DrownedBoy

Reading this stuff, I'm seriously considering paying 90 just for the entertainment value!

Sometimes a good laugh is better than a good lay.

Still debating whether I'll hire in mid July or wait until August.

Illinois is pretty damn safe with covid right now, but I still don't see as many choices as there were before the plague.

I'm not into SA because I don't have the time, but is there an influx of flakes due to covid unemployment?

That's basically what this guy wants. Hire a top to f@@k him, and you're allowed to pay an additional 150 to watch.

https://friendboy.pro/boys/Look4DaddyVoyeur

I did have a more general question.

Are guys on SA looking for a place to live? Or just regular meetups?

Some of us still live in condos.

If you're concerned about $90, SA definitely wouldn't be worth it...

We Illinoisans have it together too. Tested negative less than 2 weeks ago, but since you can catch it 5 seconds after the test, it doesn't mean much.

Very good advice. Working with regulars you're familiar with provides not only better data on whether you'll get along, but often a more decent rate. It took very little time to work something agreeable out.

Very good advice. Working with regulars you're familiar with provides not only better data on whether you'll get along, but often a more decent rate. It took very little time to work something agreeable out.

Whoa Whoa whoa, let's back up. One question at a time. If we answer the first question, that'll kinda help answer all the others. How much time do you spend waiting? Well how much time did you agree to? Do you tell them, "if I don't hear from you by 6 pm Friday, I'll assume you have other things to tend to"? If not, you should. If they don't reply, you know what to do

The only time I did this, the provider later said he was with another client, then shot back with the "if you send an ultimatum I don't want you as a customer."

Personally, I thought that was a good honest response. If a provider marks himself Available Now when he's not (as in working with s different client), he's being unprofessional, and I have no use for him.

Whoa Whoa whoa, let's back up. One question at a time. If we answer the first question, that'll kinda help answer all the others. How much time do you spend waiting? Well how much time did you agree to? Do you tell them, "if I don't hear from you by 6 pm Friday, I'll assume you have other things to tend to"? If not, you should. If they don't reply, you know what to do

The only time I did this, the provider later said he was with another client, then shot back with the "if you send an ultimatum I don't want you as a customer."

Personally, I thought that was a good honest response. If a provider marks himself Available Now when he's not (as in working with s different client), he's being unprofessional, and I have no use for him.

Among escorts, I believe there may be a level of hypocrisy. Let me tell a story from when I was in my 20s.

There was this hot waiter in his early twenties. He regularly dated guys in their 30s and 40s who always picked up the tab. Then an older gay couple gave him free room and board to spice up their relationship .

He met an escort who advertised online. When the guy asked him out, he laughed at him, and called him a "whore" who "sold his body on the Internet."

Absolute and complete hypocrisy. The older I get, the more I hang out with guys who share interests besides sex. You get better conversation and boyfriends that way, although in my case, they're far from attractive to me.

Hey, for anyone who has any experience here:

I'm thinking on going on a vacation and inviting a professional to accompany me and see the sites during the day, and have fun at nights. What would I expect to pay for a week?

Assume I'm covering all hotel, travel, and food options, and it's a decent hotel.

"Have your way with me" is a standard, if old fashioned, euphemism.

Weird. He spoke English fine...

When I get a request for a photo for a provider, I just give my age/height/weight.

Some providers ask for my race as well. The last time that happened, I gave it, then stopped responding to any of his future texts.

Blackmail is the bigger risk factor. I knew a couple of escorts who had a brief legal problem, but I've known more participants here who have faced attempted extortion. Don't be so trusty and chatty with people you don't know.

Any examples you're comfortable giving? Again, blackmail exposes both sides.

Whether you like it or not, the standard practice is to ask him for his rate for time.

 

This is not a flea market: Never forget you're dealing with human beings.

 

Treat those as you wish to be treated.

Are you saying that even if I offer someone's usual rate, it will be considered offensive?

Hey, another etiquette question for providers.

I don’t like to waste time texting, and like to get directly to the point. My initial text usually includes a short greeting, a name, a general location, and a general description of what I'm into (which I have to elaborate on later since it's role playing).

Is it useful to also make a donation offer when you introduce yourself?

I guess this is a reminder that while a provider might have a good body, he might not have a decent brain to go with it.

I wonder how many 22 yr olds can afford to live in an expensive gay urban neighborhood and hire escorts. When I was that age I had to nurse one beer through an evening at a bar.

When I was 22, I wasn't wealthy, but I had a useful college diploma and an apartment to myself, which is more than could be said of many other young gay men in the area. I got hit on by hot guys who wouldn't normally give me the time of day, but needed somewhere to crash, as well as by some of the lower-class escorts.

I never took advantage of having a live-in. It seemed tasteless, I was dating, and would have lowered the community's opinion of me. But it would have given me a free outlet for the fetishes my boyfriends couldn't provide. I regret that now.

Youth....

I like twinks so I really enjoyed this guy

https://rent.men/RealNicTwink

Even Pre pandemic, escorts would send unsolicited RM messages. I view it more as marketing...didn’t know this was a new thing.

In 6 years, maybe 3 escorts emailed me via RM, unsolicited. Now I get that many RM messages in single browsing session without even reaching out to anyone. It is a very new thing from my perspective.

I'm not hiring now, but it's worth a monograph.

Second data point. In morning, looking at ads for a city I might visit. Also got unsolicited RM messages just for browsing.

I found a hot guy in Florida on Best Flex, but he's strictly no kissing. Darn straights.