MikeBiDude

This is really a matter for your therapist. Because if you're in bed with a skilled lover as you say, you're likely preventing yourself from finishing due to your own psychology. 

My view is that people should have an open mind and not be so fixed. Those who seem to have their preferences and attack those who differ in their preferences aren't really being as funny as they think. That's where people intervene to either educate or set boundaries. People sometimes just repeat and regurgitate without much thought.
When it comes to me, my saying is "you get old if you're lucky", but heart, outlook and even looks can stay fresh. The most dominant factors for me to decide hooking up or hiring can be shallow and that's ok, like having a six pack, but I also look for educated guys. I look for providers who are not married/don't have a boyfriend (the providers who are married/in a relationship were always cold and distant). I look for providers who offer a satisfaction guarantee, so they're confident on what they're doing, so I can care much about price, I have a bit more confidence it'll be time well-spent.
Respect everyone and be nice.

David is in New York at the moment.

Same here. I think it's odd to expect anyone to show up at your door or let you into their home sight unseen. 

Thanks for providing me with your search results but my question is a little different. I'm simply wondering if guys are sharing pictures out of a "courtesy", not because a provider is asking. I've never had a provider ask, I simply send pictures so they know who will be knocking at their door. Why should it be a total surprise for the provider? It's nice for the provider to know who they are expecting IMHO.

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clearly, I was generalizing about instances people, not specifically the OP, were inclined to lend. 
And I addressed the OP's hurt feelings, and ghosting more broadly, in previous posts w/in this thread.

OK he is actually fantastic. I do think he had an emergency yesterday but we just met and wow ... twink tops are hard to find and he's great. Friendly, nice smile, and quite a powerhouse (although not insensitive).  His english isn't great but he's working on that. I highly recommend him.

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When the subject has come up I’ve often been told im not what providers expected. But it seems to be about behavior / carrying one’s self rather than age / body / race / etc
when I’ve asked the follow up of whether the difference was better or worse than expectation I haven’t really received a straight answer … 😉 

I think the overall problem is lack of empathy. It’s not restricted to providers. 
And how many older gentlemen, when turning down those they don’t want to be with, do so with the respect they crave or relax their criteria to accept a proposition - as they wish / expect from the younger ones.
Bottom line: you can’t force people to like what they don’t like, but you can expect them to be respectful. I don’t know if todays youth is worse than prior generations. 

Come on, let’s not ostracize or expel, whatever we may think individually or as the major part of our demographic. Isn’t that what the fundamental fight was / is / always will be?
Let the man have his say, agree / disagree, and remember if he’s gone the bar for unacceptability starts falling to the point where we as individuals may also eventually be targets. 
 

Breaking news lol ... we had a misunderstanding yesterday but he wrote this morning with a big apology and offered to make it up to me with a visit tonight at a reduced rate. Says it really was an emergency. So I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt and will report after our session.

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The flip side of this topic….I wish more posters put a provider’s city/locale in the topic of the post. i.e. “411 on HotOne in SoCal” rather than just “any info about HotOne?” 

Now THAT'S a deal! 

I sort of agree with the OP, but I must say that a wonderful fellow I see is both truly bisexual and a great kisser, among other things. I guess it's just who you find. Sexuality is really broader and more varied than we think. (Another fellow I know has a favorite saying: "Well fuck a duck!" And given the chance I think he just might!" 
Labels are just broad categories anyway. Again....quoting the hysterical Lewis Black: We are all......like snowflakes.

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The flip side of this topic….I wish more posters put a provider’s city/locale in the topic of the post. i.e. “411 on HotOne in SoCal” rather than just “any info about HotOne?” 

Kind of ironic, I was just going to post in the Deli about a new provider I’d found on RM. Had a good visit with him, thought I’d promote him a bit.
Then, he’s peppering me with multiple requests for a next meet, and today he asks me for $1500 for 5 future visits. 🤣 So, yeah I won’t recommend him and he’s blocked from my phone.