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Anyone have any recommendations on how to ease back into going out/meeting new people after a long dry spell?  
Back in 2017, I started down the road of significant abdominal surgeries. A partial colonectomy from diverticulitis, spiraled into an ostomy, reversal, then two open hernia surgeries, and facing hopefully the final hernia surgery in a few months.  Oh yeah, and then COVID shutting everything down. 
Just wondering if anyone else faced how to start getting back social circles after significant medical setbacks?  I'll go out to dinner with married suburban friends, but haven't ventured past my bubble in several years. In my 20s, I'd go out to the bar life in the city. In my 30s, I settled into my stripper bar habit aka my gay cheers while doing long term caregiving. Then the health issues creep in. Now in my 40s, I'm going stir crazy and yet also don't want to repeat the heavy boozing that usually comes along with going out. 
Perhaps it is just as simple as deciding to go out for acouple drinks, and calling it early. I curious for options on what worked for others in a similar situation. Sitting on grindr seems fruitless, I'd rather go out and take my chances making new friends in real life. 

Depends on the charger, but usually 30-40 min for 100 mi in range assuming a 150kW charger.  I usually look for one near a restaurant or shopping. Plug in and then go putz around.  
Roadtrips over multiple states isn't something I regularly do. I adopted a rule to fly if it's more than one state away.  
Gas price in my area.  Around $3.65/gallon for regular gas.

With real time pricing, I pay about .07/kWH * 78kWh battery = $5.46 that's at home.
Gets about 220 miles.  
On the road, I've done quick charging for about $15 for 100 miles.  

While this topic can trend depressing, I do think it's a nice idea to have an in- memoriam thread.  Some folks do leave an positive impact on others, and sharing the good memories can't hurt.

You only live twice from the Bond series...  Came from the saying...  You only die twice, once in real life, and once when your name/memory leaves the earth.  
It can be sad if you focus on the negative aspects.  Nonetheless, escorts/body workers/strippers still are people, and equally deserving of rememberance. 

You only live twice from the Bond series...  Came from the saying...  You only die twice, once in real life, and once when your name/memory leaves the earth.  
It can be sad if you focus on the negative aspects.  Nonetheless, escorts/body workers/strippers still are people, and equally deserving of rememberance. 

While this topic can trend depressing, I do think it's a nice idea to have an in- memoriam thread.  Some folks do leave an positive impact on others, and sharing the good memories can't hurt.

You only live twice from the Bond series...  Came from the saying...  You only die twice, once in real life, and once when your name/memory leaves the earth.  
It can be sad if you focus on the negative aspects.  Nonetheless, escorts/body workers/strippers still are people, and equally deserving of rememberance. 

While this topic can trend depressing, I do think it's a nice idea to have an in- memoriam thread.  Some folks do leave an positive impact on others, and sharing the good memories can't hurt.

You only live twice from the Bond series...  Came from the saying...  You only die twice, once in real life, and once when your name/memory leaves the earth.  
It can be sad if you focus on the negative aspects.  Nonetheless, escorts/body workers/strippers still are people, and equally deserving of rememberance. 

While this topic can trend depressing, I do think it's a nice idea to have an in- memoriam thread.  Some folks do leave an positive impact on others, and sharing the good memories can't hurt.

You only live twice from the Bond series...  Came from the saying...  You only die twice, once in real life, and once when your name/memory leaves the earth.  
It can be sad if you focus on the negative aspects.  Nonetheless, escorts/body workers/strippers still are people, and equally deserving of rememberance. 

While this topic can trend depressing, I do think it's a nice idea to have an in- memoriam thread.  Some folks do leave an positive impact on others, and sharing the good memories can't hurt.

I had the acquaintance of Gary Ware who was the model for the character "Sonny" in the film by that name. Sadly, he  contracted aids and died some thirty years ago at the age of 27. In his day, he was the proverbial "walkin' streak of sex", a celebrity of sorts in that regard; in his physical appearance, he was the perfection of the form of a young Paul Newman. At our last meeting, shortly before his death, he remarked to me that he had "his day in the sun" and his only regret in dying was that "people forget you". 

The amazing thing to me is that European guys don't go this way but actually seem to do better than most in life. I'm sure there's the obligatory coke involved with filming and other bad habits but they end up better off not worse. I keep up with a number of them and they're teachers, coaches, media workers, athletes, etc when they age-out of porn and escorting around 30. And they usually start earlier on their 18th birthday. 
Really like night and day difference. 

Hello!  
Sadly, I can relate to losing both parents. My dad was in my late teens. Likewise, my mom had a brain bleed in my late 20s. She survived for another 12 years. It was rough seeing the gradual decline. Though it prepared me for the eventual loss.  
If you want some professional guidance on forming what you want to come next, I recommend reaching out to a gay friendly therapist. Finding a good therapist who's truly gay friendly (and not just a marketing ploy) is easier in a bigger city like Dallas. A good therapist can help you process some of the emotions and separate true emotions from the baggage we have grown up with. Therapy doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, just that you need some tools to sort out with new experiences/emotions.  It's also not forever.  
Again, welcome to the forums! 
 

Hello!  
Sadly, I can relate to losing both parents. My dad was in my late teens. Likewise, my mom had a brain bleed in my late 20s. She survived for another 12 years. It was rough seeing the gradual decline. Though it prepared me for the eventual loss.  
If you want some professional guidance on forming what you want to come next, I recommend reaching out to a gay friendly therapist. Finding a good therapist who's truly gay friendly (and not just a marketing ploy) is easier in a bigger city like Dallas. A good therapist can help you process some of the emotions and separate true emotions from the baggage we have grown up with. Therapy doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, just that you need some tools to sort out with new experiences/emotions.  It's also not forever.  
Again, welcome to the forums! 
 

Meanwhile there's a bunch of recreational boaters are like...  wait what?  I can just say put it on my tab to the fuel dock and cruise off?  That's an option?!??!  

Hello!  
Sadly, I can relate to losing both parents. My dad was in my late teens. Likewise, my mom had a brain bleed in my late 20s. She survived for another 12 years. It was rough seeing the gradual decline. Though it prepared me for the eventual loss.  
If you want some professional guidance on forming what you want to come next, I recommend reaching out to a gay friendly therapist. Finding a good therapist who's truly gay friendly (and not just a marketing ploy) is easier in a bigger city like Dallas. A good therapist can help you process some of the emotions and separate true emotions from the baggage we have grown up with. Therapy doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, just that you need some tools to sort out with new experiences/emotions.  It's also not forever.  
Again, welcome to the forums! 
 

Hello!  
Sadly, I can relate to losing both parents. My dad was in my late teens. Likewise, my mom had a brain bleed in my late 20s. She survived for another 12 years. It was rough seeing the gradual decline. Though it prepared me for the eventual loss.  
If you want some professional guidance on forming what you want to come next, I recommend reaching out to a gay friendly therapist. Finding a good therapist who's truly gay friendly (and not just a marketing ploy) is easier in a bigger city like Dallas. A good therapist can help you process some of the emotions and separate true emotions from the baggage we have grown up with. Therapy doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, just that you need some tools to sort out with new experiences/emotions.  It's also not forever.  
Again, welcome to the forums! 
 

There was standing event every New Years Day, Memorial and Labor Day. Some barowners would host a private word of mouth "private party", tickets ran around 100. They brought in dancers/porn actors from around the midwest and country if the Grabbys were in town that weekend. It was stopped after the city started to crackdown on the local bars once boystown started going more straight.

For such a high class establishment with lofty standards, their web site looks like it was left in 1997! One does not expect to ***dress-to-impress*** when their advertising lacks a design to impress.
 
Yes. I drank some haterade this morning.

It is great that he seems just as comfortable showing bottom stuff as top.

For such a high class establishment with lofty standards, their web site looks like it was left in 1997! One does not expect to ***dress-to-impress*** when their advertising lacks a design to impress.
 
Yes. I drank some haterade this morning.

random fact... Grand Geneva used to be a Playboy branded resort!