nycman

I've stayed in hundreds of hotels all over the world....never once had a sexual encounter with the staff.
 
I was taught early on...."Don't fuck the help"
 
Just this last week I had a bellman in NYC linger in my room.
He asked me three or four times if there was anything else he could help me with.....
I just had flashbacks to Dominique Strauss-Kahn.....
 
"No thanks...I'm fine"
 
Don't fuck the help!

If?

I used to get “kennel cough”, or at the very least a URI/sore throat, every time I visited a bathhouse. I didn’t go that often, but it was often enough that it was annoying. When I went, I routinely hooked up with three or four guys each night. I learned to use an antiseptic mouthwash before and after every encounter and the problems seemed to go away. Even though my Bathhouse Betty days are long behind me, it’s a practice I continue today, before and after every sexual encounter. Anecdotal evidence at best, but it works for me. Hope it helps you.

Picture it…..
Philadelphia.
1995.
A very young (and unbeknownst to him, strikingly beautiful) NYCman is leaving Woody’s after a rare unsuccessful night of cruising. I stumbled upon a tall, dark, ripped, handsome, rugged man in torn jeans. He smelled of roofing tar and desperation. I was right on both accounts. I took him back to my apartment and we spent a wonderful evening together.
Although we hadn’t discussed it ahead of time, in the afterglow, it became obvious he expected to be paid. I had absolutely no money. I mean seriously, I had to save up for “Dollar Margarita Night”. And even then, I could only afford one margarita. So I gave him a pair of my jeans. When he realized I only had 2 pair of jeans to my name, and I was willing to give him one of them, he started crying.
At first, he refused to take them. When I pointed out, there wasn’t much left of his old jeans to even put on, he begrudgingly accepted them. I’ll never forget how happy he was when he put my jeans on. He also showed me the knife he had planned to use to rob me and told me to be more careful in the future. 
Several times after that, I saw him on the street outside Woody’s after closing and he would come to crash at my place. The smell of roofing tar still makes me hard.
God, I’ve had a fun life!

Click the profile link and you’ll see that @JB_Studio38 is Jarred.
JB, you’ll need to figure this one out.   I have thoughts, but alas, history would suggest you don’t want to hear our thoughts and advice. 

Just stumbled on this one today. It’s a small study of Chinese gay men who are primarily tops, but if the numbers hold up it’s damn impressive. After one year, no one in the circumcision group got HIV while about 4% of the control group did.
Previous studies have shown about a 50% reduction in HIV transmission in heterosexual African males following circumcision. So I wouldn’t expect the "zero transmission" rate to hold up in larger studies, nonetheless it appears to have an effect. 

Circumcision for HIV Prevention
Gao Y et al. Ann Intern Med 2024 May 28
Among men who have sex with men in China, voluntary medical circumcision reduced risk for HIV infection.
The intervention was highly effective: No HIV seroconversions occurred among 124 men receiving circumcision at study entry, and 5 HIV seroconversions occurred among 123 men in the control group (P=0.025). No between-group differences in risk for other sexually transmitted infections (HSV-2, syphilis, and penile HPV) were noted.

Ummmm……no.
There are plenty of studies showing the health benefits of circumcision.  I’m not for it or against it, but I am in favor of facts. Do I it think it’s genital mutilation? Yes. Do I believe there are health benefits? Yes. Both of those statements can be true, no matter how much people on both sides of the argument wish they weren’t. 
On the "universal beauty" front, there are in fact attributes that humans find universally attractive in other humans. Again, I’m not advocating one way or the other. It’s not so much about "white western standards", hair color, or ethnicity, as it is about symmetry and perceived power. I love the rainbow and all its colors/flavors, but denying facts doesn’t make them untrue. 

I must admit, it’s really hot when I’m out cruising and a guy turns his baseball cap around and drops to his knees.

If, and only if, U is actually U. 
If you look at the original U=U study, there were several seroconversions, when U wasn’t really U. Those got discounted, but in real life, those guys became infected with HIV. And that’s what really matters. 

If, and only if, U is actually U. 
If you look at the original U=U study, there were several seroconversions, when U wasn’t really U. Those got discounted, but in real life, those guys became infected with HIV. And that’s what really matters. 

After seeing his pics, I came up with the conclusion that anybody can be an escort these days.

That description has more red flags than a May Day parade in Pyongyang.

Here is a pretty good itinerary for an overnight, provided by @Rod Hagen:
Knock on the door, on time. Walk in.
 
1. meet and greet and kiss deep and fuck around.
2. Rest and talk and kiss and cuddle.
3. fuck around. Shower together.
4. dinner and convo
5. fuck around again then either
Bath together or it's also fun to mess around in the empty hotel pool at night.
then fuck around again.
6. Maybe another shower together. Get ready together, like a long term couple, for bed.
7. Cuddle tight and Sleep.
8. Fuck around in the middle of the night.
9. Cuddle Tight and Sleep.
10. Wake up blowjobs all around.
11. Coffee and cuddling in bed.
12. Morning fuck around.
13. Breakfast in the room, each with one hand on the other's bits
14. As much fucking around as you can handle post, burp, breakfast.
15. Shower together again.
16. Fish out the dicks from the pants for one more blowjob at the door.
17. Kiss his forehead, kiss his hand. Make out deep. Grab his hand and thank him for a wonderful night looking right at him. One more deep kiss. Leave the hotel room.
 
 
 
 
Five minutes later, knock on the door because you forgot the money. Kiss again. Say goodbye.
 
Now, that's an unplanned overnight.
 
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That WAS the question….right?

I feel a Hiaku coming on…..
Rainbow flags waving,
In Philadelphia's embrace,
Gay ass finds its home.

As they say….
"Neurosurgery….it ain’t brain surgery".
grin

For those not raised on an excessive diet of Monty Python skits:
 

And if you know anything about exclusive clubs in New York, some are so exclusive that they cease to exist.

But if you’ve seen him before….then there’s REALLY no reason to send a deposit.
You’re a known entity. It’s ridiculous. 
Mind you, I won’t send a deposit under any circumstances, but if someone
I had seen before asked for one, it would be an even bigger red flag, not a smaller one. 
Just my 2 cents. Im sorry this happened to you @Cliff. 

Yeah, again, it is considered a mild infection and common among roughhousing kids, and teammates apparently. (I'm very nearly an expert now, as things growing on one's willy tends to get one googling like a Karen trying to justify not vaxxing her kids. 😒) 

Fair point. I did read that when the bumps are found around the genital area in children, its a marker for physicians to investigate SA. But yes, I said that because its also spread through more or less casual contact. In fact I allowed that other 5% possibility from the health club. But I think that's more "pregnancy from a toilet seat" territory than a real likelihood.