adventurous old guy

They’re human beings first, not something to be shopped at a deli counter. Give some respect to receive it.

In defense of the "one hour in my hotel room" guys, I was often one of them. Here's why: Only hired when I traveled, and found it much more palatable to host at my hotel where I knew the sheets were clean, vis-a-vis wherever the service provider stayed, sometimes sharing a room with another, sometimes with the bed still unmade after whoever was there before me. As for time, I prefer longer too. But on a handful of occasions with a new provider, despite the set up communications, the man who showed up and I didn't click for one reason or another. So I learned to default to a one hour appt for a first meeting with an offer to go longer if we hit it off. Worked well for me in meeting "quality people" and often seemed to be appreciated by the provider too, given that I was an unknown to him as well.

Piling on to the salivation here. There's nothing sexier -- for me, at least -- than an "older" guy in great shape. Hope this works out for you!

Maybe this way: There's four or five brothers who dance and hook up out of the Corner Pocket hustler bar in New Orleans. Have chatted with a couple of them, and basically they brought one another along. The oldest loves to chat if you buy him drinks and was kind of fascinating to talk to -- one of 12 or 13 siblings. Takes credit for bringing the younger ones along, teaching them the ropes. My sense is they're looking for regulars, or maybe sugar daddies. I had a bunch of N.O. travel last year, and stopped in whenever in town. The roster of brothers ebbed and flowed, but there were always a couple there.
 
A million stories in the city...

Daddy deleted or archived the reviews which he deemed had racier content after the sesta/fosta legislation was passed. I believe It was done to try to keep the site out of potential trouble. Unlike rentmen where bad reviews seemed to be removed at the behest of the escort.
 
A lot of my very descriptive older reviews are gone as well.

I LOVE this piece. Thx so much for sharing!!! Particularly on this thread!!!

I LOVE this piece. Thx so much for sharing!!! Particularly on this thread!!!

I've seen him recently. Going to wade in here feeling at risk of being slammed and say that the biggest disconnect between his ad and Amir in the flesh is that his demeanor is just not as masculine in person as the pics and vids lead one to expect. This truly doesn't matter to me, but it was a surprise. My first reaction was that he looked like a more feminine version of Michael Lucas. Not a Lucas hater and being butch is not one my requirements, so please please please don't read this as a criticism. Not intended to be one.
 
And though I don't speak from experience -- because I hired him as a bottom -- I honestly just can't imagine him as a top.

And remember its not just about Covid. I made the decision to retire in December pre-Covid after worrying for several months about rising risks of antibiotic resistant STDs coupled with the astounding -- at least to me -- devolution of safe sex practices by providers prompted by PreP.
 
Just to be clear, I don't blame the providers and certainly don't mean to profile all providers as being unsafe. It was more my own temptation to relax caution -- let's face it, raw DOES feel better and IS hotter -- that made me do a hard stop as self-discipline.
 
I miss this hobby though!!!

Listen to DrownedBoy. I have been discreet since my long term partner began having health issues. I have a few FB's and FWB's including couples. None look like guys in videos or RM ads. Occasionally, I treat myself to a hire. I think a little balance will take away that high/low experience.

You sound like you should make, at least, a pause. Or reduce all encounters exclusively to 1h.

Not surprising if oxytocin has been constantly pumped into your brain over the weekend. You're "coming down" from it.

See a specialist to discard any brain chemistry unbalance, and if not, seek a cognitive-behavioral approach. It works wonders!
Once you realize ALL RELATIONSHIPS imply some sort of transaction (with providers is just more explicit) you'll start feeling better.

Remember, money can't buy happiness. It's WITHIN YOU!
Even fame, good looks, and children are not a guarantee.
Shake off the drama, raise up your head, and move forward.
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Generally, I’m quite satisfied with my providers; but, that said, I’m generally pleased when they depart. I agree that two hour sessions are a great way to get to know someone. All of my weekends have been tons of fun, although I‘m not one who expects my companion to have non-stop sex.

I have some great friends, younger and attractive but not gay. I have no interest in them sexually. That being said I am sure they would be a great companion on a trip that I would be taking anyway. I would likely ask they pay their flight but I would take care of meals and local accommodation. The companionship means so much more than the sex.
 
Whenever I have paid for sex, and I do fairly often. I get that empty feeling. I also dated an escort for a while and whenever we had sex it felt, well, so professional! He made me feel like a million bucks but after he left I was like, “ what just happened?”
 
Go for the companionship over sex!!!

For what it’s worth, I find it easier, and less emotionally risky, to treat every new escort experience as if it were a physical therapy appointment with a new PT, or a workout with a new trainer. Then it becomes an exercise of his pleasure-giving skills, and of my capacity to respond, and give pleasure back. I don’t pay my PT or my trainer to be my friends — but if they’re doing their job, and I’m doing mine, then there’s a chance that friendship can grow out of mutual respect, even if the relationship remains an essentially commercial one.

Totally agree with this. When facts like this are elusive, it means he shows one man these cards, another those, and a third different still. Makes one question everything.

Totally agree with this. When facts like this are elusive, it means he shows one man these cards, another those, and a third different still. Makes one question everything.

Piling on to say I agree with almost all of the advice here, and underscore DTB's comment that nonperformance situations are tricky. Its an awkward conversation to have, and can lead to excuse, argument or other kinds of drama. There are anecdotal reports here about conversations of nonperformance even leading to threats, though I hope that's rare -- its not happened to me. What I have experienced twice is a person who showed up with no intention to perform. There are scammers, and for me that's a reason for just scheduling an hour the first time. If that happens, I'd say something neutral like "we don't seem to be connecting," end the meeting early, pay the hour but no tip, and show him the door.

It doesn't but it would be nice to know because people do have our tastes. I'd like to know if I'm hiring a Greek, Moroccan or Israeli! And if he lies about something as trivial as this then makes one wonders what else he's lying about? I've traveled a bit. As much as I like Brazilians it annoys me when I come across them escorting or stripping and they try to pass themselves off as Italians. I like Italian men as well and been several times to both countries. Why lie? To me it's like being in the mood for Thai food and the restaurant trying to pass off Chinese food as Thai. And when served you can tell the dish isn't what you had thought you'd ordered, because you're familiar with both cuisines and were really in the mood for Thai! Get it? Some may not know the difference or even care. Good food is good food after all. But those that know and enjoy the real thing might be disappointed and even annoyed at the restaurant for trying to pass the dish off as something it wasn't. Or as yummy as the burger may be it's not the filet you expected and were in the mood for! After all you are paying for it and it's reasonable to expect to get what you ordered even if the occasional surprise can be pleasant!
Moroccans can be really hot but if I wanted a good old American boy from the Midwest since he's advertising at the moment in Ohio and Indiana next, I might be disappointed. Or one thinks one's hiring a butch top and what arrives is a queeny bottom to your door? I hope some at least get my point. I want to know what I'm hiring based on what I want at the moment and I don't like liars or fakes. That's all.

Last year I hired two porn actors who actually were lovers in real life. It was a great experience having Ryan Stone (the top) and Jay Tymel (the versatile) tag team me. While Ryan was no slouch in the dick department, Jay was humongous and it was only with some great effort I could accommodate him. Tragically Jay died several months after our encounter, which I was very upset to hear as he was a real sweetheart.

Ok, so when I reach out to retain services, I make it very clear that I'm a top looking for someone who will bottom. I ask if he's comfortable with that, what he wants to know about me, and what he likes to do or not do so I know his parameters. Depending on the vibe I get, I'll offer to send a face pic so he knows who he's meeting. On two or three occasions I've gotten messages before a scheduled meeting saying that he's not prepared to bottom for one reason or another. [I joke with someone on this board about the time he so completely wore out a man I was scheduled with that the escort called me and said he was just too sore to bottom for me -- you know who u r, lol]. I consider that kind of communication professional and I totally get it.
 
In contrast, once I had a scheduled date -- two hours -- where the person didn't tell me until he arrived that he couldn't bottom because of something he ate earlier in the day. First, Ewwww. Second, I didn't believe him. I think he was a scammer who had no intention of offering the services he agreed to. The other appointment -- also two hours -- was with a guy who I think was just a naive newbie. Within a few minutes of arriving, he told me that though he really enjoyed being bottom, he had "a rule" not to do it on a first date. He wanted to use our two hours to get to know me, snuggle and kiss. This was in Vegas, where we were both visiting, so its not like a next date was going to happen right around the corner, He was super nice, so I tried to engage him in understanding my confusion hoping he would make an exception and break his rule. In the course of that conversation, it became clear that he was looking for a sugar daddy relationship and hoped we could go there. Not to be crass, but this guy was not that smart and just sort of clueless -- beautiful and sweet, and I bet used to getting by on those qualities without really thinking things through. When I cut that meeting short, I honestly felt like I was doing him a favor by giving him a reality check about escorting. Anyway, those are the nonperformance stories that I'd categorize as disrespectful and non-professional. Hope this elaboration helps.

Interesting guy, very exotic looking. But don't hire him as a bottom. He agreed to bottom, and gets A for effort. But he's hardwired as a top. We had kind of a fun time sword-fighting and I enjoyed it just because he is an interesting guy, but...

Ok, so when I reach out to retain services, I make it very clear that I'm a top looking for someone who will bottom. I ask if he's comfortable with that, what he wants to know about me, and what he likes to do or not do so I know his parameters. Depending on the vibe I get, I'll offer to send a face pic so he knows who he's meeting. On two or three occasions I've gotten messages before a scheduled meeting saying that he's not prepared to bottom for one reason or another. [I joke with someone on this board about the time he so completely wore out a man I was scheduled with that the escort called me and said he was just too sore to bottom for me -- you know who u r, lol]. I consider that kind of communication professional and I totally get it.
 
In contrast, once I had a scheduled date -- two hours -- where the person didn't tell me until he arrived that he couldn't bottom because of something he ate earlier in the day. First, Ewwww. Second, I didn't believe him. I think he was a scammer who had no intention of offering the services he agreed to. The other appointment -- also two hours -- was with a guy who I think was just a naive newbie. Within a few minutes of arriving, he told me that though he really enjoyed being bottom, he had "a rule" not to do it on a first date. He wanted to use our two hours to get to know me, snuggle and kiss. This was in Vegas, where we were both visiting, so its not like a next date was going to happen right around the corner, He was super nice, so I tried to engage him in understanding my confusion hoping he would make an exception and break his rule. In the course of that conversation, it became clear that he was looking for a sugar daddy relationship and hoped we could go there. Not to be crass, but this guy was not that smart and just sort of clueless -- beautiful and sweet, and I bet used to getting by on those qualities without really thinking things through. When I cut that meeting short, I honestly felt like I was doing him a favor by giving him a reality check about escorting. Anyway, those are the nonperformance stories that I'd categorize as disrespectful and non-professional. Hope this elaboration helps.

It's very rare and unfortunate if you meet a provider for the 1st time and things don't work. What I gave was a recommendation of good faith but you are the client and as such you are free to use your own discretion to determine how much you wanna pay before leaving. I have been very disappointed myself when this has happened but as I said, it's very rare. In my opinion a provider should be ready for this scenario and always have viagra, trimix or vitaros at hand, so he has 15 to 30 mins to recover and provide you with good service despite the setback. You can't determine performance in the first 10 mins. Unless they already applied trimix (which is not as common as viagra), some guys will need foreplay and more than 10min to warm up.
 
If you see the guy did his best, wasn't under the influence, and you want to call it off (assuming the rate is $300) you can pay $100-200 and leave. This happened once with one of my favourites (the only time he failed me) and I asked him to give me erotic massage for the whole duration of our session. There was lots of foreplay, anal play, without penetration obviously but he used his hand, and I got a fantastic replacement for what I was initially looking for, and I paid him his full rate. I see you are into receiving massages so perhaps you can prospect masseurs who are also good tops, so if one day you see the guy won't perform as expected you will still have a backup plan with erotic massage.
 
The only scenario I consider unacceptable is PNP, when they are under the influence. Even though the right thing would be to leave without paying, the best is to give something. I'm not sure how much since I always try to avoid providers who PNP or show signs of it, perhaps 25%? I don't know. It's not best practice to leave without giving something because you could get into an argument with someone whose senses are already altered. This could easily escalate and you want to avoid all jeopardy and drama.

Piling on to say I agree with almost all of the advice here, and underscore DTB's comment that nonperformance situations are tricky. Its an awkward conversation to have, and can lead to excuse, argument or other kinds of drama. There are anecdotal reports here about conversations of nonperformance even leading to threats, though I hope that's rare -- its not happened to me. What I have experienced twice is a person who showed up with no intention to perform. There are scammers, and for me that's a reason for just scheduling an hour the first time. If that happens, I'd say something neutral like "we don't seem to be connecting," end the meeting early, pay the hour but no tip, and show him the door.

Piling on to say I agree with almost all of the advice here, and underscore DTB's comment that nonperformance situations are tricky. Its an awkward conversation to have, and can lead to excuse, argument or other kinds of drama. There are anecdotal reports here about conversations of nonperformance even leading to threats, though I hope that's rare -- its not happened to me. What I have experienced twice is a person who showed up with no intention to perform. There are scammers, and for me that's a reason for just scheduling an hour the first time. If that happens, I'd say something neutral like "we don't seem to be connecting," end the meeting early, pay the hour but no tip, and show him the door.