Shawn Monroe

For me, I usually work in the nude, unless the client prefers otherwise. I also say that respectable mutual touch is encouraged.
many times it’s a comfort level. But other times, if you’re working in the nude, some clients can take that as an invitation to try to get YOU off for their entire appointment instead of enjoying their massage. 

For me, I usually work in the nude, unless the client prefers otherwise. I also say that respectable mutual touch is encouraged.
many times it’s a comfort level. But other times, if you’re working in the nude, some clients can take that as an invitation to try to get YOU off for their entire appointment instead of enjoying their massage. 

I’m at the point where - especially if I’m driving - I’ll book my hotel for an extra day, with the intention of checking out by 2-4. If I go over it gives me peace. 
 
but currently the price of hotels isn’t going down. There’s not much to do right now except build points, and travel to cities in off peak times. 

I'm not "touring", but I like @Shawn Monroe 's idea of booking an extra full night even if you don't intend to stay that last night......being able to entertain guests clear thru that afternoon and evening, even if you plan to pack up and go somewhere down the road at 6, 8, or10pm, would be one less worry.......
and the 'grievances' you list about hotel policy, @Jarrod_Uncut , are standard operating procedure for most hotels......you suggest, for example, that you don't like to wake up early and are then rushed to pack your several bags minutes before check-out......not the hotel's fault!!.......you may want to inquire (at check-in) if a half-day charge is available with a 4pm or 6pm check-out........
the suggestions to join hotel rewards clubs and/or get a credit card with hotel loyalty perks are good ones......sounds like you already do this to some extent......
and please don't suggest a hotel employee is a "bitch" with whom to go "ape shit"....(I know you didn't say that to her face, I assume).......unprofessional and selfish!
 

I’m at the point where - especially if I’m driving - I’ll book my hotel for an extra day, with the intention of checking out by 2-4. If I go over it gives me peace. 
 
but currently the price of hotels isn’t going down. There’s not much to do right now except build points, and travel to cities in off peak times. 

I’m at the point where - especially if I’m driving - I’ll book my hotel for an extra day, with the intention of checking out by 2-4. If I go over it gives me peace. 
 
but currently the price of hotels isn’t going down. There’s not much to do right now except build points, and travel to cities in off peak times. 

For me, I usually work in the nude, unless the client prefers otherwise. I also say that respectable mutual touch is encouraged.
many times it’s a comfort level. But other times, if you’re working in the nude, some clients can take that as an invitation to try to get YOU off for their entire appointment instead of enjoying their massage. 

Speaking from experience, doing this by yourself can be lonely and isolating. At the very least, having someone to travel, eat, and share the experience with can make it less so. 
 
even though he’s no longer available, Jeremy Davis (remember him?) and I did a few trips together (LA, DC, Seattle) he worked atlanta and stayed near me, and we would dovetail some cities; one would get in on the day the other was leaving, and we’d share a meal. 

This Is a hard question to answer, especially openly; most clients don’t want to pay more, and anything said that frames it like that would be seen negatively. 
in my opinion, what was lost with rentboy closing and SESTA/FOSTA passing was the ability to get our profiles seen by more people.
even though rentboy was already closed, when SESTA/FOSTA passed, men4rentnow closed, Craigslist closed down the m4m section, Rentmen started calling providers “pornstars” and all other weird shit happened that made things more difficult.  
i like to use the analogy of visiting a beach town (since I’m from Houston, it would be Galveston). There’s virtually no competition there, but seeing as they used to have a gay bar, there is probably some demand on the island or the mainland. We aren’t really able to run paid search, display, or social media ads, but getting eyes in front of people in smaller cities would be great so the only cities worth traveling to aren’t big metroplexes. 

This Is a hard question to answer, especially openly; most clients don’t want to pay more, and anything said that frames it like that would be seen negatively. 
in my opinion, what was lost with rentboy closing and SESTA/FOSTA passing was the ability to get our profiles seen by more people.
even though rentboy was already closed, when SESTA/FOSTA passed, men4rentnow closed, Craigslist closed down the m4m section, Rentmen started calling providers “pornstars” and all other weird shit happened that made things more difficult.  
i like to use the analogy of visiting a beach town (since I’m from Houston, it would be Galveston). There’s virtually no competition there, but seeing as they used to have a gay bar, there is probably some demand on the island or the mainland. We aren’t really able to run paid search, display, or social media ads, but getting eyes in front of people in smaller cities would be great so the only cities worth traveling to aren’t big metroplexes. 

It's really a double-edged sword. It seems the men I'm interested in seeing on major holidays are close with their family, so are not available. I was accused of being incredibly inconsiderate to even ask with one of them. Understand, BECAUSE it's a major holiday, I have the time off that normally I don't.
I'm glad to see that more of you are open to meets regardless of the day it is. I presume business still isn't brisk on those days because of the client's fear of potentially being inconsiderate to ask. 

I reserve the day of Christmas and day of Thanksgiving for family. Some of the people at these gatherings I may only see once or twice a year. One member is near the end of his expected life. Not missing that.

I hope though you don't tell your family you can't come to a family xmas function to take a client instead. I have worked places where I was able to get pretty much unlimited overtime at this time of year but I realized money is not the be all end all and it was important to have some downtime and make time for family.

Doing this kind of work it is easy to get drawn into saying “yes” to all requests for bookings because you don’t want to turn down the business (you never know when the clients might stop coming). But I’ve found it’s important to draw some boundaries and keep some time sacrosanct for yourself. So whilst I’m happy to see clients on Christmas Eve, I’ll not take any bookings for 25th or 26th. 

I will also say that traveling can increase your demand on both sides - show your face to a new city, but also show your home city you’re not always available. 

One of those questions that can have a counterintuitive answer. It’s not always what you’d assume!
 
for me It's Memorial Day weekend. Particularly Friday. For may it’s the first holiday since new years. 
other holidays will vary. 
Other busy times will be when conferences are in town. Like americas mart in atlanta in January. 
some SAY Saturday night is busy but not really. And do you wanna deal with someone drunk and horny after the bar? 

anyway 

This Is a hard question to answer, especially openly; most clients don’t want to pay more, and anything said that frames it like that would be seen negatively. 
in my opinion, what was lost with rentboy closing and SESTA/FOSTA passing was the ability to get our profiles seen by more people.
even though rentboy was already closed, when SESTA/FOSTA passed, men4rentnow closed, Craigslist closed down the m4m section, Rentmen started calling providers “pornstars” and all other weird shit happened that made things more difficult.  
i like to use the analogy of visiting a beach town (since I’m from Houston, it would be Galveston). There’s virtually no competition there, but seeing as they used to have a gay bar, there is probably some demand on the island or the mainland. We aren’t really able to run paid search, display, or social media ads, but getting eyes in front of people in smaller cities would be great so the only cities worth traveling to aren’t big metroplexes. 

I will also say that traveling can increase your demand on both sides - show your face to a new city, but also show your home city you’re not always available. 

Speaking from experience, doing this by yourself can be lonely and isolating. At the very least, having someone to travel, eat, and share the experience with can make it less so. 
 
even though he’s no longer available, Jeremy Davis (remember him?) and I did a few trips together (LA, DC, Seattle) he worked atlanta and stayed near me, and we would dovetail some cities; one would get in on the day the other was leaving, and we’d share a meal. 

Speaking from experience, doing this by yourself can be lonely and isolating. At the very least, having someone to travel, eat, and share the experience with can make it less so. 
 
even though he’s no longer available, Jeremy Davis (remember him?) and I did a few trips together (LA, DC, Seattle) he worked atlanta and stayed near me, and we would dovetail some cities; one would get in on the day the other was leaving, and we’d share a meal. 

Let me say,  I do contact a client (especially a new one),  with a text after,  thanking them for booking me,  that I enjoyed the time and to please let me know if I can be of service again.    I text one time (only)  after the service.    I think it works,  I've never had complaints,  however I only have one text like that.

I used a young fellow from Vermont for several years to do Thai massage. He would always message me to let me know when he'd be in NYC next.
I enjoyed his skills (and the extras) so I can't imagine being "annoyed" at him reaching out to book an appointment.
 

Yes, but the providers who have done that have gotten the no when I've said it. Also, I am very clear. I state that at the time I'm not planning on another session, but maybe in the future, and that I will reach out to him when I'm ready. The provider has been respectful of my wishes, and I have reached out at a later time. Have you been that clear?
I had one who called me after, but he was interested in becoming my friend. I chatted a little with him, but also stated that there are certain times/days when I am not available for talking. We talked a few times after and the he just faded.
Today there are ways of dealing with pushy providers if they become pushy, but the most important thing is clarity and being specific about your boundaries.

Have you checked your junk email lately?

When I was first starting, I messaged every appointment thanking them and asking for reviews because it’s imperative to get reviews. 
 
i still reach out when I’m traveling, but after two trips I don’t hear back from them, I move to my “do not text” list until I hear from them. 
 
anything more is obsessive