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I am sure I posted this somewhere, but it fits here too. I used to wonder about people like Reese Rideout, someone sexy, seemingly intelligent, happily married, who, at times, seemed to be willing to do anything to make a buck with his body. I thought, "Why don't you just get a job somewhere and be super successful at it?" When someone leaves the adult industry, you figure there must be something about it unappealing enough to take them away. Then, I moved across country to follow my dreams, got into my industry of choice and found myself miserable, gaining weight, loathing the thought of getting out of bed in the mornings, depressed, super stressed, and on a couple occassions, wondering if I actually wanted to make it home safely after work. One boss, I actually thought about seeing him a copy of the movie "Horrible Bosses" with a note saying, "This is you." My original career after college was education. I worked 80 hours a week and made so little, there times I bought classroom supplies instead of fruit for the week. I was a perfectionist and cared way too much. Inbetween, I had an incredible job, but there was no way I would be able to retire on the salary or even maintain my home long term. So, if someone likes doing this work and it feeds their spirit instead of kills it, I now give then a round of applause. Many of us work for companies that would pay us minimum wage and work us from dawn to dusk, if they could, forcing us to do the work of two people.

I tried the first episode and couldn't get into it. I meant to try another because I had heard so much about it but never got around to it. The director/creator, however, is right up my alley. I look forward to seeing his "Best Christmas Pageant Ever" movie next month.

I am so thankful I got to see him live once in "Into the Woods" on tour. I thought, "Now I can see why people love him." I also enjoyed him in the live capture of "She Loves Me." Thank God one of his performances will live on on screen. From all accounts, he seemed like an amazing person.

I am not ireally nto anal sex, which makes it all easier for me. But I do enjoy visiting public sex spaces to watch from time to time, and the multi-partner raw sex gives me pause when I think about all the other things that can be exchanged. I got an STI from just kissing someone, so in the years since, I have become too cautious. I don't want to play with my health, and if so many people are out there having unhibited fun, it seems easier for other things to pass around. As cougar said, there could be something new going around too at some point. My taste preference is for ongoing, meaningful connections with limited partners, but for me in LA, that is like buying a winning lottery ticket. So, part of me wishes I could let myself go, go on PrEP and DoxyPep, and join the fray.

I used to see these as church events.

It was a normal Adonis night. The two guys I wanted to see (not any of the headliners) didn't show, which was frustrating. Plenty of hot guys, though. I found a new favorite, Caleb. I haven't been back since the new lighting. It's still way too dark. If you can't see if a guy is cut or not, can't tell what their ethnicity is, or can't tell their size, it's too dark.

Is anyone going tonight?

Very tragic. I am so happy he set himself straight.

Maybe they are not just expecting, only hoping? Maybe these are people not worth responding to. I do not have a hiring fund, and when the massage guy in my area who was in budget moved away, I respected the profession too much to try offering someone less than they list. I do feel, as clearly you do, that it is disrespectful to negotiate with someone who gives so much of their body and risks their safety to make others feel good. What you offer people deserves to be respected with your asking price. I am sorry people don't respect that.

Thank you for sharing your story and the movie trailer. I hope I realize when it comes to my city.

I was really interested in this show, was going to get Netflix to catch it, but now I'm not so sure. It seems like another Ryan Murphy masturbatory exercise, but this time, it feels manipulative because he's exploiting real-life brothers. Am I wrong in this assessment? Is he saying this is what happened?

Another tragic waste of a life. He could have used all that energy to do remarkable things in this world, to help people better themselves, all while he had a healthy, kinky, consenual sex life on the side. Very, very sad. In my youth, I interviewed for a job working for him. I was heartbroken when I didn't get it. Well, that was a land mine avoided!

I am not experienced enough to answer that; however, I have worked for businesses before. We sold a service to our clients. We would not have provided the service without pay, but that didn't mean we didn't care for them as people and meet their needs for the right reasons. The staff got paid to provide a service, but they cared about the people they were working for, sometimes working a bit longer unpaid or taking client calls on personal time because they cared.

Not a fan of tattoos. Someone has to really stir my porridge to look sexy with excessive tattoos. Jordan Brandt of Brandt's Boys in one who remains sexy despite his awful taste in tattoos. Those arm sleeve tattoos looked sexy once upon a time, until Joe Jock turned 30, had a couple kids, and now draws attention to the lack of muscle definition in his arms.

That is tragic. The violence and crime in this country is out of control. All this over a watch? It saddens me to igo nto Targets and Walmarts to see laundry detergent and deodorant locked up. What's next???

This sounds so good! I wish I could see this with Sutton Foster and her standby Kara Lindsay. I'm not sure which one I wish I could see more!

I know he was just there as a coach, but Samuel Mikulak is still the hottest

That's a great idea, but I do not have a space to host.

That's appalling the Grindr is selling info. This is why I also haven't subscribed to OnlyFans/JFF, even though I want to. I remember housesitting my for boss and the awkwardness of collecting his mail, which frequently had blatant porn-site ads ("Sexual Content Inside!"). I would be mortified if the shoe was on the other foot.

These days, it seems like if the Brits get it first, we are less likely to get a recording with the Broadway cast (Sister Act, Mary Poppins, Company all come to mind).

I recently saw the tour. I had seen the show once before in a community theatre production. It was fine enough, but overall, I don't think the tour registered. Something about the translation and the staging didn't feel spot-on. I did not pick up on the couples tap issue bostonman mentioned in "Side By Side" because I know the score better than the show, but the number needed something more; it didn't feel weighty enough. Our lead has a beautiful voice, but she didn't have the heft to make "Being Alive" a major revelation. I think the moment needs a belter, not just a pretty voice that almost gets drowned out by the orchestra. I would cast her in any other role in the world; I just don't think her vocal style suited the character in some of the solos. On the shallow end, I loved seeing Jacob Dickey in his blue briefs so much during the show!

It is a sexual space. Like a locker room or bathroom, some of us are simply uncomfortable sharing them with women.

I just don't feel comfortable with women in gay spaces, particularly when skimpy clothing, nudity, or fun activity is involved. I am thankful LA Adonis keeps it male only.

In 2022, I called 911 after witnessing a car accident on the 405 in Los Angeles. I got voicemail.

No. Respect the profession. When people put themselves out there to make porn, we benefit from their decision that risks a lot in their lives. This quarrel might very well be your friend's fault too. Miscommunication and misunderstanding happens. If you can't handle that, rejection, or flakiness, stay off the apps.