DrownedBoy

In terms of response time - I was wondering. If some guy was a regular who you knew well and trusted, would you be willing to do an outcall "immediately" if they asked?

This. One reason I don't spend much time chasing high priced visitors is because they apparently think that if they're worth that much money, they're better than everyone else. And they brag a lot, which is a bone killer for me. I still recall a guy who got some photos published, so he thought of himself as a professional model. I kept my mouth shut as to his probable career prospects.

Ditto. On RM, I went to give a visitor 5 stars, but found I was blocked. I figured he was either weirded out by my RP fantasy, or he was afraid he did a bad job and was heading off a bad review. Too bad if it was the second option.

I put on tighty whities that have been slit in strategic places. Then ask them to tear my underwear off.

Damn that's a good find. Have to check his NYC prices though.

It never is. At least it's easy to block their number and RM ad.

No oral, anal, or kissing. Yeah sounds like a deal....

This is a shame. I have relatively new regulars who are hungry for reviews, but $10/month just for that is too much. That's double what Amazon Music costs.

I've heard talk of the "phone number" list as well. It must not be screened, since I have a single "bad" mark, probably my former regular who had a roid rage problem. That's if what I heard from one escort is true.

Have you ever wrapped a fifty around your driver's license? 😄

I have to ask - if you don't want to use RM, is it easy enough to pick up guys for hiring? Or safe?

Your co-workers are not your friends. The company you work for is not your family. Your boss isn't really concerned about your well-being. And....

Well, he didn't even bother returning my text when he visited Chicago, so I suppose he's busy enough.

Yes - I did (I only focused on one person at a time). I generally do this out of courtesy to escorts - I don't want to waste their time or contact them needlessly. However, after reading the feedback on my question, I'm thinking if that's one of the reasons why. If it's common for escorts to text with multiple clients at once, I guess it's okay for me as well. If I would have contacted more potential hires, I would have been more likely to find somebody. Also, I usually schedule ahead of time, because it helps with the logistics. Hiring for the same night puts more pressure on the escort. (I don't think this is what you meant to convey, but I'm afraid that's how I took it 🙂)

I guess I'd ask both providers and clients here if they've noticed this, but I've been getting some _really_ rude responses to my attempts to hire escorts I haven't met before (not to mention prices in excess of 400/500 an hours). Here's some incidents I had contacting several Chicagoland escorts yesterday (I texted them in the early evening, asked if they were available later that night, was completely open about my preferences (no anal), and offered to pay for Uber both ways on an outcall: - I texted 4 people, 3 of which quoted me at least 400 an hour + Uber (I asked for a 2 hour session, but they didn't adjust their rates accordingly). - One kid with only 2 RM reviews wanted 900 for 2 hours. He was located right next to me, and I would pay for the Uber. When I declined, he responded with a _completely unsolicited_ counteroffer that was still obscene. His text was worded like: "Oh man, I'll do it for X dollars; I DARE you!" Did he think I'd hire him when he spoke to me like that, even if it was a reasonable offer? - Then there's the openly blatant con artists. One guy, I was purely willing to hire, but I thought it reasonable to ask him why 3 of his 15 RM reviews were bad. He told me he was insulted by the question. Luckily, he was honest enough to cancel the session before I would have. Right now, I'm only hiring one of my 3 regulars, because when I reach out to "new blood," I get treated ilke this. I'd rather jack off than deal with such rude people. Is this the new post-pandemic attitude? Obscene rates combined with rudeness? I've been hiring for 8 years, have always been nice to my hires, and have always contacted providers in good faith.

Give me 10 more minutes...

Viagra works extremely well for me, in that it makes and keeps me hard for a while. However, it doesn't really simulate my libido, or mental horniness. Is there anything for that, or is testosterone treatment the only option?

Don't forget the social safety net, and universal healthcare that includes therapy. In the U.S., if you need help but don't have money or the right insurance, you're SOL.

For the broad picture: gay men in general have higher rates of addiction, psychological problems, and suicide.

I was wondering if anyone has ideas for what the "best" cities are if you're interested in hiring bodybuilders, or men with bodybuilder builds. I don't limit it to ones that advertise on RentMen - I mean any bodybuilder who is willing to get intimate with another guy (not ones that only allow muscle worship). I'm looking for bodybuilders are are willing to kiss.

I reached out to him once when he was in Chicago, but he was leaving the next day, so I didn't get any information from him. After what Curious said, might not try again. 4 sub-perfect reviews in a single RM ad are suspicious.

@Jarrod_UncutI understand how sometimes escorts don't have a choice for short-term, short-stay visits. But from a client's perspective, that doesn't matter. If a client is busy during that time (and for short visits we're more likely to be), then we're simply not going to hire. It's just business.

I'm not above giving - the regular I'm discussing, I sent him a Xmas gift. However, at the same time, I think of all my hiring as "giving." The best type of business relationship is where each side appreciates the other - I appreciate his responsiveness and skill, and he appreciates getting the extra money on a regular basis. And we've told each other that. Like it or not, any money a provider receives is money not paid to another provider. And there are a lot of providers chasing a few clients (with a few small exceptions like after a pandemic ends). What is surplus money to me, goes to someone who needs it for rent, education, training, etc. I ask very little from providers, and am considered "easy money." So to me, all hiring is a form of charity.

That's a mighty big "if" there. I once helped out a regular I'd been seeing for 2 years. It didn't stop him from trying to rip me off when he had the chance.

Yeah - I was going to raise this too. I just got an Oculus Quest 2. I joined what seems to be the only viable and active VR gay site: https://ultimatevrporn.com/visit/virtualrealgay. It's okay, but the porn is pretty conventional, and about 90% of it is filmed from the perspective of you getting a bj (which I don't like receiving). What I am looking for are places and models that are willing to do custom professional VR videos, more aimed at my tastes. Also, I can't find any VR Cam Shows with men, only women (even the can shows linked to by gay sites!).