DrownedBoy

As a client, I'd try not to structure 2 hr meetings too much. For example, I used to be afraid of blowing my load too early, whereas if I relax and let myself go, I can get 2 orgasms in.

Hey, I've come across Grindr guys who say they're into kissing, and won't. It's more annoying on RM. Next time a guy who lists kissing won't, I should start subtracting stars.

Yes, his body was excellent

He has a schedule so you have to catch him or schedule. Don't usually like twinks, but he looks like a crush I had in junior high

Weird. Just glancing through Grindr ads, a lot of older men added messages specififying they don't want to pay. I got propositioned by a twink escort, and I hadn't even looked at his entry. I assume there's a lot more of that on Grindr than I'd imagine.

Sounds like my parents. They still worry about AIDS, even after all the advances. I attended high school in the early 90s, but it wasn't a very good high school (one common afterschool event was watching cops arrest gang members walking out the front door). I heard that later in the 90s, a single guy came out and was considered brave. I just waited until college.

Germany worked. Ach du lieber! Should have tried that first, given where RM is.

Am I missing something? I did what you said, and tried: https://rentmen.eu/<ESCORTNAME>/reviews/ But I get a "Hmmm… can't reach this page" error.

Some things haven't changed, even after 506 years.

Just like people have to accept that some clients will never send a deposit. There. Question answered by supply and demand once again.

That's not a request - it's a scam. When they pull that on me, I cancel immediately.

I'd ask: 1. How do you know which gentlemen are the "gigilos?" I'd hope they don't have a tag that says so. 2. Do gay cruises bother hiring gigilos? Doesn't seem like you'd need them unless you know you have an older crowd.

And here the Japanese think they invented the host club.....

Yes, luckily I live in an era and city where my company has its own gay group, and even its own gay HR representative who would deal with this. Things like this get swept under the rug. They just tell management that this is "gay culture" and that "everyone one in the LGBTQ community engages in that," and they won't look further, as long as the police or press don't get involved.

Yeah, I learned that while hiring. I'm to a point where I screen out anyone under 30 unless I research their personality. In my experience, when young, hot escorts start out, and they find they're really popular, it goes to their head. I can't stand that - they act like they're young on Grindr, while forgetting they're really on RentMen and getting compensated. They think they can be "fashionably late." And too many client enablers let them get away with that. When I was young, I swore I'd never put up with brats, even if they were hot and young. That's been an easy oath to uphold. After a few years (and as they get closer to the originally-planned "cash out" date), they tend to be nicer and more professional. They also realize the gravy train won't go on forever, and that they aren't as cute as when they started, so they're more humble and realistic as well. And, yes, there are many artists, writers, etc. out there escorting. Those jobs are unlikely to ever pay the bills, but it gives them culture that makes for good conversation.

I'm still hiring him, and I consider him a twunk now. However, if you want to do anything specific, just check first. My repertoire with him is a lot different than what most people hire for.

Like stated earlier, I'd send a deposit to a well known escort (like Jarrod) who has a lot of RM reviews. However, last nite, I turned down a deposit request from an RM ad that had only a single review. Now, I fully understood why they asked for it - it turned out they were further away from me than expected. However, if they're new and have only one review, I'm not sending a deposit. I simply acknowledged that they were too far away and wished them good luck. I'm not unhappy with them, but it was simply an unlucky situation for them.

And what would happen if a shady character came to a school building, demanding to see the superintendent, claiming he is a male prostitute that has texts on his phone that prove a specific teacher hired him? The moment he revealed he was an escort, nobody would listen to him. They'd kick him off the grounds if he was persistent. Nobody is going to read through the texts or care about his claim. Also, an anonymous accusation would most certainly be ignored by HR, unless they decide to warn the OP that they received suspicious messages. A simple denial can dispose of an anonymous accusation (unless you have real enemies at work). Idle threat.

DISCLAIMER - As advised above, contact a lawyer (if you can afford it) before dealing with the police. What I say below is from personal experience, but based largely on my location (Chicago) and some less savory knowledge I picked up over the years. However, I have successfully used this in other states. If you're in the closet, and want to remain that way, I feel very sorry for you, and wish you'd get more comfortable with yourself. In this case, I would offer the guy a token amount (like $50) and tell him to take it or leave it, else you'll go to the cops. I wouldn't recommend the full amount, or he'll want more. If you have to go to the police and can't afford a lawyer, I've personally found the following strategies work: Tell the cops you were using a "gay dating app." That's technically true, and most will immediately assume it's Grindr. Tell the truth for the specific encounter - he came over for casual sex, and now he's trying to shake you up for money. Don't lie, just give the basic facts. Most cops, when they see two gay men in a situation like this, want nothing better than to label it as a "domestic" and get the hell away. They don't want to get involved with gay relationships (many of them are blue-collar conservative). If you mention (again, truthfully, don't lie) that you and him met for casual sex in the past, leaving out the payment part, they will likely automatically label it as a domestic disturbance, and simply warn the other guy off. If you have to admit transactional sex, call it a "sugar daddy" situation. The cops are not likely to even listen to the other guy, especially if you show them selectively chosen (but real) threats he made. If you're an employed, respectable professional (and so far it sounds like you are), the cops will make a snap judgment call and ignore the other guy and any "evidence" he would try to give them. Unless they're doing a sting, police aren't going to dig through a long list of texts over a domestic disturbance based on a few casual sex encounters, and definitely not from someone they perceive as unhinged or less-than-respectable. Like it or not, the best way to deal with police is to create believability as quickly as possible, and there are many techniques to do so. Try learning some of them. Whatever happens, make sure you give a good donation at the next police fundraiser. The times this happened to me, I just told the would-be-blackmailed to "f**k off" unless he wanted to get the law involved. As others said, you'd get a fine, and he'd go to prison. Also, don't be above taking a defensive position yourself. I have several photos on my phone from my practice range, and showing it to other people generally keeps them from screwing with me.

My reply would be "nice try." If I'm considering someone on RM and ask to see their gallery, and they decline the offer, I immediately write them off as stupid (for ignoring a Premium user's request) and arrogant (for thinking his pictures are that good).

This Millennial recalls watching a TV show where "honorarium" was used to describe the fee you pay to a clergyman to conduct a marriage. Interesting new usage.

I found one piece of common wisdom to be true - coworkers and business associates aren't your friends. Just wait for layoffs to start at your company to see what those "friendships" are worth. However, I've forged strong friendships with former coworkers who I got along with, and who I no longer work with. I'd imagine something similar may apply to client-provider friendships.

That 3rd step is very useful, and I've adopted it. A cop won't tongue you.

Yes, and this gives rise to younger escorts charging that 500/hr because they think they're worth that much. More proof that the younger generation is getting attracted to socialistic thinking, and ignoring human nature (otherwise known as capitalism). It's already been established that, in countries where prostitution is legal, prices are much cheaper. I believe this is because of two things. First, clients are more likely to hire, since there's no legal penalty, and prices/pictures are more transparent (it would be a lot easier to take action against an escort who cheats you, for example). Second, there will be an influx of providers even at this lower rate, since legal sex work has a lower barrier to entry, and in my U.S. experiences, often attracts men who don't want a 9-5 job (which pretty much describes every single man on Earth ).