SoFlGuy
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SoFlGuy reacted to big-n-tall in Do not trust reviews from users on this site.
I wouldn't say don't trust reviews on this site. If you've been on this site long enough you can see the posters who have an agenda and the ones generally trying to help others.
From long standing posters who frequently contribute information, I'm more apt to believe the review. New one time posters, who make one review and disappear... far less so.
As others have said take every review with a grain of salt. For one, just because one person has a great time with the provider, doesn't mean another will have the same experience. Second, I know some people on here post stuff I know not to be true. You just have to be able to discern what is useful and what is not... take a chance or let sleeping dogs lie.
So to speak directly to @Tomsell if this post about review trust is in reference to your issues you posted about your encounter with stonefruitnyc... again just because someone has a great time with a provider doesn't mean someone else will. Because you had a negative experience doesn't mean the other reviews aren't true. This site is useful but it can't guarantee you'll have a great or horrible encounter with a provider. It'll just give you a better idea of what could happen and who might be better fit with your desires.
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SoFlGuy reacted to + Tygerscent in Hiring in 2026 - is it too much trouble?
One of the things I have noticed influencing the ease or dis-ease of hiring is the political climate and the at times over vigilant overwatch of hotels, community groups and law enforcement making hiring precarious and both clients and providers skittish~
it seems also that the demographics and f having a private place to either bring a higher two or for a provider to bring a Client to has changed~ so now, sometimes there is a spouse or family or roommates or business operating hours if it’s in a retail space, those things can come into play. Perhaps part of that is the rising cost of expenses for everybody deterring that independent living situation with situational, ongoing permanent, or short term for/long-term availability and affordability~
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SoFlGuy reacted to + glutes in Hiring in 2026 - is it too much trouble?
Haven't had the crypto or gift card BS, yet.
My difficulties are AI generated pics, and just a lot of attitude. Along with charging $350-400 and hosting in a $98/night hotel.
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SoFlGuy reacted to CuriousByNature in Nude modeling and experiences?
Never ever. Not only do I shower with the lights off, I also wear a blindfold just in case I somehow get a glimpse of myself.
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SoFlGuy reacted to DMonDude in iMessages-Read Receipts not turned on
Anyone who has Read Receipts off are people who like having peace and not having people who are socially needy pestering them about "omg why haven't you responded yet? I see you read my message!"
Read Receipts is one of the worst things that's ever happened to texting/messaging lol.
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SoFlGuy reacted to jeezifonly in Having to decipher “size” in ads…
Once there is an established, formally recognized numerically accurate description for the size of the human penis, women will finally be able to run the world properly.
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SoFlGuy reacted to Nue2thegame in *Are all the hot gays migrating out of New York?
The ass is always greener on the other side.
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SoFlGuy reacted to DMonDude in advice for first time provider
If it's important to the safety of your college sports career/etc or if you're gay/bi and not out. One thing you might want to do to protect your identity, in addition to what @nate_sf said about showing less face, is also only use photos in your ad that are also publicly available. Like from your Instagram or other social media. That way, if someone reverse image searches your Provider ad, only images from your Instagram come up. Which gives you plausible deniability to say "oh that's just someone catfishing as me using my Insta photos" if it ever became an issue or if someone who shouldn't see it found your Provider ad and confronted you asking if it's you for example. You also can put on your profile that you can FaceTime/video call verify you are you. Because if a potential client sees your ad with no face pics, or reverse image searches your photos and sees it's all from some Instagram account, they also might think you're catfishing/scamming. So being willing to verify it's you is good.
Other advice coming from a client perspective: If you happen to have a big social media following or an OnlyFans with a lot of subscribers. Don't let that go to your head and let it give you an attitude/ego, clients do not care about your Insta/OF follower count. Some guys your age who have social media clout get into providing thinking that they don't have to put in much effort to being a Provider and think that them being social media famous is everything. Clients pick up on this and it usually results in you giving them a bad experience. Just being hot and recognizable from social media and letting them touch your abs is not enough and is not the only thing you need to bring to your client. You still have to truly perform for them and give them a nice full experience with you like other Providers who aren't social media famous do.
Similarly, a lot of guys your age have a "hustle grindset mindset" vibe that isn't always very attractive in the context of a client/provider meeting. Obviously Providers are doing this to make money, it's work. But don't let your clients feel that vibe from you. Don't let your client feel like they're just a check box on your financial goals spreadsheet or like you don't give a damn about them. They want to have a nice interaction with you and feel like you're into them and having a good time with them or at the very least like they have your full attention. Like @Mark_fl said, you should hopefully really enjoy doing this, or at least learn to be good at faking it (especially if you're doing this as a straight guy) so the client doesn't see the "mechanics" of what you're doing in order to work with them. A lot of college age guys start this and make these mistakes and then get bad reviews and have to spend time repairing their provider reputation. So if you can get this stuff right from the start, that'll put you ahead of competing providers the same age as you.
So pay attention to the client, don't be on your phone a bunch during a meeting trying to set up your next meeting, don't be looking at what time it is every 5 minutes waiting for the meeting to be over because the client will notice. Don't over book yourself, give yourself time to get ready and get to each meeting. If you have a meeting setup and you're running late or need to reschedule/cancel, let the client know as soon as possible. If you set up multiple meetings in one day, don't schedule them too close to each other because the first meeting maybe could make you late to the second meeting. And especially with you being in college. You have classes, practice/training for your sport, games/matches for your sport, and your own personal/social life to plan around. So i would say just don't spread yourself too thin. Communication and time management are huge when doing this.
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SoFlGuy reacted to nate_sf in advice for first time provider
As others have mentioned, your age is fine. There is a market for everyone, and I expect the market for younger sexy men like yourself is really good. If you haven't already, set up a profile on Rentmen (it's really the only game in town), and if you want to participate here on this website, add your details into your post signature. You've already got some potential clients interested!
The main concern I'd have is with your athletic status. It's an asset, but be careful you don't get yourself into trouble with the university. I'm thinking back many years ago to where a couple of D1 athletes had posed for Playgirl, and then got booted off their teams. Granted, posing in a widely-available publication is not the same as running a Rentmen ad, but all it takes is word to get out and trouble could follow. Though you have a very handsome face, you may want to avoid showing it in your advertising. Also, although being on a team is such a hot selling point, you may want to downplay that a bit and just be more general such as "athletic, love sports" or something like that.
All that said, I can think of a couple of guys who have put themselves through college as providers. In my instance, it helped me cover grad school expenses, and I'm grateful for that. Turned out I really enjoyed it, and still do all these years later. Feel free to DM with any questions!
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SoFlGuy reacted to Kevin Slater in 2025 year-end numbers
Per annual tradition:
Revenue increased 6% in 2025.
57% of 2025 revenue came from the year’s top three clients, down from 62% in 2024. Last year’s top two clients retained their spots.
As I’m only seeing a small number of repeat clients, revenue per client has more than tripled in the last three years.
Kevin Slater
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SoFlGuy reacted to DMonDude in Xmas
If it were me, i'd personally go to a big city like New York City, New York. Los Angeles, California. San Francisco, California. Austin, Texas and such. Big cities usually have plenty of people who don't celebrate/travel back to their home towns for the holidays. So should be plenty of people who would hire. Big cities never sleep.
But also you probably could still do well in a small city too. Lot of people who may fly to their home towns for the holidays also may be the people who want to sneak away and hire for a bit to get away from dealing with family drama/stress that naturally comes with the holiday season for many.
And if you just are thinking of stuff to do on your own. Big cities i feel have better holiday festivities. Like Orlando, Florida and Los Angeles, California both have a Universal Studios theme park and both have a Disney World/Disney Land (respectively) theme park that are Christmas/holiday themed at this time of year if you're into that kind of thing.
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SoFlGuy reacted to Nue2thegame in Relocating
Three very different states with which I have some familiarity. The different locales in Texas and Florida, in particular, differ widely in vibe, climate and culture. If your work is portable, I’d try a 3 month stint in a place of interest first and see how you like it. I’ve moved a fair amount and am always surprised that things are often not what they seemed to be from afar.
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SoFlGuy reacted to + sf westcoaster in Words in Escort Ads That make him an instant "Pass"
Multiple "Ask Me's" and pictures with a backwards cap or the middle finger.
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SoFlGuy reacted to + sync in The demise of kindness and respect?
I don't confine it to only providers and their clients. My perception is that mutual respect and neutral civility have all but disappeared from society in general.
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SoFlGuy reacted to Nightowl in The demise of kindness and respect?
As a client I haven’t changed my attitude toward providers. My time with them is still a bright spot. Stress levels and anxiety are on the rise in some places. Maybe that’s part of what providers are seeing.
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SoFlGuy reacted to + Jamie21 in Providers: Average Number of Appointments
Nope! But If they watch my porn videos they can be satisfied 24/7.
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SoFlGuy reacted to + ApexNomad in How to teach a provider how to top better?
Over the years I’ve learned that being direct about your needs is never an insult IF it comes from a place of clarity and kindness. You’re not telling him he’s bad at his job; you’re showing him how to make you a satisfied repeat client, and that’s valuable information. One way to do it without it feeling awkward is to show as much as tell: get on top of him and ride him slow, let him see how that pace feels good and how much you enjoy it. Compliment him while you’re doing it, then suggest a change, something like “I’d love to be under you going at this pace” or “you feel incredible when you move like this.” Positive reinforcement goes a long way.
Remember too, providers want repeat clients, so telling him what works for you isn’t just personal, it’s professional. You’re helping him give better service.
This is a provider you’ve hired regularly, and I’d be hard-pressed to think he wouldn’t be open to making your experiences exactly what you want them to be.
Best of luck to you.
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SoFlGuy got a reaction from + Vegas_Millennial in Jay Alexander
I have met Jay numerous times over the last couple of years. He's an amazing guy who never disappoints. He's incredibly sexy and skilled at what he does, as well as a kind and sweet personality. He radiates great energy when you are with him.
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SoFlGuy reacted to Luv2play in Rentmen.eu vs rent.men
I prefer Eu because it is easier to navigate. I find the rent.men confusing.
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SoFlGuy reacted to MscleLovr in Lizardbrain robbed two banks & went to prison
To answer the OP, I’d avoid. It’s just me: I’m cautious.
I always wear the seatbelt in cars (survived one car crash, shaken but unhurt).
In hotels, I always check the fire exits nearest to the room before I unpack (experienced 2 hotel fires, got out quickly and unhurt).
In commercial aircraft, I pay attention to safety briefings and check location of the exits (been in one incident, hard landing on foam, unhurt)
I know everyone deserves a second chance but I never had “convicted felons OK” on my Seeking ad/profile
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SoFlGuy reacted to + ApexNomad in Can anyone please clarify the meaning of the term “sub”
I was away for a week and this is what I come back to. Thank you @CuriousByNature 😘
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SoFlGuy reacted to Thelatin in Safety issues on RM
I've thankfully never had an issue. I do typically stalk them on RM for a long time to see that they've been around, if they have a twitter I look at that, which leads to IG, Tik Tok etc. I think I can get an idea if they seem "normal" or not. I typically hire athletic Latinos. So if it's a bunch of photos of them on the beach with friends, family, hanging at the gym etc. Plus if they have been reviewed here, even if it's not a great review I'm cool. Good Lord, I'm the Magnum PI of this hobby lol.
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SoFlGuy got a reaction from marylander1940 in Gym expectations
Thanks for a wonderful post that has inspired this lazy ass to get off his butt and back to the gym! I agree with others who have suggested focusing on balance as well as swimming.
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SoFlGuy got a reaction from + Pensant in Gym expectations
Thanks for a wonderful post that has inspired this lazy ass to get off his butt and back to the gym! I agree with others who have suggested focusing on balance as well as swimming.
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SoFlGuy got a reaction from + purplekow in Gym expectations
Thanks for a wonderful post that has inspired this lazy ass to get off his butt and back to the gym! I agree with others who have suggested focusing on balance as well as swimming.