MrMattBig

I am missing my NBA Finals. ...had wanted to see the Los Angeles Lakers be there this year--but as all know--the Corona Virus shut down the world.

We have been robbed of the inevitable Hallway Series WCF?

Actually, my delay is medical. I’m waiting for a release. I have shared that a few times.

I greatly appreciate your response and explanation. It helps to hear from a true provider.

I love your website! Ever find yourself in Palm Springs??? ?

I see...and thanks!

Make my way to Palm Springs once a year for the forum gathering:)

Other than that its easy enough to coordinate something on the front or back end of my semi-monthly trip to the LA/Socal area.

As evidenced by my advice, I am quite comfortable with planning ahead.

Some aspects I hadn't considered. But I'd expect law enforcement to be more insistent on meeting rather than less, at least if it's a sting rather than the LEO wanting to actually hire a guy for fun rather than to make an arrest.

Exactly!

I have seen Mr. Number app comments on numbers calling them law enforcement, when by interaction with me its clear its just some regular person sexting or playing games. Its an ignorant perversion of Occam's Razor from the submitter of such comments, but that's a discussion beyond the scope of this thread.

I’ll be ready to go in a couple of weeks. I, too, am doing my research now. Unfortunately, many providers get turned off and stop conversation the moment you mention “a few weeks”.

A general "in a few weeks" reads to most providers, even those whose are perfectly fine making plans in advance, as "Ill let you know, ill get back to you, etc".

99% of the time it never happens.

Try being a little bit more specific, even if still unsure.

Mention around the (beginning/middle/end) of the month rather than "in a few weeks"

Add by asking if they will be around in the venue city you are looking in during that time, and that you will touch base closer to set a specific day and time once your schedule becomes clearer.

It may seem like subtle differences and nuances, but it really makes a difference in an escort taking a client seriously and responding to in flux future plans and inquires.

Does anyone ever mention to a provider that you are not in law enforcement, either verbally or in text? Is it even necessary when it hasn’t been asked?

I at the very least take it that they may have some worry about law enforcement and are more likely to get cold feet, thus in my mind the likelihood of flaking, canceling, or not setting an appointment increases and I will start having other plans on the back burner. Secondly, it may show that another provider may have called them out as potential law enforcement (blindly drawing this conclusion at times) for either being overly explicit or being in other ways subjectively difficult to book a meeting and follow through. This may foreshadow that whomever may be contacting me will act in a similar way and a meeting will be difficult to set up or never transpire at all.

Orville reporting back: Different from Rentmen; Mintboys, at least in my area, it's a mixed bag of pros, hustlers and curious with definitely a bigger portion of them calling themselves "straight", close to 50 or 60%, while in Rentmen, I believe, the straight are a minority. For my casual research experiment, and out of personal preference, I targeted only those who declare being straight asking upfront for their rates and telling them I'm a single man. Only half of them replied which for me it's a bad sign but it's unclear to me if they didn't reply because they wouldn't see single men or they are just not following up with their ads. From those who responded; the pros, who are also on Rentment, replied straight forward with their usual rate between $250 and $300 for any activity comprised within 1hr of their time. The hustlers replied with a lot of statements and questions of the sort "I'm straight but I don't mind men", "I prefer women but you can blow me", "What do you want, for how long, and when?", they were also ignorant about the common jargon between escorts and clients (I recall one replying to the cut/uncut question saying that he has short hair). Finally, the Curious are gay and bi men pretending to be straight and just trying to knock their rocks off while making some money on the side. Hustlers and Curious gave me way lower rates than the pros, in the order of $70 to $150, and very open to negotiation, to the point that I just bargained a bj for $40 but I'm honestly scared of what could come along with a bj on a desperate amateur cock from out of town for that price. ?

I would be scared with $40 quote too

Not surprised at the $40 quote, majority of providers have been berated by propositions like this, sometimes lower even (I have been offered $20 from someone in Atlanta once to let them blow me) to begin with at least once...it's cyclical.

What a song and what lyrics!! Lyrics included in this version! No double entrade-just straight up!

I was debating whether to post this song as it might turn off most...but to go along with the straight up theme of yours *pun intended lol*

Not grocery shopping per se, but the struggle is real when you find out a brand new cookie shop just opened right next to a new Domino's Pizza within a 5 minute walkof your house, and you are trying to get in better shape.

I can resist the cookies...mmm chocolate....mmm pizza...ugh damn it I'll be right back

Lol, then what do you call them?

"Fantasy" instead of "Sex Act"?

And "Donation" instead of "Compensation"?

Just looking to confirm...

No the terminology isn't the issue, it is any discussion of tying specific actions to value.

I see no issue having a conversation (oral or written) with someone about what they or you are into, enjoy doing, etc. I even think its ok to ask if the into section of someone's profile is accurate. I also think it is probably ok to have a separate conversation about the rate for someone's time.

 

Where I believe the trouble starts is if the conversation heads to combining the two.

client: what is your rate?

escort responds: what do you want to do?

RUN don't walk away from this.

 

Likewise completely avoid asking things like this:

Does kissing cost extra?

 

Again, just my humble opinion.

If I may also ad, avoid phrasing in terms of what you and another will do together specifically.

For example " I am into kissing and bottoming, do you think we will get along well? If so let me know when you are available and what an hour of your time will cost." Instead of " Into kissing and you topping me. Will you cum? Rate?"

Besides the legality factor, phrased the first way an escort is more likely to take you seriously and reply promptly, the second way you are more likely to be given less priority over other inquiries or ignored all together.

From experience, yes a postop trans woman can definitely still feel pleasure. Unfortunately, I didn't have intercourse with her because she was still working on dilating to a good depth. But everything else we did she responded just as much or more than most cis women. My overall understanding is that sensation can differ for person to person, just like with anyone, and for some it's an ongoing journey as well. Additionally whenever one is curious about experiences, YouTube is an invaluable source of information and stories.

In a deviant sassy mood right now lol

Thanks. Stickiness has always been my problem with water-based lube. But silicone (as mentioned above) has its own problems, especially when you're renting an airbnb, even one with a washing machine. Do you have a work-around for the tendency of water-based to get sticky and provide less lubrication?

Only to experiment with different ones to find one that is acceptable to you, don't be afraid to reapply, and hydrate before so its easier to produce saliva and combine with spit

There seem to be a slew of different varieties of Sliquid Sea on amazon...which one do you recommend?

I have the one that actually says 'sea' right now.

I would not recommend the regular 'h2o' one

I think I have tried the pink label one before, but dont remember it being called sassy.

As a sassy scorpio I will have to make note to refresh my memory.

The silk is a cream consistency....fun for the visual but can get too sticky time to time

While silicone is a totally awesome lube for sex, it stains everything (headboards, sheets, clothes, walls, etc) and is a total nightmare to wash off the skin. You practically need paint thinner or nail polish remover to get it off. And yes, my skin is NOT happy afterwards. And no, rest assured, I'm not rubbing paint thinner or nail polish remover over my mouth, crotch, and tailpipe. Ouch!

 

Maybe old fashioned spit isn't such a bad option afterall. Hmm. (Lightbulb emoji)

Your comment made me remember a time where I first started having my hair colored...the tube was actually jet black when it should had been ash blonde...and in a hurry the jet black stained part of my forehead and face where it dripped. Had to spend the wee hours of the morning washing my face with soap, then acetone, then rubbing alcohol, then aloe lotion and repeat to get it all off my face before the wedding during the day that I was helping to plan with my girlfriend for our roommate.

It is so hard to get the taste of silicone lube from out of your mouth

Sometimes it's a necessary sacrifice ??

https://www.womensvoices.org/lubricants-womens-health/

Yes, it's from a women's use aspect, but great information nonetheless. To play it safe if you are concerned, especially if using with new partners, I usually go with a water based lube that is branded as 'natural' 'sensitive' or specially geared towards women, because the vagina is more sensitive, those products will be the most natural to the body with the least foreign ingredients.

I have found some silicone lubes to cause me to break out around the mouth and face if it got there, and other water based ones to irritate my ass the cock. Currently, for a silicone lube I use Pjur Original

and for a water based Sliquid Sea