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Sounds right. The problem is when the overpriced NYC escorts come to places like Chicago and expect the same reception.

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These SA stories are great to read, but I wouldn't want to experience them. To be fair, though, you do see some same problems among younger RM as you do with SA (being late, having personality problems). SA is just 100x worse.

Ditto to many others. The MB ads are usually pretty old. Since it's free, you get a lot of fakes. MB lacks the data an RM ad contains about what providers are willing to do. Likewise, there's no way for a provider to list themselves as "available." Since the ads are so old, it's a crap shoot if they even still exist. I've hired guys who were on MB, but only because they were already on RM or Friendboys.

The frequency with which visiting and new providers have just ghosted or ignored me, even if they're marked as "Available" on RM and I make sure to text them my profile, is appalling. Some escorts have enough customers or sessions to not need new ones. That's fine...as long as you don't act otherwise.

I have 2-3 providers at any one time. I prefer local ones who have good availability. I try to keep it simple: I look for providers who act professionally. This means they're honest, generally on time (and letting me know if they can't be), and are able to satisfy one or more of my physical needs without adding an emotional component. I am likewise honest and punctual for them. We have a honest but respectful mutual understanding that this is a regular business relationship, and treat it as such. I don't tip very often, but they can expect extra monetary gifts at the holidays. Likewise, providers usually have a plan to "retire" after a few years, and I make sure I respect both their current work and future plans. I treat such providers as "guests" when they visit, granting them a lot of social prerogatives when we're together. I act like a good host, and they don't abuse the status (not all escorts are that scrupulous). I make sure to see a regular, at the very least, once every 2 months. I'm afraid many escorts are very unprofessional, especially younger ones, and demonstrate entitlement, rudeness, and carelessness. When a regular has done this to me, I've dropped them on the spot.

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I thought the same. That and the Rembrandt museum are on my bucket list.

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Personally, I'd love that level of straightforwardness. It's a business transaction, and the price is the most important piece of information. I wouldn't hire Alam for conversation. My only concern is that he no longer lists his HIV status, whereas he used to be openly undetectable. Obviously there were a lot of scientifically ignorant clients out there.

Until escorting is legalized, there's no chance at making a legal contract or agreement. When we do have such things, I'll consider paying deposits more often.

A lesson every generation learns anew 😊

Believe it. All the providers who insisted on my money upon arrival were lousy and, in one case, an outright thief who left right after grabbing the cash.

Oh, you can legally buy it. You just have to pay with fancy meals and gifts.

I can tell we're dealing with a master criminal here...

At least locally (Chicago), there's been an influx of new providers during the last 2 months or so. Even better, not all of them are flakes. So there won't be any shortage for awhile.

I was asking for providers' perspective. And yours was useful.

This. Certain politicians think they can bash gays to victory, like they did back in the 1990s. Texas and Florida are the worst offenders, here, in the entire republic.

@Jamie21 yes, he ended up doing something embarrassing when he got to my place. He was still embarrassed about it at the end of the session, even as I kept reassuring him and promising I would hire him again. The price issue is something I need to talk with him about. At our first meeting, I just rounded up the bills so he was near a newbie's price, but I need to talk with him since everyone's not that honest. The least I can give him is the usual rates I've paid for newbies and regular (for me, that's 250-300 for 1 hours, and 400-500 for 2 hours; he'd be at the low end). If you take gross advantage of a newbie and he later finds out the regular market rates, they will hold a grudge. Nonetheless, remember that these are newbies and aren't at porn-star-status yet. And once again - having a Premium membership is very useful. For the new providers I met, the move from 0 to 1 reviews was the hardest, then quickly became easier.

Beware of asking this question. I had a regular that I considered one of the "kindest" people I knew. Then he started on drugs. Remember - it's all an act. Both providers and client are just acting.

We should really start a "ghost alert" thread for escorts who do this. There's nothing wrong with hiring a new guy - everyone starts somewhere - but new guys who don't learn the rules need to be filtered out quickly. Example: I just set up something with new talent. At the time he was supposed to call, there was no response, so I told him I'd have to cancel within 15 minutes, which I ended up doing. He finally got back an hour later, at which point I informed him I had already hired his replacement and he needed to be more professional. One thing I noticed - Latinos tend to be the worst offenders when it comes to being late. I know Mexico has a far more laid-back approach to punctuality than the U.S., but when in Rome....

You missed the first warning sign: His RM ad has only 1 photo, he's been on RM for less than a month, and he has no reviews. Inexperienced RM flake a lot. It's just a crapshoot with them. Some are completely and utterly clueless.

I've been starting to keep a detailed journal of my sessions(at least a page single-spaced per meeting). If I wasn't worried about being arrested or letting my identity become widely known, I'd start a blog 😄

I've also started using RM messenger to set up the basics with escorts. However, if an escort doesn't respond to my RM messages, I don't filter them out, especially as many escorts make clear in their ad that they need a text.

How long ago? And yes - technically Texas has no "Nordic model" cities like most other large U.S. cities. This means the provider can be arrested, not just the client. A few months ago, a sting arrested one of their own (straight) detectives. Sexual hypocrisy and stupid cops don't mix.