ApexNomad

What “details” do you want to share? I want the tip of your cock to enter at a precise 37-degree angle, hold for exactly 4.2 seconds, then lock eyes with me like we just solved a murder together. If you’re serious, it’ll come across that way. If you’re wasting his time, it’ll come across that way. Be sincere. I find this to be more of a vibe check and to ensure we both know it’s us. Whatever is important to you: kissing, cumming, topping, bottoming, whatever, voice it. Mention what you’re hoping to get from the experience. See the look on his face when you say that and how receptive or excited he is at the venture of fulfilling your desire. If you feel confident, then great. But you should also be pretty confident before calling. Unless he comes off like he couldn’t be bothered or is not the person advertised, this should really be the time to finalize the date.

Ding. Ding. Ding.

I do this often instead of swapping pics; it’s a great way to get a real feel for the provider. He can see you’re real and you can see if he matches the person in his advertised pictures. It doesn’t have to be long at all. You can share the things that might feel awkward or clunky in text, and see how he responds. Smile, keep it natural, and if you like his answers and overall vibe, that’s the perfect time to lock in a date on his calendar. Best of luck!

Watched the series finale of AJLT. Carrie’s final line, “The woman realizes she’s not alone… she’s on her own,” might be the most tone-deaf ending imaginable for a series that once revolved around four women who were each other’s soulmates. For decades, the whole point was that friendship was the constant, the safety net. To end on a shrugging “good luck out there” is like watching a show about a life raft and having the finale tell you to go swim with the sharks. I read an article that SJP and MPK don’t read reviews or audience commentary on the show. Had they, they might have remembered the show they abandoned from the people who knew it best.

One’s an order at a fine dining restaurant, the other’s you yelling into the drive-thru speaker at 2 a.m.

I’m so old my middle finger’s got arthritis, it’s retired from photo ops.

Because it’s an easy way to frame his life through the lens of shame instead of humanity; a reminder that some people still see his work as something to be punished for rather than a life to be honored.

Of course not… I have them hire their replacement first then I fire them.

From missionary position to missionary work in under 30 seconds.

Easily the most backhanded glowing review I’ve ever read.

A true 10/10 review, top 3 favorite! Just overlook the missing abs, meh peach, and zero massage spirit. Minor details.

Also goes by Joseph Bigz, aka Bigboyjoey.

Make sure your orthodontist sends him a Christmas card.

Translation: Let me just verify your cruise manifest for accuracy.

Mods are already putting on their hazmat suits with this thread. Let’s see how long this lasts.

I desperately want to bleach that sock for him. After other things of course.

Cover letters.

My retainer’s looking like a steal right now.

I think that oversimplifies a complex situation.

No two providers are the same.

I bet he’d also be amused there’s a duck on the loose.

You’re asking why it should change. The reality is, it always does. Your relationship was built on a clear foundation: client → provider. The moment you open that up to the provider paying the client for whatever service, the dynamic shifts. And in your case, it already has. You feel slighted (rightfully so) because he’s negotiating the rate you quoted for your services. He’s put his own value judgment on what your time is worth. Now you’re not being respected for your work, and you no longer wish to do business. That’s exactly why it changes. You’ve lost a regular provider you’ve seen for years. You’re right, it would be no different with a dog walker, house cleaner, or anyone else you hire. And if they responded the way he did, by asking why not do it for free or negotiating your price down, you’d probably think twice about hiring them again. Another key difference here is that a provider offers a very different kind of service than a dog walker, and part of that is a certain fantasy. Once that’s tainted for whatever reason, it’s hard for some to go back, and it looks like you won’t.

It’s not disagreement that’s the issue, it’s the refusal to engage in good faith, the deflection, and the labeling of anyone who challenges exclusion as oversensitive or superior. That’s not discussion. That’s a tactic. It’s exactly why so many people stop engaging altogether.

Stop excluding people under the pretense that you have nothing in common with them, and there won’t be a fight to begin with.

Your story keeps shifting. First “Trans people aren’t always part of the community.” Then “I don’t have anything in common with trans people.” Now they’re not part of the LGB because some are straight. One is your personal bias; the other is erasing people from a coalition they helped build. The “T” has always been there in practice because solidarity is what’s kept all of us from being picked off one group at a time. The rights you enjoy as a bi man didn’t arrive by accident, they came from that coalition. That’s the risk with carving people out—sooner or later, the knife turns back on you.