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Welcome @Tom C. Sinclair

I don't see why that would be considered "irrational". As a matter of fact, I gave this question some thought, and it occurred to me that I don't feel any turn ons or turn offs are irrational. They just are there. We all have our unique take on what we are into and are NOT into.

That tracks, because I can think of one provider who's been "25" for about 25 years. 🤣

Thanks Miss Manners. Some of us are INTERESTED IN OPINIONS about providers. If you think it's rude to discuss someone's looks you're on the wrong website. @Callas and I have similar taste in men, so I am always interested in what he has to say. Perhaps you could just BLOCK him, if an honest assessment of physical attributes is offensive to you.

SO you think a detective is going to give me a massage and jerk me off, waiting to see if I discuss prostitution later ? 🤔

I dont' agree with some of the cavalier opinions above. You never know when the law enforcement climate will change in your area. This is especially true in some parts of the US during election season. So for MY part, I NEVER put too much incriminating information in writing when reaching out to a provider. My standard approach is to book a massage ..see how that goes, and then if I enjoy their company, I may discuss IN PERSON for more and meet up again.

Does he have a new profile online ?

^^ THIS RIGHT HERE ^^

Stop with your sense of moral superiority and we can stay on subject.

I am bi, not gay, not lesbian. I am speaking about a group of people who I am clearly adjacent to, but pointing out I am not speaking as one of them. Once again.. you people look under every rock for something to feel insulted.about. Then you lash-out and put-down.

I would say Bozo was spot-on. The gays are always attacking windmills. Prior to this, in the 1970s and 1980s their missions were better targeted and well meant. Since they have achieved much for those of us in the LGB community who followed, they seem to be lost and looking for a fight. So they look for things to be insulted about and wear their righteous indignation like a badge of honor. The commentary above about Trans and cross dressers was off topic ...true. But it was emblematic of the way gays will go out of their way to feel insulted by someone who doesn't subscribe to their group-think. If I remember correctly, THAT is exactly how "mean girls" behave. They assume they posess the right answers to everything and try to put others in their place to feel better about themselves and their perceived superiority. I repeat: it is not ME who belongs on the mean girl list but those who made it.

Well...no. Thats not what I said. I said that trans people arent necessarily homosexual so they aren't part of the LGB community. There are men who are cross dressers but straight and Trans people who identify as heterosexual because they switched their gender so they wouldn't be considered gay.

Married with kids and running a business. I have very little free time to get a little same-sex-action on the side. THAT is how I started. Now that I am in my 50s, I still have a taste for the hot guys I used to hook up with when I was young...but its less and less likely that some gorgeous 20-something athlete will spread his ass cheeks for me without showing him my wallet. As others have said: getting what I want / when I want.

I'm saying I don't have anything in common with trans people.

Transgender people aren't always part of the LGB community.

ABSOLUTELY 💯 I've been honest and open about my sexuality for several decades now. MUCH has changed in how people accept gay and bisexual men and women and its all been for the better. Anyone who tells you differently is looking at the world through a lens of unwarranted fear, that is constantly being carved out by media sources trying to manipulate you.

I have witnessed multiple pile-ons from the Karen's in the group who INSIST that everyone who disagrees with their subscribed gay-centric viewpoint is automatically a homophobe. Some of these people need to climb down from their barstool and greet the rest of the world more often. People have different life experiences and therefore draw separate conclusions about life. Tossing the "homophobe" moniker around everything someone disagrees is immature and counter-intellectual.

Seems to me that the "mean girls" here are the ones complaining about people who have opinions they disagree with. I was called out personally.(Although you misspelled my screen-name@BrickBuilder) I am guessing this is a reaction to the recent Sydney Sweeny controversy. For several years now the fashion industry has been going for shock value by featuring fat Victoria Secret models, transexual make up models, and ugly/deformed runway models. This has empowered people in the general population who feel left behind because of their unfortunate looks. Unfortunately the fashion industry has watched their profits plummet as the promotion of "ugly" backfired and the disadvantaged population of empowered people didn't show up to buy their product while the beautiful people left the room in disgust. So American Eagle reacts by swinging the pendulum back to where it was. This touches off a mini culture-war about the appropriateness of deifying beautiful people in 2025. It is interesting therefore that @CheckCar simultaneously starts a "mean girl" thread because as he states: he is - "a gay man of a certain age who is often invisible in bars and clubs catering to the gym-bodied under-40 crowd." So...since I was called out ..I think it's important for me to contribute MY two-cents in the matter as a counter-point to this idea of the "mean-girl". Although it may be an unfortunate reality of life that some of us are born less attractive than others and some of us lose our looks as we age. We all need to accept this as REALITY. You cant change that by PRETENDING that everyone is beautiful. C.o.M is a site where men pursue men who they find attractive. They choose to HIRE men who are MORE attractive than they can likely get without paying them. So the VAST majority of men here are concerned about the GOOD LOOKS of providers. NOBODY is here to take pity on a poor-sad provider struggling to get laid. We are all here to discuss the merits of skilled, good-looking men who can provide a high quality fantasy experience. So to call-out those of us who may make an opinion about this subject that doesnt follow the "everyone is beautiful" narrative is ridiculous, indeed !! @KensingtonHomo calls me "Regina George", because he's never been able to stand the fact that I have had the privilege of a life where I COULD pick and choose the cream-of-the-crop and NOT need to take what I can get, while pretending that "everyone is beautiful" so I feel better about myself. It's an interesting subject and although I don't agree with @CheckCar for including me on his mean-girl list. I thank @KensingtonHomo for bringing up the timely topic. In summary...I don't feel that its "mean" to make observations about a providers looks and/or performance. I actually think its ridiculous to even suggest such a thing on a site that is totally geared toward these discussions. As far as the rest of the issues about "mean-girl" behavior ..yes we should all treat each other with respect. But I could go back and find multiple snarky comments made to ME over the years simply because someone didn’t agree with my viewpoint. So as I started to say in my response...its not ME who's the mean-girl in those scenarios. Some people need to grow up and learn to agree to disagree, and keep the snark to themselves.

I am primarily a top. But when I was younger and more active in same-sex pursuits I would end up with a lot of masculine top men who wanted to fuck me...so I went along with it willingly. I also used to spend time at sex parties where I laid in a sling and let multiple men fuck me for hours. I DO still find myself fantasizing about bottoming for certain big muscular men or possibly being spit roasted...but its been many years since I arranged any of that.

Thanks. I live two blocks away. Tempted to check out the goods in person. He's quite a delicious dish.

Just out of curiosity, I reached out to the Rent.men ad ...but non responsive.

Bumping this forward. I haven't had a good dungeon scene with anyone for year. Curious if anyone has had any experience with ExtremPaulBig lately. He seems to be well equipped...wanted to know if hes also skilled . I do love a good bondage/milking/cumcontrol scene.

I follow this guy on social media. Hes absolutely beautiful. As everyone here knows, I love a fit body on a young cute guy. This one is my dream fuck. I've chatted with him through social media and have never gotten any hints that hes available for a one-on-one. He always directs your interest to his OnlyFans pay-per-view services. With his looks I would imagine an actual in-person meet (were it available) would be expensive 💲💲💲💲 indeed.

Somehow I figure this one's social media and modeling presence would have precluded him from a career in escorting....so I would proceed cautiously to confirm this is the real deal. Im thinking ....probably not.

There is a difference between "toxic" and "I dont agree with this".