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When I started this hobby in my early 30s, it was common to develop friendships or friendliness with some of the guys. In fact, one companion, who was my age at the time, could have become a bf, if I had been into relationships, which ain't a thing with me and never will be. Now a generation later......and the idea of that is something I find impossible and never pursue. The delta in wisdom, experience, empathy, and plain ole common sense is too vast. And I'll be damned if anyone, much less a know-very-little 20-something, is going to drag me down. When they start yapping about their life experience and expertise, I'm like enough already. I kiss him, then turn 'em over and spank their bubbly asses.
 
This hobby works best when we simply mix some fun and adventure into an already satisfying life. It cannot compensate for essential life deficits. We must deal with those issues in other ways.

I do this a lot and I've done the Grindr guys open to gen, used hot escort to get Grindr guys for free, etc.. Here's what I have learned.
 
I'm not much on overnights. I can't imagine two nights. I love having sex with a young 18 to 20 something guy and I'm in my 50s. But sex is only an hour or so. The rest of the time I hate listening to their vacuous conversations, their annoying music, their constant phone usage and it dinging all night. In 3 hours their crap is all over my house, wet towels on dressers, not using coasters, dishes everywhere and my cranky old queen list goes on LOL.
 
It sounds like you are better suited for one hour sessions like I learned. You get the fun, your done and no drama.

There's a difference between projecting an anti-LGBT persona in an effort to remain closeted and legislating in an anti-LGBT way.

From my experience (somewhat insider) Asians are by far the main target of racist rejection by many providers. They say it's because of hygiene.
 
And that's why some ask for a pic. They don't give a damn about your looks otherwise as long as Ben Franklin's still in shape.

This is a reality, and I’m not necessarily sure if I have a problem with it, as escorting is a very “personal” service.
 
Whether it’s social or morally right or wrong is another discussion. But in an Industry where it’s requried for someone to touch, taste, prod and maintain and erection, preferences do come into play.
 
I haven’t had escorting services yet, but tons of massages and I always make it clear that I’m black. Some guys don’t like black guys (their reasons aren’t important to me), and that’s fine.
I’d just rather know that up front and discontinue the conversation, rather than have an awkward moment on the table, or weird communications.
 
As I’ve stated in another post, I’d encourage all service providers to actually state their preferences (race, age, body type, etc.) and would hope they wouldn’t be judged on it either. I’d rather not waste my time in engaging with anyone who does not like me.
 
I’m not saying bigotry is acceptable. I’m saying that the rules are a bit different in the sex industry.
 
Now housing, banking, education, and employment should never involve these factors. But in who one will have sex with is a grey area, regardless of how vile racism (or any other “ism”) is.
 
And quick funny,
The first experience I had with a masseur who didn’t like black guys was actually black... lol....
 
Go figure....

I'm not an escort. But the several times I've hired one, I always informed them that I was black. Just wanted them to know ahead of time, people have silly hang ups and if it's an issue for them I rather they tell me upfront & I won't waste my time & money on poor service. Also don't want to meet up & then get rejected.
 
While I haven't booked anyone for their full service, (just massage and some extras,) I have experienced a couple providers either ghosting me after I told them I'm black or all of sudden "need to reschedule" to a time I said I wouldn't be available. One instance the provider told me he wouldn't be attracted to me and that it wouldn't work out without some level of attraction. Another told me "You can find another escort." It's disheartening just until I delete text thread, then I move on.
Maybe it's just like that here in MN ??‍♂️

Sometimes, correcting someone else’s rotten behavior is way more important to me than taking their money and having to deal with said rotten behavior. I lost a client, tough shit. I’ll sleep better. And you’re very correct, words DO matter. So choose them wisely when contacting an escort. Simple.
 
...and please don’t shortchange me in an attempt to misconstrue a point. The previous sentence read:
 
But speaking personally, a visual resume of what you’ve done to other escorts or what they have done to you interest me none. It will not motivate me to accept you as a client.

Is he versatile, doesn’t enjoy bottoming but will do so if requested? I personally don’t believe in pressuring people; I would feel it’s not respectful as I wouldn’t want to be pressured myself...

You definitely need to ask the companion. Because of course we can't predict how that particular top will respond to your inquiry or how he would respond to you physically once sexy time began. I'm sure a top who was a regular may be more willing to bottom for you than a top you just met.
 
With that said, chemistry can account for a lot in an encounter. I think my demeanor puts people at ease and apparently it makes some willing or wanting.
 
I have had a few professed tops openly contemplate bottoming for me (mainly without me asking). I have known many of them for years. Most of them ultimately decide not to bottom for me because they think my penis would hurt them. I mean I'm above average but not gigantic. ...but it's clear they are curious. Out of the ones who contemplated doing it, one top has bottomed for me and does so every time we meet now.
 
Inversely, there are a few guys who bottom for me regularly beg me to let them top me. And trust me my ass isn't that great. LOL!
 
I put it all down to how I treat them and the chemistry we have.

It’s work but you’re by far a very easygoing guy! He won’t be with you 24/7 either, he’ll also have free sex with young hot men in the cruise as @Mikegaite posted there’s a time to party in time to be with a client who made the trip possible.
 
Btw some clients here make a scandal if the escort doesn’t cum during the meeting... You’re a gentleman, don’t change but don’t let people take advantage of you.

Interesting. Attraction-Repulsion.
I just can’t get past the burnt-out street person look.
Curious about the experience of others.

Love what you've done with the place!

The first picture of a hard dick is not him.....I know, cause that is my bedroom and I took that picture about 12 years ago of my favorite escort. I am sure I still have the original picture somewhere.

I don't think he's being a dick, he just doesn't need the business badly enough to jump through a lot of extra hoops. I think many of our provider friends are tortured all day long with flakes, pervs, wankers and others who waste their time with no intention of following thru. I for one don't blame them for preferring a quick, direct interaction. If he has enough regular clients, then he has the luxury of making that choice. Which the means now you have to decide if you are comfortable moving forward, or moving on.

Nice guy. Gives massages (and occasionally, escorts on the side). BB sub bottom (if that's your jam).

A recent other post...
 
https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-on-airmanzach.149691/

thanks for that hint......a searcher does need to go to the "gay" category first to get good results for Airman Zach.....but, hell, here's the direct link to the goods!!
 
https://www.pornhub.com/gay/video/search?search=airman+zach

Yes ! (but not that extreme maybe) It may have something to do with the accepted preparation before and during a shoot. Studios are expert at it. Of course there is a lot of viagra/trimix and actors bring along their favorites. I remember in an interview the most famous was asked what he took before a bottoming scene. He said "coke and caviar". Most of us know that (not caviar) turns many straight guys into voracious bottoms. Maybe that's why the "party" thing creeps into ads.
 
But I'm sure there are other things about many of the porn guys. I do know from porn/escort friends that the ones that can be picky choose, of course, the "easy" clients. And there's one , Tom S. in Prague, none of us can figure out. Most unlimited in porn (and one of the world's best lookers) and the most limited in person. \
 
Other than choosing the easiest clients or coke there must be other factors. I just know those two.
 
And I follow DF on IG too and must say as voracious as he is in porn, he certainly leads a very straight life back home.

More pics here: https://fernandabonadio.blogspot.com/2017/10/tierry-richardy-de-curitiba-versatil.html?zx=4ed9e92c0b9dc64a
https://www.xvideos.com/profiles/leke-ba/photos/735981/tierry_gp

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Thank you. Got an email in broken English (which is OK.) Coming to Seattle, but not here yet. Still making arrangements. Email back later for update. Or something like that. Looks legit.

Over on the muscle service forum I heard the term 'cash slave'. Guys getting off on sending cash to and buying expensive gifts for muscle studs - for very little or nothing in return. Not my thing!

A man I met as an escort has been to my home many times for social situations. We have gone out to plays together. I have dog sat his dog and he has stayed at my home while I was away to dog sit for my pack. He was recently hospitalized and I travelled about an hour each way to visit him.
I do not believe that becoming friendly with an escort is unusual. After all, if the escort encounter is fun and satisfying, it is likely that there is a connection beyond the physical.

Here ya go...
Chaosmen - Brannon
Corbin Fisher - Alec
Mormon Boyz - Elder Miller
Randy Blue - Alec Hudson
The Guy Site - Brett
Dreamboy Bondage - Neill
All other - Rod Peterson/Rod Pederson

Thankfully, I've only encountered a couple of guys who were very full of themselves. One that comes to mind wrote in his initial reply to my RM message that he was very selective about who he allows to hire him and wanted me to know that I'd have to prove that I would make the cut. I told him that I was also very selective (it's true!) and that I would not be moving forward. He kept messaging me via the RM email system until I blocked him. He no longer escorts.
 
I've also encountered guys who did a better job of stating they were trying to assess my seriousness about meeting. That's completely fine with me. Time is valuable. For me, it is all in the delivery.

I get a kick out of those that complain about prices and ego when they're always going for those exact types as if one day they'll run into a model with a nice personality that offers a BF experience. Well, they might but the price is going to match.
 
I also think it just comes down to supply and demand. Those in demand are naturally going to turn into prima donna's.