DrownedBoy

I was tempted, if only to compliment my backup regular for being so punctual, available, and kind. Unlike many traveling Latino guys, who have a flake rate of like 75%.

Another guy here who's always with his family on Christmas. Remote tech work is a great thing. Hiring's not much of an option. And always spend NYE with friends. One time I did hire a guy on NYE, since it was shortly after a breakup and I cut my plans. He's been a regular for 7 years now. Profitable rebound.

He did me a favor by not meeting with me. I like kissing, and if he tried to get more money out of me.....well he'd fail for one.

I've only flown a guy into town once (from within the U.S.), and I even asked ahead of time if he wanted to stay longer than the night I was paying him for. I explained that real bodybuilders are in short supply in Chicago, so it might be a business opportunity. He declined immediately, and said he just wanted to spend the night with me, which he did.

I'm not into anal, but some providers told me it often means that they're not willing to bottom unless you pay them extra. I believe this is because they're Versatile/Top, and need to take extra measures to clean out beforehand. Fair enough.

He stood me up. We agreed to meet at a specific time. I was even a sending him an Uber, but when it became late, I texted him saying he needed to come. He replied with a single word, 'tomorrow?' I said no, that we had to meet tonight. Then he started texting me, "Oh I want to see you...but I need your photo first.....I deserve to see the man I'm meeting..." He kept repeating this over and over again, as if he were drunk or high, until I told him to stop and that I thought we shouldn't meet. He eagerly texted me back, 'OK.' JUDGMENT: Unprofessional little brat.

Some men can get veeery emotional over ED.

That's my policy. However, I've never had a provider take it, as long as I said I planned to hire them when I was well.

I've never classed St. Louis as "conservative." Backwater and backwards, yes, but never conservative. I remember decades ago, young gays who were stuck in southern Illinois towns would travel there for fun. Sad.

I had a former regular who kept texting me. Last text went like this: "So when are we meeting again?" "If you haven't figured it out, never. I can't keep hiring an escort who never arrives on time."

My favorite excuse from a constantly-late former provider: "I had to drive my pregnant sister to the hospital." My response: "In that case, you shouldn't come. Stay near your sister. Put your family first."

Have you checked your junk email lately?

What if a masseur, unexpectedly, starts doing escort things with you? Without asking for extra?

12 lords a leaping. That might be worth it.

If I think the escort is worth it, I'll send an Uber. Not always. Providers are not all created equal.

The only times I had a phone conversation, it was either a no show or a scam. However, I have begun insisting on calling providers who may not speak English well. If they can't understand "500 for 2 hours," it's a good sign they also won't understand the sentence, "you agreed to 2 hours, not 70 minutes."

Same thing happened to me before. Scheduled for Friday on a Monday, sick on Tuesday, and knew on Friday morning I was still sick. Just texted him saying I was sick and that I'd reschedule for the following weekend. No problem. I said it years ago, if either a client or provider gets that sick, it's a benefit to both sides if one side cancels. If a provider complains you're somehow costing him, just ask how much it will cost him if he gets sick and loses a week of work. And I wouldn't want a sick provider to show up for the same reason.

Yes, and it was a part of a scam. Latino guy arrived at the door of my condo, then he ghosts me for 30 minutes. Eventually, he shows up at my door, and says his phone went out of power. Then he told me that 30 minutes counted towards my session, unless I paid him an extra 50. I lost 30 minutes. He lost some stars. What a dimwit...

Anyone in Chicago looking to hire with a friend?

My mistake - texting and driving is illegal in 48 states. So now you have a really good reason not to respond to obnoxious texters. Yeah, I got that from a certain 5-star provider I've been receiving inquiries about. I was in the office, and texted, "Dude, I'm WORKING," and he still wouldn't stop hounding me to change the session schedule. Since he screwed me on my schedule time, that's now an instant cancel for me. As an (older) Millennial, I can assure you that the mature among us realize that anyone who needs to be constantly texted and reassured is probably insecure, possessive, entitled, or just outright rude and inconsiderate. I used to have an a@@hole manager who would text employees with our internal IM, and if they didn't respond in 2 minutes, would start texting "ping" to us, as if we were a goddamned network host. Once, he did it to a new father who was changing his baby's diapers. The guy asked the manager if he wanted sh!t smeared all over the work computer. That shut the a@@hole up.

Yes, I've also seen it translate into a refusal to take responsibility if something beyond your control affects you. The aforementioned late, bitchy Latino was a textbook case of that. Guess what. I've been late to job interviews because there was a car accident (beyond my control) that stopped traffic. They cancelled the interview and someone else got the job. In real life, it's not an excuse - it means I should have left my place earlier to get there. These kids are going to have to learn life the hard way. In particular, Latinos need to realize that they're living in America's time culture, not Latin America's.

Tell them you don't text and drive. It's illegal in Illinois, and dangerous everywhere.

Someone in this forum suggested this, and I follow it. They ask for a face pic, I sent them a shot of Grant's $50 portrait and tell then that's all they need.

I keep trying to meet him, but am usually out of town on business when he's in Chicago. His English is unfortunately horrendous- one time I ordered him an Uber, and the driver kicked him out because he didn't know enough English to explain I had ordered it for him. The driver was black (Chicago thing). I gave Uber an earful about racism, and now don't have to worry about that driver again. But that chance flew away, and when he texted me a few days ago, I was already in Wisconsin winter quarters.

Yes, I admit you are correct there. As long as you maintain professional boundaries, I'd imagine it's ok. For example, someone like me should only have a provider satisfy their fetishes during "working hours," but all sexual activities outside those hours have to be mutual. The only difference between an FB and FWB, aside from friendship, is that FWB's also do non-sexual things outside of "working hours." My opinion.