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The top 3 in my life probably all cracked 100. One of those was an escort. The rest of the top 10 also has a few escorts, but the most times I've seen any other escort is probably closer to 20.

Maybe there are still venues that working guys frequent (not sure about that, but there are obviously still lots of gay bars in San Francisco), but for all intents and purposes the internet changed not just the commercial scene but also cruising in general. Even lots of guys who still go out to bars are cruising on an app while they are out.

All I can say is this: The area around Polk between, say, Sutter and California is not what it once was. Gone are most of the gay bars, including the ones frequented by the type of guy you mention. And -- this is a good thing, at least in my opinion -- I don't see street "trade" that once was common in the area (typically very young, desperate looking men).

I have never been asked this question at my private physician's office, either. I'm guessing that a public clinic might have this as one of their questions simply to try to help people who are engaged in sex-for-money who don't really want to be in that position. Particularly for the provider, some people might feel pressured to take risks they don't want to. If I were at such a clinic, though, there is no way I would provide an honest answer to that question since paying or getting paid is not a risk factor in and of itself and I don't trust that that information would remain confidential.

A couple of things may be at work, similar to what I see when I travel to Mexico: 1. There are a lot of listings for guys who are visiting Bangkok. I think guys who are traveling versus the local talent typically look to get the same fee they get back home. That may work for some guys like porn "stars," but for a more average guy I wonder how much of a market there is abroad for a higher-priced import versus the local talent. 2. Guys ask for more online than the guys you can meet in person. One of my least expensive but most superlative hires ever was a fantastically sexy young man in Puerto Vallarta. For a little over $100 he spent around 90 minutes with me and we did everything I wanted to, including having some pillow talk at the end of our time together. The guys online -- all less attractive to me than this guy, whom I met at a local strip club -- were all asking for much more. Less stunning guys were asking for even less when I was approached by them on the beach or in a bar.

If by "loving his stats" that includes his purported age, then think again. Those pictures are probably as old as the day I first started hiring regularly, which was nearly 20 years ago.

Relaxing massage but ultimately not therapeutic or particularly erotic for me.

I don't think so. The original "nut in my butt" headline sounds like he's sitting on the client's bare cock until the client ejaculates. I don't know whether he decided to change that to simply BB (which, of course, could simply be interpreted as bodybuilder) or whether the guys running rentmasseur forced him to remove the explicit headline, but I don't see any other interpretation for "nut in my butt." Then again, given the low price for that location for that level of interaction, maybe it's just a false advertisement. One of the worst guys I ever hired had a very long ad which went beyond suggestive; the massage was him fully clothed with nothing erotic about it.

I can zoom all the way in on a guy who lives in my building and it shows his location as being several blocks away. Maybe some guys put in specific coordinates when setting up their ads and others just provide a more general area/zip code/neighborhood.

I, too, look at the map feature to try to figure out where guys are because I prefer going to them rather than hosting, but as Poolboy wrote I think most guys simply give a general location. There are lots of guys that show up in the same general area of the city where I live, and I doubt all of them live within a couple of blocks of each other; it just happens to be about the middle of the city. I was looking at someone's profile recently and his location had him a bit off shore into the Pacific Ocean. Somehow I doubt he's living on a boat or barge a mile or two from land.

Those posts from Sean Zevran, along with a speech I saw online that he gave at the GayVN awards, make me salivate over him even more. As for Pierce Paris, he deserves the blow back he's getting.

This. But in my case, I contacted him three times using three different methods over a period of several weeks. At each time, he was logged onto either A4A, Rentmasseur, or Rentmen and listed as "available now." I still must assume that Will's satisfied clients are genuine, but I have no idea why I never got a reply to any of my inquiries as I wasn't asking for anything usual and believe I was polite and to the point with my inquiries.

Maybe he's booked up today since he sent out that email to multiple men who viewed his ad, so he removed his ad from view. (I'm not a provider so I don't know how easy it is for a guy to hide his ad from everyone and then unhide it when he's available again.) I cannot see why he would block you specifically since it would be natural for someone to want to double check an ad under a circumstance like this.

It's a good piece to educate those who might not be aware of the risks involved in rimming, but I have to wonder how it is that a very sexually active gay man in New York City who is probably in his late thirties would have never heard about the risks of parasitic infections that come from rimming. He must have had his head stuck up his ass (pun intended) to have not learned that at a much younger age. I, too, have had at least a few infections of this sort, but I think the last one was actually from my stupid use of tap water in Mexico to douche. Why I thought it made sense to squirt something up my ass that I wouldn't put in my mouth is evidence that I clearly wasn't thinking.

What are you trying to say? That all men who seek out sensual or erotic experiences with other men are effeminate? I'm happy to read so many praises about Garic. I doubt I will hire him because I generally just don't like guys with muscles that large, but it's nice to read about men who are honest in their ads who provide an excellent experience to their clients.

It's obvious that Rainer is one of those guys for whom the "your mileage may vary" saying applies. Some people claimed he had bad body odor. I hired him twice (many years ago when he was visiting my area) and didn't notice any odor and I am extremely sensitive to things like that. I also didn't find him detached. No, he didn't suggest we go out on a date afterward but he was fully engaged during our time together.

But being shot by someone, unless you are deliberately putting yourself in a position to be shot (like you are committing a crime yourself), is not your responsibility. I think it was quite nonsensical for Maher to bring obesity into the gun violence argument. It was a deliberate distraction from a serious issue.

Knowing that Rentmen does such a poor job at verifying advertisers' identities certainly does give me pause in terms of whether some of the ads it hosts could involve trafficked young men. And there is a world of difference between an adult who decides to provide escort services of his/her own free will and someone who is forced or coerced in some way into doing so.

Obviously a statement intended to bring attention to himself. It isn't that it's false in its entirety (though obesity would be a contributing factor in other causes of death like a heart attack; obesity itself isn't the cause of death), but it isn't a compelling argument if he's trying to say that gun violence isn't a big problem because there are other causes of even more deaths. A lot more people are also killed in auto accidents. So what? What does that have to do with whether mass shootings deserve our attention?

My two cents: First you should think about what you want to get out of therapy. Some people look for therapists who work from a perspective that short-term therapy is most effective. They may be cognitive-behavioral or not, but many therapists practice in such a way that the treatment plan is for a relatively short course of treatment (maybe as few as just a handful of sessions, but maybe a half year). On the other hand, some people want a therapist with whom they can explore their internal conflicts; in the traditional sense, this would be psychoanalysis. If your goal is to "feel better" quickly, I don't think you are interested in psychoanalysis or any kind of psychotherapy that's being practiced from that point of view. I understand wanting to work with a gay male, especially if your desire is to focus a lot on your sexual thoughts, desires, and behaviors, because even if you find a completely open minded straight therapist there are some ways in which a straight ally just isn't going to "get" the gay male experience. That being said, I think that finding the right "fit" in terms of not only feeling comfortable with someone but also finding out whether the therapist works in a manner congruent with your wishes is more important. You could find a wonderfully empathic gay male therapist who works psychodynamically, but if what you really want is a solution focused therapist because you don't want to spend months or years exploring your inner demons then that wonderful gay male therapist would be a poor fit for you.

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck... If you don't mind wasting your time chatting with someone who is pretending to be someone he isn't, then have at it. I personally don't even reply to the first message from anyone where it clearly doesn't pass the "sniff test." How is it that some young guy thousands of miles from me who is really looking for that "special someone" just happened to find my profile and decided I'm the man for him?

Yes, at most I might say something like, "If you are interested in getting more clients, there are websites where you can advertise." And I would also offer to write a review of the guy, if he wanted one written. I think that while some guys would appreciate the suggestion and the offer of a review, others do want to keep what they do very much on the d/l. During the time I regularly met with a very hot college student who could have easily charged twice as much, he declined my offer of a review stating that he didn't want to have an ongoing online presence and only occasionally posted Craigslist ads when he was in town and wanting to make a little cash. I'm sure he had a little stable of regulars since I took every opportunity to meet with him when he called me during his visits with family in my area and I assume that other men who were fortunate enough to see one of his rare ads were also enamored to spend time with such a handsome a personable young man.

I find it amusing that I occasionally will get PMs about someone I commented on many years ago. I don't know why anyone who is more interested in looks than massage skills would want a report from someone whose only interaction with said masseur was many moons ago. At any rate, I don't get explicit in any of my responses, mostly because I've always believed that just because I had a certain experience with a guy doesn't mean everyone else will have that same experience. I don't want to put a masseur in a position of having to explicitly decline to do something with someone else that's well outside the normal expectations of an erotic massage just because he happened to do something while he was with me. It's up to a masseur to discuss with his potential clients what he has to offer. So, I mostly offer general feedback about massage skills, looks, hygiene, and whether my expectations were met.

When I was young and had my first real boyfriend, out of necessity we frequently had sex in public places. The most usual spot was a wooded area near campus; one time someone with a shotgun walked past us while my pants were down around my ankles! Another frequent spot was a car, either while parked (one time a police car pulled up and a cop shined his flashlight into our car, but we pretended to be looking at a map and he drove off) or while driving down the interstate (I used to brag that I received a continuous blowjob traveling in three states - Illinois, Indiana, and Michigan). Another time we had sex in a large auditorium on campus in the evening, knowing that no class was scheduled and hoping that no one else would wander in. There are probably other places I'm not recalling. It's funny because I am not one who particularly enjoys having sex in a public spot, but we were both 18, hot for each other, and lived in a dormitory or with our parents during summer break. You gotta do what you gotta do.

I wouldn't call it a "clean sweep" in my area (San Francisco), but yesterday there were either 3 or 4 pages of ads and now there are two. It wasn't too long ago that there were typically more than 4 pages. I'm not sure what happened, but maybe some providers here who advertise there can tell us. Change in rate to place an ad? New restrictions/verification requirements?