nycman

Focus on yourself.
Minding one’s business is a great non-cosmetic “anti-aging” secret. It’s takes years off the face. 
 
 

Pretty damned rude.  It's nice when the trash takes itself out.

I agree with this. I generally do provide a time or a window especially when I'm traveling. And if the provider isn't available, I move on. 
But if a provider says they're wide open and then declines one or two times you offer, that's a wrap for me. 

I only loan money to old friends or to family members who I am sure need it. And I never loan more money than I can afford to lose. Years ago I "loaned" money to an aunt who needed it for legal help with a family problem, but I told her to pay me back only if she could; she never did. Last year I offered to loan a substantial sum to a longtime friend who I knew was in financial difficulty, so I told her to ask if she needed it, and she hesitated for a few days before finally asking. I suspected she would not be able to pay me back, and in fact it was several months before she repaid me. I then learned that she had sold a valuable artwork that she loved in order to repay me, so when she asked me for another loan recently, I gave it, because I knew that even though she would have difficulty repaying me, she will eventually if she can, and if not, I will just write it off as a gift.

As my father once said to me when I asked for a loan, "Son, if the bank doesn’t think you’re a good risk, why the fuck should I?"
He had a point and I learned a lesson.
Whenever someone asks me for a loan, I either say "no" or I give them the money and never expect it back. I will not ask nor hint to be repaid. I will however, never make another "loan" until the first one is repaid. 
So far that has worked for me. I’m not an ass about helping others. But I’m also not a sucker. And in general our friendships have remained intact. Whether or not they repaid me.

Chalk it up as a lesson.
"Neither a borrower nor a lender be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry."
- Polonius, Hamlet Scene 1, Act 3

Holy crap, that was you in town yesterday?
God, I wanted to run you over. 
grin

Don’t wanna be a sad old gay man?….then don’t be a sad old gay man.
 It really is that simple. Don’t overthink it. 

Don’t wanna be a sad old gay man?….then don’t be a sad old gay man.
 It really is that simple. Don’t overthink it. 

It sounds like you think those are two different groups of people?
grin
“Do I contradict myself?
Very well then I contradict myself,
(I am large, I contain multitudes.)”
― Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass

Abort, and start using your big head. 

Abort, and start using your big head. 

Abort, and start using your big head. 

As my father once said to me when I asked for a loan, "Son, if the bank doesn’t think you’re a good risk, why the fuck should I?"
He had a point and I learned a lesson.
Whenever someone asks me for a loan, I either say "no" or I give them the money and never expect it back. I will not ask nor hint to be repaid. I will however, never make another "loan" until the first one is repaid. 
So far that has worked for me. I’m not an ass about helping others. But I’m also not a sucker. And in general our friendships have remained intact. Whether or not they repaid me.

Yes, I am embarrassed that I went for it. I was tempted to keep my idiocy private, but then the value of this site is that we have the opportunity to educate each other. So I hang my head in shame but hopefully will help someone else. 

Holy crap, that was you in town yesterday?
God, I wanted to run you over. 
grin

Die young.

Holy crap, that was you in town yesterday?
God, I wanted to run you over. 
grin

Holy crap, that was you in town yesterday?
God, I wanted to run you over. 
grin

It sounds like you think those are two different groups of people?
grin
“Do I contradict myself?
Very well then I contradict myself,
(I am large, I contain multitudes.)”
― Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass

I enjoy being myself. Always have.
Maybe the "limpwristed" crowd don't enjoy my frankness, but enough of the gentlemen here do...So I refute this accusation that any opinion about physical appearance on a site that frequently discusses physical appearance is "mean" if it's not pretending to be kind.
No victim/ no crime.

Don’t wanna be a sad old gay man?….then don’t be a sad old gay man.
 It really is that simple. Don’t overthink it. 

good luck finding a provider who is less than 300.  look for a new hobby if that is out of budget