DrownedBoy

Dude, Texas has been on my refuse-to-travel-to list since June of last year, when the Republicans (who control the whole state) added this to their official political platform: "Homosexuality is an abnormal lifestyle choice" Too bad there's a friend there I can't visit anymore; last saw him last May.

As a client, I need to ask: If you end up hiring a provider who never had any experiences before, how should you proceed?

I was wondering if anyone had any experience or advice here. I've been having trouble getting "turned on." This isn't the same as getting an erection - I still do that, and my doctor ruled that out. He did suggest, though, therapy. I'm at a point where Viagra can give me a massive hard-on, but I don't feel any desire at all. Has anyone had experience with "sex therapy?"

Cremation followed by burial of ashes next to my ancestors. My family has funeral plots, where it's traditional to be buried next to others in the family. Since I'll be dead and won't care either way, I made my mother happy by agreeing to that and making the necessary arrangements. I think it's just creepy as hell to be embalmed, then have people standing over your waxed-over body (especially when it doesn't look like them). Luckily, my parents' generation already made that switch (and lots more family members can fit now 😄 ). (Originally I wanted to just donate my body to science. It's a pain to do that and get into a specific burial plot, even when it's an option)

And here I learned that on my own when I was like 13 😁

Nope. Let's put it this way. I once asked a RM in my area to unlock his private photos. It's common to be ignored, but he outright answered "no." Instant block.

It depends. It was twice a month before the pandemic. If I have a bf I obviously hire less, but still sneak a visit in when possible. I'm slowing down due to a combination of health problems and a bit of boredom. New providers are asking for too-high fees, so I'm kind of waiting for the recession to make the newbies a little more hungry.

Nope. I don't receive oral - I only perform it - but without kissing the whole session would be a waste to me.

Oral (and bodily) hygiene is essential for kissing. Personally, I make sure I've flossed after my last meal (but several hours before the session), then brush my teeth beforehand, then always leave mouthwash sitting around to refresh during the session. I always supply my guest with a complementary bottle of mouthwash to be careful. An ex once kissed me right after a meal without brushing his teeth, and my reaction wasn't very good 🤢

Yup. The last time random escorts started contacting me (with discounts) was when everyone got desperate at the start of the pandemic. I expect we'll see the same during this year's recession.

Too expensive in Chicago, but forgot his price tag.

I met a provider who took (unneeded) testosterone treatment to keep horny. I felt bad for him - I've never expected a provider to come, and such treatments will have side effects in the future.

Pretty much. You should only discuss hiring with friends who also hire (as I and several others here do). All the reasons here come into play. America's rather hypocritical attitudes towards sex work fuel people's jealousy. And with whole "woke" corporate attitudes nowadays, if your hiring becomes public, you'll probably be fired for PR reasons.... even as one of my former CEOs (married with kids) hires Latino boys whenever he can.

T I only have one friend I ever discussed it with. He's straight and hired women a lot in the past (and slept around in general, even while engaged), so it was pretty easy to talk about. The hardest part was that every so often, one of us would give the other TMI. However, he's since been married and had a kid, and he's been rather clear that talking about such things now would probably end our friendship. I can't blame him. So I appreciate this site and encourage others to join, as it's currently the only place I can talk about this hobby.

@Kevin Slater are the amounts in this chart adjusted for inflation?

I dont know about you, but if I pay my plumber, etc., in cash, I always get a discount.

I've met Asian gentlemen who would challenge this belief.

Some clients use Mr. Number too. Beware.

My philosophy as well. On the 1 or 2 occasions when the escort was respected enough for me to be willing to place a deposit, I prepared to get stood up, and praised them for honestly showing up.

Damnit I was going to hire him. Was a nice guy when we chatted.

I mentioned this in a different thread, but banks will often report withdrawals of amounts muuuch less than 10k. CYA.

I heard that RM messenger doesn't have enough cybersecurity. That's why I'd never set anything up via it.

The same "safety net" I was getting when job hunting and getting cancelled or useless job interviews: tough.

Yup. Broke up with a boyfriend for the same reason. Who knows what they're covering up with those obvious lies.

Maybe they need to join a forum so we can all exchange notes and advice...