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I am married, yes. I dont think my situation regarding the apps is at all affected by being married with kids. I travel a lot for work and find myself alone in a hotel room quite frequently. Grindr RARELY gets me any results when I can host for a last minute hook up. Its a complete waste of time. Haven't even looked at it recently. Hiring is SO much more satisfying.

I have a few young attractive gay male friends who struggle to land a date on Grindr. It seems to be full of weirdos. Many years ago when I would be on the apps ( Manhunt, Adam4Adam, etc)..it was SO easy. I'd have a guy at my door every night within the hour. But my younger friends say that recent years have turned the online hook up culture into a bizarre circus of insecure time wasters , sitting at home jerking off, instead of actually meeting up. Hiring gets you what you want /when you want. (Mostly). I cant imagine wanting to dredge through Grindr at my age now.

Exactly correct. If it weren't for escorts, unattractive people would never get laid. Most skilled providers are accustomed to overweight customers. As far as those with an actual fat-fetish, it may be a good idea to look for providers who are also out of shape. They will find obesity to be more of a normal state and will focus more on your personality.

I found him to be adorable in "Crashing". (Also watched before Bridgerton) so was one of the main reasons I chose to tune in to the Bridgerton series.

Ive had $200 erotic massages sessions that went full escort without me planning that transition. If I'm open to the offer then my "tip" is in line with an escort's pricing. Doesnt matter how hot 🔥 the provider may think I am. This is how he makes a living, not his private sex life.. So I would never accept a freebie from a provider.

There are multiple attractive young men who escort but are not well suited to having sex with men who they are not genuinely attracted to. Sounds like your fellow is attracted to your money, but not YOU. If the sex isn't exciting enough to bring him to orgasm, then thats not gonna improve over time. The pressure to perform will only worsen the situation. If you enjoy his company and like his looks, you could accept this as a one sided attraction, and take what you get until you find better. I am personally on-board with what you are saying. I really don't enjoy being with someone if they arent enjoying too and cumming proves that point. Saying goodbye isn't difficult. You've already stated your frustration about the situation, so the "thanks for all the fun, but its time to move on" speech is not going to be received as unkind or unexpected.

Truly. I had wanted to meet Allen when he was in NYC but only found his profile right before he moved. So missed the opportunity to enjoy the company of this sweetheart .

"This guy" might makes more sense if you identify who "this guy" might be.

I follow him on Instagram. He IS an actual, working fashion and art-portrait model...so the efforts are probably mandatory to keep himself in the game..

Noticed the new ad recently while searching for a Thai-massage provider. I don't remember the: "I'm straight" heading when I peeked at the listing before. I also question the inclusion of a 4hands massage as an offering if you aren't going for an erotic experience. Not to mention, the $200/hr. price for a one-on-one session of therapeutic only.

Ah! Arby's ! I'm old enough to remember when they served edible food.

Yes, you should always be upfront. Some providers are very good at completely ignoring physical attributes and other are NOT. So full disclosure is very much appreciated when booking intimate services. There are definitely people out there who are kind and considerate and will make you feel comfortable. Just don't try getting that from any of the beauty-queen-Instagram-influencer types.

One review claims he paid $400 for a 60 minute "massage"...so at that price, I'm gonna assume there was some deli meat 🌭 served during those 60 minutes..

Not even close. He checks this site from time to time...so expect a "new member" to show up to refute these facts. Many reports of a deeply disconnected provider with zero personality. Others report very strange exchanges. I personally checked out his profile once and he reached out immediately to promote his services. When I inquired further, the conversation became rude and confrontational. VERY strange fellow. Likely on the autism spectrum. Keeps changing profile names because he doesnt seem to be able to attract repeat customers.

Deeply disturbing. I skipped through a few scenes. Didn't watch more than a total of five minutes. I felt like I was staring into Satan's closet. Just SOOOOO creepy. It made me uncomfortable.

You could try to reach out to his Twitter. It's the same handle.

You're looking at it. ( albeit from 10 years ago ).

Well...part of this whole issue is about identity. I had friends in high school who were gay and I could tell they were gay. So of course ..I had zero interest. NONE of guys on any of the sports teams identified as "gay". But those are the guys I wanted ! So..I just stuck to fucking girls. Getting an athlete seemed impossible. YEARS later, one of my other wrestling buddies "came out", after being married and raising two kids. I asked him what made him think he was "gay". He answered that he always knew and had fooled around with some guys in high school. ...Now we ran in the same circles and everybody always seemed to know who was sleeping with who...so I found that comment very surprising. I asked him WHO he was having sex with..and he listed half the guys on wrestling team !! I knew ALL those guys and I had ZERO idea that any of them swung that way. Most are all now married with kids, (as I am myself.) I wonder how many of them still get a little on the side. I'm sure they ALL identify as nothing but straight. As far as my buddy who went on to coaching, I think he was stuck in a time warp. He fooled around with guys on the high school wrestling team while in high school and that allowed him to avoid the "gay" label. His sexuality seems to have been frozen in that reality and used his coaching position to continue his secret sex life. Sadly, high school parents don't look fondly on a 30 year old man sucking off their 17 year old son. So he took a gun to his head to avoid the shame of it all. Very sad. He was such a sweetheart, and very cute.

Follow up...just Googled him. Married with two kids...so can't mention his name. Hope he is still getting some action on the side...(I know I am ) 😉

Floating scale, maybe. I sent my photo and a description along with my request.

I wrestled in high school (and a little bit in college.) I can tell you from my experiences alone, that the number of closeted men who participate, coach and attend wrestling matches is significant. One of my wrestling mates from high school went on to work as a wrestling coach after he graduated. Sadly committed suicide after having been caught diddling with a high school boy. 😢 Very sad. Not that I had the best gaydar back rhen...but it never occurred to me that he might be gay..and I dont think he necessarily was.

Hot. I had a regular thing going with a team member for the Penguins when I lived in Pittsburgh. I won't mention his name since he wasn't "out" and I dont know if he ever did come out later. But I will say it's always been sexy to me when I would find a hot guy who is a professional athlete especially if he's closeted. Its like you got access to a secret club. I never understood this obsession that gays have with outing everyone. Theres something very sexy about hooking up with a "str8" presenting athlete. I would literally be far less excited if he were openly gay.

Yes. absolutely . Get over it.

@Jamie21 hit the nail on rhe head. First order of business is choosing the person who already markets himself as an erotic provider. @jeezifonly also gives good advice. Hire for the massage and just let things go naturally. See if the provider is inclined toward having his cock in your face and whether that's an invitation or just a tease. Enjoy the massage and book a more erotic session if you guys click. (Sometimes sexual services are offered a'la carte in the middle of a session) ..so you might get to play dumptruck after all, without booking a separate session. In MY experiences, if a masseur offers any kind of erotic services as a natural part of his repertoire, I have never found that person to be insulted if you ask about full escorting with a friendly chat after a massage session, and handing them a generous tip.

There are several media "influencers" who consider themselves to be such a celebrity that they will charge you for the mere "honor" of their company. I suppose there are plenty of sad old men who spend all their time spanking it on OnlyFans who might find an in-person meet with their favorite fantasy-boy, over coffee to be scintillating. I think overall he's not unreasonable in what he's looking for if an erotic session is priced on the high end of such services and the full service is actually less than some pornstars will charge. There's always some adoring fan who will cough up the cash. That will not be ME.