time but that’s all. The biggest compliment is that clients return if they enjoyed their session.

Interesting topic and I thank @JD-Angel for raising it. It takes a bit of courage to admit to embarrassing sex situations. I’ve had plenty, from horrendous mess situations when I’ve bottomed (which I have described previously, and probably don’t want to recount), to situations when I couldn’t get it up - and the harder I tried the more difficult it became, and being with a guy while his wife and children were upstairs (they knew I was there…I wonder if they knew what we were doing 😱). Let me add that these were all situations where I was present in a professional sense (either filming porn or seeing clients) which makes it even more awkward. I’ve learned that this stuff happens, and usually it’s best to laugh it off and not get too anxious or upset about it. There’s many more situations where it all went fabulously. The embarrassing situations are just part and parcel of participating in the first place. They serve to put the great situations into context.

Ah, you’re a challenge. I like the game…. My internal monologue: Ugh, I’ve tried almost everything and he hasn’t responded…is he asleep?, is he dead?😱..no, he’s still breathing that’s good. Maybe a nibble of his ear? Nope, nothing, rim his hole perhaps, is that too unsubtle at this point? Nothing! Everyone groans at being rimmed. Very unusual, I bet he’s a total top. Oh well let’s go left field and suck a finger…..Ah!! There it is, found his button. He’s turning over…ohhh hello that’s large. I hope he is a top 😂

Yep. Blatant! I’ve had ‘straight’ guys say ‘ohh just a little external touch on my bum’. 10 minutes later they’re ass up and I’m applying lube. 🤪