DrownedBoy

I don't know how many Latino providers post in CoM, but has a client ever tried to shoo you away or avoid paying by suggesting you were in the States illegally? Has anyone heard of this happening? Even, perhaps, Latino clients from unscrupulous providers? I ask because: 1. Many businesspeople have done this 2. It also (unfortunately) appears to happen after certain breakups in the gay community ("get your ex deported")

Yup. I know other clients here have met straight people who kissed well, but I bet those escorts were just claiming to be straight. I still encounter gay escorts who "don't kiss," even if they list it on their preferences. This is especially true among the younger providers. Luckily they're usually easy to weed out with a few detailed text questions. There are so many types of bisexuals that you really have to sound them out. I find their (ahem) manner of speaking is a very good indicator of their kissing skills. You need someone who's at least a 4 (preferably 5) on the Kinsey Scale if you want to get some tongue. Like the others here, I've met a few bisexual guys who don't list kissing, but claim they'll do it for the "right type of guy" or "if the mood hits them." I have a regular I've been seeing since before I started kissing escorts, and although he doesn't list kissing, he definitely delivers for me.

That applies to providers only. The article makes clear that clients were still going to be arrested and prosecuted. So, right now and where I live, _I'm_ assuming all the legal risk.

My stance as well. I wasn't born into money, and that worldview will never change. When I see ads like this (really hot guy for a really big fee), I just think of the sexier men I met, and how their fees were so much lower.

And to think my favorite college course was "discreet mathematics".... Seriously, I also passed him by because of the dearth of pictures. But after hearing from @Marccliff, I sent a request for a face photo.

Absolutely. Brothels are safer and more comfortable for both parties. Depends on where the electorate is. Chicago used to be famous for its fancy brothels (even attracting European royals and nobles). Most citizens (and officials) just looked the other way. Unfortunately, in the States, too many people lack common sense - they think outlawing something actually stops it. Sort of like the dimwits in the South who banned sex ed, and were then surprised when teenage pregnancy increased.

The only time I give less than 5-star reviews is if the provider stole from me. By this, I mean they took my money for an agreed upon amount of time for specifically defined services, but left far before the session was over, and without my agreement (in all cases, they found an excuse to leave and refused any suggestion of partial refund; sometimes they were openly mean about it). A warning - even with this limited criteria, I've had situations where I'm the only bad vote for a guy that's 5 stars in every single other review. I'm willing to bet there are a lot of men out there who are too timid to be negative. NOTE I'm only talking about RM reviews. When we can post reviews here again, I'll be brutally honest about even my long time regulars.

I really need to step up my Spanish studies.....

I'm sorry - I think you were played. Most providers would be overjoyed to be given, without even asking, half the fee, especially given that you gave him 30 hours and had Covid. When you break an appointment for Covid, you're doing a favor to both sides - which is why I would only give a token cancellation fee for that. Unfortunately, your provider saw your generosity, took advantage of it, and tried to get away with more. However, your lack of response (or, if he's on this board, reading your post) made him wise up (along with the prospect of losing the entire cancellation fee). Plus, by "settling" for half the fee, he could act like he's doing you a favor. Adding those sob stories about being short of money was his attempt to keep you as a customer (which luckily failed). **** You can't be too cynical. I've seen it all before.

Ditto. 2 queen beds. It helps if the beds are in separate rooms.

Ha! True.

Heaven forbid that the community here should act any more civil than the gay community at large. I have to listen to enough sniping between people on age/weight/appearance/hair/masculinity/etc. in real life.

You developed feelings for 3 different men you hired? I think you might be mistaking your feelings.

Yeah, I tried meeting up with him in Chicago, but he seemed pretty fussy about the clients when it came to both taste and location. Judging by his reputation, he didn't need more clients here.

Yes. Providers will tell you that themselves.

I am very upfront, and open about the fact that not all escorts have or will do what I'm asking for. I don't force the issue. Even then, I get the occasional brat who calls me weird. Screw them. I like being dominated and humiliated, and if they don't want to kick a guy around a little, they just passed up easy money.

Yup. I finally did this to a regular of mine who tried that. Luckily I have another regular who's extremely punctual, so I was able to replace him with only a 30 minute delay.

I'm afraid this is a relevant question, and one I'd also have to answer before I hired Kyle. There was a provider I tried maybe 6 months into the pandemic. His photos were all pre-pandemic, and showed him with good muscles. When I met him, the muscles were practically gone, and he told me he hadn't gone to the gym (or worked out, apparently) during the pandemic. It takes very little time for gravity and inertia to take their toll.

I'd hire that guy in a heartbeat... ...but if he's from NYC, his rates are probably pretty high.

Yup. No reason to throw good money after bad. If I hire a bad provider, I automatically write it off as a loss and try to minimize the damage (and the time we have to spend together).

Yeah, I should have been. He got into the Uber, the Uber driver asked me him to give my full name (since I paid for it), and he didn't speak or understand enough English to call/text and ask me for my first name. Needless to say, after the following argument with Uber, neither of us ending up meeting.

Not exactly a good deal for 2 hours (at least in Chicago).... Yeah, I remember seeing a handful of ads for men only seeking women on RM. One actually had a rant where he insisted that women do visit there. At the time, I thought that guy protests too much, but maybe he was right.

Yeah, from using Tor, I can see American providers with rates, but those rates are always outdated.

Another ditto. But honestly - is there a provider here who'd give out $10 in change?

Yup. Whenever I get a complaint that "everything costs more," I respond, "I know, but my firm sure isn't giving inflation hikes. In fact they're firing." And I've also learned the hard way that there's no such thing as an indispensable employee. You might have indispensable technical skills, but the layoffs are generally made by HR generalists or non-technical managers who can't tell their a@@es from a hole in the ground. The providers I see on this forum tend to be good independent businessmen. Most providers are anything but.