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This reminds me of a day when one of my staff members, who happened to be pregnant, walked into the office looking very perturbed. Some woman in the elevator, whom she had never seen before, asked her if she was going to breast feed and if she was going to have natural childbirth or a C-section.
 
She suggested the woman try wearing deodorant. She said it was the first thing that popped into her head.

As others have intimated, Gman, you are not the problem. The "problem" is that you have not yet found the right therapist.
 
Also, you may be misunderstanding the purpose of therapy. "Insight" into your problems might be helpful, but I've never found insight to be very therapeutic. A person may know that he is unhappy b/c his mom never gave him much love, but how does that knowledge improve his life? Therapy is actually about one thing: CHANGE. If you're not changing things about yourself (how you think, how you act, how you live your daily life), nothing's gonna happen. And, most people (myself included) don't want to change. Even if our lives are miserable, better the devil we know. But, IMHO, if you really want to get better, you're gonna have to start changing some things. I'm not sure what those changes are -- but that is what you and your therapist need to find out.
 
It's not a cliché - if nothing changes, nothing changes. True story: as a therapist, I worked with a middle-aged man years ago who was horribly depressed - he had been laid off from his job and had no family support. He lost his will to live. He said he had no purpose in life. I was pretty sure he was going to end it all. At the end of one session, I asked him to "do something different this week" - I don't care what it is, just do something different." Lo and behold, he went to the community center where he sat and watched others play ping-pong. Then, someone challenged him to a game. Next thing you know he's going every day to play ping-pong. He started making a few friends. He started to gain weight. And for the first time, I saw him smile. He still had his "down periods" but they were fewer and further apart. Small changes sometimes make a big difference.

I would pay extra for the sweat.

I would answer "what specifically are you looking for?".
 
Kevin Slater

A provider wants to know you're not trouble or hard. I tell them "don't worry, I'm easy." It may sound like setting yourself up but it isn't. It's what's running through his head with a new client when you're talking with him. Unless you're into violent S&M or serious kink, he's going to give you what he always does anyway. And if he's grouchy you can come back with "I'm an easy client but......"
 
Providers fear psycho freak clients. It only takes one.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

My dear Friendofsheila,
 
I am going to write something that might send some NorthAmerican sensibilities into a frenzied tizzy. I say fuck rules, fuck sensibilities, fuck aesthetics, fuck what others might think. I wholeheartedly recommend you to try on a few different pairs of bathing suits and when you find the one with which you feel the best, the most comfortable, the sexiest, the most mobile then commit to it and wear it with pride. Beyond abs, much father than herculean glutes and a behemoth of a bulge, there is nothing sexier than confidence, relaxation and to see a man who is at peace with what he is wearing, owns it and asks for nobody's permission.
 
Life is so punily short, hard and elusively fleeting to waste any second of it.
 
May you find the sexiest, most amazing pair that makes you feel that you love who you are now.
 
Beach power to you, my brother!

As a long-time lurker, I can also add that some newbies seem to come here specifically to pursue a vendetta against a provider or client, or to promote his own services under cover of a pseudonym. It's usually fairly obvious and the newbie gets banned, or shut down by actual members, or just gets bored and takes his trolling elsewhere.

My preference is gorgeous & wealthy.
 
My reality is breathing and not indigent.

Guilty. Love em-looking at em, stroking them, sniffing them, licking them. One of my favorite parts of an encounter with a sweaty guy is smelling like him for the rest of the day.

The freedom of speech is a guarantee against censorship BY THE GOVERNMENT. A corporation, on the other hand, can do whatever it wants. Therefore this is not a blow to free speech.

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love these two guys!

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love these two guys!

You might be truly aromantic. After all I'm sure there are straight guys who may only want sex. There may even be women who only want sex too. On the other hand saying you could see yourself having a non-sexual, but romantic, relationship with a woman seems to indicate that at least fantasy-wise you might crave affection on some level.
 
It seems to me this could be something that therapy might help you explore better.
 
Gman