newdad

Planning to swing by Portugal.

sounds like someone's in love.

Hardly.  At a batthouse everyone is naked, except for sandals and the occasional harness.  At a bar, at best men are shirtless, maybe down to underwear.
At the bars I've had sex at (New York or other U.S. cities) we are fully clothed, except one is unzipped while the other has his pants just low enough for access.  From the waist up you wouldn't know we are fucking.  Heck, I once fisted a guy while he was standing at a dimly lit bar and ordering his drink (at a now-closed bar in Ft Lauderdale).
Gotta keep it classy when in a bar.

Several years ago the NYC government made the decision to deprioritize enforcement of nudity/sexual activity laws w/r/t gay bars. Without naming any names, there are NYC gay bars that advertise having play spaces, there are events held at bars that openly advertise as play parties, and there are even gay naked happy hour events that travel around between non-gay bars. 

...do you ever have phases on Grindr where you pursue guys aged 18 to 23 who look like twinks and far from the muscular look? And you kind of enjoy the idea of corrupting them, so the less their experience the better? How's that been for you?

If one hires a 19-year-old escort instead, would that be more tasteful for you?

Plenty of laws, but but not much enforcement right now, whether on the subway, in Times Square, or in the bars

Would you say this was similar to a bunch of guys in a dark room at a bathhouse?

Are there no laws in NYC where alcohol/drinks prohibited from being sold where there's fully nude people around? (Los Angeles or Las Vegas have such laws at least at commercial places available to public)

Sure,
The Eagle in NYC.
Home - The Eagle NYC (eagle-ny.com)
Management doesn't officially host sex parties but turns a blind eye on the shenanigans on the 1st floor on Friday and Saturday night.  Or is it every night?  

If one hires a 19-year-old escort instead, would that be more tasteful for you?

If one hires a 19-year-old escort instead, would that be more tasteful for you?

My friend is a prominent porn star. He ALWAYS gets reported on Grindr as impersonating himself which is hysterical to me. 

“Codes”, symbols and phrases that still work that I see creeping up in cities and suburbs off the top of my head are. 
pampered spoiled 👑🌹
I don’t like going Dutch 
The most clever I had ever seen in a headline was 
I’m Jenna Russ
 

I just read all the posts in this thread, and my new rule is:
 
ABSOLUTELY NO DEPOSIT.
EVER.
(Unless I'm hiring Jarrod_Uncut or BenjaminNicholas.)
 

He ghosted me

The only time an escort got violent with me was at a hotel restaurant, and the manager's response was exactly how you described. Guards escorted him away while keeping him from yelling out threats and screaming to the room that he was a male prostitute. Drug use doesn't always make for good sessionss.
And, yes. I find it useful to have the number of the local police switchboard (not the direct 911 line) on my phone. The moment you start saying, "There's a man here who's yelling and refuses to leave....," watch the fake escort run. Then you apologize to the cop and go to bed.

This has happened to me twice in about 25 times. I told both of them that I just wasn't in the mood. I did not attempt to throw them out because they were much bigger and stronger than me and they were inside my apt. We just chatted for an hour, I paid them, and they left. Not ideal, I know, but I wanted to avoid possible confrontation.

Why would anyone send a deposit…is a guy really worth sending a deposit to just so you can meet up….? Guys are a dime a dozen. Sorry but some of you need to start thinking with your big head rather than your small one

Just to be fair, the actual posted question was about "What have you done in instances...", which I even clarified by saying "I'm asking to those who actually experienced this scenario or similar. (Not asking those who have yet to be in this situation.) ". This is probably why @muscmtl was asking for proof.