DrownedBoy

Ditto. That usually says the escort is more exclusive. I respect it, and politely cross such escorts off my list. If you won't unlock for a Premium member, you're a fool.

Maybe it will become a better mindset when they come out with AI-powered sexbots.

It's been answered several times - it requires skills beyond just being sexy. I know of no online site or book that tells providers the basics on getting started, what to expect, how to deal with the steady stream of texts, of which only some are valid offers, etc. In my opinion, in the U.S., law and public opinion are the biggest obstacles. In addition to removing and opportunities for proper training and protection, it makes working in the industry too risky. It's a lot rarer today to see gay prostitution stings, but the whole "sex trafficking" bullshit makes it a PR nightmare for a company to hire people in the industry. It's easier - again, as someone mentioned - for college students to work out a "Seeking Arrangements" position. From personal experience, I can say it's a much easier path, you're more likely to have friends who can tell you about it and give useful advise, it's a lot less risky, and it is (or was) considered more "socially acceptable" for both parties involved. EDIT: To clarify: SA (or FB) weren't around when I was in college. We used traditional "social networks" to pass word about interested, rich, gay alumni. This only made the whole process safer.

As another CoM mentioned, a provider who visited Chicago did the same thing after being hired for an overnight. When his current client was sleeping, he was texting other clients. If he hadn't arbitrarily, and without notice, cut my session short after getting the overnight, I could put up with it.

Yup. Most men can't come from getting blown alone, and many see it as just foreplay.

There was once a guy in Chicago who advertised offering 30 minute mini sessions prior to the pandemic, but he stopped. Even his (now normal) ad isn't up regularly anymore. I don't know if he would have been any good, since he turned me down after I told him what I was into. Even though I was trying to book a whole hour.

I have a regular who said, if he saw me in public, promised he would completely ignore me and pretend he doesn't know me. He didn't need to go that far. Personally, I think simply exchanging a quick "hi" is the best answer. But everyone has their personal level of safety.

My opinion - that's fine. Thanks to my education and profession, I've turned into the "free IT guy" for my family and neighbors, as well as any hire who needs technical help. I've helped set up RM accounts and helped providers further monetize their stuff. However, that only gets done after the session is over. And only to providers with a good attitude.

I do wonder what providers expect from clients. One of my regulars likes getting deep-throated, so I do my best to pleasure him whenever he comes over. How important is reciprocity in hiring situations?

The main problem with bodybuilders is that so few of them are willing to kiss (probably because the vast majority are straight). I've met non-bodybuilder providers, bi ones, who told me their policy was that they would only receive oral sex, but not perform it. Luckily, I replied that I have a strict policy of only performing oral sex, but I refuse to receive it. So, worship and getting blown are fine....as long as they're willing to kiss. My personal take, based on experience.

"We can arrange hotel stays as short as 15 minutes!" - SNL ad for the "Player with Yourself" club . EDIT: https://snltranscripts.jt.org/90/90gsavalas.phtml

I would tell him that's not a topic you want to discuss. Then get on with your session

It depends on how you get along. If you don't like each other's company, you need to minimize contact. If a client expects you ny his side 72 hours in a row, you need to adjust his expectations

When I started on Grindr, some guy kept blasting me with annoying text abbreviations. I responded that I liked guys who used full sentences. That stopped it pretty quickly.

Some a@@holes don't learn. https://rent.men/DARKCHOCOO

They'll just make an app with "surge pricing. "

This is why regulars are such a treasure. I text, ask if they want to come over at X o'clock, and if they agree, it's done. He already knows my address and what I'm into. I already know his rates and what he's best at.

Yup. If I see "findom," I close the ad immediately. It takes a new level of lazy to think you can make a living telling others to give you money. And it takes someone born into money who could enjoy throwing it away.

And they better hope no lawyers go after them, because prerogative is only as good as the size of your legal fund.

No matter how nice and honest someone is, there will always be dishonest complainers. That's why "reputation companies" exist, to scrub cyberspace of all the nasty things said about you. After reading all this stuff, I wonder if I should try that as a side gig.

I try to turn off my visibility too. The pandemic was the only time I was regularly contacted by providers while ad browsing. They were desperate for business and were offering unsolicited discounts. I'll keep that in mind the next time the market tightens.

Hopefully, my self-respect will keep me from getting to that point...

I never show any PDA when I'm with someone who's physically clearly out of my league. It's just an attitude I picked up as a young twink. I'd see a boy and an old guy together and wonder, who the hell do they think they're fooling? EDIT Even an older boyfriend felt the same way.

Hey, I like that. I'm not wasting time using texts for small talk - that's what talking is for. My goal when I text someone is to schedule something at a particular price for particular services. The quicker an escort gets to the point, the better.

Even worse, I've encountered younger providers who decided to "socialize" after they make an appointment, and think they can casually say "tomorrow " to the client when he's late.