DrownedBoy

I didn't even bother during a heavy Chicago snowstorm. I have experience driving down unplowed side streets in Chicago, and I don't need someone getting in an accident over me. I do have to hire when it's sub-freezing out, but that goes with the territory.

I recently encountered a visiting provider to Chicago who refused to list his phone number, and would only use RM Messenger. That was a red flag, especially since a quick search on CoM revealed that he has a habit of lying to future customers.

Yes that kind of money grubbing should be an instant cancel.

That was bad enough when I encountered it on Grindr. Guess they were selling a "surprise " session.

Yup. I mentioned earlier that RM are a luxury good. Luxury goods don't sell during economic downturns. And I don't care what politicians say, this economy is a lot worse than the numbers show. This market is the most laissez-faire of all due to the law, yet good providers are dropping their rates. I bet it's this reason: https://www.cnn.com/2023/08/08/economy/us-household-credit-card-debt/index.html

I don't send it. Ever.

This older millennial can't either... ....which is why he has a modest condo. Mortgage payments are like half of what some of my friends pay in rent. As for the latest Chicago price update, I'm seeing professionals, including young ones, drop their prices below 300/hour (or 500/2hr) more often. There's something off about the economy. I bet everyone's been paying with credit and savings the past 3 years, and the bills are coming due. For both clients and providers.

The thing is, I've seen ads where they offer "college specials" and discounts for "fit" clients. Also, I'm sure both providers and clients have encountered situations where, for some reason or another, the provider decides to do more because he finds it pleasurable.

I keep my stats on my RM profile. Any provider has a chance to look ahead of time. When contacting someone new via text, I often include a link to that profile. The smarter and professional escorts will actually take time to read it. That's a filter I watch if they ask any additional questions. If they ask me for my face pic, I send them one of the small portraits of Dr. Franklin I keep in my pocket. My face pic is a dealkiller. EDIT: Anyone who ever read Franklin's autobiography will see how appropriate it is to use his face for such transactions.

There was a provider Darkyounghorse whose tongue was so long and skilled that I came when he kissed me once. Unfortunately he's no longer on the market, and seemed very uncomfortable and unreliable when he still was. Statistically speaking, African men have the longest tongues, and that guy was a transplanted Ugandan.

Like everyone said - it never hurts to ask. However, if your tastes are a bit weird, sometimes it's easier to just buy several sizes of the costume and have them cleaned between providers. As I promise all hires, the costume will always be cleaned after being worn.

Like you said, that wouldn't happen in a simple organizational DB. It's only when you have data duplication (e.g., the name is kept by several company products separately) that this happens. RM isn't that big. My firm has to strictly follow GDPR (we've had customers call and threaten to sue us if we didn't delete their data right now!!!!). Their data gets disconnected with any others and their personal data and email, scrambled.

The more reviews the travelling provider has, the less likely he is to be available. Like several here mentioned, sometimes they say they're in a city even though they already have a rich client to take care of them overnight. Also, travelling providers are a _lot_ more likely to flake.

I recall using email when I first began hiring (around 2014), but quickly stopped when everyone seemed to prefer texts.

In "safe" cities like NYC/Chicago/LA, where police don't arrest prostitutes as part of their policy, the client can still be prosecuted. Clients are usually the only people who have any legal risk.

Some providers, I understand, have technical problems either using or accessing the chat. Conversely, I've met providers who are rarely marked "available," but if your RM message them, they'll give you availability. I would recommend both sides use chat for very basic questions (an intro with wants, and a question of rates/location/availability), but you really should switch to a real phone text for actual business. Last time I checked, RM chat had zero security.

Luckily, with many "premium" providers, they show their (negative) personality in a few of the opening texts. Saves us both a lot of wasted time.

As long as apps allow age filtering, there will be age shaving. The difference between 29 and 30 is meaningless in reality, but on Grindr or RM, can make the difference between showing up in searches or being invisible. I prefer honest photos.

Likewise, a client can look down as a provider as "lazy guy who insists on big bucks for unskilled labor." When one side gets arrogant, expect the other side to put their shields up. Tit for tat. Being polite at the beginning stops that. I prefer business relationships that don't become a battle of wills....because the guy with the money always wins, and some kids don't realize that yet.

Yup. I tried to "hurry along" a USPS guy with a 20 but he thrust it right back at me. I'd like to tip my mailman, but they never deliver my stuff before 5 or 6 at night. Nobody in my condo building even considers tipping for that reason.

Like others, I don't appreciate the attitude or lack of professionalism with many younger providers, especially traveling ones. 3 times out of 4 in 2023, when I tried a young new provider, they'd flake without warning. I don't have much free time with work, so that screws up my schedule. On Grindr my bottom filter is on 35. It's a cultural thing more than an age thing.

Yeah. I need to doublecheck if the provider has facial hair. I've hired guys whose every ad pic what clean-shaved, then they had a full beard. Not my cup of tea.

That is correct. Traditional manners involves giving gifts to service people on Christmas. Few people remember that.

I just send them a Christmas tip on one of their apps. Money is always welcome. But it's only for providers I've been seeing for at least several years. I only do this for regulars who lock me in on their rates when I first hired them. One hand washes the other.

I spell out what I'm looking for in my profile. Only a handful of providers have bothered reading it before visiting. Feeling more and more like Grindr.