Are 1 Hour Escort Booking Common? Newbie Question

[Palidod]

I've had several massages sessions before. I never initiate anything during the massages. I just lay down with my arms to my side and let the masseur drive the situation. They usually start as massages and progress into other full on good activities. I think this is great. However, there are times when I just want the time spent on the non-massage good times. This has lead me to consider escorts.

 

I have never engaged an escort before. I had a few questions I was hoping to get some inputs on from those with experience. I'd imagine some of these answers would vary based on the escort but was hoping to get general answers or what the general etiquettes are.

 

1. Is it common to book an escort for just an hour?

2. Do the escorts usually require you to send them you physical stats and/or photos before agreeing to meet up?

3. If you tell them you want just an hour do they keep track of the time or would they just charge you based on when the session is considered over?

4. Is the goal to have both parties finish or just the customer?

5. What happens if they cannot "perform"?

 

Thanks in advance for your responses!

[orville]

1. Is it common to book an escort for just an hour?

2. Do the escorts usually require you to send them you physical stats and/or photos before agreeing to meet up?

3. If you tell them you want just an hour do they keep track of the time or would they just charge you based on when the session is considered over?

4. Is the goal to have both parties finish or just the customer?

5. What happens if they cannot "perform"?

1. Yes.

2. Physical stats are ok to ask and provide. If they ask a pic, don't send anything and move on.

3. Good escorts don't cut the time sharp. They would give you 15 to 30 min extra at no additional charge. More if there is good chemistry.

4. Always communicate what you want to happen, either him, you, or both.

5. If he showed up, was not high on something, tried hard, and you don't want to pay what was agreed, pay a fraction at your own discretion. Otherwise (PNP) pay half or less, given that since he can't perform, you won't spend the full hr with him.

Edited July 30, 2020 by orville

[liubit]

Hello, @Palidod, you were given excellent advice by @orville. I have been hiring for almost 30 years now and I have found that communication, communication, communication is the golden rule. And, always remember that this hobby is meant to be fun for both parties. Good luck.

[+ poolboy48220]

3. If you tell them you want just an hour do they keep track of the time or would they just charge you based on when the session is considered over?

To this question, it varies. I make a point of making clear how long I'm planning on. After that I usually depend on the escort to manage most of the time, but I do keep an eye on the time myself & mention if we're going wildly over; some guys WILL charge but it's rarely happened to me. I've had some guys point out to me that we're getting close to the end. I've rarely been shorted time (once by a guy who seemed determined to finish me off in about 20 minutes).

[Studsearcher]

I agree with everything @orville said. I normally hire for one or two, occasionally three hours and all of that time is spent in private. Usually just one hour the first meet unless his reviews are exceptional. Some guys like to make a date night out of it but that’s not for me. Heck, I don’t even like sleeping in the same bed as someone I’m dating!

[+ Pensant]

All on point, although my minimum is two hours since I like to “ease” into the fun.

[dbar123]

One escort that I see semi-regularly sets his phone timer for 2 hours so you know when that time has passed. At first I thought it was a little weird but now I kind of like it (he usually keeps going if the chemistry is still good). I've has some guys who want to wrap up and go as soon as I've "come" even if two hours haven't passed.

[+ newatthis]

...3. If you tell them you want just an hour do they keep track of the time or would they just charge you based on when the session is considered over?

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You have lots of good advice already; I just want to expand a little on question #3. As already remarked, it's important to make the amount of time clear in your communications -- after everything is agreed, sending a short final summary message along the lines of "looking forward to seeing you on [date] [time] for [amount of time] at [place]" is a good idea. I hate being responsible for time-keeping, so I normally -- at the beginning of a session -- say something like "I'm going to rely on you to keep track of the time." *

 

With someone inexperienced or flaky, these precautions might not work, of course.

 

And with someone you have hired multiple times, these precautions are probably unnecessary. They are meant for guys you haven't been with before and for inexperienced clients who may be nervous about how this will all work.

 

Good luck and have fun.

 

*Here's the very smooth way one escort handled the time issue with me (we had really hit it off and I had no sense of how much time had passed): at a lull in our activity, he gave me a big kiss and asked if I wanted to extend for an additional hour (I think we were well past 75 minutes by then).

[down_to_business]

 

1. Is it common to book an escort for just an hour?

2. Do the escorts usually require you to send them you physical stats and/or photos before agreeing to meet up?

3. If you tell them you want just an hour do they keep track of the time or would they just charge you based on when the session is considered over?

4. Is the goal to have both parties finish or just the customer?

5. What happens if they cannot "perform"?

 

 

1. Yes. Despite personal preferences mentioned, one hour is very common.

2. No. Some require it but most won't. In my experience, the best escorts I have met did not.

3. Ultimately you both are responsible for time. I will usually set a phone alarm. Also feel free to discuss with the escort if you prefer he keep track of your time.

4. I think a good goal is mutual climax, however, (in general) you do need to clarify this with your escort as some will not climax if they aren't asked. Some see multiple clients in a day etc.

5. This is a tricky one and very situational. In general you should pay the agreed upon fee in a short duration appointment as long as fraud/intentional deception isn't involved.

[adventurous old guy]

5. This is a tricky one and very situational. In general you should pay the agreed upon fee in a short duration appointment as long as fraud/intentional deception isn't involved.

Piling on to say I agree with almost all of the advice here, and underscore DTB's comment that nonperformance situations are tricky. Its an awkward conversation to have, and can lead to excuse, argument or other kinds of drama. There are anecdotal reports here about conversations of nonperformance even leading to threats, though I hope that's rare -- its not happened to me. What I have experienced twice is a person who showed up with no intention to perform. There are scammers, and for me that's a reason for just scheduling an hour the first time. If that happens, I'd say something neutral like "we don't seem to be connecting," end the meeting early, pay the hour but no tip, and show him the door.

[Palidod]

Piling on to say I agree with almost all of the advice here, and underscore DTB's comment that nonperformance situations are tricky. Its an awkward conversation to have, and can lead to excuse, argument or other kinds of drama. There are anecdotal reports here about conversations of nonperformance even leading to threats, though I hope that's rare -- its not happened to me. What I have experienced twice is a person who showed up with no intention to perform. There are scammers, and for me that's a reason for just scheduling an hour the first time. If that happens, I'd say something neutral like "we don't seem to be connecting," end the meeting early, pay the hour but no tip, and show him the door.

 

Can you please elaborate on "no intention to perform"? Are they simply showing up and not doing anything or do they not make an effort to perform the agreed upon services? I know I can't prepare for all scenarios but would be great to understand what to do under the more common situations of non-performance.

[Palidod]

1. Yes.

2. Physical stats are ok to ask and provide. If they ask a pic, don't send anything and move on.

3. Good escorts don't cut the time sharp. They would give you 15 to 30 min more. More if there is good chemistry.

4. Always communicate what you want to happen, either him, you, or both.

5. If he showed up, was not high on something, and tried hard, you should pay what was agreed. Otherwise (PNP) pay half or a bit less, given that since he can't perform, you won't spend the full hr with him.

 

Thank you! This is good information.

 

I have a follow up question. You mentioned that if they don't make an attempt to perform or was under the influence you would still pay them but not the full amount. Would you be prorating the initial agreed upon payment amount based on the time they were spent with you? What if you come to this realization within 10 minutes of meeting them which is a very short period of time?

 

This isn't so much a budget issue, it is more about getting the agreed upon services. While I understand if an honest attempt was made and it just didn't work out then compensation full compensation should be made. I am not sure how I feel about paying them if they do not make an effort.

[orville]

You mentioned that if they don't make an attempt to perform or was under the influence you would still pay them but not the full amount. Would you be prorating the initial agreed upon payment amount based on the time they were spent with you? What if you come to this realization within 10 minutes of meeting them which is a very short period of time?

It's very rare and unfortunate if you meet a provider for the 1st time and things don't work. What I gave was a recommendation of good faith but you are the client and as such you are free to use your own discretion to determine how much you wanna pay before leaving. I have been very disappointed myself when this has happened but as I said, it's very rare. In my opinion a provider should be ready for this scenario and always have viagra, trimix or vitaros at hand, so he has 15 to 30 mins to recover and provide you with good service despite the setback. You can't determine performance in the first 10 mins. Unless they already applied trimix (which is not as common as viagra), some guys will need foreplay and more than 10min to warm up.

 

If you see the guy did his best, wasn't under the influence, and you want to call it off (assuming the rate is $300) you can pay $100-200 and leave. This happened once with one of my favourites (the only time he failed me) and I asked him to give me erotic massage for the whole duration of our session. There was lots of foreplay, anal play, without penetration obviously but he used his hand, and I got a fantastic replacement for what I was initially looking for, and I paid him his full rate. I see you are into receiving massages so perhaps you can prospect masseurs who are also good tops, so if one day you see the guy won't perform as expected you will still have a backup plan with erotic massage.

 

The only scenario I consider unacceptable is PNP, when they are under the influence. Even though the right thing would be to leave without paying, the best is to give something. I'm not sure how much since I always try to avoid providers who PNP or show signs of it, perhaps 25%? I don't know. It's not best practice to leave without giving something because you could get into an argument with someone whose senses are already altered. This could easily escalate and you want to avoid all jeopardy and drama.

Edited July 30, 2020 by orville

[dutchal]

The answer to #4 can depend on whether you're hiring him for a top or a bottom. Since I hire them only to bottom: (a) if I turn him on enough that he cums in an apparently natural way, all the better, and I'm very complimented; (b) if he doesn't cum, or doesn't even get hard, it doesn't detract from the experience for me, but that might be just the way I am; © I've had a few guys cum, or try to cum, with what is pretty plainly unnatural effort--I'd rather they didn't.

[AceHardware]

There's a lot of good information on this site for beginners. One thing I'd stress is that if you're new, it's better to hire an experienced provider who has positive comments on this site and on Daddy's Reviews. Start with a pro when you're new; branch out after you become a pro.

[+ StLouisOct]

There's a lot of good information on this site for beginners. One thing I'd stress is that if you're new, it's better to hire an experienced provider who has positive comments on this site and on Daddy's Reviews. Start with a pro when you're new; branch out after you become a pro.

Excellent advice. ? A pro can put you more at ease and teach you lots of things, and keep you inspired to hire again.

[Kevin Slater]

70% of my booking are for an hour.

 

Kevin Slater

[orville]

70% of my booking are for an hour.

 

Kevin Slater

The stats of an escort are always a turn on ?

[+ azdr0710]

The stats of an escort are always a turn on ?

 

wait until you see his bar graph!

[+ keroscenefire]

4. Is the goal to have both parties finish or just the customer? I actually feel this can vary quite a bit. A lot of traveling escorts almost by necessity have to see multiple clients daily. They have significant travel costs the have to recoup and you can rarely do that if you're only seeing one client for like $250 or $300. And in that case they often don't come, because it can be pretty hard to perform if you are doing that multiple times per day (especially for tops). So if it's important for you that there is mutual climax, I would suggest hiring an escort for a longer session. If they are going to be making $500-$600 for a multi-hour session, they won't need as many clients and can just focus on you. Personally I think that is actually a very good call for a first-time session. They often can ease you into the situation maybe with a drink or some nice conversation, move on to perhaps a massage and then mutual fun.

 

That said, if you hire a local for a one-hour session, it's actually quite often that they will be able to come as well. They don't have to see a lot of clients per day. Most of my local regulars tell me they see perhaps 3-4 clients a week or sometimes less, though many have lovers and hookups as well. They may see the opportunity as not only a way to make money but to get off.

[rvwnsd]

1. Is it common to book an escort for just an hour? Yes

2. Do the escorts usually require you to send them you physical stats and/or photos before agreeing to meet up? A few have, but in my experience the vast majority do not.

3. If you tell them you want just an hour do they keep track of the time or would they just charge you based on when the session is considered over? I think it is up to both the escort and he client to monitor the time. Most escorts I've hired did not get picky about a couple of extra minutes.

4. Is the goal to have both parties finish or just the customer? It depends on the escort and, frankly, the client to a lesser degree. If the escort cumming is important, say so. I've had guys state "I can't guarantee I will cum" and then it was up to me to decide whether to hire.

5. What happens if they cannot "perform"? To me, the answer depends upon what I am looking for. If a guy just cannot get hard, then we have an issue and I need to either continue, stop and pay less than the stated fee, or stop and pay his fee. If I wanted to get fucked and he isn't up to it but can do other things I want, then we do the other things I want to do.

 

Not everyone will answer in the way I just did. In fact, the short answer to these questions is "what do you want and will you be satisfied if you can't get everything on your wish list. Here's a real-life example: My reply to a guy's ad stated, among other things, I wanted him to cum. He agreed to everything I asked for and we scheduled time for Saturday early evening. Saturday morning he texted me and said he was sorry, but he would not be able to cum if we met on Saturday. We could either meet Saturday and no cum or another day. I opted to meet on Saturday and had a great time. he apologized profusely for not remembering that I had mentioned cumming in my initial reply.

[rvwnsd]

wait until you see his bar graph!

His pivot tables are even more impressive.

[adventurous old guy]

Can you please elaborate on "no intention to perform"? Are they simply showing up and not doing anything or do they not make an effort to perform the agreed upon services? I know I can't prepare for all scenarios but would be great to understand what to do under the more common situations of non-performance.

Ok, so when I reach out to retain services, I make it very clear that I'm a top looking for someone who will bottom. I ask if he's comfortable with that, what he wants to know about me, and what he likes to do or not do so I know his parameters. Depending on the vibe I get, I'll offer to send a face pic so he knows who he's meeting. On two or three occasions I've gotten messages before a scheduled meeting saying that he's not prepared to bottom for one reason or another. [I joke with someone on this board about the time he so completely wore out a man I was scheduled with that the escort called me and said he was just too sore to bottom for me -- you know who u r, lol]. I consider that kind of communication professional and I totally get it.

 

In contrast, once I had a scheduled date -- two hours -- where the person didn't tell me until he arrived that he couldn't bottom because of something he ate earlier in the day. First, Ewwww. Second, I didn't believe him. I think he was a scammer who had no intention of offering the services he agreed to. The other appointment -- also two hours -- was with a guy who I think was just a naive newbie. Within a few minutes of arriving, he told me that though he really enjoyed being bottom, he had "a rule" not to do it on a first date. He wanted to use our two hours to get to know me, snuggle and kiss. This was in Vegas, where we were both visiting, so its not like a next date was going to happen right around the corner, He was super nice, so I tried to engage him in understanding my confusion hoping he would make an exception and break his rule. In the course of that conversation, it became clear that he was looking for a sugar daddy relationship and hoped we could go there. Not to be crass, but this guy was not that smart and just sort of clueless -- beautiful and sweet, and I bet used to getting by on those qualities without really thinking things through. When I cut that meeting short, I honestly felt like I was doing him a favor by giving him a reality check about escorting. Anyway, those are the nonperformance stories that I'd categorize as disrespectful and non-professional. Hope this elaboration helps.

Edited July 31, 2020 by adventurous old guy

[Guest]

I've had several massages sessions before. I never initiate anything during the massages. I just lay down with my arms to my side and let the masseur drive the situation. They usually start as massages and progress into other full on good activities. I think this is great. However, there are times when I just want the time spent on the non-massage good times. This has lead me to consider escorts.

 

I have never engaged an escort before. I had a few questions I was hoping to get some inputs on from those with experience. I'd imagine some of these answers would vary based on the escort but was hoping to get general answers or what the general etiquettes are.

 

1. Is it common to book an escort for just an hour?

2. Do the escorts usually require you to send them you physical stats and/or photos before agreeing to meet up?

3. If you tell them you want just an hour do they keep track of the time or would they just charge you based on when the session is considered over?

4. Is the goal to have both parties finish or just the customer?

5. What happens if they cannot "perform"?

 

Thanks in advance for your responses!

As Kevin Slater testified, I suspect that the vast majority of hires are for an hour. If I can't do it in 30 minutes, I'm unlikely to ever get there. A little post-coital cuddle time is nice. I think that maybe once I hired an escort who had a 2-hour minimum, as I really wanted to hire him, so I did, but in most cases if an escort has a 2-hour minimum I move on. Most escorts won't ask you to describe yourself, and it's a bit of a red flag if they do. I would definitely not send a photo under any circumstances. That being said, most people say I look good for my age, so I'll often request having a FaceTime or WhattsApp conversation, which I think can help put both parties at ease (I can feel confident that the photos are recent and accurate). An escort will usually tell you when he considers the time up. Some don't mind spending a little extra time. It's the escort's responsibility to tell you when he feels the time is up (as long as it's the agreed 60 minutes). I think it's a bit unreasonable to have an expectation that the escort give you a load, especially for a one-hour hire. He may have other clients that day. Also, you may simply not be his type. I do offer to help him if he wants, but understand if he declines. Presumably you hired him because you wanted to get off, not the other way around.

As to your last question, you need to discuss with the escort why you're hiring (I ask that this be done by phone or FaceTime so as to not have discoverable evidence for God-knows who to discover). If you're hiring him as a top, and he can't sustain an erection, OK to call it off. Same the other way around (you hired him as a bottom and he can't). I let the escort know that what gets me off is deep, passionate kissing and armpits. I greet the escort with a nice, deep kiss. If he won't do that, I cut it off. I also like to make sure the escort isn't wearing any deodorant or anti-perspirant, which, again, I made clear in the conversation before deciding to hire.

[muscmtl]

Ok, so when I reach out to retain services, I make it very clear that I'm a top looking for someone who will bottom. I ask if he's comfortable with that, what he wants to know about me, and what he likes to do or not do so I know his parameters. Depending on the vibe I get, I'll offer to send a face pic so he knows who he's meeting. On two or three occasions I've gotten messages before a scheduled meeting saying that he's not prepared to bottom for one reason or another. [I joke with someone on this board about the time he so completely wore out a man I was scheduled with that the escort called me and said he was just too sore to bottom for me -- you know who u r, lol]. i consider that kind of communication professional and I totally get it.

 

In contrast, once I had a scheduled date -- two hours -- where the person didn't tell me until he arrived that he couldn't bottom because of something he ate earlier in the day. First, Ewwww. Second, I didn't believe him. I think he was a scammer who had no intention of offering the services he agreed to. The other appointment -- also two hours -- was with a guy who I think was just a naive newbie. Within a few minutes of arriving, he told me that though he really enjoyed being bottom, he had "a rule" not to do it on a first date. He wanted to use our two hours to get to know me, snuggle and kiss. This was in Vegas, where we were both visiting, so its not like a next date was going to happen right around the corner, He was super nice, so I tried to engage him in understanding my confusion hoping he would make an exception and break his rule. In the course of that conversation, it became clear that he was looking for a sugar daddy relationship and hoped we could go there. Not to be crass, but this guy was not that smart and just sort of clueless -- beautiful and sweet, and I bet used to getting by on those qualities without really thinking things through. When I cut that meeting short, I honestly felt like I was doing him a favor by giving him a reality check about escorting. Anyway, those are the nonperformance stories that I'd categorize as disrespectful and non-professional. Hope this helps.

Scammer bottoms. Tons of them?