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Agree with above. It’s about the chemistry. I think I’m decent looking and have a nice d... but I come in confident. Really show the guys I’m enjoying it. Light sensual mutual touch. Moans when they are doing a good job. The best thing a masseur can say is “I never do this...” before the start blowing me or offering me their ass... I know I’m not the only one but as the client, I try to give them props by my body quivering at times, loud moans, and gently caressing their hole. That can go far. It’s a skill being a good client also:).

I think the fact that a masseur posts only ONE photo, and the same SINGLE photo for a number of years should tell you something is off. I would avoid.

I laughed my ass off when I read this....so true.
 
We’re both naked?....more than “therapeutic” is going to happen.
 
Don’t want more to happen?....keep your pants on and cut your rate in half.
 
Even then it’s unlikely I’ll repeat, but at least we’re clear on what is or isn’t happening.

Again what others have said... but whatever happens (or doesn’t happen) don’t take it personally. There are a gazillion and six reasons why a masseur would suggest a sensual massage only for it to turn out therapeutic and sometimes even badly at that. Everything from the masseur having a boyfriend who doesn’t like his partner engaging in forms of intimacy (or body contact) with another (even if it relates to the work of massage)... to the masseur just having a bad day.
 
I have known of multiple masseurs who (back in the day) advertised as erotic and it was everything but that... and those who were « therapeutic only » and it was not that at all. You really never know why... not exactly. And so much depends « in the moment. »
 
What actually frustrates me more is when a masseur advertises as therapeutic, but then strips down and massages nude but doesn’t allow for any mutual touch or even that electric « brush » by of the body. Nothing. I mean what’s the point of being naked? Better off going to the mall or airport and getting one of those chair massages where you are nearly mauled to death and everyone keeps their clothes on.
 
Sigh. But yes. As others have said... clarify up front... or... hang on for the ride and see what happens.

https://rentmasseur.com/CalebNYC
Admittedly been out of the massage hunt for awhile. The old libido ain't what it used to be. But now and then....well....you know. Anyway, saw this lad's ad today and could only find one reference when I searched his name in the forum and that was that he was appealing but the price was prohibitive. He's incredibly appealing and just my type from the pics, and I might be willing to splurge because I don't do this nearly as often as I used to. But like always, I would first like to hear from my fellow massage seekers. Anyone have any first hand knowledge? PM's are always fine.

Jesus. Just share the necessary info on this thread. Be discreet but clear and if people need more, THEN PM them.

I'm waiting for HECKLEandJECKLE

I know, but i have a very vivid imagination and I think erotic masseurs should incorporate a little bit of what this top does. My ideal massage would be 30-45 minutes of actual massage with the therapist starting off dressed, where he slowly pushes his crotch into my hands/feet/elbows/head, then getting quickly undressed fast enough to not notice and then surprise me by lightly brushing his balls in the cusp of my hands, dangling his penis in front of my head and then mounting me while rubbing his cock along my ass at the same time using his chest to massage my back and with him deeply breathing into my ear.
 
I don't need penetration to be happy, just a really good therapeutic massage at first with some great man to man touch at the end. I find that the escorts on rent.men advertise erotic massage don't have any training and it turns out to be a 5-10 minute rub down and straight to oral or penetration.

I have a friend who advertises on masseurfinder and he said today that he thinks the site while still up has been abandoned. He hasn't been charged for his listing in months but is still getting calls from his listing on the site. I've been away from The Spa for a while, and caught up with the thread about M4M but haven't seen anything about MasseurFinder. Am I just behind the times right now or is the seeming ghost site of masseurfinder news? Thanks

Several guys on this site have PM’d me to ask if I could share details of my experiences with a certain masseur in Phoenix. After explaining to one guy that the masseur no longer advertises an erotic option, but that he still offers it to me, the guy asked, “What makes you so special? Are you hot or something?” LOL Well, I’m in good shape for my age (old enough to be the masseur’s father), but I think we just hit it off from the first time I went to him, and I’m guessing that he doesn’t necessarily do with others - especially new clients - what he does with me.

@Tarte Gogo It's not uncommon to call someone who is a successful actor, singer, and dancer - for instance - a triple-threat. An athlete who performs well at both football and baseball could be a double-threat. I've always felt threat in this case has a connotation of 'formidable competitor' - rather than an intent of some hostile action.

If you are not fit or good looking enough be ready to pay more. Don't expect to get away with a "massage-only" rate if you're looking to get fucked even if it's only at the end.

The hotter you look, the better your chances of what you're looking for. With 10 being best, I'm a strong 3 (calves, eyelashes, ass). 3's don't have nearly the experience 10's have.

A piece of advice. Never, ever, go into a massage expecting anything more then a "massage." You are setting yourself up to be disappointed. I have an ex who did massages on the side and
this is what he said "how sensual/sexual/erotic the massage will be is dependent on the person lying on the table." I took that to mean if he ain't into you, he ain't gonna be into...you!" Terp

I agree. I always start out with the idea of an erotic massage. It's something particular that I like. An the anticipation of what might happen is part of the process at least for me. And it can be quite exciting and rewarding when it does happen unexpectedly. Like xaf, I'm afraid I don't get your point, gwm, and your judgment seems a bit harsh.

I like some stretching but not exclusively. Tend more toward the Swedish preference. Any notes on HE? I'm noticed him before but never followed up. PM welcomed always.

My experience is pretty much the same as Rubitright. There was a period when I saw him regularly. At least regularly for me. I think the description above is pretty accurate. When he first started advertising on CL I recognized one of the pictures. I had lost touch with him over the years. However, I googled the other pictures and saw that some of the pictures weren't him but lifted from model albums. Still I was curious and when I contacted him he remembered me so I knew in fact it was Ryan. Saw him once and he came to my apartment. He has always been a bit more expensive and his massage was still the same. Friendly, some sensuality, very concentrated and a kind of basic HE. I guess I'm glad to know he's still around but don't feel the need to repeat.

I would recommend escorts.

I sent a snarky email to the faux Ronnie. Not expecting a response, but curious to see if pics change.

Really discouraging all round. Even if you are attracted to the real Ron, if you were hoping for faux Ron to show up at your door, wouldn't you be outraged? What are these people thinking? Do they think that the client will simply be too uncomfortable to back out?

Don’t overthink that

Agreed. It usually happens very naturally.

In my experience I find that kissing comes with repeat business. And I love it when just as I’m feeling I’ve hit the masseur limits, he surprises me with a make out session.

at 69, most of my masseurs are 20-30 years younger than I am -- that still makes then 39-49:)

When I was in my 20s, I often had massages from guys older than I; when I could save up enough money. ($60-$100)
 
All through my 30s and early 40s, I had regulars, with whom I developed wonderful bonds.
 
Now that I'm pushing 50, I have rarely found a 20-something masseur that I would repeat. The prices are very high, skills minimal, and up selling seems the norm. It's as if the business strategy is for a high volume of one-offs, rather than dependable, grateful regulars.