José Soplanucas

I think I found the problem.

I think a lot of the distinction between aversion and preference  rests on decorum. I am a big supporter of expressing, exploring, and discussing opinions and preferences.  
However, when engaging in debates with adults about differences, in order to keep those discussions fruitful, thought provoking, and thought challenging, they need to be logical and appropriate.   If a discussion shifted to say clean shaven/facial hair, like most topics, expression of support for either is easy. Expressing dislike can always be a little dicier.  
It wouldn't be a worthwhile discussion if all I hear are things like bearded men, and the guys who like them, are unclean and akin to dirty homeless guys who are hiding their face from me, and are too lazy and poor to afford and use a razor. OR, clean shaven men, and the guys who like them, are really just shallow men who lead vapid lives without enough to do, and are really just deluding themselves into believing they're not pedophiles who secretly desire boys not old enough to grow facial hair.  
Ridiculing another's choice in a vicious manner is NOT a DISCUSSION or a DEBATE. If I wanted venemous thoughts thrown at me for my sex choices, instead of coming to CoM nightly, I could find myself an ultra conservative church to go to every night. Hell, they would even eliminate any debate for me on which man was most attractive! It'd all be a disgusting, dirty obomination.   

I offer to schedule free phone and video consultations for clients seriously considering hiring me. I try to make it clear that we’re not having phone sex or a nude jerk-off cam show on the house. These calls are useful and efficient for me to get a feel for what the client wants and mostly for the client to verify I’m a good fit for their needs.
Consultations inspire confidence and mutual trust. As long as the client is respectful toward me and the boundaries of this type of call, everything works out pretty well. I don’t particularly care what the client sounds like or looks like, but it’s nice to establish some rapports. Chemistry and mutual understanding matter more.

This is one of the many reasons I am against censorship. There is nothing funnier (to me) than bullies playing the victim card and complaining about being bullied. 
Please, keep bringing the jokes.

This is one of the many reasons I am against censorship. There is nothing funnier (to me) than bullies playing the victim card and complaining about being bullied. 
Please, keep bringing the jokes.

This is one of the many reasons I am against censorship. There is nothing funnier (to me) than bullies playing the victim card and complaining about being bullied. 
Please, keep bringing the jokes.

I could not agree more with your statements about @pubic_assistance. And yet, I could not disagree more with your call to the moderators to silence him. 
We are what we are, and we all have the right to express ourselves, even when others may find our views offensive. 

I could not agree more with your statements about @pubic_assistance. And yet, I could not disagree more with your call to the moderators to silence him. 
We are what we are, and we all have the right to express ourselves, even when others may find our views offensive. 

I could not agree more with your statements about @pubic_assistance. And yet, I could not disagree more with your call to the moderators to silence him. 
We are what we are, and we all have the right to express ourselves, even when others may find our views offensive. 

I think the key word in the OP's question is "aversion". The answer is simple: because there are too many assholes here. 
I am not attracted to guys my age (61), not even closer, but I do not feel disgusted at them. We all have different preferences, but not feeling attracted to someone or something is not equivalent to feeling aversion.
It is shocking how often in these forums someone express a preference, to receive a bunch of responses sharing how not attracted to that others are. It is not only about age, but also about tattoos, or body shape, or any other physical feature. Why would anyone need to feel and express rejection for others' preferences? Because they are assholes, probably self-hating assholes. 

I could not agree more with your statements about @pubic_assistance. And yet, I could not disagree more with your call to the moderators to silence him. 
We are what we are, and we all have the right to express ourselves, even when others may find our views offensive. 

I could not agree more with your statements about @pubic_assistance. And yet, I could not disagree more with your call to the moderators to silence him. 
We are what we are, and we all have the right to express ourselves, even when others may find our views offensive. 

When I was a teenager, I was sexually attracted to men in their 30s and 40s; when I was that age, I was attracted to the same types; I am now 81, and I am still attracted to men in their 30s and 40s. I don't have an aversion to cute twinks or to wrinkled old men--I am just not sexually attracted to them.

I could not agree more with your statements about @pubic_assistance. And yet, I could not disagree more with your call to the moderators to silence him. 
We are what we are, and we all have the right to express ourselves, even when others may find our views offensive. 

The reality is that some people suffer from rampant internalized ageism and homophobia. @pubic_assistance relentlessly makes disparaging and even hateful statements not only about providers who fall outside of his incredibly narrow view of whom we should all "naturally" be attracted to, but he also - as he does here - treats those of us who hire escorts who are over 25 with more than 5% body fat as if we're insane. He does not recognize that sexual attraction is highly variable and subjective. And, of course, if someone hires an older escort or a bear type of guy, then it can only be because you are so grotesquely ugly that you can't even get undesirables to fuck you for free. 
I do not understand why @CoM Moderators continue to allow him to spew anti-fat, anti-femme, agist, and ableist crap on here. I can't imagine that the providers enjoy his constant yapping about how hideous they are. 
Worse, though he has zero relationship with the queer community, he opines on how we should live and who we should want to fuck. Maybe if he went to P-town or Fire Island or got on Scruff with his actual age, he'd see how easy it is for a conventionally attractive middle-aged man to attract younger ones. My husband and I have to bat twinks off like flies when we're out. 

Overwhelmingly positively. Some are reluctant, afraid of dealing with a client trying to jerk off for free, but kind reassurance has been enough to overcome their resistance. I make clear that I only expect to show our faces during the VC.
A few ones refused, and I took my businesses to someone else.

Overwhelmingly positively. Some are reluctant, afraid of dealing with a client trying to jerk off for free, but kind reassurance has been enough to overcome their resistance. I make clear that I only expect to show our faces during the VC.
A few ones refused, and I took my businesses to someone else.

I simply asked if others share a picture and stats with a provider as a courtesy. I never imagined a simple 'yes' or 'no' question could get so heated. 😳

Don't you folks have jobs? How can you spend so much time on such minutiae?

@Jamie21, if I were you, I’d move on. It’s like playing chess with a pigeon. The pigeon struts all over the board, knocking over the pieces without any concern or a shred of understanding, and shits all over everything in the end. What do you have? Nothing but a shitty chessboard and neither of you had a chance at “winning” – yet the pigeon thinks he had a good time! 

I am going to be 77 in August, living here in the SOCAL desert, I find that just about every guy 18-30 hits on me.
Oh, wait. There are no guys under 60 here. I must be getting senile!

I think the key word in the OP's question is "aversion". The answer is simple: because there are too many assholes here. 
I am not attracted to guys my age (61), not even closer, but I do not feel disgusted at them. We all have different preferences, but not feeling attracted to someone or something is not equivalent to feeling aversion.
It is shocking how often in these forums someone express a preference, to receive a bunch of responses sharing how not attracted to that others are. It is not only about age, but also about tattoos, or body shape, or any other physical feature. Why would anyone need to feel and express rejection for others' preferences? Because they are assholes, probably self-hating assholes. 

I think the key word in the OP's question is "aversion". The answer is simple: because there are too many assholes here. 
I am not attracted to guys my age (61), not even closer, but I do not feel disgusted at them. We all have different preferences, but not feeling attracted to someone or something is not equivalent to feeling aversion.
It is shocking how often in these forums someone express a preference, to receive a bunch of responses sharing how not attracted to that others are. It is not only about age, but also about tattoos, or body shape, or any other physical feature. Why would anyone need to feel and express rejection for others' preferences? Because they are assholes, probably self-hating assholes. 

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