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Having been fat for quite a long time, I can attest to the fact that many gay men aren't very welcoming of fat men. I have occasionally -- but thankfully very rarely -- been subject to the verbal abuse that this guy describes. I feel more invisible than anything else. I do wonder if this guy is contributing to his misery by perhaps focusing too much on the kind of men whose photos are shown in that article. Not that it excuses boorish behavior, but if someone fat is relentlessly cruising muscle men he cannot be surprised when most of them (or even all of them) aren't interested. Generally guys who devote that much effort into looking that way aren't particularly interested in guys who don't share that priority. I also noticed that he seems angry at the types of men he assumes are exclusively desired, even trying to equate being young and skinny with being a meth addict. I think a lot of this guy's misery comes from within and not the community. It reminds me of one of my favorite sayings: Wherever you go, there you are.

Yes, Edge was updated in a recent Windows 10 update. I think Microsoft is really trying to push the use of Edge because, as far as I can tell, the only purpose of the recent Windows 10 update was to promote Edge. If you don't want to switch to a different browser, you can save photos you are viewing in Edge (or any other browser) by using Windows snipping tool. It's under Windows Accessories under your list of programs. It isn't as simple as mouse click save as, but it's easy to use and the benefit is that it allows you to save any area of your screen, not just an isolated element such as a jpg that's being displayed. For example, if you wanted to save the text of a guy's ad you could do that. You basically just select what you want to grab (if it's a photo, you will simply draw a box around the photo in question) and then save what you indicated to a filename of your choice.

Really? Maybe it's my imagination but many times I thought I could see the outline of his dick clearly enough that I could see the outline of the head of it. Pause it at 8 seconds and look again.

Wait. He was giving a lesson on jumping rope? I was a bit distracted watching something else jumping around in his pants. Seriously, I did pay attention to his lesson as well. I'd say he did a good job of explaining and demonstrating a lot of technical information in a relatively short amount of time.

Used to have an ad under the name JasonJamesX according to Google Image search. There were a couple of threads on him where there was a little banter but only a couple of posts from people who actually met him.

I like cilantro so much that I usually ask for extra cilantro and onions when getting a burrito or tacos. Another cuisine in which it's widely used is Thai.

1. Don't attempt to "read into" ads unless you are willing to pay a high rate for what you think will be an exceptional experience that ultimately might be disappointing. Some guys knowingly write enticing ads even though they know they are going to fail to deliver. Some of the most expensive and disappointing massages I've had have been by guys with lots of provocative photos and texts who then provided untrained (not therapeutic) massages with nothing erotic beyond having a guy in a tank top touching me. 2. Have a specific conversation as to what you are looking for. If you are not comfortable doing that, then at least do your research here and commit to hiring guys who have feedback that indicates you are likely to get what you are looking for. There is still no guarantee as I truly believe (and respect) that just because client A has a certain experience with masseur X that doesn't mean client B will. There still shouldn't be a night-and-day difference in experience (if a guy advertises erotic massage, one should reasonably expect something more than a mediocre rub from a clothed guy), but just because a masseur goes beyond mutual touch and a happy ending with one client doesn't mean he's going to do that with every client. There is still such a thing as chemistry between the masseur and client so that's why I'm accepting of the notion that "your mileage may vary" is reasonable. 3. If you really want an escort experience, book an escort from an escort website. If you want to book an erotic massage with the option of negotiating more once you are there, then look for guys who have both masseur and escort ads or, again, have a conversation with the guy before hand about your desires. This can be tricky if you don't have a clear indication that the guy is open to more, though, so I would personally be hesitant to have that conversation with someone I've never met unless I know based on his ads or reputation on this site that he's open to more than massage.

If this show was brought back it would certainly not have the same vibe as it did then since the culture has changed so much. Even the 1970s version of the much more risque Match Game had to be made even more crude when it returned to TV four years ago. I also love watching What's My Line. It's on Buzzr in the early morning where I live. Right now they are running episodes from the later reboot with Larry Blyden as host. Those episodes are okay and still feature Arlene Francis, but I much prefer the original incarnation with John Daly.

Yes, I have had guys I have not hired AND guys I did hire relock their photos. I don't take it personally; I assume the guy simply wants to keep some photos more restricted so he regularly relocks them for everyone. I'm not sure why you are giving this guy a second thought. You told him you're not interested in him so why would you want to look at his ad again even if he kept his photos unlocked?

You must be joking. An escort asking for a deposit for a simple 1-hour appointment is not communicating commitment since, as many posts over the years here will tell you, a lot of clients have paid up front and been ripped off and there are a lot of escorts with stellar reputations who don't ask for money up front. It's up to each client whether he's willing to pay a deposit up front, but I think that apart from longer engagements the majority view requests for money up front as a deal breaker. The reverse is definitely true, though: I don't think a client is going to send payment in advance if he isn't serious about keeping an appointment.

Not sure why this is in the Deli instead of the Spa since he runs a massage ad, not an escort ad. That being said, I wouldn't repeat. I'll send you a PM, Phx3rings, so as not to violate the policy against writing reviews on the message forum.

I don't recall his name on Rentmasseur and I don't see his ad there now (though I'm pretty sure he had one when I hired him about a year ago), but the only guy advertising on Adam4Adam in Ann Arbor was a disappointment for me. Seriously outdated pictures and a mediocre massage - more like light rubbing all over.

I made it to 24 seconds. Something about his demeanor is extremely off-putting.

Maybe he's on TMobile's network. They had a huge problem yesterday with both calls and texts. I think they have resolved the texting issue, but I think their network still isn't 100% functional with respect to calls. I agree with purplekow that you are letting your insecurity get to you. It sounds like you are talking yourself into believing that the guy is no longer interested in you and you are even suggesting to him that maybe he feels that way, too. If you want to end things, just do it. Otherwise try to keep your anxiety in check and allow a more natural back-and-forth to occur.

I think part of the issue here is that people use "escort" and "masseur" interchangeably sometimes. This post is in the Spa section and the thread title mentions "masseur," not escort. I understand that if someone is closeted it might make his life difficult if it was exposed that he hired male masseurs, but for many of us it wouldn't be an issue even if a massage provider threatened to expose us.

I have used my personal cell phone for over two decades for this hobby and haven't had any problems apart from some guys who send follow up texts for way too long in an effort to get repeat business. I don't begrudge people who feel the need for greater anonymity, but I'm personally not concerned about being outed since I started my coming out process when I was still in high school over 40 years ago.

I think the only time I have given money to someone where there was an aborted session was when there was a misunderstanding. One time in particular I recall because the massage started with the provider fully clothed and then he started listing the various "add ons with additional charges" I could get. I definitely felt hustled, but since I hadn't been entirely explicit with him when setting up the appointment I really didn't have the ability to claim that he was changing the terms of our agreement. I gave him a nominal amount of money to leave. Most of the time, however, I give nothing. If someone is radically different looking in person than in the ad, I simply say that to the guy who opens the door and I leave. I have had a couple of guys try to argue with me as I walked away, but no one has chased after me (yet). I don't believe in paying dishonest people, particularly when I am the one who wasted my time getting ready for the session and going to them. If the guy who answers is at least close to what I expected, I proceed with the session. True, sometimes it isn't obvious that a guy has put on a bit of weight until his clothes are off and it can be disappointing to find a bit of a paunch when you expected a flat stomach, but it isn't like I am completely unattracted to guys who carry a little extra weight.

If someone is clean, it doesn't smell or taste bad. If someone doesn't clean thoroughly, then I don't want to put my face there. It doesn't need to be deep cleaned like it would in preparation for penetration by a cock or dildo because there's no way for me to stick my tongue in there as far as either of those things would go, but one should be able to probe a little without "shit" happening. I think some women don't like going down on men because pee comes out of there (and maybe some because ejaculate comes out of there). And some straight men probably don't want to lick a woman's pussy because of what can come out of there. Hell, some people have bad breath due to poor oral hygiene and I don't want to kiss them. Cleanliness is all that matters, to me anyway.

If someone is clean, it doesn't smell or taste bad. If someone doesn't clean thoroughly, then I don't want to put my face there. It doesn't need to be deep cleaned like it would in preparation for penetration by a cock or dildo because there's no way for me to stick my tongue in there as far as either of those things would go, but one should be able to probe a little without "shit" happening. I think some women don't like going down on men because pee comes out of there (and maybe some because ejaculate comes out of there). And some straight men probably don't want to lick a woman's pussy because of what can come out of there. Hell, some people have bad breath due to poor oral hygiene and I don't want to kiss them. Cleanliness is all that matters, to me anyway.

While for some it may be about domination or getting a bottom ready, as a bottom for me it's definitely not about that. I'm not sure why I enjoy rimming so much. I enjoy both giving and receiving, but probably giving more. One of my favorite regulars about 15 years ago was a very cute college guy who just loved being eaten. I spent more time eating his ass than sucking his dick, and just as he was ready to shoot he'd pull back and shoot in my mouth. Good times.

I am not putting myself up as a medical or infectious disease specialist. I merely read another article where people who are experts rebutted Montagnier's claims. One that stuck out to me because it was easy enough for a layperson to understand is that his claim that this new virus had to be man-made because it "contains HIV" is akin to saying that one book contains another because they both have the word "hat" in them multiple times. Not being a genetic expert I don't know whether it's true but I don't see why the medical community wouldn't be supporting Montagnier's theory if it was legitimate rather than publishing articles that indicate the flaws in his logic. Unless you're a major conspiracy theorist it's difficult to believe that every person involved in fighting this plague that does have the educational background to understand things like this would rather throw Montagnier under the bus and let hundreds of thousands of additional people die rather than celebrating his findings and advancing on them to work on treatment or prevention. This reminds of me of Peter Duesberg, a doctor who has been claiming since the late 1980s that HIV does not cause AIDS and that instead drug use and poor nutrition were responsible for AIDS.

Just because he has an important credit in his career doesn't mean he's correct with this theory. After doing some additional reading I would consider what he states to be highly suspect.

It looks like I haven't shared my worst experience here (maybe I have in another thread), so here goes: I was black-and-blue and sore for a few days after a massage. I kept telling this guy (who was super hot, by the way) to back off the pressure because it was too intense for me, but he would immediately return to extremely deep work after a minute or two. I really don't like deep work on anywhere except my back, so I thought that maybe I was just being a little hypersensitive. In retrospect, I should have just left the second time he went too deep which was my warning that he wasn't listening to me. At the end of the massage when I told him I had never encountered so much pain during a massage, he joked that he's known as an "s & m masseur." Well, maybe some people knew that of him but there was no hint of that in his ad. I was aghast after I got home and saw how badly he had bruised me. I, of course, have a lot of stories about hotels in bad areas, smelly apartments, guys who didn't match their pictures, guys who did not deliver what they promised, etc, but the above is definitely the worst massage I had.

When I copy the image location, it indicates it's just a .jpg file. Nothing out of the ordinary there. There are all sorts of tools you can use to open the photo and save it with a new name and/or file type, though. If you're using Windows 10, you can simply use the built in snipping tool to capture that area of the screen and then save it. When I want to manipulate photos I have on my hard drive, I open them with a free program called Irfanview and then save them under a new file name of my choosing (or overwrite the existing file if I don't care about keeping it).

I don't think it's so easy to just "get a job" right now with millions out of work and a lot of businesses still shuttered or operating on severely restricted staff. That being said, with the federal stimulus package that did pass and get signed into law the guy should at least be able to collect enhanced unemployment benefits at this time. I know he lives in an expensive city, but the maximum unemployment benefit up there is more generous than it is where in California. I am not going to take the time to calculate how one qualifies for the maximum weekly benefit of $790, but assuming he was making (and claiming) a lot of income and he qualifies for that level of payment then in the short term he's getting $1,390/week in unemployment. I know that that still isn't a lot of money in an expensive city and that, at this point, that extra $600/week kicked in by the Feds is time limited, but it doesn't seem like the time to beg for more money.