Shawn Monroe

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Maybe they are in an appointment? 

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If he has an OF or JFF site, I doubt that the provider would let *you* record the session since the whole point of making the video is to make money for *him*.  He would most likely want to control what happens with the video.  I think he’s either looking for willing guys to film and make money off of on his own OF/JFF site or not-so-subtly putting himself out there for potential porn hiring offers.  

Not necessarily - check with to confirm. I pulled my ads for about a year when I was diagnosing and going through being diagnosed with MS and it all got to be too much. I still have my regulars despite not advertising as much. 

The topic of suspected law enforcement showing up pretending to be a client or an escort has been discussed here dozens of times (that I can remember) in various threads.  I don't remember who shared it, but the best advice I heard was: 
When you or he shows up for the appointment, immediately start with a long passionate kiss when the door is first opened.  That SHOULD be enough to guarantee that the other person is not an undercover cop.

Psst...   You're letting your fragile bias show.

Even if you consider it a ‘side hustle’ you’ll need to be utterly professional in your approach: get decent pics done (not phone selfies), advertise your service (and like @ApexNomadsaid, know what your USP is), be available when clients want you which might be difficult if you’re doing full time work. You’ll need to be flexible with your time otherwise you’ll be turning a lot of clients down. Price your services correctly to fit your chosen market. Have a professional set up with a good table, proper oils etc. Be on time, reliable, consistent and customer oriented. In other words don’t treat it like a side hustle. 
How do I know? I’ve been doing it for 7 years, have lots of regular clients, and great reviews on RentMasseur. Good luck, it’s a fantastic job if you put the effort in. 
 

I’ll speak strictly as a client—so I defer to the professionals who actually do this for a living, but I’ll say this: If you’re offering a service, especially one where people are paying you for your time, body, and energy, then you need to communicate why someone should choose you.
Right now, this reads more like a fantasy than a business. You mention being turned on by the idea of getting paid, but from a client’s perspective, that doesn’t tell me what I’m getting in return. What makes you good at this? What’s your style, your vibe, your niche? Is it sensual, therapeutic, deep-tissue, connection-based? Are you intuitive, strong-handed, good with nervous clients? Etc.
This might be a side hustle for you, but to a client spending real money, it’s not a side experience. So if you’re serious, advertise with intention. Let us know what makes you worth booking—beyond the fact that you enjoy it.

That’s a shame. I was kind of hoping…

Perhaps it depends on whether it's a masseur or an escort that's doing the asking. I feel that ghosting someone is rude, but it's so fucking commonplace with communication, perhaps I need to start excommunicating someone when I'm asked to send a picture, instead of complying, then getting rejected.
I'm not at all attractive, which is why I'm doing the donating! I'm not implying that every single solitary time I send a picture, a meet-up doesn't transpire, but it is getting more and more common for me to send a photo of myself when I'm asked, and not get a reply back at all, which is what happened to me today. I saw a guy advertising who rocked my world, and had similar sexual interests. Communication was fine, up until I sent a photo, and then, nothing. I reached out a couple of hours later, and now I must chalk it up that he has a visual scale that I fail, so better to be rejected ahead of time then on the day of. 

No.  It means they come from mixed ethnicities.

Do others make an assumption when someone looks in the face like they're Latino or Eastern European and list "Mixed" as their ethnicity, that it means that they have a cut cock?
I know better than to ask a masseur if he's cut or not, but asking an escort is very fair game if their dick clearly looks like it's wrapped in foreskin, and they in error assume that it's asking them about body type, not penis appearance. Typically if I privately ask someone on here, they don't have a recollection, as the massage was at best all they might remember about if it was from a long time ago. 

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I’m not sure I’m fully following how this ties into the topic of provider pet peeves. Are you saying that ads with language like naturally born men only or the chastity stuff are turn-offs for you when you’re browsing providers? Just trying to understand the connection a bit better.

Believe people when they show you who they are. He's showing you he only wants to see you when he feels like it and when it's convenient for him. If that's the level of respect and professionalism you're interested in, then hey, go for it. Some men do not mind hot messes but each to their own

Time’s a luxury we all can’t afford to waste, so why keep engaging with someone who doesn’t seem to value it? It’s like giving your energy to something that’s never going to give back.

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All questions welcome fella's. That was a fun read!

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Bisexual men understand this dance. I was always taught to be a gentlemen with the ladies and never push myself on them. Same goes for erotic massage. Make your desire known but allow your provider to make the moves.

Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism.
So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary.  But if you travel far...tip accordingly.
All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen. 
 

If you’ve done the massage correctly then the ‘happy ending’ is simply the sine qua none to a great sensual massage. It cannot therefore be a chore unless the whole sensual massage is a chore, in which case why would one even do sensual massage in the first place?