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It looks like you've made up your mind. Personally, I would get HBO to watch it! But I think you are risking too much with your kids. There is too much potential for the secret side to come out. That could, for some people, taint the good you intend to do.

And I believe there is a nude night coming up on Saturday. Get on the email list!

Thank you @Balthazar @regdadtype I still had an awesome time. I feel like there were dancers who got pulled into the lap dance room and never came out. Good for them.

There was. But he is also there on regular nights.

Good idea! I am not super tech savvy. Because I can only find the pic in an email, I can't share a URL to upload the photos. I uploaded it for 24 hours to a temp photo hosting site: https://app.unsee.cc/?v=1#65afdf17

Does anyone know if Joshua is an escort or masseur? I feel like I've seen an ad for him somewhere before, but it was under a different name.

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That's awful. I once had something not as invasive but definitely unpleasant pop up. I needed malware to remove the pop up. Scary but, in the end, nothing bad happened.

I do think effeminate traits come from relationships with mothers. My nephew, for example, used to walk around in high heels as a toddler, carrying his mother's purse. We copy what we see. He, however, had an active and involved father, so he no longer wants to be like his mother. What if he didn't have an active and involved father? Would he be effeminate on some level? I think so. Would he be gay? I guess that's the question here. My mother was also strong and dominant. However, I know plenty of gay men who had rough relationships with their fathers without dominant mothers. I also know gay men who had great parents with mothers who were equal to their fathers and still turned out gay. My brother was abused by a family friend. I was not. He is straight, I am not. The video I watched implied that the majority of people with bad parent relationships or facing abuse turn out to be heterosexual.

I'm sorry you had that experience. Sometimes, life just hands us lemons, and we have to share them to get it out of our systems. Hair stylists get that a lot, I'm told. This probably reflects on the stylist as his/her personal problems as well (or more so). I wouldn't take it too personally, but maybe be aware in the future of focusing on the positive as well as the negative. It can be hard to be around someone who is constantly and only negative.

I use paper towels! The Target brand ones work great! I used to shoot into the toilet, but then my body decided it preferred being in bed when I jerk one out. I was chatting with a guy on the phone, and he told me he had shot his load into a paper towel. My life was forever changed. I have a hairy body, so cleaning cum is a little more difficult. I just have to work to make sure I don't shoot too far. Now that I am temporarily unemployed, I go through paper towels much faster than before.

I couldn't glean much from the article, probably because I don't know enough about genetics. I'd be curious to understand how they calculated the 30%. Plus, I wonder how might sexual exploration have watered down the findings. If I had sex with a woman once, is that a reflection of opposite-sex attraction or a desire to try something new? Gman, I was watching a video from a Christian organization online the other day where a researcher noted that studies show that most people who report faulty relationships with parents still end up heterosexual. My earliest sexual fantasies involved vivid imagery of group oral sex among men. I would have had no idea of homosexuality at that point.

For me, this issue is a real struggle. I have been in an odd relationship with a guy 18 years older than myself for a little over a year (I just came out to myself about a year-and-a-half ago). I wanted to be closed. In fact, part of the reason I denied to myself that I was actually gay was because I didn't want to be in an open relationship. In the scenario in my mind (which, granted, for many years involved marrying a woman, which was never going to happen), I wanted to be with one person in a traditional style relationship. About 8 months in, he tells me we should be open, that it's better for relationships in the long run. I honestly believe he was mostly thinking of me because I was still just coming out and hadn't fully explored and he has some health issues that affect his erection, although I know he loves a good hook up. "I'm not the jealous type," he said. It was hard to hear but also a relief because I just wasn't getting anything. Plus, the fact that we are both non-anal tops and he doesn't give oral was a big problem. I would see him on the weekends and would be jumping out of my skin just to feel something more than a hug or a quick hand job. At first, it was nice because it took the pressure off the relationship to address my sexual needs. But then, it started to play with my head. There were a couple guys with whom I had great connections where they'd say, "Your relationship is f-ed up. I wouldn't want to share you." I really like my guy, though to be honest, we have little in common. Still, I am committed to finding out what we have together and would never hurt his feelings. Being with a hot guy with whom you have a great connection . . . who says this, how could it not play with my head? I realized maybe I wanted a guy who valued me enough to feel jealous. Plus, in my heart, I didn't want to be open. It didn't feel right to me, and I felt like I had violated who I am and what I wanted. How could I come out to friends without feeling like I was in a relationship they would respect? As time went on, being open was killing me slowly. All I wanted was sex with my guy, but we aren't compatible. Still, I am attracted to him and he is enough for me. But when you aren't getting satisfying sex with your guy (not even making out), and you see that he's chatting with other guys . . . it was really hard. You start thinking, "Why can he be sexual with them and not with me?" And, to be honest, having your boyfriend say, "Hey, sexy" is really great until you realize you share a nickname with twenty other guys. My guy is always on the apps. I know chatting is a huge part of his life and has been for years. It's difficult for me to deal with, but I am trying to accept it. One night, I was in bed with him, and I was cuddling him. He probably thought I was asleep. I saw him chatting online. I could have sworn I saw a conversation from earlier in the week where he had given his address to someone. His address was in the message. I couldn't see the rest. Here I was sexually frustrated and feeling rejected. Emotionally, I shut down. He swears he didn't give his address to anyone (whether he hooked up was not the point; we were open. He had the right.), but it was a difficult weekend for me. Right now, we are closed, but I don't think this will be the end of the issue. Part of the problem is communication. We don't communicate, and I don't know how to initiate communication without it being perceived as drama.

I don't even think you need to clog the toilet. Give him a call and ask him if he could use some cash. Then, report back to use all the details!

When I was doing research on going to strip clubs to get lap dances, I learned that you have to be up front with expectations, or you can find yourself (with some dancers), getting four songs when you only want one. So, I say right away, "I only want one." Perhaps try saying that up front. When you text the guy or call, say, "It's really important that we are done in 3 hours. I have a hard time saying good-bye, but I can't have you more than 3 hours." Then, it's up to you to reinforce it if needed. When dancers try to entice me for a second dance, I am the one who has to decline. But I always get offered and never get taken advantage of.

My only experience was with a guy I was chatting with on A4A. He convinced me to come over, but it turned out he was a manager at a hotel, working. He had a room there since he had just moved to the city. I walked past him at the front desk, following his directions to the room. He followed at a distance and met me at the room. That was a hot night. We repeated it again, this time when he wasn't staying there and in an open room. He was the first guy I actually topped. We met a third time, and he ghosted me. This is not exactly on topic, but it's what happened.

I have been there on vacation. Weeknights can be dead, but I found jockstrap night full and full of eye candy. Hang around long enough on any night, and you can see all sorts of things.

He probably has hygiene issues or has had them in the past. Why else would he be so sensitive? There is no reason why he should have taken offense at what you wrote. Perhaps you dodged a smelly bullet.

Someone, please tell us what happened!

I could totally see myself freezing and being caught between my fear, my need to be polite, and feeling panicked and unable to form the right words. I am really sorry this happened to you.

This won't help you with kneeling, but I had an older buddy who would rest his head on my inner thigh while he went to town. Felt amazing and loved having his head there.

How was Alex Mecum? I would have enjoyed meeting him.

The last time I went (on a Wednesday), it was the other way around. A lot of the dancers seemed more interested in chit chatting amongst themselves than the patrons. Literally, they seemed to be there to hang out in their underwear more than earn money, and a few dancers spent an hour or so chatting with one patron. The patrons can't touch dancers in certain areas, but a lot of the dancers were touch each other in those areas without a problem. Still, there were enough attentive dancers, I enjoyed myself.

Thank you for sharing this. As a big guy myself (both height and weight), I had a similar experience at a sex party. I really went to watch but was surprised that not only was I not the biggest there, no one cared that I was naked and was actually fending off some hot guys. I was new to the city and didn't know anyone, and going to the party filled the need I had, to be around people and have a few human interactions (that weren't sex). And I think I would be the same way with a porn star or escort. I would love to get to know them more than, well, get to KNOW them. Thank you for sharing!

Personally, I would talk to my doctor before (intentionally) having sex with someone who is poz, just because I am that cautious. For example, kissing is safe; however, what if you have gum problems? What if the person isn't exact with their meds? Online info is great, but it can't answer questions. And, a doctor will give you the straight up answer. I appreciate that you are respectful of him while being cautious for yourself. Poz men face much rejection, I'm sure, when it is not a reflection on their sexiness or their quality as human beings. And, it is a testament to your escort's character that he was upfront with you about it. Please let us know how it went, @youngboldone .