MrMattBig

Hello everyone!

It touches my heart to see all the caring responses and glowing sentiments. For those that know me here and in person, if you recall i lost someone very close to me few years back, in fact the person responsible for opening my eyes up to this wonderful world of escorting. So this past year the holidays have hit me especially hard, and accompanied with other things as well. I kind of misplaced myself for a brief moment in time. But now I'm back and hoping to reconnect with old acquaintances and make new friends as well!  

Does anyone know how someone would stumble across Hot.com? Just googling for escorts turns up mostly the main sites but no Hot.com in my search results. Truly curious how someone finds there way to it.

My friend in SF whose a trans girl is looking for a massage this weekend.

Seeking sensual/erotic with legit skills. 

I think i have been overtipping by a large amount..

Well $60 on $300 is 20%, I think it comes down to personal tipping habits, some 10% is their norm, others it's 50%. Even outside of industry norms (dining, nail salons, etc) some stick to their own habits. You do you regardless, I'll happily accept a larger tip from anyone ?

Blank checks too!...well I digress now we are into findom territory

I really want to tip appropriately but I realized I have no clue what a decent tip looks like.

 

Let's just say it was a standard one hour rate of 300. As a provider, what amount of tip would make you feel like your client enjoyed himself?

 

Thank you in advance, I just want to have a clear idea of what a solid tip looks in the escorting world.

Answers to this question may vary.

My point of view and opinion : any amount above the session rate is appreciated.

Even better than tips are longer sessions in the future, regularly booked appointments, offers to meals or events, etc.

If an amount is to be referenced, I would say 20-60$

Possibility of a Lakers v. Nets Finals matchup would be wild!

Me, I understand cold feet, changing your mind. I hire girls once or twice a year so I get it. What I don't understand is the self centered nature of communication or lack thereof nowadays. Like others have pointed out, it permeates other industries besides sex work. "How long you in town for" or "I'll get back to you" 99% if the time means this isn't happening from their end. I'll usually give cancelations a free pass as far as consideration for another booking. But when someone says they will follow up and doesn't, or when I ask if a certain time will work or ask what their availability is and get no response, if someone does that a second time it's usually a blacklist from me. Just communicate upfront, not that hard.

I have someone in Boston who has hit me up at least a half dozen times inquires but an appointment doesn't materialize. But I would meet with them in a heartbeat if it ever does. Why? Because they have communicated upfront about their situation.

This is what I meant. Either late-night higher rate or include Uber back home cost in the rate when talking to the client. It's simple communication, not rocket science.

The way I understand the situation, is that because of Covid related transit schedules, under normal circumstances it would have been a few dollars normally to return via subway, or a ride under a monthly pass. Does it make sense to change pricing protocols because of pandemic-only era situations and costs? Perhaps. But when inquires already sometimes balk at at prices or try to haggle because of the pandemic, it's like @FrankR said there is no scenario to make both sides and everyone happy. Adding a surcharge to cover late night transport might turn that client away, either for the sticker cost, or for the mental frame of having to pay for the providers transportation as well as his service.

Not to mention, many inquires may not be aware or realize there is limited public transportation ability so might view asking for uber fee as others have described.

The rate cap for what most clients consider to be reasonable is frankly way too low to factor in every possible operating expense into a base rate. It would be one thing if a client included the outcall address in his initial inquiry before requesting a price quote, but in most cases that's simply not how it happens. If clients were more accepting of higher rates across the board, I'm sure more escorts would not itemize expenses like uber fees. I charge around 300-400 in an attempt to compromise between an accessible market rate and the rates I'd prefer to be charging ($1K and up for multihour meetings), but even guys in very high cost-of-living areas consistently balk at paying $300. Now I have over a decade of experience in the industry and my marketing draws a lot of attention, so I have the perspective to just move onto the next client who IS willing to pay. But most escorts without my experience level probably feel they cannot charge as much as they want to cover every possible expense. I definitely understand the clients' desire for an all-inclusive price, but when rates do not rise with inflation, this is simply not practical. I am glad to see that 300+ is a number clients are getting more comfortable with now. I remember even 5-10 years ago, it was seen as a lot more wild to be asking even that much. So the rates have risen a little. Just not enough for all the bells and whistles to be "included". And as I mentioned above, a lot of times the direct Uber request is also a screening mechanism to weed the real bookings from the flakes.

Absolutely agree. With hotel, flight, transportation expenses related to escorting it comes out to the same as what I pay in rent or more annually, essentially meaning I pay for 2 apartments. And new inquires still balk at my sub $300 rate.??

Having a $300 rate would help lessen the impact of that overhead greatly, but I would never hear the end of it and decrease the prospect of new clients drastically.

ATL and other US metro areas might be affected by what's going on here in Vegas, Pandemic emergency declarations affecting ability to surge price and therefore affecting how many drivers are going to elect to drive and be available. Currently, if I can't get a ride from a friend back home from a late night outcall, i most likely won't accept the appointment, because I'll encounter the same experience of struggling to get a ride from ride share. So yes, time of day, and availability of public transport do matter (most services still have limited time schedules) @RJD . All this to say I'm one that takes public transportation everywhere unless for groceries, heavy luggage, or tight time schedule. However, I agree with @marylander1940 "If a client wants someone ASAP and it's late at night he should pay for the Uber or even better Ubering the guy to him."

I have someone who periodically hits me up when I'm in Socal who wants an outcall but by public transportation is effectively 2.5 hours away. Even if I'm slow, it's just not possible to go to him and come back for the one incall I'll have later at my location or get to him within his window of availability, which is usually early or short notice.

If someone wants short notice or ASAP outcall, which seems to be the majority of initial inquires at least, it should be the going gesture to offer to Uber/Lyft the provider there.

Either way, local transportation is still Covid affected, by limited time schedules and ride share issues, so both clients and providers I would hope have more patience and flexibility during these times still.

Asking for you to call them an Uber from your account is not uncommon, as @harey pointed out could be their way to weed out flakes and have the client cover that overhead so they see more profit from the appointment fee.

If someone asks you to send them money to cover the Uber, extremely high probability of being a scam.

Tone is everything. The need and desire to deter "un-client" contact is warranted and necessary. However I do agree with the sentiment here. "Do not waste my time" reads to me as someone who may be amateur, not serious about escorting, a flake/time waster themselves, picky, ala carte pricing, rough around the edges, or any combination of similar.

Serious inquiries only reads and lands better.

Epic classic!

Monday Gonzaga v. Baylor for all the marbles.

Epic classic!

Monday Gonzaga v. Baylor for all the marbles.

I'm a regular watcher of Chaturbate and won't watch guys with cute made up names listed for their location. Stuff like your bedroom, your dreams, mother earth, cyber space, here, etc. I don't mind if it's blank or a general area like Europe, Columbia, Spain, SE USA, etc. I don't need to know the specific location. If a broadcaster doesn't want to give their location, why not leave blank or lie. I don't know why? I have a peeve for made up cute names that aren't a real place. Am I weird?

Cute location names I feel are part of the flirtatious nature one need to have making money online with a sexual presense. That said, generic cute phrases annoy me.

"Your dreams" "best in/at xyx" type of stuff.

More creative the better, such as "the ether" "nudist colony in my bedroom, my house"

"Down the rabbit hole" "the upsidedown" "on your discostick" "9 inches inside your hole"

Whatever the various details might be, if he didn't report income for '15 '16 '17, and then reported over $300,000 for 2018 I'm sure that got the IRS attention as well.

Wanted to see him the last time I was in NYC but I saw the "I'm only into older men (please be 40+)" so figured not to waste time reaching out.

I see that as more an advertising ploy and semi falsely assuming only older men have money to pay than a strict limit...reach out and shoot your shot you never know...

"Auntie's" would have been better for the name.

To add some quick experience regarding check-in and availability to see clients:

I generally aim to check-in by 11am and available for appointments starting at 1pm.

During Covid and lower capacity, it's generally been easier to check in before posted check in times. Once you make some rounds, you start to know which areas of cities, and which hotels you can get away with getting in at 9:30am or have to wait til 2:30pm

It give me answers bout client but not escort . Is it possible to PM . Thank you ?

Click the drop down menu on "Client" and switch it to "Escort"

Time is the legal loophole to get around the law . We all know we pay for the services that are charged by the hour . So no I am paying for the services that we aggred on . Some escort will charge you for extra services such as kissing or bareback so therefore we paying for the service ? ? . If you can't perform I will leave and won't pay

No, dead wrong. If you choose your provider on good character as well as you state below, then even more so you are paying for an experience, which is a function of time, not for services.

A black eye ? danm . I choose my escort based on everything not just in look . Good character is always important

@harlow Low carb monster energy, 1 bottle water, half bottle of propel or sugar free vitamin water, some rose wine or berry flavored mike's hard lemonade.

Maybe you should come sample it first hand!!

Can you login with a VPN and then leave a comment review? The whole UI changes a bit, so I wouldn't be surprised if the functionality magically appears with a VPN.

Thanks for that!

That's exactly what I just tried to do after doing that and seeing that option in the UI.

Hopefully it updates soon with my comment and it sticks!

I have seen providers reply to reviews on RM, so it seems like it should be possible.

Webmaster just responded to my request to leave. A comment with "comments" are not available in your region".

While I know comments made by reviewers are only available with a VPN or outside the U.S., I am sure I have come across provider comments to a 1 star review just the same.

Does anyone have a link to a profile like this, with a provider rebuttal attached, so I can send to the webmaster to get them to do the same thing?

I saw that review earlier today and, since you and I had a great session last month, it was clearly bogus to me, especially when he added that your photos are out of date. On several occasions RM has told me I can’t submit a review because there’s no record I communicated with the escort through the RM site (I solve that defect by sending the escort a post-session message via RM, then file my review). Is RM saying that if someone has the telephone number that appears on our RM page they can write a review?! That sure isn’t what they’ve told me. Is there more than one administrator? Maybe “your” administrator is misapplying a policy.

Again, so glad I was able to meet you and that you enjoyed our time together!?

Yes, that's exactly what RM is saying, that clicking the "contact" button to show the providers phone number, while still never communicating on the platform, is enough evidence to write a review. Makes nooooo sense.

@MrMattBig is a first-class provider and intelligent conversationalist. Highly recommended!

Aww thanks! Still unfortunately limited to the English language however lol

Even when nobody's trying to hurt you, one will get unflattering reviews now and again. Sometimes there's just no connection and the client feels entitled to vent. Doesn't mean that he's right.

I will need to shake it off and move on, as it appears this will stay, that is advice that I'll need to keep moving forward.

However, the the one star review is most likely someone I have never met.

RM provided me time stamps of when that profile had clicked for my number. Granted the still cropped the screenshot to not show if it was really from that user, but if I am to believe the timestamps, it could be from someone who has been harassing me from 10+ different numbers since my trip to LA Thanksgiving weekend, a trip where I literally say 3 regulars only (albeit 1 appointment included bringing in another escort) and where my phone broke causing me to miss confirming 1 or 2 appointments with new inquires. Let alone the date of the review 12/2720, I only ever messaged one person, (who is tied to another user profile who themselves went MIA via text when I tried to reconfirm the appointment time.

This is good advice. If you choose to make a reply on RM it is always best to take the high road. Potential clients will see it as a classy respectful move. You can still leave the message that the review is bogus, using nice words.

Will RM let me attach a comment to the review on their platform?

I thought I saw this once before, but wasn't sure.