Nue2thegame

Attitudes change over time. 
20 years ago: 

Best thing people can do for these is be on Doxy Pep, which usually comes with a PrEP prescription now. It will lessen chances of getting Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Syphilis by 50-80%. In terms of antibiotic resistance to those. It is a concern in the medical community, but some antibiotics still work, but the needed dose is increasing. We are not in a situation currently where we have no defense/treatment.
With Doxy Pep, it still means less overall cases and new cases getting caught and treated sooner because access to Doxy Pep/PrEP requires testing every 3 months at least. Herpes can be managed with anti-viral treatments that lessen outbreaks and transmission. Warts are tied to HPV, which most people are vaccinated for (and if you aren't that's something that can be done at a pharmacy pretty easily.
We can "well what about _______" all day, but ultimately all we can do is mitigate risk best we can, and via modern medicine we can do a great deal. If your goal is to never catch anything ever, the only true solution is abstinence (lol).

No real need to stretch your balls.  By the time you reach my age, they’re headed toward your knees anyway.

70th decade? If Bozo's math is correct, that would make you close to 700 years old. If so, you are definitely entitled to a senior citizens discount by every provider out there!
Negotiating a little extra time for the provider's quoted rate is an excellent idea. Bozo will use that strategy when negotiating his next massage/escort session.
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I can identify with some of the people who are discussed in this article. Although I was an only child, I never felt lonely when I was young, although I was rather shy. However, from the time I entered college, I always lived with someone--a friend or a partner--for all but six months from my late teens until my early 80s. Since my spouse's death a year ago, I have had a very hard time adjusting to the reality that there is no one else in the house except my dog. Whenever I hear a sound somewhere around the house, I have to remind myself that there is no one else here. If I buy a piece of furniture or break something or change where I hang a picture, I have to remind myself that I don't have to explain or justify it to anyone. And, yes, I spend a lot of time talking to myself or to my dog.
I do have a social life of the kinds that are recommended in the article. I play tennis a couple of days per week, play Bridge with a group once per week, etc., but that doesn't really make up for the casual, unstructured interactions of everyday life with someone. I have been much more upset by good friends among my neighbors selling their homes and moving away than I ever used to be. The article does mention that a demographic that is more likely to experience loneliness is older gay men; I suspect that is because younger gay men are much more likely to react to loneliness by having sex with other men, including providers, while old gay men have difficulty attracting sex partners who really make them feel good about themselves. Older gay men are also less likely to have younger generations of family members to interact with regularly.
Thanks for going to the trouble of reprinting the article here.

I strongly believe that the attitude and vibe you give out is what you get back.  I always start by offering my providers, a drink, either nonalcoholic or alcoholic.  Then I sit down with them to share our drinks and initiate some basic conversations even if it’s just a one hour appointment..
I’m genuinely interested in getting to know somebody and I think if you treat someone like a human and an equal you get respect back.  It’s been a very long time since I’ve had a poor experience with an escort..

Of the 7 men I've played with in Puerto Vallarta this week this far, 2 have used condoms (28.5%).  But, its use was inconsistent even by the same guy.  One guy penetrated my ass with a condom, but then let me penetrate him without a condom.  The other guy let me suck his dick without a condom, but put a condom on me to suck mine.
This is still a small sample size.  For the sake of scientific integrity, I am working on sleeping with a larger sample size and report back here with the results.
Further skewing the results of this study:  the 7 men mentioned are a combination of escorts, masseurs, strippers, and hookups.

I would go to him and he quoted $200.
$50 is in line with the markup to travel nowadays. 

And my experience recently with hookup sites is that they are rife with scammers - guys who want you to give them gas money to come to your place, or they've experienced a health crisis and need $100 right away to avert a disaster.  I'm used to the ones that want to teach you to trade crypto, but this is a new variety of scammer.

Some background first which some have read before. I was a virgin until I was 41-and I mean a total virgin.  The most I had done was give a short swift kiss on a cheek or the lips to probably less than 10 women in my life. And I don't think I had ever kissed a man. 
 
Why you say? Because I didn't want to be gay.  But finally I felt like I had to have sex. But I still didn't want to be gay. So I finally nerved myself up to hire an escort. I was lucky. He was very kind and took the time to teach me things like how to kiss. 
 
After that because I still didn't want to be gay, and because also I didn't feel I was attractive enough that anyone would really want me, I continued to hire for around 15 years. And because I was solitary I often hired for overnights and weekends. I had a lot of not-so-great or mediocre experiences. But on the other hand I did have a lot of nice times and met some incredibly handsome friendly guys. I probably remember more of the overnights and weekends than I do of the one and two hour meets and not just because of the sex as I am not now and never was a sexual dynamo. 
 
But the point I want to make is that for me -and maybe not every time -but definitely either during a large proportion of the meeting time or afterwards when I had time to reflect, I had some degree of melancholy or wistfulness because I knew it was a paid encounter. 
 
That doesn't mean I didn't have a good time or fun during a lot of  my escort encounters **(see below). But the wistfulness  was often there at the back of my mind. Now the feeling wasn't severe enough to make me stop meeting escorts. In fact two of the best Christmases I ever had as adult (I'm Jewish so Christmas isn't a family time for me-but the season can still feel a little hollow if you're nowhere near your own family and you know most people around you are celebrating) were two consecutive Christmas weekends (I think back in 2015 and 2016) I spent with an escort at his house. 
So if your feelings are anything like mine were, you're going to have figure out if you're having a good enough time to be able to deal with (what is for me)  the omnipresent downside  of hiring. If you can't, then maybe hiring isn't right for you. 
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**I was in a gay club once-possibly The Cuff in Seattle. They had some posters of porn stars on the wall. I had been with 4 or 5 of them -that definitely gave me some silent satisfaction. And it never would have  occurred if I had never started hiring. 

This was absolutely great. I appreciate your sharing your experiences. I think reading all the responses I realize I need to be the captain of my own ship and find what I am looking for! Thanks so much again! 

My motto... either pay what is asked or pick someone else.
I will sometimes ask what a multi hour rate is because sometimes if you book 2, 3 or 4 hours it could be less.  But if it's not, pay it or move on.  Negotiating rates just puts a damper on the whole experience.

Which is gross. There's ways to say things that don't involve that kind of language. When I ask for a provider for their info and they say their rate is X and is a mismatch for me I reply with "Thank you so much for the info, I appreciate it, it is over the rate of Y I usually pay but I thank for your time and if anything changes on my side I'll reach out, have a great rest of your day". 7 out of 10 come back "I can do that rate", but if they don't I DO NOT contact them anymore unless I can or am willing to pay their rate. I never say that's too expensive, or tell them they're crazy for asking that much, or what have you, that's a big NO. 

I went back to 69 on Wednesday night, after visiting the shower shows again at Wet Dreams next door.  I like the slower Wednesday night compared to Saturday.  There was room to sit, and a dancer paid good attention to me for several hours.  Lots of hot men at 69, and they were a little less pushy than the men at Wet Dreams.
I avoided the private rooms tonight.  But I had plenty of non-private fun on the couch with a dancer on my arm/lap.

Best guess is that it was a little bit of both. 

It is funny and I love your avatar but both project a very different impression than the one that I’ve gleaned from your posts. We’re all keyboard warriors but there are some unintended consequences. 

Best guess is that it was a little bit of both. 

Exactly. He sounds very skilled at his profession. 
Don't confuse expert marketing with real affection. I'm sure you're a nice enough fellow that he DID genuinely choose you as easy job..so an experienced professional like himself is going to do his best to keep you coming back. Including spotting you a freebie, to make you feel special. Enjoy the fantasy, but dont mistake the business arrangement for anything else.

Thanks, Manhattan. Part of the sanity check is because I don’t think I’m attractive enough to have any guys fall for me - much less providers. I don’t have posts because (as you correctly sussed) I don’t post. I def am not a looker and checking what people thought was my way of asking if this was indeed a delusional fantasy or if this was any way real. Everyone wants to feel wanted. He made me feel wanted, which I guess is the point of a provider. But most (all?) have left me feeling empty and transactional, which tracks for a transactional equation. This didn’t. The cuddling and talking after (which he asked if we could do unless I was busy) didn’t. Being called sexy and being asked if I’m taken didn’t. Being told no one else made him cum like I did didn’t. I don’t get told that EVER, including from non providers lol. Also I’m 35 and he’s 32 so it’s not even an age power dynamic. Anyway, I hope you have a good night and are less quick to dismiss anyone’s experience that doesn’t align with yours.

Best guess is that it was a little bit of both. 

Just like terms such as sensual or erotic, each provider has their own idea of what that includes. The best approach is to ask the specific provider you’re interested in so you know exactly what they mean.

https://rent.men/AngelSaucexxx 
I have not seen a thread on this Miami hunk who I overnighted with last night! What a passionate  provider! He’s into a lot, we stayed up most of the night, his body is hard as a rock, his ass and chest are to die for, and he is the sweetest, kindest and most attentive guy!! Great kisser, cuddler and fully versatile! Delivered an excellent BFE! Well educated and articulate! Highly recommended!!

I wouldn't worry too much about pre-planning. The great thing about groups is the multiplicative explosion of possible dick/hole/hand possibilities! 🤯 See what happens. Any provider worth their salt is going to make sure the clients get all the attention they want. If it's more than one client, it's the provider's job to keep that balanced. Doing stuff with another provider, while fun, isn't the main reason we're there, and we know that.

Have most providers stop treating you as a customer?
Even though I always pay in cash, I can't remember ever receiving a receipt from a provider which is customary to give a customer. 
For the gentlemen older than I, did escorts ever give you Green Stamps with your purchase?
 

It's never safe to assume. You have to develop a way of asking, clearly but respectfully.