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I believe that he did. As you said, he died very young - IIRC early 30s. I assumed it was the result of too many steroids.

I have had similar house-guests in the past @The_Impeccable_G I had great experiences with various young Brazilian models coming to Europe for the first time. Also, I’ve had young Australian, American, Italian, Slovak and Polish house-guests. As @FrankR noted above, it pays to be clear (but not crass) about your expectations. And of course, it’s costly - young men eat lots of good food - and I’d have to buy 2 tickets for trips, concerts etc but I enjoyed their company. I have no problem in being clear and open, but I always resist labels. I was surprised at first at just how readily - without my asking - fit young men (often with girlfriends back home) would join me in bed to express their gratitude for my hospitality in London and Spain. The only times I had problems is when I hadn’t thought to institute a “house-rule” on certain behaviors. I spelled out “no drugs in my house” but I was relaxed about most things. I had to institute a rule of “no female guests overnight” after I encountered one at breakfast. She was the friend of the hot young Brazilian I had staying with me, and after she’d left, I said to him that her presence overnight made me uncomfortable and that he should go to her place for sex in future. He was a thoroughly nice guy and apologized immediately for not asking me first...and that evening as I was reading a book, he came into my room in just his briefs to make sure I was happy with him.

You’ve had great advice here @Todd Jenkins and I wonder if I can help given my own experiences. Escorts provide companionship but it’s transactional. They can be very useful and helpful in meeting your needs. But if you want something more aka a boyfriend, you have to look elsewhere, cultivate friendships, volunteer at gay groups and charities etc. From the age of 21, I was always in monogamous relationships. Each lasted several years but the longest one (15years) broke up when I was aged 48. I hadn’t dated in years and I rediscovered my libido by hiring attractive men. I also volunteered to work for a couple of gay charities and joined 2 gyms to work out with personal trainers to get very fit (and Yes to meet attractive younger men at the gyms). I enjoyed the sex and the variety of men very much. I also knew deep down that I prefer the connection and intimacy that comes from a steady relationship with a boyfriend. I set about finding such a boyfriend - there were 2 false starts (a beautiful muscleboy who made all the running but who was really screwed up from working previously as an escort; and a lovely guy who was insecure and who left abruptly after 5 years) and I had a LOT of bad dates. But it finally worked out for me (6 years ago and continuing). All I can do is urge you to keep putting yourself out there. Decide on what meets your fundamental needs and try to find that man. Don’t beat yourself up if you resort to an escort: it’s consensual sex between 2 adults.

Obviously I can only answer for myself @marylander1940 and I may be very superficial, but desirable looks (face and physique) got my attention first. As a prospective first date or an initial hiring, looks decided whether I asked them out. Further dates always depended on how much fun and enjoyment I had. I like men who are adventurous in bed and equally I’m attracted to men who want to please me. Their responsiveness, affectionate nature and good character were what made me interested in longer-term relations.

I have not been to PV and I wonder if any recent visitors can comment. One question I have is whether this only involved domestic (Mexican) tourists and whether foreigners would be ignored for the purpose of kidnapping. Would foreigners in PV be more likely to face robbery/mugging for valuables?

Darius was available for hiring in London and in Barcelona, where I met him. He was definitely into pleasing older men by serving them.

Sean Cody’s Billy - a greedy cocksucker and eager bottom

Thank you @marylander1940 I looked at the link and read about him. I wasn’t aware of the history. So who are the 10 young men? Would they be the Dean’s List? Those on Sean Cody’s Dean’s List had some exciting functions ;-)

Just who is Roger Williams @marylander1940 ? It seems to me that if you are going to have an entourage of 10 young men, their uniform should be more modern aka briefer and more tailored.

I‘ve done it a few times. I have an ex who liked to be very compliant in bed. It was interesting, and I learned that it can be quite involved. It was best that I was VERY specific, not saying “Strip off and get on the bed“ but “Strip off down to your white briefs, and get on the bed, flat on your back, head on the pillow with your arms behind your head, and your legs open wide with your knees bent and your feet resting on the mattress”. He was a good muscleboy and it was the exactitude that’s really turned him on.

I sympathize @Enronnja and you have good advice in the above posts. I’m an old man now and hiring was long ago, but something you wrote resonated with me. I was always very particular. I wanted men who were especially desirable. I see nothing wrong with being picky and having standards. It seems to me that if you were to lower your standards, the date would not be as satisfying and you would not feel fulfilled. Good luck with your quest.

Thanks @E.T.Bass I didn’t know these compilations were on YouTube. I found them charming and funny.

Sexy. And he’s a member of our tribe too.

Funpic @E.T.Bass I‘ve heard of Dylan Geick; he seems to be quite notorious for not being gay!

Totally agree @Aaron James I liked buying my guys sexy underwear. Some muscleboys could be a little shy, even tho they had beautiful bodies, and I‘d have them model first some tight white briefs, then a sports or backless brief, and finally a jockstrap. My variation was to stay clothed while the muscleboy modeled the underwear. It was really arousing for both of us.

In the past, I dated some young actors/models/personal trainers aka wannabes. I think the present environment must be disheartening for them. Like you @The_Impeccable_G I restrained myself from giving advice. My advice might have been useful to them but I was pretty sure that they did not want to hear any contrary opinion about their chosen career path. They certainly valued my dinner invitations and weekend outings. As an older man, I knew I always had to pay for them. But they were appreciative over time.

You may well be right @Lucky. I can assure you (from lockdown in London) that it’s been juicy news for the TV channels and the print media with the daily recital of scandalous incidents. The legal circus must have been very expensive. The judge’s ruling is expected in a few weeks.

I was just teasing ;-)

Oh @marylander1940 you are just plain wrong! I can judge him ‘7 ways to Sunday’: 1. how well does he kiss? 2. does he gaze into my eyes while sucking my cock? 3. does he love tonguing my balls? 4. does he use his tongue well in rimming me? 5. does he tighten his ass once I’m inside him? 6. how devotedly does he suck me off & swallow? 7. does he kiss me when I’m spent, and nestle on my hairy chest?

I don’t care about the 2 porn ’actors’ shown above but this young man really turns me on - I just want to strip off his pants and ravish him

Good for you @Coolwave35 It was years ago that I participated in an orgy with muscled guys. I was invited along because of my then-boyfriend, himself a very hot muscleboy. I had repeat invitations because I’m a top and as I don’t do drugs, I was the only guy who was erect and able to stay very hard, so I was asked to top various guys. So don’t concern yourself about being welcome. After all, it’s your house and pool. And if someone really doesn’t want you involved in their play, they can easily turn away and not kiss you or not suck your cock or not let you suck their cock. The guys you’re playing with are adults so they can easily speak up if necessary.

Stop worrying. In the circumstances you describe - where you don’t say how many dates you had or how long you dated him - it doesn’t matter. Go to dinner with an open mind and treat it like any other date. You’ve told us previously about how you’re single so I feel that it’s useful for you to have dinner with him. The downside is limited (if it does not go well) but the upside is great (you may reconnect and enjoy dating him again).

I think it depends largely on your interests and how you wish to live @caramelsub Age is not an important factor. I’m old but I enjoy going out most nights (restaurants, theatre, concerts) in normal times. I’m also coupled, so we live in a major world city, and I’ve a 2nd home in a less expensive city a short flight away for when we want different food, the beach and sea. If you’re young and single, and seeking a boyfriend or two, you have to live somewhere fun and interesting. But if you have rural pursuits or just enjoy a quiet life, and if nightlife is of no interest to you, you could live somewhere less costly and make regular trips to the “big city” for fun. My view is my own: I feel you could move to New Zealand, you won’t live any longer but it will feel like you do as the days drag by....

Don’t beat yourself up @D21howie We have all made mistakes in this hobby of ours - paying a deposit, paying upfront, paying in advance, not stating exactly what we want, not checking compatibility, not being specific on important matters, not checking whether photos are real and recent etc. The important thing here is that you have learned and openly asked for advice. Good luck with your future encounters.

I agree about his nipples @Whitman He also has a lovely face and torso. I‘d do him in an instant if I were single. The only problem is those jeans - they are crying out to be unbuttoned.