DrownedBoy

If a provider doesn't respond to me, that's his prerogative. And it's my prerogative to place him on my "unreliable" list and never text him again.

One of my regulars always uses Airbnb, and I asked him this question. He said he never had a problem. And I've had no problem saying a "friend" is dropping by a rented cabin or similar place. Most people who see 2 guys hanging out don't think of sex, unless there's a reason.

Yup. He usually comes when I'm staying at my place in Wisconsin.

He's a hot and (judging from his texts) nice guy. However I gave up on hiring him because he's so popular. Last Chicago visit, on the night I wanted to hire, he couldn't because he was spending the night on a yacht. That told me he's a bit out of my league 😂

When you encounter bad escort behavior, just post it in The Deli. The market can only weed out problems if information is shared.

Haha I had a provider like that. Big and intimidating from a rural area. I asked him if he used Grindr, and he said, "No way, I don't do that gay stuff, I have a girlfriend!" Despite that he French kissed. Sad closet case.

It depends on how they "reach out" when I view their profile. One guy RMd me: "Hey, so you want to get f*cked by a big black guy?" I ignored him. Another guy RMd me: "I'm offering a discount." I didn't respond or hire him, but I did look at his ad and consider him. One RM (who I had hired the day before) RMd me while I was taking time to read his interview. He said (in ruder terms than this) "Hey, are you just sitting here on my profile, or are you going to hire me?!?" I should have cancelled my existing appointment immediately. Instead, I told him who I was, and he apologized and asked for a second chance. I gave him that second chance, and he used it to walk in, grab my money, insult me, and leave to spend it on meth. Since then, if I get a rude message from a provider, even if it's meant for someone else, I immediately cut them off forever. Always trust someone when they show you what kind of person they are.

Lovely. The CPD is one of their customers. However, so is the ICE, so they could be using it on anyone who wants to "work illegally" in the U.S. Or "be in the U.S. illegally" for that matter.

During the pandemic, I paid my longest-term regular a small fee to sext for awhile. It was awkward and I think we were both laughing by the time it was done. At least I was. I just can't see the attraction in it.

It happens. I've seen providers with many good reviews have to take breaks for personal, mental, or drug issues that were interfering with their escorting abilities. This could be any of the above.

That's how a friend of mine texted everyone to bring "condom mints" to a picnic because he didn't have anything for the burgers and dogs.

Read that NYT article too. I had already heard of the Zelle crackdown, and had already stopped using it. There was another article (can't find it) about how groups in support of SESTA-FOSTA have absolutely no idea what real life sex workers experience. Banks do keep an eye on withdrawals as well. I've gotten used, when I take out money through a teller, to chat about my "upcoming visit to the local casino."

I'd hate to see the training data for such an AI.

This law is idiotic- like the one article said, there's been only 1 conviction for sex trafficking, while the supposedly trafficked are being punished. Why don't they find out how many congressmen paid for sex? I remember what Larry Flint did during Clinton's impeachment, and I loved watching a hypocritical conservative get booted from the speakership.

Yes. In Illinois, like some other states, all parties have to be informed of being recorded, or it's a crime. Federal law doesn't care as long as the recorder is being recorded themselves.

I've always been liberal in my reviews. As long as our agreement is fulfilled, I give them 5 stars. There's a lot of things that bother the hell out of me, but not other people. Likewise, I've seen other people criticize my regulars for things I don't mind. Unless someone robs me, I've adopted a policy of keeping negative remarks to private messages. And generally only when I'm asked. That way, they can decide what to do with my opinion.

Have you tried waiting until after 4 p.m. to book a room? They drop their prices since it's unlikely they'll get customers. I've saved about a third of the overpriced, undeserving hotel fees that way. If there's no events near the hotel, and no reason to expect it would fill up, you can get roomd a lot cheaper. I've done this several times when grabbing rooms to meet providers in. Again, it only works on down days.

As much as I'd like to correct your misconception, I'll restrain myself, as you don't need to know that much about me.

Okay, I'll just hit thieves with a tazer, give them a few whacks with a baseball bat, grab the envelope back, take their cell phone, then kick them out. Happy?

We come from different worlds and backgrounds. I would think you would have figured mine out by now. In my world, you never allow a thief to take your money.

So do I but most are too smart to come after me. I'd prefer the law change so we can shoot burglars in the back. Recently, an escort (now banned from RM) completely lied about his appearance, snatched the envelope and ran. He would not have made it out the door if it wasn't for these idiotic laws.

Oh come on, I came out during the 90s when the older generation began struggling to stabilize their HIV with drug cocktails. Young gays who looked hot were still arrogant narcissists, with the added benefit that they were partly closeted. Not that I can blame them, since I was young and also got tired of how entitled some of the older ones acted when they hit on them.

Hey I met a Latino once who didn't speak a single word of English, but he was able to use the following grammatically correct sentence after our session. "Hey, do you have a tip or something extra for me?"

I can see what you're getting at. I never had problems having casual sex with a friend or aquiaintence. However, that was only possible because we had a strong NSA understanding and similar views on sex. As for a provider, I wouldn't try to get closer unless the business relationship ended. Also, any relationship I have needs to be open enough so I can keep hiring. Nice to have someone to go shopping with.

I've had providers who listed "Kissing" on their ad. When I contacted them, they said they kissed with their tongue. When we met, they wouldn't. One kid that happened with, he told me that he "only kisses on a second hire." Cute, but that ensured that I'll never feel his lips.