josh282282

For some reason, I can’t shake the feeling that “SecretProvider” and Jarrod are twin brothers who got separated at birth. LOL!

It’s medical care. Not Burger King. 
Have it your way?…..yeah….no…that’s not how any of this works. 
You need to talk with your doctor and request to have it added to your next battery of tests. 

Clients that do this are really fucking annoying and it's a BIG reason why you get labeled with the 'time waster' tag. 
We get 'hey I like you are you available text'. we reply back with 'yeah I can be, what part of town are you in my rate is *insert standard rate* etc etc' then silence from the client, or even better 'great, let me get back to you'. 
Because we might be preference number 3 or 4 or 5 and they are waiting to hear back from number preferred provider 1.  
Which then leads to us just putting little effort into the reply sometimes because the volume of messages we are getting from people  only messaging us as they just want us to  'audition'.  The volume of people messaging providers for these interactions ONLY while they jerk off looking at our pics and imagining what it would be like. the text messaging back and forth completely satisfies them is ASTOUNDING. It's vampirish and exhausting. I assume every single person that reaches out is one of these people until they prove me otherwise. And even though you ARE hiring, reaching out to three people adds to it. 
There are other reasons for a quick short response - it could also be a quick reply because we are already talking to someone else, we are at the gym, on the subway, on a airplane, in the library, sitting at a barber chair, eating at a restaurant: we are not sitting at an office desk when we are fielding enquiries. 
I get that sometimes waiting for a reply can be frustrating, especially when you are horny and excited. I wish clients would keep this in mind when reaching out.
I also get that it goes both ways - I get really fucking annoyed with short messages like 'rates? available?' and giving full replies 'yes I am available, how are you? when are you looking for?' to then only get one word reply back.  but that happens A LOT. People treat Rentmen conversations a lot like grindr in terms of communications styles.
It's hard not to get offended sometimes when you are not getting back what you are putting out. I'm with you on this! 
 
To answer your question - 
I have a standard reply that I edit around the initial text. 
I think it matters and I always try to be professional.
But there is a line of giving a lot of myself out there (FOR FREE)  for people who are already talking advantage of it, people who are messaging multiple people that are not THAT interested in me - which can be really draining. Versus holding back and protecting myself and mental health from these interactions so I can be my BEST self when I do show up for bookings. It's a tough balance that we don't always get right but try to. 
 
 

There’s a lot of gay fiber gimmicks out there that are preying on body shame and half truths.   A lot of them are selling gummies as a replacement to douching which simply isn’t true.  And most of these products can be purchased way cheaper at a regular pharmacy. 

Girl, I don't know who you think you're talking to, but this response reads as a TROLL. You come in swinging on someone who is among the first to advocate for providers and - as said above - am happy to pay a reasonable deposit. 
You have totally gotten the wrong person. There may be people like that on here but I'm not one of them. Rather, I'm an excellent client with several regulars. 
This part, I believe. I'm an above-average-looking, fit, and fun guy of a similar age. So our experiences are bound to be different. 
"The top of the food chain..." is exactly the kind of toxic thinking that leads clients to treat providers poorly. 

I notice you joined this forum less than a month ago. That’s great that you want to join the discussions here. I don’t know if you were a lurker before joining but in any case we have a long history of the deposit issue. The general consensus is  not to pay a deposit except in certain limited circumstances such as extended multi day engagements.
I have no idea of what market you hire in but being always asked for deposits in the 200 to 500 $ range as you assert is not the norm in any market I am aware of and over the last 30 years or more I have hired throughout North America and many times in Europe. I have rarely if ever been asked to pay a deposit. I only once paid an airfare for someone from San Francisco to meet me in Montreal. And that worked out fine as we were together for 3 days. 
But then I am a premium client on RM and even before then was always seen as a reliable client by the way I presented myself. I always conduct myself in the same way in other commercial transactions. Being trustworthy engenders trust. 

NO.
Yes!

Good morning 
Primary care physician here.   I work in a mid-size physician group on the east coast (not NYC) & do this (treating patients high pressure) for work all day long, so I'm familiar with your issue & I'm rooting for you to conquer it!
You do not have a "minor" problem.  You have hypertension,  also known as high blood pressure.  Its in the family of cardiovascular disease.
Its dangerous & potentially lethal. 
Its the number 1 killer of Americans (I am aware you live in the UK but I did not investigate UK health statistics),  which means more deaths than cancer.  Are you aware of that?
If your doctor told you that you had cancer, would consider it to be a "minor" issue? 
I'm not trying to be indelicate or confrontational but (hopefully) educational.   Your health future depends on you fully understanding & controlling your blood pressure.  Gay folk are wonderful & beautiful and we can't afford to lose one of us prematurely.
Strong work on the exercise! It may help. Keep it up.
A) Other interventions to consider:
1) lose 15 lbs (if that applies to you)
2) significantly reduce (best is stop) your alcohol intake. Maximum is 2 drinks per week (on 2 different days, not 2 drinks on 1 day).
3) reduce your salt intake. (For example- canned soup has crazy high amounts of sodium)
4) stop all nicotine products (yes, even vaping is smoking).
B) Is your blood pressure controlled? If not, are you on max dose ramipril 20 mg a day? If so, are you only on ramipril? Most people with high blood pressure need 2 (or more!) medications to adequately control their blood pressure.  When is your next appointment with your primary care physician?
I wish you all the best in your journey in getting healthier!
Josh
 

Blood pressure readings can vary widely and the proper way to take it for the most accurate reading is at rest for 5 minutes at least, seated with both feet on the ground and with an appropriate size cuff.  The blood pressure should be taken once and then repeated every few minutes until there are two readings with the systolic BP (upper number) of the readings being withing 10 and the diastolic (lower number) within 5.  This is much more involved than blood pressure readings usually are.  There are so many factors which can cause tranient elevations and decreases in BP and as a result improperly taken BP as a single reading is likely to be minimally useful.  

Good morning 
Primary care physician here.   I work in a mid-size physician group on the east coast (not NYC) & do this (treating patients high pressure) for work all day long, so I'm familiar with your issue & I'm rooting for you to conquer it!
You do not have a "minor" problem.  You have hypertension,  also known as high blood pressure.  Its in the family of cardiovascular disease.
Its dangerous & potentially lethal. 
Its the number 1 killer of Americans (I am aware you live in the UK but I did not investigate UK health statistics),  which means more deaths than cancer.  Are you aware of that?
If your doctor told you that you had cancer, would consider it to be a "minor" issue? 
I'm not trying to be indelicate or confrontational but (hopefully) educational.   Your health future depends on you fully understanding & controlling your blood pressure.  Gay folk are wonderful & beautiful and we can't afford to lose one of us prematurely.
Strong work on the exercise! It may help. Keep it up.
A) Other interventions to consider:
1) lose 15 lbs (if that applies to you)
2) significantly reduce (best is stop) your alcohol intake. Maximum is 2 drinks per week (on 2 different days, not 2 drinks on 1 day).
3) reduce your salt intake. (For example- canned soup has crazy high amounts of sodium)
4) stop all nicotine products (yes, even vaping is smoking).
B) Is your blood pressure controlled? If not, are you on max dose ramipril 20 mg a day? If so, are you only on ramipril? Most people with high blood pressure need 2 (or more!) medications to adequately control their blood pressure.  When is your next appointment with your primary care physician?
I wish you all the best in your journey in getting healthier!
Josh
 

Another suggestion is to avoid providers who post pics in their ads of themselves picking at their GOLD teeth.
BTC
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A pimp would be a hard stop for me.  It makes me doubt whether or not the escort is working under compulsion and not as a consenting adult.  

Possible.  The boy contacted me afterward, and said we could cut the pimp out and deal with each other directly.  I told him that as much as I would like to trust him, I didn't and nothing would change that.

I’ve had a few friends do it.
It looks as stupid as it sounds.
 

Hi @ThrowawayAccount  sorry you experienced this. I must have missed the link to this dude’s ad?  Can you post it so others can benefit?  Thanks so much. 

No I don’t agree. Some guys are really anxious to go to a bath house (sauna) alone. They want someone to go with who will show them how to behave there and who they can walk around with to get comfortable.
If you’re exploring your sexuality or if you’re not conventionally good looking (or you think you aren’t attractive) then bath houses can be intimidating. It’s therefore helpful to have someone who will accompany you and spend time with you there to build your confidence. I’ve arranged quite a lot of sessions at bath houses with my clients. It’s sometimes to take someone who’s never been, sometimes it’s to help guys who want to have sex in public but who want to do it with someone they are attracted to, sometimes it’s to pretend I’m their boyfriend. 
I think in @ThrowawayAccount’s situation he didn’t get a very empathetic provider. He was clearly too anxious and it seems like there wasn’t much communication between the two of them about expectations. Someone with more patience and understanding would probably have behaved differently to him. It’s a lesson for guys hiring: choose carefully. I’ve had a few clients who seem to be far too anxious to relax despite me trying to help. I think some of these guys are still trying to work out things and they have misguided ideas about sex. They don’t need an encounter with a sex worker at that point, they need a counsellor or someone to help them get over the issues they have about their sexuality. 

I stopped reading after this. 
Never pay in advance.  That stops most problems.

If the guy got paid his full fee for hanging around a few minutes and no sex I don’t understand why he would taunt the next day.

Hi
I wonder if you could elaborate? I'm interested in understanding your opinion better.
What do you mean regarding age-appropriateness in tv, cartoons,  chidrens movies etc with opposite sex couples?
I distinctly recall seeing as a very small child (before even 5 yrs old) on children's cartoons, movies, tv etc  opposite sex married couples being portrayed. I don't mean seeing couples actually having sex, kissing, or anything like that. I just recall seeing opposite sex couples in media, the school reading books, media etc doing basic things family activities.  For example,  Sesame Street had multiple opposite couples: Gordan & Susan Robinson & Luis & Maria for starters.
Was that age-appropriate or inappropriate display of human sexuality in your opinion?
Thank you in advance for your thoughtful reply.
Josh
 

Baby, you wish you were as hot, fun, and sexy as I am, given our similar ages. Never mind that my husband is model gorgeous. You often confuse me for those people you look down your nose at on here because "they have to PAY for sex." Because they're too old or too large or not conventionally attractive enough. We pay primarily for convenience and to find skilled partners. We could easily have a line of 20-somethings by just going on Grindr. 
And you're also wrong about women; probably because you don't have any women friends (except your wife). But vast, clear majorities of women in study after study prefer men with "dad bods" over ripped and chiseled bodies. 
The Unexpected Appeal of Men With Dad Bods | Psychology Today
WWW.PSYCHOLOGYTODAY.COM The non-physical traits attributed to those bodies are the key. In praise of Olly Murs' before bod: why we don't actually fancy the ripped bods
WWW.STANDARD.CO.UK What is a “dad bod” and what does the phenomenon reveal about our psyches and social worlds?  
Among Pubic's many virtues is his consistent misogyny, despite being married to a woman. 
It is, Blanche. It is. 
I have a challenge for you. Show how you write on here to any provider and let us know if he doesn't run for the door. 

At his sentencing on Monday, Wolf, thru his attorneys, requested to be able to serve his time at the Seagoville Federal Correctional Institute. 
Seagoville is a "low security" prison. It is one of the handful of federal prisons that offers sex offender management programs. It is in Seagoville, Texas, which is near Dallas. It is very close to where Wolf was born, and where his mother, father, sister, beloved aunts, and extended family still reside. Wolf's attorney explained that at Seagoville, his family and friends would be able to visit him regularly. This type of prison does not house violent, hardened criminals. Since there is a concentration of sex offenders at Seagoville, one would assume that Wolf would not be targeted because of the nature of his crime.
The judge told Wolf's attorneys that he will ask the federal Bureau of Prisons to grant Wolf's request. That decision ultimately is not in the purview of the judge, but his recommendation does carry a lot of weight. Bozo is betting that Seagoville is where Wolf will end up.
Seagoville is where Josh Duggar, TV reality star, is currently serving a 12.5 year prison sentence for possession and distribution of CSAM.
BTC
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Wolf's race has nothing to do with this. NOTHING! If he were black would you call him "black trash"? 
Given the nature of Wolf's crimes, there are plenty of insults and derogatory terms that would be legitimate and fair game. Playing the race card by demonizing an entire group of people for the actions of one is contemptible.
Shame on you!
BTC
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Get new friends.

If you're so damn horny, get yourself a cheap hotel room nearby.
According to Wikipedia, 600,000 people go through Penn Station each day. When a commuter needs to use a public bathroom, he is entitled to go to in relative tranquility, and not have to compete with people who use the stalls as their personal sex spaces for the limited availability of public restrooms at Penn Station.
Let's hope these arrests and some time in jail sends this message.
BTC
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Hey there.
Could you explain a bit further? What specifically you mean by "LGBT characters"? 
Also, specifically what "themes" do you not support? It such a broad topic that it's almost impossible for the reader to understand what you meant.
Could you supply some examples? I'm just confused and would enjoy exploring your views more.
Josh