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I think escorts are an easy target because they elicit little sympathy from the public when they're caught.
I think milo is a fairly harmless, naive person, excited about an awards show who was then subject to institutionalized and professional interrogation techniques by people who know the book in and out.
I think a kinder system would have told him he needs to seek a business meetings visa for the show or similar,   and issue a stern warning about doing any work, such as content creation without authorization, before re-trying an entry. I think treating him with this type of scrutiny with the purpose to elicit a confession to obtain a 10 year ban is cruel. 
I think it wasn't that long ago that the idea of a government agent scrolling through your private DMs, photos, and bank statements without a warrant was treated as a dystopian nightmare.
 

Getting the "little things right" is really important.    So -- clean and tidy place, if there is music make it soft and unobtrusive, have a bottle of water available, an obvious place to hang your clothes, soft lighting, absolutely no interruptions from phone or email pings, and constant checking on comfort.    I will also appreciate an offer to use the restroom before we begin.   

One masseur made the massage transitioning from therapeutic to sensual+extras feel less like massage choreography and more like he was just losing focus on the massage and gaining sexual interest in me and exploring/playing with my body for his enjoyment, and i haven't really found others who've done that. It turned me on way more even though i knew he was still performing/doing his thing. I usually don't get aroused during a massage till the masseur actually touches my genitals (mainly because the firm massage pressure on other body parts just draws blood away from the region for me).
This guy got me aroused very early because the way he handled the transition made the sensual/sexual tension a lot more palpable because he made it feel like he was the one enjoying me as opposed to where it usually feels like I'm the one receiving the privilege to engage with the ultra hot masseur (which of course, obviously is what is happening). But because of the latter, I'm always aware they're just doing what they gotta do (even when they're good at it). But this guy really made it feel like he was the one having the fun and it was just really great.

I used Utatane last time I was there.   I preferred them over Namwa because they didn't insist on a deposit.   Choose your guy.  Arrange a time.   If you want outcall, he will send you address and Google location.   Pay up front -- no tipping allowed.   And enjoy the massage and the extras.
https://utatane-tokyo.com

Getting the "little things right" is really important.    So -- clean and tidy place, if there is music make it soft and unobtrusive, have a bottle of water available, an obvious place to hang your clothes, soft lighting, absolutely no interruptions from phone or email pings, and constant checking on comfort.    I will also appreciate an offer to use the restroom before we begin.   

I used Utatane last time I was there.   I preferred them over Namwa because they didn't insist on a deposit.   Choose your guy.  Arrange a time.   If you want outcall, he will send you address and Google location.   Pay up front -- no tipping allowed.   And enjoy the massage and the extras.
https://utatane-tokyo.com

Two asians I would recommend in Toronto.  Atul is a really hot Indian guy and a terrific masseur.  (He teaches Yoga, and so loads of stretching).   If you are into slim south Asian looks, he is gorgeous.
https://rentmasseur.com/Atulv
And Colin is also terrific, though I see he is not taking new clients for a while.
https://rentmasseur.com/colinformassage
DM if you want more info.  

I used Utatane last time I was there.   I preferred them over Namwa because they didn't insist on a deposit.   Choose your guy.  Arrange a time.   If you want outcall, he will send you address and Google location.   Pay up front -- no tipping allowed.   And enjoy the massage and the extras.
https://utatane-tokyo.com

I think a lot of masseurs don't get massages in spas (cuz they are fucking expensive)  and so are unaware of the growing list of areas skipped routinely in Spa Massages.  A friend took me to Burke Williams regularly when I was young, so when I would do private massages before the escort session, or, grudgingly, stand-alone massages, I was sure to focus on feet, stomach and uncovered butt (maybe ears too), those areas the spas deem too intimate.  Particularly the stomach.
To your question, ask.  It's super frustrating to spend a massage thinking repeatedly, "is he going to do the _____?"

Yes, a spectacular massage from this lovely guy.   Very prompt and courteous in his communications.  He makes an effort to get all the details right.   A lovely young Asian and a great masseur.   

When I have been in that situation, and the guy lightly brushes my dick, or 'between the cheeks', I always tell him (very politely) "That felt very nice...please continue." Sometimes they will ask for clarification (I believe to get full consent from me, make sure where on the same page) by saying, 'What felt nice ? What do you mean ?' and I will tell them 'You brushed your hand on my dick. It felt great. It' not off limits.'  They'll give a knowing chuckle, and then go for it. 
Or (the majority of the time) they know what I mean and just go for it without questions or clarification.

Do your due diligence ahead of time. 
I only do independent masseurs, not spa employees. 
- if a guy is on Rentmasseur there is 99.9% he is gay and marketing to the gay market and frankly would probably be surprised with a client who didn't want more.
- how is he (un)dressed in his photos...is he flaunting it? Read between the lines in the services he is offering.
- how are his reviews? I try to only use massuers who advertise therapeutic, sensual and erotic, and where all or a majority of reviews are for erotic massages. 
- check our this site for others' experiences, DM them if you want. Most guys on this site will tell you. There is no point in wondering unless you like the thrill of "Will he, won't he." 
- when I make an appointment with someone new, I always say I want "an excellent therapeutic massage that is also sensual and erotic". I have never had it happen, but if they write back "I don't do that" you already have your answer and can move on. 
- get naked right away when you are talking with him before the massage and flaunt it
- My last massage, while traveling, when I was undressing I said "Gee you are really cute, and I haven't even seen you naked yet." He immediately pulled off his shorts and pressed his naked body against my naked body. 
 
 
Cdog123, since you are already seeing this guy and getting vibes, you can skip a lot of steps and just be sure you are flaunting it before you lie down on your stomach, play with your cock a little (Where are his eyes focused, on your eyes or the family jewels?), complement him on his body, etc. If your getting the vibe, you can always say, "I love your massages, your are great, and I get so horny." And as others have said, spreading your legs, grazing his cock, getting hard are all saying come and get it. 
 
 
 

If you've met him on Rentmasseur, he's probably been asked about extras before. My advice would be to ask him - maybe in a text if that's more comfortable - if he offers as a more sensual or erotic version of his massage. Usually, when I schedule, I emphasize consent. I say that I want to make sure we're both comfortable and don't overstep, so please let me know what his boundaries are. Is he open to mutual touch, he, oral, etc? 

Serious advice, is this massage in a professional massage service setting? If it’s a licensed masseur working at a spa you should let him take the initiative. Perhaps open up your legs a little, get hard, see what happens. If he’s working as a licensed massage therapist then he risks his job by progressing beyond therapeutic massage so I would advise to let him make any move.
However if his advertising implies more than therapeutic massage (is he wearing a top? Is he in tight shorts? Is there a bottle of lube visible on the shelf, does he refer to release of tension, does he use minimal draping etc) then you could let your hand press against his crotch as he stands beside you and see if he’s hard. Take it from there…
 

Starting a session with a joint shower is hot AF, IMHO.  It achieves multiple purposes, including:
ensures you are BOTH as clean as possible allows you to explore each others bodies creates an ice-breaker gets you revved up for the apres-shower experience I love the process of getting someone all soapy!  Sliding my hands all over their body.
Hell, if the vibe is right you could complete your entire experience there (in the shower).
I do recommend letting your provider know that's how you'd like to start the session.
Jump in!
 

I’m just back from my first appointment with him and it definitely won’t be the last. Fantastic massage pressure mixed with stretching and seamless sensual touch throughout. 
I hold a lot of tension in my upper back and he spent a fair bit of time there with deep pressure without me even mentioning or asking. Also provided some great stretching of legs and arms, which was very welcome since I’m not as flexible as I used to be. 😅
He seems to be very popular - the influx of positive reviews isn’t fake or a mistake. I was his 4th client of the day. As we were chatting afterwards he mentioned being pretty tired, but it wasn’t reflected in the service he provided.
The massage was completed draped, but I don’t think he’d respond poorly to a request for no draping. He said he enjoys the comfort of being draped when he gets massages, so it’s just his default. I was quite cold from walking to his place so it wasn’t unpleasant and it didn’t inhibit any part of the massage. 

As I hire massage/playtime combo (pay higher rate) my no-go's are few.
•Can't host.
•No table.
•Deposit
•Sketchy Parking/Neighborhood
•PNP
•Lack of massage training and  experience. (I've been looking at RMsr/MF for years, so I have an idea how new they are)
 
 
 
 

Things most of us consider a “hard-pass” to new masseurs
I’ve seen a ton of new ads and a lot of these guys still haven’t figured it out. I’ll start the list of immediate red flags 🚩 for massage therapists to hopefully take note:
1. Your massage rates start at $200…or $195…we see what you’re trying to do here…
2. You don’t have a photo of your table and setup (if offering incall)…
3. You use those medical disposable paper covers on your table instead of sheets…
4. You offer a 30-min massage…
5. You require a deposit to book…
6. If you advertise on RentMasseur, you use corny names/slogans, “9incher”, “deepdestroyer”, “latinpapi”. We instantly know you have zero massage skills…
7. Your photos are from the 1990’s and we can tell…
8. You listed your age as 35 fifteen years ago and you’re miraculously still 35 today…
9. You have a long menu of detailed different options with multiple different prices…
10. You have only body shots and no face photos…
11. All of your rates are listed as “ask” instead of the actual rate…

This is close to my behavior, but I'm even more cautious. Accurate stats are something the provider is entitled to know before agreeing to a session, but I use a burner phone and don't reveal my name or any other details until we meet.  Then, if I feel comfortable, I'll share my real first name (which is a common one) and a few details about my life (the industry I work in, the part of town I live in, etc.) but I may fuzz up the latter details.  And I'm happy to talk about my younger days or my interests or other information that doesn't reveal my identity.  I've seen providers regularly for a couple of years without sharing any identifying information about myself.  
The reason I am so cautious about sharing this information is not because I think I can't trust the provider but because I can't KNOW that I can trust the provider.  I worry about and overthink everything, so if a provider had what I think is too much identifying information about me, I would start to see them as a potential threat.  That ruins the relationship from my perspective.  I realize that that is all about me and not the provider and that it may border on the paranoid, but I live close to that border.  

Prior to meeting, I never share my phone number or picture, but do share my real first name and accurate stats.
While meeting, I do pretty quickly feel comfortable sharing any relevant information in our conversation. I won’t divulge the name of the place I work, but I will share what industry it’s in, what other industries I’m in, etc.

Over many years, I've developed a sensitivity to allowing mutual touch to be, well, mutual. In other words, I try not to get grabby right off the bat, and allow myself to relax and let the masseur do what it is he does well. If I've chosen someone who has a good reputation and I like the way he describes his massage and I like his reviews and any communication with him, I'm intrigued to experience what HE does. I always try to choose someone who can combine therapeutic techniques with sensual and erotic touch. I try not to choose someone who is therapeutic only--OR someone who has no therapeutic skills at all and is using the massage as a means of finding escort clients. No offense to escorts--some of my best friends are or have been escorts. But I'm looking for guys who have developed their individual ways of combining massage with sensuality and eroticism.
So here's what I do--and what I DON'T do: I generally try NOT to grab and pull or interfere with his rhythm and technique. As he massages my back, I let my arms hang down the sides of the table, but I hold off touching his leg until he's done serious back and shoulder work. I just breathe into his touch. That creates a physical connection between us that is entirely in his control. It establishes that I respect him as a practitioner. And he of course can begin to "read" my body without his touch being overtly sexually charged. Once that mutual trust and respect has been established and he can see that he's got me moaning and groaning a little bit, I let my hand touch his leg. I might give it a little squeeze, but I definitely do NOT grab it--I still want HIM to be in control of where on my body he's touching me and how the massage progresses from therapeutic to to sensual. Relinquishing that kind of control is part of why I'm there. I try not to break the spell he is casting over me. I also try not touch his dick until he moves it near my hand. But once he does, I touch it and maybe hold it--but again, it's touching WITHOUT grabbing or breaking the mood. At this point he's probably massaging the inside of my thigh, maybe between my cheeks, maybe sliding his hand beneath my hips, maybe touching my balls and cock. If at that point he presses his crotch near my head, I might break the spell a little, raise my head and suck him--but just for a bit, again being careful NOT to signal that you want the massage to be over and all you want to do is cum and leave. Remember--he's not a trick and he's not just an escort--he's an erotic masseur. He's also a human being with a lot of joys and sorrows. And he's had experiences you can't even imagine. It's like a dance--but you have to let him lead. He can probably teach you a helluva lot about connecting physically, sensually, and erotically with another man. Whether it progresses further is up to the two of you. As they like to say on this board, your mileage may vary.  But if you travel far...tip accordingly.
All that to say that my advice is: Don't try to control it. Choose well. And allow yourself to let it happen. 
 

I was chatting with him online about what services and donations he offers…and when I said my only hesitation was his photos seemed to be the same as a Franco from NY…he immediately blocked me. I think I dodged a bullet here!!!

https://rentmasseur.com/colinformassage 
I have been thinking about this guy for a while -- an informative ad, hot pics.  Obviously a pilates instructor who does massage on the side,    But, a couple of red flags -- first, he changed his name a few months ago from Max (why do providers do that?), and second there are a lot of 5 star reviews uploaded with great frequency over the last few weeks. So I am suspicious.  If anyone has direct experience of his services, please DM.   

I exchanged a few messages with him and he was very prompt and pleasant in his responses. He’s very attractive and I’m tempted to give him a try. I became a little hesitant when I saw his rentmen profile since it states he’s a top (not at all a problem, but it does impact my fantasies lol), but I may still give him a go to see how the massage feels. 

Here's his other ad
https://rentmen.eu/Wallinwoodspring