josh282282

You know...having spent the first 47 year of my life afraid of how friends, family, the church, society etc. perceived me - I eventually ran out of fucks to give.   I'm in decent shape, I have some money.  If I want to prance through the desert with a two 20 year old Latin Twinks on either arm, I will.   The husbands look at me judgmentally, the wives wish they could come with lol. 

I think this is a generalization.  Part of why I feel comfortable is that when I was in my early 20s, I befriended people that were much older than me.  I always had more in common with them than people my own age.  I was a nerd who collected college degrees from Ivy schools like they were going out of fashion. One of my best friends was 35 years older than me.  I wasn't ever paid to go the opera, museums, dinner, etc.  All of those things are well beyond my personal means at the time.  Yes my friend was gay.  He never made a move on me or had some ulterior motive other than friendship.  I was blessed with his friendship until the last moment when I held his hand and he took his last breathe.  I think the assumption of seeing two people with an age big difference must mean it's an arrangement is shallow.  Yes I pay for the company of some.  It is usually to stay in a bedroom.  It is rarely to go to fine dining restaurants that cost more than their services. You would be surprised how genuinely nice people are when you don't treat them like a piece of meat.  Some become friends that visit to see you; not wanting or expecting anything from you.  Yes it happens in real life.   

Then shame on them for even paying attention.   But my first comment about judgment had nothing to do with them or a trip to PTown.   It had to do with what you said and how - in my opinion - this should be a judgment free place (unless someone asks for opinions).    Would you like me to go unsolicited down the list of what I’ve gleaned about your preferences and how I might generically judge those preferences based on my own life experiences or opinions?  
Frankly, I don’t need you telling me that people judge me when I’m  with a younger man….they judge me for a million things other things too…and I’m at a point in life where I’ve earned the ability to not care and the right to confidently push back on the pettiness of being falsely accused based on superficial assessments!
And I’ll also note that, despite attacking older guys (including many here) who like younger guys, you also accused younger guys of essentially being immature and dumb.   That’s a judgmental stereotype or assertion not based in fact and easily disproved.  Please don’t double down on a myopic assertion that’s easily refuted by fact or others’ comments and observations.
I think it’s time for the gay community to stop using gay as an excuse for pettiness.   But until that happens, I say more power to this young man who knows what he wants, is milking what he has, and to all the good looking rich guys who have what it takes. @ACluelessGent, please PM me his info….I’m confident I’ll make the cut

I thought we were hiring for an hour or two of fun, not proposing marriage.  And isn't it the provider putting himself out there for just that purpose?
If you think this arrangement is sketchy, you're probably in the wrong forum.

Rich good looking clients are the worst. Too demanding. He’ll learn…

"Error 404: Manners Not Found."
 
Read the community guidelines - you are being rude and disrespectful. 
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"No deposits ever" and "never pay upfront" is sound and wise advice that every client and potential client should follow. Here's why:
Unless you are the only provider in the area (a 50-mile radius?) or someone really special, clients and potential clients have to use some type of criteria to narrow the field of providers down to one. During that process, if a provider informs you that an upfront deposit is required, that provider should be eliminated. It's really simple.
We as clients and potential ones should help each other look out for our best interests so we can make wise choices, and this forum provides us with a place where we can share helpful information and advice.
A provider demanding a deposit upfront should be a big red flag. And stating the truth is not talking trash or talking s__t as you claim. It is just common sense. And Bozo will continue to advocate for fellow clients.
The fact that this doesn't comport with your business model is just too bad, Deal with it. And all of your excuses trying to justify a deposit upfront will continue to fall on deaf ears.
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So clients with common sense who have been burned and are trying to help others are trashy. Got it.
Funny, but we think providers who insist on a deposit when they aren't traveling out of their area are the suspect, trashy ones. Its all about perspective. 

Huh? Your post was partially a complaint about the expense required to travel when clients may flake. Now room sharing might not work out for you, but to say this reasonable suggestion had nothing to do with the topic at hand is ridiculous. 
It sounds like you just want to vent and not hear any possible solutions. And that's fine, but you're dealing with men here,  not women. Women generally want an ear and sympathy,  while men hear problems and want to solve them.

As usual I don't understand what you are trying to say.

I never said it was easy. I said it's an option. And one others working in the same field with the same struggles or annoyances can and are making work. It requires creating a system based on analysis of your network and what cities you're working in as you likely know.
Have you considered all this attitude you have is part of your struggles? Genuinely.
And regarding this:
"**And don’t think the escorts you do see traveling together, aren’t in some kind of situation or commitment together ** "
Yeah... It's called team work. The ones i was referring to are a group of 10 or so escorts who all live and travel around to different cities who are friends and know they can work with each other and they made a plan and executed it. They keep in touch, group up when they're in the same city, split an AirBnB (not hotel) and they execute the plan.
The experience you had with that one guy you described sucks, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to do unless it's someone you're dating. You just have to try again and find people you can trust and work well with.

Of course it’s a scam. Deposit = Scam. 

If this person pictured has ever been within 500 miles of Palm Springs, or if he even exists, I’ll eat my television. They aren’t going to use a troll photo to get you to send $50.

Be smart, don’t give deposits.

Bad communication sucks, but asking some people to pay more because you don't have enough confirmed business sounds like a losing business model. Just not sustainable.  You need to establish a fair market price and let repeat business and word of mouth do the rest.

Jarrod is unhappy about something.
”Dog bites man”
It ain’t news.

The ONE THING..?

 
Jarrod, the list of things you dislike about the line of work you have chosen grows longer every month.
It's really not up to clients in your region to fix that, now, is it?

In this instance, I can only sympathize with you if you had these 5 guys politely ask you when you'll be back in town so they can see you again, only to then go radio silent once you're actually there. 
You've been doing this for years, and dissect every minutia of how others act when it comes to your time. A great many guys are seeing you in confidence, and getting a text could create for them an unexpected uncomfortable moment depending on what they're doing. Seeing you should be at their convenience, and not hearing back if you initiated it doesn't make them bad people or flakes. 
Since you're on here, take note of the very few men who do what you do who share what wisdom they have. They very well may have the same exact frustrations that you have at times, BUT DO NOT DWELL ON THE NEGATIVE SO MUCH. They love what they do, travel from time to time, and really just enjoy the moments with men who leave with a smile, hoping a return visit happens, but not panicking if they don't repeat.
I would like to think since you've done this for so long, teaming up with another provider and sharing travel costs would be a big help to resolve so much of your never-ending travel frustrations. I've seen several men who were sharing a room with another masseur when on the road. 

There’s WhatsApp and Telegram groups that I’m in which are provider only (and venting does happen in there!!!) plus I’m friends with other sex workers and we talk about common challenges. Sometimes though one wants to speak to a wider audience, especially an audience that is interested in the work and that buys the services. 

I was just trying to help. His posts are very hard to read, and I doubt I'm the only one who skips them. We all read War and Peace, we don't need a daily sequel.

I think @JB_Studio38 vents his frustration here sometimes. I try to see things from his perspective (after all I am doing similar work, so feel that I can empathise with a little more gravitas than some commentators who seem to know a lot about sex work without actually having done it…).
There are a lot of frustrations with the work: the marginal legality (in some jurisdictions), the very flaky clients, the variability of income, the lack of structure, the dealing with the public (there are some very stupid people out there…it’s astonishing sometimes). But on the other hand there’s great benefits to doing the work; flexibility, meeting fantastic people, great experiences, the money, the feeling one gets when someone says to you that you just delivered one of their all time fantasies (only sex workers will be able to understand that). And you can manage and structure your business to mitigate for all the drawbacks I mentioned above. 
The biggest challenge though is that there’s so few people to talk to about the work because only those who do it can really understand how you feel. It can be very isolating. I think this is where he is coming from.
And I’ll add you can make decent income from Onlyfans (I do) but it’s not without a lot of work. It’s not quite as simple as it looks. 
 

True, but I assume his posts are intended for other members to read. If he is writing only for his own benefit, it enters the realm of psychiatry.

That’s his business 

Brevity is the very soul of his writing style.

Escorts can earn hundreds in a day. Inflation? How many doing normal jobs earn hundreds per day? Few. Got little sympathy if prices generally are too high for them.