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For me, ‘Boyfriend Experience’ suggests a more romantic, loving encounter. It is the very opposite of a ‘Wham, Bam, Thank You Sir’ date.

Obviously it depends on your companion but I would expect the date to comprise lots of foreplay with hugging, kissing with tongue, displays of affection and cuddling after sex. It would usually include oral sex and/or topping/bottoming. 

You would need to discuss the particulars beforehand. Depending on your wishes, the date might be just a physical session. If it is to be followed by dinner (or going out to a bar or club) together, you may want to discuss public displays of affection beforehand.
 

My reason for stating this is that I once hired an LA jock-boy for a weekend in San Francisco. We had an intense and very sexual time the night he arrived. The next morning when we went to brunch, I was startled that he took my hand as we walked together. I enjoyed it even more when he kissed me in the cafe. I’ve always been out but I had no idea that he’d be so demonstrative in public

On 5/2/2024 at 11:10 PM, Lewis372NYC said:

I look good naked

Have you emailed Rick Day? 😎

17 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

I’m 68 he’s 23. Not a problem….he’s definitely attracted to older/mature. It does happen!

Agreed.

When I dated ‘commercially’,  it was always a handsome muscleboy, ideally aged (or looking as if) 23-30. And my long term boyfriends have all been that age when we first met. My current boyfriend is 40 years younger than me and we‘ve been together for 10 years. 

8 hours ago, JoeWinkoReturns said:

just as long as he's ALWAYS the bottom, which usually men that age are (another reason why I love older men) 

I know you said “usually” but I’ve ALWAYS been the top. And I love fit young men who bottom so readily for me.

Another reason I love younger men is that I have a dominant streak. I found that many muscleboys have a submissive streak and enjoy giving pleasure to an older man. When between boyfriends, I often found that younger men initiated contact and approached me. 

On 4/27/2024 at 3:32 PM, newdad said:

The beaches in Barcelona are accessible for everyone. Hence, you can't do gay stuff.

 

I disagree with your reasoning @newdad. Yes, the beaches are used by everyone but I’d say that means that the prevailing ethos is “Live and Let Live” 

The beach in Barceloneta, close to the W Hotel, is popular with gay men, lesbians, trans people etc and nudity is unremarkable. (That does NOT mean that people have sex on the beach).

I’ve often gone there with my boyfriend (who is a younger muscleboy) and we might kiss and cuddle as part of lying in the sun together. No-one would object. The Spanish set great store by discretion and it would be seen as seriously uncool to take issue with the PDA or nudity of others.
 

Equally I’ve been with my boyfriend to other beaches in BCN and visited seasonal beach bars (chiringuitos) to eat and drink - there is a relaxed atmosphere and gay couples are very welcome.

I felt it was a great, entertaining movie. It’s cliche-free, has good acting by all the leads, and I even enjoyed the quasi-70s rock music.

And I’ve always liked Josh O’Connor since I first saw him in ‘God’s Own Country’.

Walking fast is said to be a reliable indicator of good health in old age, according to studies in the UK. (Of course, causation has not been established). I notice that when I’m feeling particularly energetic, I walk very quickly. 
 

I also notice that young people tend to walk rather slowly. That is perhaps due to them concentrating on their phones. 

2 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

I also know many escorts who dislike them… only…if a client requests…Many… clients snore! 

2 hours ago, Jason76 said:

Overnight is not worth it to me, why pay someone to sleep for 6-8 of those hours?

Very much agree. And it always pays to discuss and explore how a man feels about a certain type of date.

This reminds me of a beautiful blond muscleboy-bottom (23) I met. He rarely advertised and his hourly fee was high ($400) but we had 3 dates of an evening before I asked him about playing overnight.

He immediately said $2000 minimum. I was shocked but I outlined what I had in mind (sex before and after dinner, 7-8 hours sleep and oral in the morning). It turned out that he’d only once had an overnight date. It was with a fit top aged 30 and they had full sex before talking and napping…but the guy woke him up in the night and topped him 5x in total, so he got very little sleep and he felt worn-out the next day.

So he liked my plans and he adjusted his rate to $800, and we were very compatible. We went onto date for 3-4 years. 

I much prefer a gay man. Or at least a bi-guy. 
 

For a while, I dated a personal trainer. He was passionate in bed, bottomed for me and told me how much he enjoyed swallowing my loads. So I was very surprised when he declared he was straight (had a girlfriend and baby).

When I hired, I had a lot of overnight dates. That was over 10 years ago. Back then, I routinely paid $1000 in the US while in Europe (London, Paris, Barcelona) I paid the equivalent of $500; in Argentina and Brazil, I paid less. 

On 4/16/2024 at 4:33 AM, GCMan said:

What is the most you have ever paid for an overnight?

$1500 to a handsome muscleboy, a wannabe in LA with a superb physique, who did everything for me and drained me dry…3x that night. 
 

On 4/17/2024 at 5:22 AM, nycman said:

For me "overnight happy" stops at around $1,000

I very much agree. When the rates asked rose beyond that point, I’d request full-sex late afternoon, pay for dinner, and repeat the sex afterwards. All for the offered $1000. It was just as much fun and I was happy to sleep alone.

On 4/1/2024 at 5:29 AM, Welshman said:

Food Bills: $201

Overall monthly increase in savings: $878

I congratulate you on being thrifty @Welshman.

If you’ll permit me an observation, how is it that you spend so little on food? Do you follow quite a strict diet?
 

I’m fit and healthy, but I spend far more on food as I regard good nutrition as very important. 

Were you complaining about the lack of attractive men available to you? 😉

Mid-September is a great time to visit Mediterranean cities/resorts as the excessive heat of July and August should have gone. 

Spain is a good choice. Madrid is a great city tho I prefer Barcelona (with Sitges nearby). The Balearic Islands are delightful then, with long sunny days; be aware temperatures on some days may reach 30C/86F.

Italy is also excellent and I like Sicily. 

14 hours ago, MikePDNA51 said:

What do these spoiled siblings buy? 

I can only answer for my brother: a large house in the country, overseas vacations, cars, an expensive divorce, a 2nd wife etc.

Essentially whatever he wants…provided he doesn’t have to pay for it 🤨

Maybe I’m out of line here but I find the comments by @dutchal @pubic_assistance and @marylander1940 to be distasteful, not just superficial. Please remember two young men have been senselessly killed.

FWIW my two cents -

I find that it’s easy in Barcelona to meet nice young men (whether paid or free).

As it happens, I live not far from Thermas - no judgement but I’ve not visited as I have a young partner - and it’s widely known about as a safe and reliable venue for paid male sex; the management is honest. (I know of a hot young American who visited, looking to hook up for free, and was outraged when he was expected to pay for sex. He complained to management and was promptly refunded his entrance fee).

I don’t get into political debates about Catalan identity/independence even though my best friend is Catalan. I don’t see why any visitor would express an opinion on the matter. I’m told I speak Castilian at an advanced level and I have a smattering of useful Catalan phrases. Again, foreign visitors are not expected to speak Catalan. 

IMO London has a more diverse offering of male companions to Barcelona but their cost is much higher.

I too have an apartment in Barcelona (in the Eixample district).

I prefer Barcelona to Madrid as I find it easier to navigate socially and culturally. And in the Summer, I prefer to be by the beach and sea.

I cannot relate to Bangkok as I’ve spent no time there.

As to the ones I know about:

in LA, one opened an art gallery but two are still trying to make it as actors

in London, one works for Chanel and another has his own business

in Sydney, one works as a lawyer and another is an executive in banking

Which area is this @Massageguy99?

And the monthly rate of inflation has been published as having fallen to only 20% !

I’m astounded @purplekow - what a litany of auto accidents. You are lucky to have not been badly hurt. 
 

I suggest you don’t argue with the insurance company. With your luck, I’d use the money to buy (used or new) a small Mercedes. They’re solidly built, reliable and have great safety features. 

It’s not just in Colombia. I know of a few incidents in Cape Town, South Africa where it was used on young men and women.

25 minutes ago, MysticMenace said:

So I got to talking to a friend last night in a hotel by Hells Kitchen at NYC, and she haphazardly mentioned…exclusive sex club parties that some closeted male celebrities frequent. According to her reliable source…I was giddy with excitement when I found out that my crushes that I have lusted over for years swing that way. 

Did you consider that she told you what you wanted to hear?

Personally, my ‘reliable source’ on this topic is the Queerty Newletter 😉

8 hours ago, Rudynate said:

I hope you are complying with the terms of the trust

Absolutely. It’s a discretionary trust, set up a few generations back, with the usual requirements for good behavior etc by beneficiaries.

I’ve always used an eminent firm of lawyers as advisers. I pay so much for their advice that I’d never go against it. 

On 1/21/2024 at 1:07 AM, BeamerBikes said:

I'm bound and determined that I'm not going to dip into my money to continue to support my sibling once their portion of inheritance runs out.  

Good for you. I have exactly the same ‘problem’, an elder brother who is financially reckless. It intrigued me that when I was a teenager, my grandfather trusted my judgement and he detailed all our assets. He told me that I was to become the senior trustee on his death and he told me why my elder brother was being cut out. I’ve multiplied the assets considerably since then, and I always paid my brother his share. At times, I paid him more than his share. I was never thanked.

One time, my brother tried to deceive me. He cheated me out of my share when a family asset was sold - I let him get away with it but said “That’s all you’ll get from me. You’ve got more than you’re entitled to, so enjoy it”. And we haven’t spoken since that day 12 years ago. 

13 hours ago, FrankR said:

enabling isnt helping. Set boundaries and stick to it. You may need to start growing a thick skin.

Entirely agree.

On 1/13/2024 at 3:39 PM, Rod Hagen said:

That's 1999 rates you're paying

You may be right. But I also paid those rates in 2000-2009, and I had plenty of good overnight dates with handsome, fit-bodied young men. 
 

4 hours ago, Thelatin said:

I’m a repeat customer and easy to deal…1000 bucks…Seems like good money.

I always felt that was key. Once we’d established we were fully compatible, I’d suggest an all-expenses-paid overseas trip. I’d ask what place/resort or activities interested them. I’d mention it would be luxurious throughout, and get them to say what fee they’d require. I only dated nice guys and I was often pleasantly surprised at how reasonable the fees were. 

I know there are 4 types of urethroplasty and I know that it’s not a minor procedure. Also, I know of two good websites on this - mountsinai.org and clevelandclinic.org - but there are others too.
 

Perhaps you’d get a better response if you posted about what concerns you or the queries you have. Then others may be able to help you more.