Veryshyone

Not that you were in the wrong, but when contacting someone I haven't seen before I phrase the question as, how much advance notice do you prefer people to schedule an appointment. 

Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism.
So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary.  But if you travel far...tip accordingly.
All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen. 
 

Met him the other night, he's definitely a real deal, full package. Would definitely repeat.

I’m very sorry that happened to you. If it’s any consolation, I experienced a very similar situation, right down to the pretext of the provider answering a text. It’s probably happened to a lot of us. 

Truer words …

With that in mind I will say that I haven’t hired anyone who identified as “straight” in years. And my memory is that those scenes were less than satisfactory. But, as many in this community will tell you, your mileage may vary. I wish you well and hope your experience is excellent. 

If you spend some of your time massaging him do you get a discount?  Maybe it should be a double discount because he is both not massaging you and receiving a massage for free at the same time.

Yes, and it could be a good thing or a bad thing. One of my masseurs that I used to see regularly I had to stop seeing because he felt great talking about hings, but he started making up conversation during the massage when I wanted to be relaxed, quiet and in my mental happy place. I hinted him several times that I wanted quiet during the massage and I think he didn't get it.
Another one who's a regular, I think he likes me, so he always goes over the time agreed and we had insanely great sex. He's also given me a ride home after, we've gone shopping, and I met his daughter. It's still a provider/client relationship.
I think there's no rule for blurring boundaries or giving preferential treatment to some clients.

A few weeks ago I was in Puerto Vallarta.  As I was getting into a taxi near the beach, I heard someone call my name.  It was an escort that I met twice in Palm Springs and once in New York City.  He recognized me in Puerto Vallarta and called me out and said "hi".  Later I texted him to arrange a meeting for the next day, where we enjoyed drinks than a hot session of play.  He was the best sex I had in Puerto Vallarta that week.

A true BFE with regulars is inherently prone to escalating transparency which is different treatment.
A standing 1 hour scheduled appointment, perhaps not so much.
I do recall a recent experience when a provider seemed to develop an unhealthy fixation on me, who I was with, and what I was doing.  It become very uncomfortable very quickly and came to a dramatic end when his paranoia about something created an uncomfortable dynamic.    That was being treated differently in an unhealthy way. 

We never will be the only one… but u know when the client care with you. it’s hard to explain. 
but has a difference between clientes who hire 1/2 guys in month then the clients who hire +4/5. Or just guys who don’t do this so often you know. But a few of the clients  really like to always meet someone new and hiring and hiring.  And they are more transactional and more professional and that’s fine. They want that. But my best experiences was with guys who said who don’t do this so often.

Interesting take. But doesn't that also creep you out a little? I know you appreciate a regular,  but if you're the only one he sees, I'd think he might think there is more in the relationship than there really is. Good for your wallet, but could be trouble down the line.
Do most providers prefer being the ONLY provider (assuming the same income).

Doing this after 1 year I realized that we just can treat different clients who don’t hire a lot guys… and really want be with you. Bc this clients will value you more. Clients who even being a regular but hire many and many guys or has a lot regulars unfortunately you will be just 1 more for him. And sometimes we need to be just “professional” with them. And they kind of like more this professional relationship.

I haven’t found that to be the case with my regulars over the years. I do think it is related to pacing—not seeing them weekly or biweekly for example. Last Friday night, for example, my regular stayed three hours for the price of two.

I don't think anyone really wants a straight guy. They want a straight acting guy to do gay stuff with them and maybe act like it's their first time with a guy...but they want them to get into it, so at the very least they want a bi guy.
Perhaps some might want a straight guy who closes his eyes and imagines it's a girl, but I'd have to think that's more rare.

The best providers (and porn actors) are gay and more than a little slutty in real life. They found a way to professionalize their lifestyle and get compensated for something they enjoy doing anyway.
Truly straight providers are just in it for the money and generally crap in bed. It’s like going to a restaurant with a chef that doesn’t like to cook and is not interested in food. You may it something on your plate, but it’s not going to be as delicious as it would be if the chef actually enjoys what he does.

A few years back I hired a straight guy who was a hockey player (you can easily find his team, games and pics online if you look). Super hot face, killer body, the whole package. But he was 100% just in it for the cash — service was lazy, zero effort.  
I was new to this and ignored a bunch of obvious red flags. Ended up wasting money and having a really disappointing experience.  The whole thing put me off hiring anyone for over two years. 

My experience with Riley was fantastic and can't wait to repeat. I personally enjoy touching my masseur throughout the massage and would welcome massaging Riley's solid muscles. Next time I'll suggest it, just adds to experience and enjoyment of being touched and touching another man. He did not screen me. Very kind man. 

My experience with Riley was fantastic and can't wait to repeat. I personally enjoy touching my masseur throughout the massage and would welcome massaging Riley's solid muscles. Next time I'll suggest it, just adds to experience and enjoyment of being touched and touching another man. He did not screen me. Very kind man. 

Riley is amazing - nice deep voice, excellent touch, very calming.  His photos are dated, which is unnecessary.  He looks great!

Met him once, and he’s quickly climbed up the ladder of my “top recommendations.” He’s been pretty amazing starting from the first time we chatted, and even more amazing afterwards if you know what I’m talking about.  

He offered additional pics after unlocking his private ones which are G rated but when he sent them he was holding his hands over his crotch so I might as well have stopped with the public pics.  I’m not going to ask a second time.

Hey guys!
Met this hottie during his visit to my city yesterday. I rarely hire these days since I travel often and can usually connect with hot guys through Grindr. I started chatting with Adam on Grindr, and after exchanging some pics, he let me know he was an escort and that he couldn’t commit to a time if a client booked—very transparent, which I appreciated.
I asked if he was on RM because his Grindr pics didn’t make it obvious. His profile there had just two pics that weren’t very impressive and only six reviews. Still, I decided to look him up here and found several glowing reviews from established members. After seeing more of his pics on Grindr, I decided to go ahead and meet him as a client.
He was exceptional with communication—very chatty, flirty, and detailed. We met pretty late, around 1–1:30 a.m. for a 1.5-hour session. And I agree with others: his RM photos don’t do him justice. In person, he’s tall, fit, and has a sexy face. And as for the voice you guys mentioned… my heart started racing the moment I heard it—deep, masculine, and incredibly hot.
Despite how late it was and how tired we both were, he was full of energy and made sure the session didn’t feel rushed. He even followed up afterwards to thank me, and texted me again tonight to say he made it home and how much enjoyed our time together which I appreciated.
In short: great escort, highly professional, and genuinely nice. He makes his clients feel special—and that’s on top of being absolutely stunning.

I hired him in October. Had a great time. Very good communicator and very accommodating. Others have said this; it's true he looks better in person.

I have had several massages and always go for 90 minutes. One masseur was $280, which was well worth it. I think you get what you pay for, though research is necessary. A local spa is charging $125/50 minutes with add ons for stone therapy, facial, cranial massage, and aroma therapy. I once paid $225 for a basic massage at the Four Seasons. For me, it all depends on what I am looking for. This guy, I would pay it and hopefully get a good bang for the buck!