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I agree, it can absolutely go both ways. For some, seeing a provider as a real person with thoughts and opinions can deepen the connection and make the experience feel more authentic. But I think the reality is that a lot of interactions in this space still rely, at least in part, on a degree of fantasy. And when providers step into a forum setting, that layer can shift or even disappear. Not everyone knows how to reconcile the real person with the version they’ve built in their head. So while it can enhance things for some, I think for others it changes the dynamic in a way that makes providers more cautious about participating.

In addition to everything @big-n-tall said, I also think a huge part of it is that there’s an element of fantasy built into the dynamic and forums like this can unintentionally disrupt that. When providers show up here as fully formed people with their own opinions, boundaries, and perspectives, it shifts how some clients experience them. The illusion gets replaced with something more real, and not everyone knows how to engage with that. For some, that breaks the appeal a bit. So instead of it just being about “why don’t they participate,” it’s also about whether the space allows them to exist as real people without being dissected, challenged, or pulled out of that curated dynamic they rely on professionally.

So often, and understandably, the “boyfriend experience” gets tangled up with real emotion. That’s probably the flaw in the term itself. A term of art that has no business in this business. I prefer to think of it as a No-Illusions Experience: connection, chemistry, affection, but with clarity. Cuddles, conversation, presence: yes. Confusion about what it is: no.

What haven’t you felt in your ass - the shooting of the load or the throbbing/pulsing? Or both?

I want him to “stuff” me too. 😂

There are degrees to orgasm. The best experiences usually come down to reading each other’s bodies. As a bottom, there’s something uniquely intense in my opinion about a still, pulsating cock cumming inside you.

Especially Jessica Lange who I thought said was done with it. And they got Kathy Bates back, who’s busy with Matlock. And it’s season 13. A lot of good things going for it.

This is an impeccable cast!! However, if the story sucks, like the last few seasons, it won’t matter.

Glad you enjoyed it.

Thank you! I can’t wait to see this. Some of the reviews I’ve read have been terrific.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with posting a picture from September 25 on the 27th. For context, back in March, Gabriel posted a date-stamped photo holding a sign with the same date he posted here, he didn’t have to do that either by the way. Even then, people still found something to pick apart and question him. Fast forward to September, this young man posts again on the 27th, holding a sign dated the 25th. Knowing how quick people can be to jump on him, I made a light comment about checking his calendar. That was my mistake; I should have known better that would be ripped apart. As another member pointed out, had posted that same picture on RM with a date stamp from his phone. Bottom line: none of this matters. He doesn’t owe anyone proof of anything. Honestly, he’s doing himself more of a disservice by posting dated photos. He’s an attractive young man who doesn’t need to justify every move he makes. Please read my subsequent message on September 28th. This non-issue is long moot.

I recently saw Kavalier & Clay at the Met. It swings big, I will say that. History, exile, and a superhero sharing the same stage; the mix doesn’t always cohere, but there are passages that truly sing, and the staging of the Escapist is worth the ticket alone. Imperfect, yes. Bold and memorable, absolutely. Turning Chabon’s sprawling novel into an opera at all is its own high-wire act. I left impressed by the reach, even when the grasp slipped.

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What do you mean by projection? Meaning wanting to be the person who’s topping the bottom in the video? I’m a bottom and my favorite porn stars are tops.

We should all be so lucky to share 19 years with someone, hopefully with more joy than sorrow. Not every love story is meant to last forever, and sometimes the greatest grace is knowing when to let go. They also have the privilege of financial freedom; too many couples stay bound simply because they can’t afford to part. My hope is that those years together still feel like a gift, no matter how the ending looks.

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You’re right, it shouldn’t be an issue. I mentioned it because of the earlier photo drama. Personally, you don’t need to do that. Wishing you nothing but the best. ❤️

I only saw the version of the photo he posted here on COM, not RM. Still, he’s long since proven it (three pages back). If he’s seeing 3–5 clients a day, every day, and turning people away, I don’t think more hoops are needed.

You’re very attractive and handsome my friend. Though, you may want a new calendar. You posted this today, Saturday, September 27, 2025.

I can relate. I suffer from migraines, and there have been times I had a session scheduled after a long travel/work day and was wiped out by evening. I wasn’t in the mood for sex, but I didn’t want to cancel at the last minute either, so I kept the appointment. What I ended up valuing most was the company; the chance to talk, cuddle, and just be close. Some of those non-sexual nights actually made the next session better because the comfort and connection carried over. It wasn’t the plan, but that low-pressure intimacy led to some of the best BFE experiences later on.

A topic near and dear to my heart. LOL I love a daddy, though some days I feel more like a granddaddy myself. 😂 Why providers list it, I can’t say. For me, whether as a client or in my personal life, a daddy is a mix of both. Sure, the physical presence is appealing, but what really resonates is the behavior: that grounded blend of authority, steadiness, and care. Age can play a role, but for me it’s more about the energy someone brings into the dynamic.

Over the years I’ve learned that being direct about your needs is never an insult IF it comes from a place of clarity and kindness. You’re not telling him he’s bad at his job; you’re showing him how to make you a satisfied repeat client, and that’s valuable information. One way to do it without it feeling awkward is to show as much as tell: get on top of him and ride him slow, let him see how that pace feels good and how much you enjoy it. Compliment him while you’re doing it, then suggest a change, something like “I’d love to be under you going at this pace” or “you feel incredible when you move like this.” Positive reinforcement goes a long way. Remember too, providers want repeat clients, so telling him what works for you isn’t just personal, it’s professional. You’re helping him give better service. This is a provider you’ve hired regularly, and I’d be hard-pressed to think he wouldn’t be open to making your experiences exactly what you want them to be. Best of luck to you.

I really enjoyed this movie. As some have pointed out, it may not be the most thrilling chapter in terms of new storylines, but as a faithful fan of the series, you honestly couldn’t ask for more. It provides a true sense of closure for these beloved characters, and the ending is both beautiful and deeply emotional. For those who have followed Downton Abbey from the beginning, it feels like the perfect farewell.

And he’s also a fine dancer as evidenced by his appearance on Dancing with the Stars.

One of my favorite actors. A true legend in cinema and a pioneer for independent film. His legacy with Sundance changed the game for so many storytellers who might never have had a platform. His performances showed not just star power, but depth. And his directing revealed a sensitivity and courage few possess. I remember seeing Ordinary People in theaters and crying so hard. He stood for something bigger than fame: artistic integrity, independence, environmental awareness, truth. His legacy lives on in the generations of storytellers he inspired. Rest in peace, and God bless.